Love comes in all different flavors and strengths and for different reasons.
For example: The love that a mother has for her children, the love that a friend has for a friend, the casual love that a woman might feel when she’s dating a guy, the love that a truly committed wife feels for her husband, etc.
Even if a man and a woman are in a relationship and a woman says, “I love you,” to him, it doesn’t necessarily mean that she is experience the strongest type of love that is possible between them.
Not all couples get to experience what truly committed, deep, unconditional love feels like. You will know it when you’re experiencing that type of love with a woman because you will both:
- Love each other for who you are individually and together.
- Be patience as each of you grow, mature and develop individually and together.
- Sincerely care about the happiness and life experience of each other.
If you’re in a relationship with a woman and the love isn’t true, each of you will always keep the real you shut away from the other.
You may love each other at the beginning of the relationship when experiencing new feelings of lust and going through the honeymoon stage of the relationship, but once the initial buzz wears off, you may begin to take each other for granted or fall out of love.
A couple that is truly in love will literally feel better around each other as each day passes. The love will become stronger, deeper, more meaningful and more genuine as time goes on.
Are You a Loveable Kind of Man?
The short answer to the question of how to know when someone loves you is to be a man with loveable qualities.
In other words, be the type of man who women not only respect, but feel sexually attracted to. A man who knows that he is good enough for women and therefore loves women fearlessly.
When you know that women respect you and feel attracted to you, there is nothing to be afraid of. You can love a woman and if she doesn’t love you back, it’s almost as though you will then feel sorry for her. She misses out on being with such a great guy, so it’s not your loss, but hers.
At The Modern Man, we’re often contacted by guys who doubt themselves around women and don’t know how to get women to feel enough for them to want to begin a relationship or remain in a relationship.
For example: Some guys are interested in a female co-worker, but they’re unsure of whether or not to approach her and ask her on a date or suggest catching up outside of the workplace.
Other times, guys want to know exactly how to tell if a female friend is interested in becoming more than “just friends” or how to go about getting a girl to fall in love with them. Whatever their particular circumstances are, the bottom line is that these guys feel insecure in themselves and are afraid to go after what they want because they fear rejection.
They know that they are unsure of how to make the woman love them back, or even feel attracted to them. A guy might be able to get a woman to like him as a friend, but that isn’t the same as her feeling sexually turned on by him and wanting to begin a sexual relationship.
Do you know how to make a woman feel enough attraction for you to want to have sex with you when you meet her and then want to stay in a relationship with you for life? Watch this video to find out…
You Have to Believe That You Are Worthy of Her Love
Women are instinctively attracted to confidence in a man and insecurity of any kind is a real turn off. The harsh reality is that your need to ask how to know when someone loves you is a good indicator that you’re feeling insecure, making it very unlikely that the “someone” in question loves you.
Women are naturally attracted to guys who believe that they are more than good enough to be loved. If a woman gets the sense that you doubt your attractiveness to her or don’t feel worthy of her love, she will feel naturally turned off by you.
Women want to be in love with a man who knows that he is more than good enough and, if she is on her best behavior around him, she might be able to get him to truly love her. He can have pretty much any woman he wants, but if she is a good girlfriend to him, a great lover and a great friend, she might get to experience truly committed, deep and unconditional love with him.
Women would rather experience love with a great man like that, than be loved by a guy who doesn’t feel like he’s good enough. Why? Women are attracted to the strength in men and turned off by the weakness.
Knowing that you are more than good enough to be loved by her is a display of emotional strength, but doubting yourself displays the type of emotional insecurity that turns women off.
Where Guys Go Wrong
When a guy can’t really work out if a woman loves him or not, he will often make the mistake of trying way too hard to be liked. He will hope that if he is just likeable enough, it will eventually lead to love.
Yet, that’s not how it works.
If you want a woman to love you, she has to respect you as a man (i.e. look up to you, respect your emotional strength, etc) and feel sexually attracted to you (i.e. because you’re confident, charismatic, charming, funny, etc).
When guys don’t know how to get a woman to truly respect them and feel attracted to them, they often make one or more of the following mistakes…
1. Behaving like her in an effort to be more likeable or relatable
When a guy desperate to be liked by a woman, he will often hope that becoming her “best friend” will make her eventually fall in love with him. He will hang out with her and gossip, pretend to be interested in fashion and the girly TV shows she likes or music she loves and generally act like one of her girlfriends.
While this approach to women certainly helps you be able to get along with them on their level, it does not create the type of respect and attraction that leaves to truly passionate love. Instead, it leads to a friendly type of love where the woman loves the guy like a best friend or big brother.
There’s a big difference between a woman liking a guy and lusting after him with sexual desire. A woman needs to feel sexually attracted to a guy to be able to fall in love with him and if there are no feelings of lust, it ain’t going to happen.
Being “one of the girls” does not make a guy a sexually attractive or position him as a loveable guy in a potential boyfriend way. Instead, most women will assume that he is secretly gay, confused about how to be a man or lacks the balls to show his real interest in a woman.
2. Always being available
Another common mistake that guys make when they’re desperate to be loved by a woman is to make themselves available to her around the clock.
Sometimes, a guy will think that by being at her beck and call and always dropping everything to run to her whenever she needs help, she’ll eventually come to realize that she can’t live without him and that she has been in love with him all along.
That kind of stuff really only happens in movies, not in real life. It’s a good storyline for some people to watch because it’s “entertaining” to see the clueless guy eventually get the girl.
In the real world, it rarely plays out like that because women are more attracted to men who have important things going on in their life other than just a woman.
If a guy appears to have nothing going on in his life other than her, he becomes less sexually attractive. She may not consciously think it, but her instincts will tell her that if a guy is behaving like that, it means that he will most-likely become insecure, jealous and over-protective if they had a relationship.
Women instinctively know that the confident, masculine alpha male they are hoping to meet is going to be hard to find and they will have to compete with lots of other women to “win” him for themselves. If you’re effectively handing yourself to a woman on a plate and showing her that your entire life purpose is about her, then you’re not that guy.
3. Being super-nice
Following on from the above, guys often fall into the trap of being super-nice by putting a woman on a pedestal in an effort to make her fall madly in love with them. This approach worked in the fictional reality of romance novels set in the 19th century, but it doesn’t work in today’s world.
Modern women do not want to be put on a pedestal and behaving in a super-nice way makes a guy come across as weak, wimpy, and desperate – and these are not sexually attractive traits. There’s nothing wrong with being a nice guy, but to be loved by a woman, you need to be an emotionally and mentally strong, sexually attractive nice guy.
Watch this video to understand why…
As you will discover by watching the video above, there’s nothing wrong with being nice to a woman when you’re picking up women or in a relationship. However, to ensure that a woman is feeling what she needs to fall in love and stay in love, you must also focus on actively triggering her feelings of respect and attraction for you.
Just being a nice, good guy is not good enough. You’ve also got to be the sort of guy that women respect and feel attracted to.