One of the worst things that a guy can ever do to himself and his life is to accept a woman that he’s not even attracted to.
So many guys out there accept women that they’re not really attracted to, but they get into a relationship because they can’t really find anything else.
One of the main reasons why is that most guys simply don’t know how to actively attract women during an interaction, so they feel like they don’t deserve attractive women.
A guy will go through life thinking that he’s just not good-looking enough for pretty women, he’s not rich enough, he’s not successful enough, he’s not tall enough, he doesn’t have a big dick, he doesn’t have big enough muscles.
Yet, he’s wrong.
The truth is women can feel attracted to those things, but guys can also attract women in other ways.
So how do you have your choice with women, so you can find your ideal woman, and you can have exactly what you want with women?
How can you have the type of woman that you find truly attractive? The sort of woman that not only turns you on sexually, but makes you feel amazing as a man, makes you feel great emotionally around her.
You and her click and you get along without even having to try.
She supports you, she looks up to you as a man. You are the man that she wants to be with. She doesn’t want to be with any other man, she doesn’t want to leave you, she wants to be with you.
4 Things to Remember if You Want Your Choice of Women
I’m now going to teach you four things that you must remember if you want to have your choice of women so you can select the ideal woman for you, or so you can have sex with lots of women that you truly find attractive, rather than accepting women that you’re not even that attracted to, and you just want to have sex with for a while.
1. No attraction equals no motivation to be with you.
If you’ve been finding that the majority of attractive women that you’re interested in and want to be with aren’t interested in you and are not excited to talk to you and get to know you and hopefully hook up with you, it means that your approach to the interaction has not been about making the women feel sexually attracted and turned on by you.
Your approach to women has most-likely been about getting them to like you as a person, rather than actually making them feel sexually attracted and turned on.
The way that men feel attracted to women and women feel attracted to men is DIFFERENT.
For example: If a woman is physically attractive or even just a bit pretty, most guys will be willing to have sex with her without knowing anything else about her.
Most guys have an instant motivation to have sex with a woman simply based on her appearance.
I call it Insta-attraction and it’s the reason why a guy will turn his head and look at a woman and instantly be interested and willing to have sex with her.
It’s also why if a couple of guys are sitting together they’ll look at women and say, “Yeah, I’d bang that. Oh, girlfriend material. Oh, I’d marry that. Nice. Check out that butt…look at those legs.”
We men feel an instant motivation to have sex with a woman simply based on her appearance because we don’t really need anything else from her, apart from her to look good and be healthy.
That’s where our instinct of attraction comes from.
The initial attraction that we feel for women is not based on all the other stuff like getting to know her, what she does for a living, what brand of clothes she wears, where she went to University or if she didn’t go to university.
All that stuff really does not matter when it comes to the instinct of initial attraction.
Our initial instinct of attraction is simply based on whether the woman is physically attractive and healthy, and of a breeding age. If she is a fully developed woman and she’s healthy and looks attractive, our instinct of attraction will immediately switch on.
The reason why is that the main thing that attraction is driving us to do is plant our seed inside of the woman. We don’t actually need anything else from her apart from to get pregnant and be around long enough to ensure that the offspring survive.
Attraction is a primal instinct and is different to our desire for love, relationships and the modern idea of marriage. Attraction is designed to make us want to ejaculate inside of a physically attractive woman who is healthy and has a fully developed body of breeding age.
However, if a man is a fully developed man, is healthy and looks attractive, most women won’t be motivated enough to approach him, try to pick him up and hopefully get to have sex with him.
It’s just not how it works.
Really good looking guys can get some attention from women, and they often get hit on by unattractive women, and sometimes they get lucky with attractive women.
However, for almost all guys on this planet, what we need to do is start an interaction with a woman and then actively make her feel sexually attracted and turned on as we talk to her.
We have to be saying and doing things that trigger the woman’s feelings of sexual attraction.
We can literally CREATE a spark of attraction and MAKE the woman feel attracted to us as we talk to her.
Unlike women, a guy simply can’t rely on a woman looking at his legs, or looking at his chest, or looking at his arms and saying, “Wow, look at that. I want to have sex with him,” and going over and trying to pick him up.
As you may have noticed, when a guy is walking along the street, women aren’t turning their heads to check him out.
Of course, sometimes you will see women do that if they’re drunk or if they’re hanging around with their girlfriends, and they’re just trying to show off to each other or have a bit of a laugh.
Generally speaking though, it’s us men who feel the Insta-attraction, where we are instantly motivated to want to have sex with a woman if she’s physically attractive, healthy looking, and is a fully developed woman of breeding age.
So, if you want to have your choice of women so you can get laid whenever you want, or so you can choose the right woman for you, you must understand that you need to start an interaction with a woman, and actively make her feel sexually attracted and turned on during the interaction.
You’ve got to be saying and doing things that trigger those feelings inside of her, otherwise she will likely see you as yet another guy who wants to bang her, but which she feels no spark of attraction for.
When you actively CREATE a spark of sexual attraction inside of a woman when you talk to her, you will see that most of the women that you interact with feel attracted to you.
You will then realize that most guys on this planet have no clue what you’ve just done and how it works.
Most guys stand around trying to look good or look cool, or they try to build up their career, make some money in the hope that women will come flocking to them.
We men know that women can feel attracted to guys with money, that’s pretty simple.
However, a guy doesn’t need to go to all that trouble just to get laid or get a girlfriend.
As you would have seen, normal everyday guys who aren’t rich can get laid and get a girlfriend without having male model looks or without being super rich and powerful in society.
Most guys don’t know this, but the truth is you can CREATE feelings of sexual attraction inside of a woman when you talk to her.
You can really do that.
When you do that, you will see that most women feel attracted to you, and as a result, you will begin to enjoy your choice of women.
2. Most women have fake standards about men.
If you ask a woman what her ideal type of guy is, she’ll usually start to list of all sorts of big, fancy traits.
She’ll say things like, “Oh, he’s got to be good looking, tall and rich…and he’s got to have a luxury yacht, a luxury car and be able to take me on holidays around the world. He’s got to buy me a big ring, have a big dick, have six-pack abs and a perfect body. He’s got to wear nice shoes, he’s got to wear designer clothes, he’s got to have the perfect haircut.”
She’ll go on and on and on.
Yet, the reality is all it usually takes is 1 to 2 minutes of actively making a woman feel sexually attracted to you, and she’ll start to open up and be interested to see where it goes.
All of a sudden, those high standards that she apparently had about men go right out the window and she forgets all about it because she’s feeling sexually attracted and turned on while she talks to you.
Now, some guys might hear that and think, “Well, what will happen if we start dating and we get into a relationship, and she realizes that she’s with a guy who doesn’t have all those things that she was listing off on her list of high standards?”
The thing is most of the standards that women say they have are fake.
In other words, she doesn’t really care about all the things she says she wants in a guy and she knows that she is overstating what she would actually be happy with.
The same goes for guys.
A lot of guys have fake standards in women. They say, “Oh, I only want a blonde,” and then they get a girlfriend who’s a brunette, marry her and stay with her for life.
Other guys will say, “I only want a nice girl who’s intelligent and is conservative,” but he then goes to a strip club, feels turned on by the stripper and hopes that he can get her to quit her job and be his girlfriend because he feels so attracted to her.
Another guy might say, “I only like white women,” and then he sleeps with a black woman, and realizes that they’re beautiful and sexy and amazing.
Another guy might say, “l only want a woman who’s tall, and has a good job, and is good with her money, and likes to go to sports on weekends.” He then meets a girl who is hot, and she doesn’t like sports, she spends her money like crazy, and he just feels so attracted to her, and he wants to be with her.
Here’s the thing though, when you do have the power to actively make a woman feel sexually attracted and turned on by you during an interaction, you can actually stick to your standards.
You might want to have sex with a hot girl who is a bit difficult and spends all their money on shoes and make up, but you’ll only be with her for a while because you want to be with another hot girl who is conservative, and takes care of her money, and is a great girl that you can introduce to your family and friends.
That’s the real benefit of having a choice with women.
You don’t have to only go with attraction, where you’re feeling so overwhelmed by the sexual attraction that you feel for a certain girl so you get into a relationship with her, but know in your gut that she’s not the right girl.
Yet, you keep going anyway and try to keep the relationship together.
She then makes all these difficult demands and wants you to buy her a ring that’s really expensive and will cost you your whole years salary. You then get married to her and two years later, she cheats on you.
The thing is, you knew that you couldn’t trust her all along, but you just went along with it anyway because you were feeling attracted.
You accepted her because you didn’t have your choice of women.
You didn’t know how to actively attract other women who are just as beautiful as her, so you married her and she eventually cheated on you and then divorced you.
It’s not how you should approach your dating and relationship life. You don’t need to accept a woman who is not good enough for you, or who you know is untrustworthy.
If you are going to get into a serious relationship, you need to have a woman that you’re truly attracted to, but who also has great character, whatever you define as being great character.
For example: Maybe you might say she has to be hot, but she also has to be very intelligent, loyal, caring, down to earth, easy going, things like that.
You then don’t ever get into a serious relationship with a woman who doesn’t have those qualities. If you suspect that she is untrustworthy or is going to cause you trouble in the long run (e.g. she’s reckless, lazy, messed up) then just dump her and get a new woman.
When you have the skill of being able to actively turn a woman on during an interaction, you will see that most of the women that you interact with feel attracted to you, which then allows you to stick to your standards.
You can say, “This hot girl wants to have sex with me, but so does that hot girl. This girl is a pain in the ass…she’s difficult and she’s untrustworthy. Yet, this girl is a little bit feisty, but she’s loyal and trustworthy, I get along with her easily and I really feel attracted to her.”
Which woman are you going to go choose in that case? Obviously woman #2 if you want a serious relationship.
If you only want sex and a bit of fun for a while, you can have sex with both of them and then dump the untrustworthy woman.
3. Nothing will happen until you start an interaction and make her feel sexually attracted to you.
Most guys are afraid to approach and interact with women that they find attractive because the guy doesn’t actually know how to get the woman to feel attracted to him.
He looks at her and feels instantly attracted, but he knows that if he goes over and talks to her, he doesn’t really know what to say or do to make her feel sexually attracted and interested in him.
He might be able to go over and say things like, “Oh, hi. What’s your name? What do you do for a living way? Where are you from? Where did you get that dress? Are you having a good night?” but after that, he doesn’t really know what to say.
He might be able go over and ask her basic questions, but he doesn’t really know how to create that spark and as a result, he usually avoids interacting with women altogether.
That there is a huge opportunity for you, because when you are one of the rare guys who are able to actively make a woman feel sexually attracted to you during an interaction, you don’t fear approaching women.
You know that if you go over and talk to a woman, you’re going to be able to make her feel some, or a lot of sexual attraction for you. So, it’s not scary any more.
You know that if you go and talk to her, there’s going to be a spark between you and her, and it’s going to be highly likely that she’s either going to give you her phone number or if you meet her at night, kiss you or have sex with you that night.
If you don’t kiss her or have sex with her on the first night or the first day that you meet her, you just get her phone number, call her up, set up a date and the next thing you know, you’re having sex with her and then you’re deciding whether or not you want to stay with her in a relationship.
You’re not just going to accept one random woman and then try to make it work with her even though she’s not a match for you.
If she is a match for you, great. Get one woman, settle down, and you don’t have to pick up women anymore. You’ve got your woman.
However, if she’s not the right woman for you, all you’ve got to do is talk to one or a few other women and you’re going to be able to pick one of those up as well.
4. The better you get at attracting women during a conversation, the more choice you have with women.
Have you ever seen a guy walk over and start interacting with one or two women, and sparks starts flying immediately?
The women start laughing at what he’s saying, they’re giggling and enjoying themselves, and they’re feeling attracted to him.
Additionally, have you ever seen a guy walk over to some women and no sparks start to fly.
He begins to ask questions like, “Oh…so, hey, how are you doing? Having a good night? So what do you do for a living? What’s your name? What are you drinking there? That’s a nice dress. Where did you get the dress from?” and it’s just boring.
There’s no sexual spark, there’s no excitement, there’s nothing to smile or laugh about. It’s just plain, polite, guided, boring conversation.
The thing is it’s not because the guy isn’t good looking enough, or isn’t rich enough, or doesn’t have a big enough dick, or his muscles aren’t big enough.
The problem is that he’s not actively making the woman feel sexually attracted and turned on when he talks to her.
The way that it works is that you can either make the women feel sexually attracted by the conversation starter that you use, or you can start to make them feel sexually attracted during the first 10 to 30 seconds by displaying personality traits and behaviors that naturally attract women.
If you don’t know what to say or do to get women to feel attracted to you when you start a conversation or when the conversation starts to get going, I recommend that you read my eBook, The Flow, or listen to the brand-new audio version, The Flow on Audio.
When you can actively make a woman feel sexually attracted to you at the start of an interaction, most of the women that you meet will be interested in you.
All you need to do then is guide them through the simple steps of The Flow, and you’ll be kissing, having sex, and enjoying relationships with women of your choosing.
Women Are Very Open and Willing to Sex These Days
One of the best things about being a man in today’s day and age is that women are open and willing to having sex.
They’re open to dating, taking you for a test drive, having some sex and seeing where it leads.
Better still, the majority of guys have no idea how to actively attract women when they start an interaction.
Most guys stand around trying to look good. They go and get a new shirt, and a new pair of shoes, and a new pair of jeans and they style their hair nicely and then stand around hoping that women will notice them.
Yes, women may notice them, but unless the guy is a male model, a celebrity, is obviously rich or something like that, women aren’t going to come over and approach him because there’s nothing to make them feel sexually attracted and turned on.
There’s nothing to get their attention and make them feel motivated to want to try to talk to him or to want to try to get to sex and start a relationship.
Making a woman feel that motivation is very simple.
All you’ve got to do is start an interaction with her, and begin actively making her feel sexually attracted and turned on by you, by displaying personality traits and behaviors that are naturally attractive to women.
It’s so damn easy to do, but most guys don’t know how to do it because they either don’t get taught when they’re growing up, they don’t have any good role models, or they grow up and they start to believe the media mentality about women.
The media mentality is that women are better than men, women are the prize, women are so amazing we’ve got to suck up to them to try to get a chance with them.
We’ve got to buy them lots of gifts, and take them on expensive dates, and wear the best clothes, and be on our very best behavior, and then we maybe get a chance with one of these women.
That is not how it works in the real world.
Most women have fake standards, and are very easy to pick up as long as you can actively make them feel sexually attracted to you.
The majority of women are way easier to pick up than they make themselves out to be, and all it usually takes is one to two minutes of actively making her feel sexually attracted, and all of the crazy, fake, high standards that she has about men, having to have six-pack abs and a sports car and a private jet suddenly go out the window.
She’s feeling turned on. She wants to be with you, and all you’ve got to do is guide her through The Flow.
The next hot woman that you speak to feels attracted to you, as soon as you begin talking to her because you immediately display personality traits and behaviors that women naturally find attractive and arousing.
As she talks to you during the first 30 seconds, her eyes light up, and she feels a rush of sexual attraction and desire for you.
All you need to do then is connect with her for a little bit, and then begin taking the interaction to the next level, where you either begin touching her, you get her to hug you, you start kissing her, you get her phone number or you add her to social media like Facebook, or you take her home for sex that night.
If you met her during the day, you might go and have a coffee with her, you might go get something to eat with her or you might just get her number and then call her a couple of days later, and get her to meet up with you for a date that she really wants to go on.
You’ll learn exactly what to say and do to make women feel attracted to you right away.
When you begin talking to women, they’re going to feel attracted to you, they’re going to be interested, they’re going to open up.
All you need to do is to begin to connect with them, and then guide them through the simple flow process.
Before you know it, you will have your choice of women. It won’t be about you looking at women thinking, “I can’t go and talk to her. I don’t know what to say. I don’t know what to do. I don’t know how to make her feel attracted.”
If you happen to meet a girl and she likes you, it’s not about giving up and accepting less than you deserve, “Well, I’ve got to accept this woman because I can’t get anything else. I don’t want to be lonely any more. I want a girlfriend. This is all I can get.”
You don’t have to accept her if she’s not attractive enough for you or if she’s not the right girl for you.
You might want to have a bit of fun with her for a while, but you don’t have to settle down with her out of desperation.
You know that you can easily attract most of the women that you meet.
It’s not possible for a man to attract all the women that he meets, but you can attract most of the women that you meet.
It’s actually very simple to attract women during a conversation and when you begin doing it, what you’ll find is that most women are way easier to pick up than they make themselves out to be.