I’ve personally dealt with more than 100 ex back cases via my phone coaching service.
Some clients get their ex back immediately (i.e. within 24-48 hours by meeting up with her and using my attraction and persuasion techniques to get another chance), while others need to put in a week to two months of effort to fully get their ex back into a relationship.
The speed at which you get your ex back will depend on which of the following categories she falls into…
1. If she really does love you and will give you another chance if you change
If your relationship was great in the beginning, but fell apart in the end because of a few mistakes on your part (e.g. you became too insecure, you took her for granted or became clingy), then it’s usually fairly easy to an ex back right away.
You simply need to call her up, apologize for your mistakes, get her to meet up with you, show her the new and improved version of you at the meet up and tell her that you’ve learned from the experience and want to give the relationship another shot.
As long as a guy makes his ex girlfriend (fiance or wife) a renewed sense of respect and attraction for him at the meet up and she can see that he has already changed or is in the process of changing, a woman will almost always give her ex another chance.
In cases like that, you can get your ex back immediately and then begin a relationship.
She will feel a deeper respect, attraction and love for you because you will have shown her that you are a rare type of man who has the capacity to change by learning from experiences, rather than making the same mistakes over and over again throughout life.
If she doesn’t recognize the fact that you are one of the rare men who actually has the capacity to change and has already changed, simply remind her that everyone makes mistakes in relationships, but not all men or women are able to learn from their mistakes and become a better person as a result.
Some people make the same mistakes their entire life, while others learn, change and grow and become better people.
You have been able to do that, so you should be proud of yourself for it.
She should also respect it and feel safe and secure in her decision to give your love another chance to grow and become even more meaningful and powerful than ever before.
2. If she hates you and says that she won’t give you another chance no matter what
These type of break ups take a little bit more work before you can get your back, so the time it takes for you to get her back really depends on how committed you are to doing what it takes to get her to forgive you and feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you.
If you want to quickly get your ex back in a situation like this (i.e. she currently hates you), but you’re not willing to put in any effort to improve yourself, then she’s almost always not going to be willing to give you another chance.
Watch this video to understand why…
A lot of the cases that I deal with via my phone coaching service fall into the category where the woman is absolutely saying, “No!” to her ex’s request to get back together.
Additionally, most of the guys who use my program, Get Your Ex Back: Super System and then come back to post up success stories also fall into the category of trying to get an ex back who hates them or no longer has feelings for them.
The reason why guys are able to get a woman back in cases like that is because it actually is possible to change how a woman feels.
When a guy is trying to get back an ex who hates him or no longer has any feelings for him, he needs to take a few days to a week to really understand why his girlfriend (fiancé or wife) broke up with him.
For example: A woman might say, “I don’t want to be with you anymore because I no longer have feelings for you,” but she won’t always add in, “The reason why I don’t have feelings for you is because you are too insecure, you don’t make me feel feminine around you…I feel like more of a friend to you, a sister or a mother figure…you’re just not enough of a man for me.”
Some women do go into that kind of detail, but most women try to avoid it because she doesn’t want to teach him how to be the man she needs.
If she teaches him now, she will have to teach him more later, which will make her feel like more of a big sister, mother figure or teacher in his life.
Women want a ready-made man, not a guy who needs a woman to teach him how to be the man she really needs.
So, if you are in the situation where you have been dumped and your ex currently doesn’t want you back, you really need to spend a few days to a week learning about why women REALLY break up with men.
In my program, Get Your Ex Back: Super System, I explain more than 70 subtle and obvious reasons why women will break up with men.
When I hear back from guys who’ve watch my program, they often tell me that they were making 20 or more of those mistakes during the relationship and they were only aware of 5 or 6 of them.
Here’s the thing…
If you are trying to get your ex back and you don’t even know what she REALLY wants you to change about yourself, she’s just going to keep saying no to your requests to take you back.
Until she can see that you really have changed and now understand what she really wants from you, she’s not going to take you seriously and will simply continue to move on without you.
For example: If a guy was insecure in the relationship, he needs to become emotionally strong and let her feel that when she talks to her and interacts with her in person.
If he was taking her for granted, he needs to show her that he now has the capacity to feel loved, wanted and appreciated.
If he cheated on her, he needs to be able to show her that she will feel safe and secure when in a relationship with him from now on, because he’s no longer the immature guy who made that mistake.
He needs to tell her that everyone makes mistakes, but what separates the men from the boys is the capacity to learn from mistakes and become a better man as a result.
Here’s the thing though…
If your ex currently hates you and doesn’t want to get back together, she is almost certainly going to say, “I don’t care…that’s too little, too late” or “You should have done that before. You missed your chance. We’re finished now.”
If you are serious about getting your ex back, you need to understand that a woman isn’t going to instantly forgive a guy and want him back simply because he has made some changes.
When a woman is reluctant to give her ex another chance, he will need to use additional techniques to make her feel a mix of painful and positive emotions that will cause her to have feelings for him.
In cases like this, a guy will need to put in a week to two months of effort to properly get her back. Sometimes it happens sooner than that, but my estimate is based on personally dealing with more than 100 cases via my phone coaching service.
3. If she has already moved on
If your ex has already moved on and is happy in a new relationship, it’s not always going to be possible to get her back right now.
In most of the cases that I’ve dealt with, a guy will need to invest 1 week to 2 months to get an ex back who has moved on.
He will go through a process of improving himself (e.g. getting rid of insecurities, becoming a more emotionally attractive man, improving his ability to make her feel respect and attraction for him when he talks to her on the phone) and he will also need to use persuasive conversation techniques to get her to agree to meet up with him.
In some cases where a woman has moved on, a man will be able to get her back by getting her to agree to sleep with him once last time, after making her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for him at the meet up.
Getting an ex back is not always about sex because in most cases, women place more importance on the love and relationship experience that they share with a guy.
In younger relationships (18-35) sex is usually a important part of the relationship, but in more mature relationships (35+), a woman is usually more concerned about how the man will make her feel in the long run and what type of life they will be able to share together.
Regardless of a woman’s age, she will always want to see that her ex has fixed his issues (e.g. insecurity) and is now capable of giving her the love experience that she wants and needs in a relationship.
So, the approach that you use to get your ex back now really depends on you, your woman, how old both of you are, how bad the break up was and whether or not she has moved on.
If you want to follow a structured plan that is proven to work to get a woman back, I recommend that you begin watching my program, Get Your Ex Back: Super System right now.
After watching the 10 hours of video, you will be ready to contact your ex, apologize for your mistakes, get her to forgive and get her to meet up with you.
At the meet up, you will be able to make your ex feel a strong, renewed sense of respect and attraction for you and when that happens, her guard will come down and she will naturally begin to open herself back up to you and the relationship.
How fast can you get an ex back in cases like that?
In most of the cases that I’ve dealt with, the couple will get back together right away, but in some cases, a woman will say that she wants to take it slow and she will then be open to seeing him once a week for a few weeks to see how she feels.
If he continues to build on her respect and attraction by using the techniques in my program, they will then get into a relationship that feels even better than it did when they were initially together.
So, if you want to get your ex back now, I recommend that you begin watching my program and I’ll guide you through the exciting process of getting her back in your arms once again.