What to say when your girlfriend says she misses you depends on why she is saying it.
Sometimes women say it and don’t mean it, whereas other times it has a very specific meaning.
For example: Here are 4 common reasons why a girlfriend might say that she misses you:
- You’ve recently broken up and she’s regretting it. She wants to get back together and it’s her way of letting you know that she’s open to meeting up with you to see if you can hook up again.
- You’ve just started dating and she’s really crazy about you. She thinks you’re an awesome guy and she wants to make it clear to you that she’s interested in you and likes getting attention from you (e.g. when you’re texting her, calling her, seeing her on a regular basis).
- She’s feeling insecure in the relationship because she’s not getting to spend enough time with you (e.g. you have a long distance relationship, your schedules don’t coincide so you can’t see each other very often), and she wants to check whether you miss her too.
- She feels that you’re drifting apart in the relationship and it’s her way of trying to let you know that she’s not feeling happy about it.
So, here’s what to say when your girlfriend says she misses you, depending on which reason rings true for you.
1. You’ve Recently Broken Up
If you and your girlfriend have recently broken up and she says she misses you, this could be her way of letting you know that she’s willing to give the relationship another chance.
Of course, she could also just be testing to see how much you’re missing her so that she can feel better about herself.
As a man, the best approach to take relationships is to be fearless with love and not be afraid to say, “I miss you too” if you do.
Just remember: You don’t lose any power in a relationship unless you think you do.
If you think that saying, “I miss you too” doesn’t make you lose any power, then it won’t.
Why? Your girlfriend will sense that you are confident and don’t feel like you need to lie to gain any power over her.
She will sense that you already feel empowered and don’t need to put on an act (e.g. pretend that you don’t miss her) to hopefully gain some power in the situation.
On the other hand, if you think that saying, “I miss you too” will make you seem weak, desperate or unattractive, then it will.
Why? She will be able to pick up on your insecurity as she talks to you further. She will sense that you’re worried about saying that you miss her because it might make you look weak.
So, what will she do?
Well, if she’s like most women, she will try to get emotional revenge on you (for not saying that you miss her too), by talking about other guys who like her or saying that she likes a new guy.
In other words, she will play games with you because you are playing games with her.
If you want to be a man in this life, you should always speak directly in relationships by being fearless with love.
By the way…
Being fearless with love doesn’t mean that you start acting like an emotional wussy and saying things like, “Oh, I miss you too…my life is worthless without you…you mean everything to me…I love you more than I love myself. I think about you 24/7.”
That’s not what women want.
A woman wants you to love her, want her and miss her, but not NEED her.
There’s nothing wrong with loving a woman, wanting her and missing her, but the moment you start needing her for your emotional security and stability is the moment she will lose attraction and respect for you.
A woman doesn’t want to be responsible for your emotional strength.
She wants you to be a strong man with or without her approval, love, support or reassurance.
After you tell her that you miss her too, you also need to make her feel some respect and attraction for you for other reasons (e.g. get her laughing and smiling while talking to you, turn a cold, distant conversation into a warm, connected one).
Her guard will then come down and she will open herself up to feeling love for you again.
From there, you need to get her to agree to a meet up.
When you see her in person, you have to make her feel a renewed sense of respect and sexual attraction for you.
Of course, if you don’t want to get back together with your girlfriend, it’s pointless worrying about what to say to your girlfriend when she says she misses you.
You don’t need to be cruel or unkind towards her, but you also shouldn’t fall into the trap of saying, “I miss you too,” and giving her false hope, just because you’re trying to be kind and not hurt her feelings.
If you don’t want her back, just let her go and get on with meeting and having sex with other beautiful women.
If you do want her back, then admit that you miss her (but in a confident, relaxed manner) and then meet up with her in person to get the relationship back together.
2. You’ve Just Started Dating
If you and your girlfriend have only been dating for a short time and she says she misses you, it’s usually her way of telling you that she likes you and wants to see more of you.
For example: She’s hoping that by saying she misses you, you will pick up on how much she likes you and make an effort to call her and see her more often.
She’s basically making sure that you know that she’s interested in you and would like to see where the relationship can go in the long-term.
In a situation like this, it’s up to you to maintain and grow the respect and attraction she is clearly feeling for you, by continuing to display the types of personality traits and behaviors that are naturally attractive to women (e.g. confidence, charisma, sense of humor, making her feel feminine and girly in contrast to your masculine vibe).
As long as you keep making her feel the way she wants to feel, your relationship will only get stronger and better over time.
Watch this video to understand how it works…
A woman’s attraction for you is something that needs to be taken care of and built on over time.
For example: Just because a woman says that she misses you now, it doesn’t mean that she will continue feeling that way if you start saying and doing unattractive things.
When a guy’s new girlfriend says that she misses him, he will often make the mistake of taking that as a sign that he should see her or contact her everyday to prevent her from missing him.
So, he stops paying attention to his hobbies, ignores his friends and essentially puts his entire focus on her.
Yet, what he doesn’t realize is that many women like having a new boyfriend who is a bit of a challenge to keep interested.
Why? Watch this video for more info…
To be successful at keeping a relationship together, you have to understand what type of attraction experience your girlfriend wants.
For example: Some women will like having to chase their boyfriend’s attention sometimes, rather than him always giving it to her without her having to do anything to impress him.
Yet, if the boyfriend goes too far and ignores her too much or treats her badly, she will then stop feeling the need to chase him and will want to make herself feel good by getting other guys interested in her.
As you can see, keeping a woman happy in a relationship is not as simple as ignoring her or being difficult to impress.
You’ve got to get the balance right by understanding the kind of attraction experience that makes your girlfriend truly happy to be with you.
Another reason why a girlfriend might say that she misses you is that…
3. Your Schedules Clash
When you have a busy schedule (e.g. you’re studying really hard, working in a different city or town from your girlfriend, working shifts that don’t coincide with hers), it’s only natural that your girlfriend will feel as though she’s not spending enough time with you.
When your girlfriend says she misses you under these circumstances, it could simply be because she’s feeling insecure about your feelings for her.
It could be her way of trying to find out if you miss her too and still value your relationship with her, or if you’ve met other women and are losing interest in her.
If your schedule and lifestyle has been keeping you apart from your girlfriend, a good way to respond when she says she misses you is by saying something like, “I really miss you too. I know things have been really hectic lately, but I hope to see you soon so that we can spend some quality time together. I’ll chat to you again in the next couple of days and make arrangements so that we can meet up.”
In this way, you are letting her know that you care for her, and no matter how busy you are with other things, making time to see her is also important to you.
As long as you keep building on her respect and attraction for you, her feelings for you will grow.
She will be supportive of your busy schedule because she will see that you are a man who is not afraid to move through the levels of life and make things happen.
Women instinctively know that it’s best to stick with a man who makes progress in life and achieves his goals, rather than hanging around with a guy who only wants to spend time with them.
4. You’re Drifting Apart
If a woman is saying, “I miss you” to her boyfriend and they are seeing each other every day, or even living together, this is a sign of deeper problems in the relationship.
Somewhere along the way, her boyfriend may have become neglectful of her needs, and telling him she misses him is her way of letting him know that she’s not feeling connected to him like she used to.
So, if your girlfriend is telling you she misses you and there are no external reasons why this could be happening (e.g. any of the reasons mentioned above), then she is feeling neglected, unloved and unappreciated by you.
If you don’t identify the real reasons why she is feeling like that, she will eventually begin to lose respect and attraction for you and she will then want to break up with you.
If you don’t want that to happen, you have to identify the real reasons for her unhappiness.
For example, ask yourself these questions:
- Have I been taking her for granted (e.g. expecting her to do everything in the home, expecting her to run errands for me)?
- Have I broken my promises to her too many times (e.g. canceled dates at the last minute, not going with her to a party / wedding after you said I would)?
- Have I stopped reaching for my true potential as a man (e.g. being stuck in a dead-end job, playing video games and not doing anything else)?
- Have I become too clingy and needy in the relationship (e.g. feeling jealous when she does something without me, giving up my friends and interests to spend all of my time with her)?
- Have I allowed her to wear the pants in the relationship (e.g. allow her to make all the decisions, let her have her way in everything)?
If any of the above reasons ring true for you, your girlfriend might be saying that she misses you now, but if you don’t make some adjustments to your behavior, her feelings of respect, attraction and love will slowly begin to fade.
Actions Speak Louder Than Words
No matter what your situation, you can begin to make your girlfriend feel a lot of respect, attraction and love for you as a man today, or you can make her feel insecure and unloved.
The choice really is yours.
So, if you want to be in a relationship with her, simply focus on building her on her feelings for you and she will naturally want to be with you.