Making your girlfriend feel special, loved and appreciated is an important part of relationship, but you need to make sure that you don’t go overboard with it.
For example: If a guy is very insecure and worried worried about losing his girlfriend, he may make the mistake of trying way too hard to impress her and make her feel special, which will actually end up turning her off.
Despite the fact that he is being a good boyfriend and is sincerely trying to make her feel special, she won’t be able to stop herself from feeling turned off by his desperation.
Women are naturally attracted to the emotional strength of men (i.e. confidence, high self-esteem, bravery, etc) and turned off by the emotional weakness (e.g. insecurity, low self-esteem, being wimpy, etc).
So, when a guy feel so insecure about losing his girlfriend that he constantly feels like he needs to make her feel special, she will actually feel turned off by his emotional weakness.
A woman does want to be made to feel special, loved and wanted, but not if you’re doing it because you’re insecure or trying desperately to make her want to stay with you.
So, if you’re keen to make your girlfriend feel special, here is how you can approach it in a way that deepens her feelings of respect, attraction and love for you, rather than turning her off…
8 Ways to make Your Girlfriend Feel Special
The first example is…
1. When you are at home together
Making her your girlfriend feel special when you’re at home together is about her appreciating the fact that she gets to spend time with an awesome guy like you.
For example: If a guy spends most of his time with his girlfriend and isn’t really rising through the levels of life and reaching for his true potential as a man, she might initially enjoy his undivided time and attention, but she will eventually get bored of it and begin to lose interest in him.
Why? Women maintain their feelings of respect and attraction for guys who do not hide from life behind a relationship with a woman.
Your girlfriend wants to know that when you spend time with her at home, it’s because you love her and want to give her some of your valuable time that you could easily be spending on continuing to making progress towards your biggest ambitions in life.
That is what makes her feel like the special woman in your life who gets to spend quality time with you.
She doesn’t want to feel as though you always want to be around her because you’re a guy who is hiding from life behind the comfort of hanging out with her.
2. When you are out in public
Something that makes a girlfriend feel special when in public places with her boyfriend, is knowing that he has the confidence and emotional masculinity to handle any situation that might come up.
He confidently moves through the world and goes after what he wants, while being a good guy and getting along with other people, rather than causing trouble or getting into fights.
If a woman is with a guy who becomes nervous or insecure in social situations and doesn’t really get along well with people, then she might put up with that for a while, but she’s not going to feel special to have a boyfriend like him.
Women instinctively know that they are going to be much better off in life if they couple up with a guy who can confidently move through the world and get along with people, rather than a guy who feels insecure in social situations and has difficulty getting people to respect him, like him or treat him well.
When a woman is walking through a public space and holding onto the arm of her boyfriend that she feels proud of and safe to be with, it makes her feel special and lucky to be his girlfriend.
3. When you are away from each other
If you and your girlfriend don’t live together or if you spend a lot of time apart because you work long hours or do different shifts, then what can make her feel special is knowing that an awesome guy like you is still in love with her, cares about her and is committed to her even though you are not around each other all the time.
When you are the sort of guy that she can look up to and respect like that, even a simple text of, “Hey babe, I miss you” or “I love you” is going to make your girlfriend feel special.
However, if a woman is with a guy who she doesn’t look up to and respect, doesn’t feel much attraction for and is slowly falling out of love with and he then sends her a text saying, “I miss you” then she’s not going to feel very special to get a message like that from him.
Based on her lack of respect for him, she isn’t going to be missing him and wanting to see him as much as he wants to see her, so she won’t feel much of a need to reply or may simply reply with something simple like, “Thanks.”
4. When you text her
The way to make your girlfriend feel special via text is to not text her too often.
These days, most people have their smartphone with them wherever they go, but that doesn’t mean you should use it to text your girlfriend every day and night.
Essentially, you want your girlfriend to feel lucky to get a message from you, but you don’t want to go too far with it where you never message her at all or begin to take her for granted.
You simply need to take a more balanced approach to life as a man, where you are moving forward in life and rising through the levels of your true potential, while also sending her an occasional text or giving her a call when you can.
As a man, the majority of your focus has to be on rising through the levels of life and reaching for your true potential.
If you make the rookie mistake of basing your life and identity on the relationship with your girlfriend, she will eventually get annoyed by that because women instinctively know that they don’t want to be stuck with a guy who is hiding from his true potential behind her.
So, to make her feel special, simply reward her with a text from you every now and again. Don’t waste your time or her time texting back and forth like girls do.
If she wants to text back and forth and chat on the phone for hours with her girlfriends, then let her do that. However, you shouldn’t copy her and take on the role of a woman in your relationship as well.
You need to be a man in this life and bravely rise up to reach for your true potential as a man, rather than wasting time like many feminine women do because they expect that a guy will support them, take care of them and protect them if they need or want it.
Women instinctively know that a guy isn’t achieving anything and isn’t becoming a bigger and better man in life when he wastes a lot of time sending loads of texts messages back and forth with her.
It doesn’t make her feel special to be with a guy who doesn’t have anything else to do other than text her and focus his attention on keeping her.
5. When you talk to her on the phone
A way to make your girlfriend feel special when you talk to her on the phone is to get her laughing, smiling and feeling attracted to how masculine you are compared to her.
Some guys make the mistake of always talking to their girlfriend in a neutral, friendly way and some guys even get into the habit of talking a little bit like a woman (e.g. giggling, being emotionally sensitive, gossiping, etc).
Here’s what you always need to remember about women…
One the most important, fundamental things that attracts a woman to a man is how feminine she feels in comparison to his masculinity.
So, rather than talking to your girlfriend and trying to be like her in some ways, make sure that you keep being a masculine guy in the way that you talk, feel, think, behave and take action in life and when on the phone with her.
Her feelings of attraction will remain and deepen over time if you can be a man for her, so don’t slip into being like her or giving up on your biggest ambitions in life because you think it will make her feel special for life if you just hang out with her all the time.
The fact is, if you are the type of guy who is attempting to achieve his biggest ambitions in life, you’re not going to have a lot of time to waste chatting about nothing on the phone with her or other people.
You’re going to have much more important things to do than talk endlessly on the phone like girls do, or like lost guys with no purpose do.
When you are a guy who is bravely rising up to reach your true potential as a man, your girlfriend is going to feel special to have quality time with you on a call of any length. She will feel lucky, happy and attracted to you when you give her some of your time and get her laughing, smiling and enjoying talking to you on the phone.
So, don’t slip into a routine of calling her every day or night. These days, a lot of confused guys (who still don’t know what it means to be a real man) make the mistake of calling their girlfriend every night to speak on the phone to show her how much he cares.
While that is nice that he cares so much, it’s not what a woman really wants from a man.
A woman wants to enjoy missing you and wishing that she could spend more time with you, rather than having to talk to you every night and never getting the chance to wish that she could hear your voice.
6. When you have sex with her
One of the ways to make your girlfriend feel special when you’re having sex with her is to be present in the moment.
Being present in the moment means that you’re not worried about a thing and are simply there in the moment with her, enjoying her, giving her your masculine presence and connecting with her in an intimate way.
Yet, you shouldn’t do that all the time, but you should add in Presence Sex every now and again.
If you always do the same thing with her, it will become predictable, boring and annoying that she has to experience the same thing over and over again, so make sure that you just mix it in, rather than drowning her in it.
Why a girlfriend feels special when she is treated to Presence Sex is that it makes her feel as though you are truly attracted to her and really want to be with her in that moment, rather than wishing you could be with another woman or simply wanting to have sex with her so you can ejaculate and get it over with.
7. When in a long distance relationship
What makes a girlfriend feel special when she’s in a long distance relationship with a guy is when he continues to be the awesome guy that she fell in love with, while also becoming a bigger and better man in life everyday.
A woman needs to be able to see that her boyfriend is continuing to move forward in life, but at the same time, he is still continuing to love her, care about her and be committed to her.
If a guy is in a long distance relationship with a woman and puts his life plans on hold just to focus on her all the time, then she will eventually lose respect for him as a man and feel turned off by him.
Essentially, you need to take a balanced approach where you move forward in life on your way to becoming a bigger and better man, while also making her feel special, desired and wanted.
8. When it’s her birthday
Not all women care about their birthday, but it is a good opportunity to make her feel special.
As long as your girlfriend respects you, is attracted to you and in love with you, she will feel special in response to pretty much anything you do for her birthday.
However, if your girlfriend has lost respect for you, isn’t very attracted to you anymore and is starting to fall out of love with you, then she’s not going to really care if you buy her an amazing gift, take her to an expensive restaurant or declare your undying love for her.
Unless she has strong feelings for you, she’s not going to really care about your strong feelings for her.
So, when it comes to your girlfriend’s birthday, the most important thing that already needs to be in place is that you’ve been guiding her into deeper feelings of love, respect and attraction for you in the relationship.
Then, when her birthday comes around, anything that you do (e.g. take her out to dinner, go away for a weekend, write her a love note, cook dinner and give her a sensual massage, etc) is going to make her feel special, because she’s already deeply happy about the love, respect and attraction that you feel for each other.