The main reason why a woman will dump a man is if he has failed to deepen her feelings of respect, attraction and love for him over time.
In a relationship, it is the man’s responsibility to guide himself and his woman into deeper feelings of love and attraction.
A woman can help and even get really involved in the process, but it’s still the man’s responsibility to make sure that, regardless of any challenges they face as a couple, their love, respect and attraction for each other deepens over time.
3 Of the Most Common Reasons Why Women Dump Men
There are many reasons why a woman will decide to dump a guy, but 3 of the most common ones are:
1. He stopped caring about making her feel the way that she wants to feel in a relationship
The start of a relationship is usually the easy part because everything is new, exciting and fun.
You and her are getting laid, kissing, hugging, laughing and joking around together and will find doing simple things like going to a movie or eating at a restaurant fun and exciting because you are together.
Based on how much you feel for her, you might try hard to make her feel happy, loved, appreciated, noticed and all that other sweet and lovely stuff.
However, over time, some guys start to become a little comfortable in the relationship and slip into the habit of taking their woman for granted.
For example: While at the beginning of the relationship a guy might make the effort to go out with his woman (e.g. take her to a nice restaurant for dinner, go bowling together, go to the beach and watch the sunset, go to the movies), once things get comfortable between them, he might fall into the habit of staying home, watching TV and expecting her to cook all the meals.
After all, she is his girlfriend and they’ve already been out to restaurants plenty of times, so she should just be happy with that initial experience and get on with being a housewife/housegirlfriend.
Initially, being a kind of housewife for him might feel good to her because staying home means they can spend more time together in private, but if you know women, you will know that their excitement about something doesn’t last forever.
If you want to keep a woman happy for life, you’ve got to mix up the experience to keep things interested, otherwise she will start to get bored and want to find stimulation elsewhere.
The excitement of being with you and doing the same things over and over again might last for months or even years, but eventually she’s going to be a woman and say, “I’m bored” and if you don’t care to change things up, she will eventually cheat on you or break up with you.
Here’s the thing…
100 years ago, most men didn’t have to worry about doing that because it was shameful for a woman to get divorced.
In today’s world though, women are free to get in and out of relationships until they find the right guy and the right relationship dynamic for them.
If a modern man fails to deepen his woman’s feelings, she will gradually disconnect with her original feelings of love for him and then cheat on him or dump him.
Yes, it isn’t a nice part of modern life, but it’s the reality and you can either be sad about it or use it to your advantage.
You can use it to your advantage by being the type of guy that no woman would want to break up with, which is actually pretty easy to do.
All you really need to do is:
- Be confident and emotionally strong.
- Reach for your true potential as a man by following your big dream, goal or ambition in life.
- Share love with her, rather than trying to take it all from her to keep for yourself.
- Be a man of your word.
- Don’t remain at the same level of life together until it gets boring and stale. Grow together as a couple, try new things or proceed through the traditional levels of a relationship (i.e. engagement, marriage, children, grandchildren).
- Create and maintain a relationship dynamic that naturally inspires mutual respect, attraction and love.
As long as you do that, you are better than 99% of guys out there and a woman will know it and not want to leave you.
She won’t want to risk losing an awesome man like you and having to date lots of new guys to hopefully find another guy who even comes close to you.
Let’s have a look at the next common reason why a woman will dump a man…
2. He became needy, insecure and jealous
Women are instinctively attracted to the emotional strength in men (e.g. confidence, masculinity, drive and determination) and they are repelled by emotional weakness (e.g. self-doubt, insecurity, nervousness).
So, when a woman decides to date a guy and become his girlfriend, it’s usually because she has seen some of the attractive emotionally strong qualities in him.
For example: He might have confidently approached her, confidently asked her out on a date and confidently moved on for a kiss.
However, if he gradually begins to behave in a needy, jealous or overly possessive way, his emotional weakness will become a turn off to her.
She will then lose respect for him and then her attraction for him will also begin to fade away.
In a relationship, a woman wants to be able to relax into her feminine self, knowing that her man is the man all the time.
She doesn’t want to be with a guy who needs her to be the strong one, so he can be weak and cuddle into her when he is feeling emotionally weak and vulnerable.
She wants a man who is emotionally strong with or without her reassurance and assistance.
If a guy falls into a habit of needing her to reassure him of her love all the time, uses their relationship to hide from his true potential in life and generally behaves like a lost, confused guy around her, she will feel deeply turned off by him.
When she notices that the other men around her (e.g. at university, work, her favorite hangout spot) are behaving in emotionally stronger ways than her man (e.g. are more confident, have purpose and direction), she will begin to lose respect for her boyfriend, fiancé or husband and start to question why she is sticking with him.
If he gets worse, she will either cheat on him or dump him for a more emotionally strong man.
3. He stopped living up to his full potential as a man
Most women see themselves as the little girl that they used to be growing up, who would cuddle into daddy when she felt scared or unsure of herself.
As an adult woman, she will still have that desire to be protected by an emotionally strong, masculine man even if she is confident, successful and independent.
Of course, she won’t go around admitting that, but her fantasy guy is a man who can make her feel as safe as her dad made her feel when she was a little girl.
That doesn’t mean she has “daddy issues,” but that she simply wants to be able to feel like a feminine woman when she is with her man.
She doesn’t want to have to feel like she is a guy’s mother or big sister figure in his life. Instead, she wants to look up to him and feel proud to be his girl.
Based on this inner desire, women love the idea of a man who is confidently rising through the levels of life by reaching for his true potential as a man.
A man who doesn’t need her to pat him on the head and say, “Good boy” or “Go on, you can do it. Just give it a try. Believe in yourself.”
A man who believes in himself no matter what she or anyone else says about his ability to succeed.
Men who have that confidence instantly make a woman feel like he could provide for her and their children if they ever ended up having any together.
Of course, don’t let that become a reason for you to make up excuses and say that you’re not ready to have a woman because you’re not successful enough at what you do.
A guy does not have to be successful at what he is aiming to achieve before he will be attractive to women.
As long as a woman can see that he has the drive, confidence and determination to become more successful in the future, she will feel attracted to his emotional strength and potential.
However, if a woman starts a relationship with a man and realizes that he has no intention of following through with his goals or pursuing the dreams he told her about when they began dating, she will naturally lose respect and attraction for him and want to dump him.
Why Women Give Vague Reasons For Dumping Guys
When a woman dumps a guy, she will rarely tell him the subtle, secret reasons she is doing it. Why?
Here are 3 of the main reasons…
1. Fear of being physically hurt
For most of human history (and even to the present day) women have been hurt and even killed by their man when they attempted to break up with him.
So, a woman has the natural instinct to let her guy down as gently as possible so that he won’t react badly (e.g. become angry, shout, make a scene in public, become violent).
She will do that by saying vague things like, “I just need some space,” or “I just don’t feel the same way anymore; it’s not you, it’s me,” or “I just need some time apart to figure things out” hoping that it will be enough of an excuse for her to break up with a guy without him making a scene.
She can then use the time apart to find a replacement guy to protect her, move to another city or make friends with a new crowd of people who will protect her and stand up for her.
2. She doesn’t want to waste time working on the relationship anymore
If a guy failed to notice and fix the things that were making her feel unhappy in the relationship, then she will feel that it doesn’t matter if he doesn’t know what those things are now that it’s (in her eyes) already too late.
She will be thinking, “If he wasn’t paying attention to all the hints and messages I was giving him in the past, why should I bother spelling it out for him now that it’s over between us?”
She would have thrown tantrums, warned him, gotten into arguments and requested that he change many times before, but he either took her for granted by expecting her to just put up with it, or he was clueless about how to change so he just kept doing the same thing.
3. Not wanting to teach him how to be the man she needs
One of the most important reasons why a woman won’t tell a guy why she is dumping him is because she doesn’t want to have to hold his hand and show him how to behave like a man in the relationship.
If she has to teach her guy how to be a man for her, she will end up feeling like his mother or big sister, and her respect and attraction for him as a man will then fade away.
Preventing a Break Up
If you are currently making any of the following relationship mistakes, you need to begin to change now, before it’s too late:
- Being clingy.
- Taking her for granted.
- Getting into constant arguments.
- Breaking her trust.
- Not following through on your word.
- Not being the man in the relationship.
- Lacking purpose and direction.
- Being unable to control your jealousy.
- Not making her feel feminine in comparison to how masculine you think, talk, feel, behave and take action in life.
Getting Her Back After a Break Up
When you are aware of the real reasons why your ex dumped you, you will be able to make the correct changes to your behavior, conversation style and the way you interact with her, that will make her feel respect and attraction for you again.
When your ex begins to feel enough renewed respect and attraction for you, she will almost always open herself back up and give you another chance.