You can make your ex have strong feeling for you again by doing the following things…
1. Attract Her to the New You, Hook Up With Her Sexually, Blow Her Mind and Then Don’t Contact Her Until She Contacts You
The fastest way to attract your ex back, is by making her feel strong surges of respect and sexual attraction for you every time you interact with her.
Then, hook up with her sexually and don’t chase her after that. Just go silent and don’t contact her until she contacts you.
So, how can you get to that point?
Whether you’re texting her, talking on the phone or meeting up with her in person, from now on your goal needs to be to make her feel a renewed sense of respect and sexual attraction for you.
Remember: The more you interact with your ex on phone calls and in person, the more chances you have of making her have strong feelings for you again.
On the other hand, if you just sit around waiting for her to hopefully realize that she still cares about you and wants you back, you could be in for a very long wait.
Look at it this way…
When you are not actively interacting with your ex, she could be doing any of the following things:
- Thinking about all the ways she believes you messed up (e.g. you were too insecure, you took her for granted, you made her feel like the man in the relationship because you were too emotionally sensitive) and as a result, she ends up feeling even more turned off by you.
- Going out, having a good time and hooking up with other men.
- Falling in love with another guy who treats her in ways that you failed to.
- Getting over any residual feelings she might still have for you.
So, if you don’t want any of those things to happen, you have to make sure that you don’t spend weeks, or even months, ignoring her and hoping that it won’t.
Get her on a phone call right away and let her experience the new you, by making her laugh, smile and feel good when she’s interacting with you.
For example: When you call her on the phone, she ask say something like, “So, what have you been doing since we broke up? Have you been seeing anyone else?”
Most guys think that it would be a bad idea to give her any sign that they are moving on.
So, a guy might say something like, “Oh, I’ve just been working quite a lot and keeping to myself. So, no…I’m not seeing anyone else. Are you?”
Yet, an answer like that is not going to make a woman feel much, or any, attraction for him and it also gives her the opportunity to tell him all about how she has been moving on without him (i.e. to make him feel jealous, to show him that she’s doing fine without him, to get emotional revenge and hurt him for how bad he made her feel during the relationship).
On the other hand, a better way to respond when your ex asks, “So, what have you been doing since we broke up? Have you been seeing anyone else?” would be to say in a joking way, “I’ve been very busy rejecting all the dates that women are offering me. It’s very tiring you know? I’ve let a few women take me out and wine and dine me, but I haven’t put out until the second date.”
At this point, she will most likely laugh out loud because you are saying that women are offering you dates, taking you out and you aren’t putting out, which is what a woman would do.
As long as you say it in a masculine way (i.e. don’t imitate a woman’s tone of voice when saying it), your ex will find it funny and incredibly attractive.
She then realize that she’s having fun talking to you again and will also be impressed that you had the balls and the wit to come up with something like that, rather than just saying, “No, I’m not seeing anyone yet. You?”
Suddenly, her perception of you changes and she begins to have feelings for you again.
When that happens, she will think something like, “He’s so different now. I’m really having fun talking to him. Why do I feel this way about him all of a sudden? I like it.”
Then, what you have to do is get her to meet up with you and then hook up with her sexually.
At the meet up, make sure you continue saying and doing the types of things that that are going to keep turning her feelings on for you (e.g. being confident and charismatic, making her laugh and smile, making her feel feminine and girly).
Then, head back to your place or hers and lead up to sex.
After sex, just relax, be confident and continue to make her feel attracted to the new and improved you.
She will most likely then start to talk about seeing each other again.
Rather than making any plans, just say, “Sounds good. We should see each other again soon” and then don’t contact her until she contacts you (e.g. she texts you, comments on something on social media to get your attention).
Remember: Always be replying or answering to her, rather than reaching out to her after you’ve hooked up sexually and blown her mind.
If you do that, she will feel compelled to continue getting you back, rather than feeling turned off that you are doing all the chasing and not making her want it.
2. Make Her Jealous By Having a Fun Life Without Her. Then, Interact With Her and Get Her Laughing and Smiling, But Don’t Try to Get Her Back
Believe it or not, one of the qualities that women find attractive in a man is his ability to want her, but still have a happy, fulfilling and successful life without her.
Women don’t go around admitting that, but it’s true.
Watch this video for some other examples of things that women don’t admit to men, but which are true….
So, you need to understand that your ex will want you to be happy and enjoying life without her, even though she might never admit that or might even act angry about it.
So, why is it attractive to women?
Basically, because the opposite of being happy and enjoying life without her is a guy who is needy and insecure and who can’t move forward in his life without his woman giving him the emotional support that he needs to cope, feel loved and feel secure in this world.
So, if you want your ex to have strong feelings for you again, you need to get to the point where you want her in your life, but you don’t need her to feel happy and fulfilled.
A good way to do that is by beginning to enjoy a fun life without her.
- Go out with your friends to all the clubs and bars you used to avoid because you were with her.
- Meet new women and enjoy their company (it doesn’t mean you have to date other women, but you can have fun with them).
- Do something wild and crazy that you always wanted to do and put the pictures up on social media where she can easily see them (e.g. go bungee jumping, rock climbing, attend music festivals). If she has unfriended you, simply post the pictures with the “public” setting so anyone can see them. Trust me, she will look. Women always look at what their recent ex is up to since the break up.
- If you’ve ever wanted to travel locally or overseas, do it now. Even if it’s to somewhere close by where you can have fun with some friends for a weekend away, or join in on with a travel tour group. Just make sure that you take lots of photos of yourself having fun with the new people you meet along the way and put them up where she can see them.
When you are emotionally fulfilled without your ex and you then let her experience your happiness and non-neediness on a phone call (or in person), something amazing happens…
Suddenly, you seem more attractive to her and she begins to think, “This isn’t at all what I was expecting. I thought he’d be feeling sad and depressed, but instead he’s happy. He’s not sitting around moping and feeling sorry for himself like I imagined he would be. Instead, he’s out having fun without. Wow, I can’t believe he got over me so quickly. He’s confident and happy now, even though we’re not together? Why wasn’t he like this when we were together? He was so needy and insecure near the end, so how can he been having so much fun without me? It’s good to see. I kind of want to be a part of the fun life he’s having now. Of course, I won’t tell him that. I’ll just act like I’m still not interested. Hang on…what’s happening to me? Why am I feeling this way? Why do I care about him so much all of sudden? Why do I feel like I want him back?” and she then becomes open to the idea of meeting up with you again.
So, if you want to make your ex have strong feelings for you again, just contact her (the best way is to get her on a phone call with you) and re-spark some of her feelings of respect and attraction, by making her laugh and smile and feeling happy to be interacting with you again.
Then, get her to agree to meet up with you to say hello as friends.
At the meet up, continue saying and doing the types of things that build on her initial feelings for you (e.g. being confident and charismatic, making her laugh and smile, making her feel feminine and girly in your presence).
The more attracted to you that she feels, the more she will want to get back together and try again.
She might suggest catching up again.
However, if you want to make your ex have strong feelings for you again, instead of rushing ahead and responding with, “Yes! That would be awesome! When do you want to meet up again,” just remain cool and say something like, “Okay, that sounds good. I’ve got some things that I need to take care of right now, but let’s see what happens. No need to rush things of course.”
In her mind, she will want to rush things to get back together because she is feeling so attracted to the new you.
As a result, she will then likely text, call or send you a message on social media that day, or a few days later saying something like, “Hey, I really had a great time. It was good seeing you. I really want to see you again. When would suit you?”
If she’s shy or feels a little bit insecure about how you feel about her, she might just send you a message to say hi or ask how you are doing (e.g. “Hey, what’s up?” or, “Hey, what are you doing today?”).
From there, just get her on a call and agree to meet up with her again.
Then, get her back and enjoy the great times ahead with her.
3. Give Her the Attraction Experience That She Wants, But Never Told You About
If a woman doesn’t feel the way she wants to feel in a relationship, she will slowly begin to lose respect and attraction for her man.
Initially she might try to get him to change (e.g. by dropping hints or even throwing tantrums), but if he doesn’t pick up on what she’s trying to tell him, or just assumes she’ll put up with it because she loves him, she will usually disconnect from her feelings of love and eventually break up with him.
Why doesn’t a woman just come out and say exactly what she wants, rather than trying to get through to a man by hinting or throwing tantrums?
The reason why is that a woman doesn’t want to be a guy’s teacher in life and have to teach him how to be the kind of man she needs him to be.
If a guy can’t figure out by himself how to give her the kind of attraction experience she really wants and she then has to spell it out for him, it ruins the romance and excitement for her.
So, when a guy just doesn’t understand what she wants (and women want in general) from men in a relationship, she will just break up with him and hope that the next guy gets it.
Before she breaks up with him though, she will give him plenty of hints and warnings in her womanly way.
For example: She might constantly nag her guy about being more assertive in his life and say that she wished that he wouldn’t allow her and other people to push him around so much.
By saying that, she hopes that he will realize what she wants and become a more emotionally strong, assertive man.
She will hope that he begins to stand up to her more, so that she can relax and be his feminine woman, rather than always having to take on a more masculine role in the relationship.
However, most women won’t come out and say that because they don’t want to teach a guy how to be a man.
They just want a guy who gets it, or a guy who works it out and then starts doing it.
Yet, unfortunately most guys don’t understand how to be what women refer to as a real man, so they ask their woman what she wants and needs.
For example: A guy might say, “I’m sorry for making you feel that way. What do you want me to do? Just tell me what I need to do and I’ll do it,” which only turns her off even more.
If a woman is constantly getting the opposite of what she really wants in a relationship (e.g. she wants to feel feminine and girly in his presence, but she feels more like his mother or teacher. She wants to feel like she can rely on him to lead the way for both of them, but she feels like he’s depending on her for his emotional security) her feelings for him will fade and she will usually just break up with him and move on.
So, if you want to make your ex have strong feelings for you again, you need to understand what she really wanted from you in the relationship and then fix those issues and improve yourself without needing to ask her to help you.
Then, when you next interact with her and she sees for herself that you’ve moved past the level you were at when she broke up with you, she will automatically start feeling respect and attraction for you again.
She will drop her guard and begin to consider what it would feel like being in a relationship with the new you.
4 Mistakes That Will Diminish Your Ex’s Feelings For You
Now that you have a better understanding of some of the things that will make your ex have strong feelings for you, here are some of the mistakes that you should avoid making…
1. Thinking that being very romantic will make her have strong feelings.
Sometimes, a guy gets it into his mind that to change how his ex feels about him, he needs to treat her so well and be so nice and romantic that she can’t help but fall in love with him all over again.
For example: A guy might think, “Everywhere I look (e.g. movies, TV, magazines) I see that the way to a woman’s heart is through romance. So, if I send my ex roses, buy her some of the things she really likes (e.g. perfume, jewelry, chocolates) and generally make her feel like a princess, then her feelings for me will change and she will want to get back together again.”
He may then go ahead and spoil her in different ways, in the hopes that she will develop strong feelings for him again.
Yet, even though a woman might love and appreciate the attention and romance, most women don’t fall in love with a man because of what he can buy for her, or how romantic he is.
Basically, if a man is insecure, needy, wimpy or lacks purpose and direction in his life, then being romantic isn’t going to maker her have strong feelings for him.
Instead, she is going to feel turned off by who he is as a man, but somewhat appreciative of all of the nice things he does for her.
On the other hand, if a guy is confident, emotionally strong and charismatic (sexually attractive traits) and then also happens to be a little romantic at times, a woman will easily be able to fall in love with him, because he is making her feel sexually attracted and he is also being a good man.
So, by all means, be romantic towards your ex if you want to, but remember that just being romantic will not to make your ex have strong feelings for you again.
How she feels when she interacts with you on a phone call and in person.
How you talk, behave and react to her is what counts.
For example: Do you come across as confident or insecure? Does she feel feminine around you, or does she feel like more of a neutral friend?
That’s what really matters.
2. Thinking that discussing his feelings with her will make her have strong feelings for him too.
Quite often, a guy will hope that if he explains how he feels to his ex, she will suddenly start thinking, “Oh, I never realized how much he cares for me. Well that changes everything!! I also now care for him too. I think we should get back together again. Yayy!”
That would be nice if the world worked that way, but it doesn’t.
Women are not stupid, mindless robots.
They are living, breathing human beings.
…and to want to be in a relationship, a woman has to feel respect, sexual attraction and love for a guy based on how he interacts with her (e.g. his way of talking, behavior, vibe, how he reacts to her, the actions he takes).
You can’t just talk a woman into having feelings for you.
It doesn’t work that way.
If a woman doesn’t feel respect, sexual attraction and love for a man, then she’s not going to care about his feelings for her.
Your ex will only care about your feelings when she has strong feelings for you.
So, if you want to make your ex have strong feelings for you again, don’t waste time discussing your feelings with her and focus instead on making her feel respect and attraction for the new, improved version of you.
When getting an ex woman back, her feelings are all that matters.
Don’t worry about expressing your feelings or getting what you want.
Give her what she wants (i.e. feelings of respect, sexual attraction and love for you) and you will get what you want (i.e. get her back).
Another mistake to avoid is…
3. Ignoring her for weeks or months.
Some guys believe that if they ignore an ex woman for 30-60 days, she will then realize now much she misses him and her feelings for him will grow and become stronger.
Yet, unless a woman is still secretly in love with a guy and hoping to get back together with him, or if she is really struggling to find a replacement guy, then not hearing from him will be a welcome gift and will allow her to quietly move on without him.
So, if you want to get your ex back, don’t ignore her for longer than 3-7 days.
Just give her up to a week of space to allow things to calm down between you and her and then contact her.
Anything longer than that is a waste of time.
The longer you take to contact her, the more you stand the risk of her getting over you, meeting another guy or getting even more annoyed with you for not following through and getting her back.
By the way…
When I say that you shouldn’t ignore her, I do not mean that you should “stay in touch via text.”
Pretty much every guy does that and it doesn’t work.
You’ve got to get her on a phone call and get her to meet up with you in person.
In person, you can re-attract her for real and then get to kissing, sex and back into a real relationship…not a texting relationship that gradually fizzles out.
Another mistake to avoid is…
4. Lying about being with other women or having other women interested.
It might seem like a good idea to try and make your ex jealous by lying about being with other women, but it’s one of those things that can backfire pretty badly.
If your ex catches you out in a lie (which is pretty easy for most women to do), she will likely think you’re a jerk or a loser for trying to trick her and she will then lose even more respect and attraction for you.
On the other hand, if she does feel jealous and gets back together with you only to discover that nothing about you has really changed and you’re still the same guy she broke up with, she will usually just break up with you again.
So, rather than trying to trick her back into your life and stand the chance of losing her again, just do it right this time.
Focus on making her feel so much respect, attraction and love for you as a guy, that the thought of not being with you actually causes her pain.
When you do that, she will have strong feelings for you and will want to get back with you again.