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Hi Dan
Have you guys got any new products coming out soon? Anything on relationship management or more natural interviews i really enjoyed them
I think it would be awesome if you guys did an archive of coaching calls that you’ve had with customers i’d be willing to have one recorded
Thanks
Jack
Hey Jack
Thanks for your questions.
About the archive of coaching calls – yes, that would be awesome, but I’ve always assumed that clients would want to keep it private. If you’re open to having it recorded, I’ll do it for free on the proviso that I can then sell the recording on the site. Sound good? BTW: To anyone else reading this – the same offer is open to you too.
About the relationship product – yes, I did a talk (on relationships and being an alpha male) in Sydney a few months ago and just got the video back this week. We’ll be releasing something in about 2 months. I’m currently recording a bunch of additional video to go with it. Stay tuned.
Cheers
Dan
Hi Dan
Oh no it doesn’t bother me if its just going to be TheModernMan dudes that are on here listening its cool
Do you want to see if you can get anymore guys interested first and then contact me? So you can see if its going to be worth your while. I’ll go first though if you want to get it going.
Let me know.
Thanks
Jack
Hi Jack
Thanks for your reply.
I’m a bit busy at the moment to organize that (I’m currently editing a quick seminar I did recently and making some additional video bonuses to go with it, which should be available on TheModernMan.com in a couple of months).
I’ll look at inviting others to have their phone coaching calls recorded later. If you want to get started and have me record your phone coaching call, let me know via e-mail.
Cheers
Dan
Hey Jack
I recorded a phone coaching call the other day (a customer saw your comment and contacted me about it). It went really well and I have now have time do a call with you. Send me an e-mail with your available times and I’ll give you a call.
To EVERYONE ELSE reading this: I will coach you on the phone for one hour for free as long as you agree that I can then use the audio recording as a case study or product on the site. You can, of course, change your name/use an alias when we chat on the phone. Get in contact with me if interested.
Cheers
Dan
Hey Dan,
I would be open for your offer. You could record our coaching call and sell it on your side.
I do have a couple of questions regarding dating and women that surely be interesting to your audience.
Let me know if your offer is still up.
Cheers,
Werner
Hi Werner
Yes, the offer is still open mate.
I’ve recorded 4 calls now and am in the middle of editing a massive video program we will be releasing in 2012. I’ll send you an e-mail now about the call.
Cheers
Dan
Hello Dan, I am interested in this also.
I don’t mind if it is recorded or used as a case study or product on your site. Where do I sign up?
Thanks!!
Hi Fabian
Sure thing mate, I have done 3 calls already and was contacted today about another one. I’ll probably do a few more before closing the offer.
Please send your request via this contact form. Let me know what time zone you are in and what time will be best to call you. I do the calls via Skype BTW.
Cheers
Dan
hey Dan,
The thing is that you mentioned only two of them and I’m curious – do you know more strong personalities? Or were these the only personalities you used when coaching guys?
Could you please give me more examples of an exaggerated personality other than Mr Montana and Mr Bond ?
Thank you!
Hi Tomy
Thanks for your question.
For those who don’t know what Tomy is referring to, it is a teaching technique called “Exaggerated Personality” we use on our courses (and in Mastery Methods & Mindsets) where we take guys out approaching women in real life environments like bars, clubs, shopping malls, etc. We get a client to take on an exaggerated personality like Tony Montana from the Scarface movie or Sean Connery from the James Bond movies and feel what it is like to have such a strong personality. The client quickly learns that it okay to be whoever they want to be and people will accept them as they are. From there, a client will then feel more comfortable being outgoing, using spontaneous humor and expressing their true personality that they only ever let out when around close friends or people they know really well.
Tomy – I have to ask: Have you actually tried the examples we provided? The reason I ask is that if you had already tried them, you probably would have learnt the necessary lessons and moved on to the higher level techniques. Please share your experiences of using the technique if you have and if you still want more examples, I’ll happily provide them. However, if you haven’t tried it properly when interacting with women in a social environment, then you need to stop twiddling your thumbs, start talking to women and use the techniques.
As I said – if you have used it, tell me your experiences and I’ll happily help. It’s just that I don’t like helping guys to waste time. Results come from actually approaching women and using our techniques.
Cheers!
Dan
Hey Dan it’s Jack.
Hope you got a few more coaching calls recorded, not looking forward to hearing mine
I didn’t know where to dump this question but we briefly talked about this when I had a coaching call with you in that I don’t think my personality is very compatible with this being good with women thing.
Is it ever necessary with anyone you’ve coached for them to change their personality or is it just about following the principles of being attractive?
If I was going to compare myself to a famous person it would be Jim Carrey and I don’t know about you Dan but when I think of Jim Carrey I’m not thinking good with women if i’m going to be honest
. I’m a very high energy guy and I’ve been told I’m quite quirky by a lot of people is this a bad thing? When I look at most guys that are good with girls there not quirky they tend to be more lower energy and serious. The only guy that I know of that is good with women who has a similar personality to me is Andrew who you interviewed, how does he balance out the humour side while still being taken seriously by women.
So is it ever necessary to have a personality facelift?
Hey Jack
Yes, I ended up doing a total of four and they all went well – including yours. Don’t worry, you sounded great mate.
About your questions:
“So is it ever necessary to have a personality facelift?”
In the process of using the techniques, your personality will change. For example: For a guy who doesn’t flirt with women to suddenly start using it, he will go from seeming like a friend to someone that women are sexually interested in. In essence, he has upgraded his personality from a 5/10 in terms of what women are looking for, to a 7/10. If he wants to be seen as a 10/10, he’ll need to add more of the traits that I teach in The Flow.
“I’m a very high energy guy and I’ve been told I’m quite quirky by a lot of people is this a bad thing? When I look at most guys that are good with girls there not quirky they tend to be more lower energy and serious.”
There is nothing with being quirky or having energy, but if you do it in a way where you come across in a feminine way, most women won’t find you attractive at a fundamental level. Why? Women are naturally feminine and are more attracted to men who display masculinity. It is fine to joke around, laugh, smile and be happy, but it must be mixed in with a lot of confidence and masculinity. The interview with Andrew that you’re referring to does contain plenty of examples of him being funny, but note that he does it in a masculine way.
About you comparing yourself to Jim Carrey:
There is a BIG difference between movies and the real world. Too many modern men confuse what they see in movies with what actually happens in the real world. In movies, Jim acts like a joker because that is his thing – he is a comedian after all. In his personal life, he is actually quite masculine, confident and considered AS WELL AS being funny and quirky. In almost all interviews he does for TV, he is joking around and being quirky and playful. The only time you see the “normal” Jim is when he’s talking about serious topics like his son’s autism or a cause he’s getting behind. However, even then – he’ll throw in some quirky jokes and behaviors because he knows that is what people love him for.
Cheers
Dan
Hey Dan
Do you have any tips on making the first phone call when you’ve been talking to girls online and want to take it to the next level? I find its easier to make the first phone call when you’ve met the girl face to face its not as awkward but its way harder to make the first phone call when your interactions have been mainly online, its a weird transition.
I guess I get concerned that the girl won’t be as cool as how she is online or vice versa. I get all the common symptoms sweaty hands, racing heart, dry mouth lol Would you recommend maybe calling up a few female friends to get into that social mindset and then make the call so your not going in cold? I need to make the call to move it forward but I don’t want to have an awkward conversation because of nerves and end up destroying all the good work from past experience if you blow the first phone call its game over.
Hi Ethan
Thanks for your question.
Yes, we have a technique called the Caller Guessing Technique and Ben gives a free sample in this video. If you want more examples and techniques of what to say and do when you call a woman (regardless if you have met her in person, online or through a friend), watch Dating Power. BTW: We also explain how to overcome the nerves and anxiety you may feel before calling a woman.
Cheers
Dan
I use to have little confidence, but I overcame it, however my main issue and obstacle with women is the fact I have aspergers syndrome, so my question is, can a guy with aspergers syndrome learn how to be good with women?
Hi Jay
Thanks for your question.
Yes, our advice also works for guys who have Aspergers. Check out Marcus’ comments on this page http://www.themodernman.com/videos/question-and-answer-video-series-part-11.html he mentions that he’s “an aspie” (as he calls it). He’s recently been having a lot of success.
Cheers
Dan
P.S. I hope to hear a success story from you someday soon!
Hi!
I’ve got one question for you:
Imagine this situation – I’m joining a group of people who are having a lot of fun(I may know SOME of them). I instanstly freeze and don’t dare to participate let alone lead the fun and conversation… I may say to myself stuff like “no one cares”, or “women find me attractive”, but it doesn’t help in ANY way… what to do NOW?
Thanks (:
Hi Thomas
Thanks for your question.
Building confidence is a process and changing your mindsets is *not* the only part in the process. I explain the 3 step process in Dating Power:
http://store.themodernman.com/products/dating_power.php
Cheers
Dan
Hi guys
Just leaving a bit of feedback. I recently bought the mastery methods and mindsets. And it was a GAME CHANGER. Not just with women, with life in general…who you associate with, how you interact with them…If you have some experience with women but want to take it to the next level, this is the product for you.
Keep up the amazing work guys. Let me know if you are in Brisbane any time soon. I’d love to do a course with you guys.
Hi Chris
Thanks for your positive feedback!
Enjoy the great times ahead with women.
Cheers
Dan
P.S. About the course: I’m currently living in Spain and will be back in Australia sometime next year. I’ll let you know when I’m back.
Hi!
I know it may seem a little offtopic, but I don’t know where to put this question/suggestion.
Now as I’m learning some skills I’m realizing that there’s quite a difference between what I THINK women find funny and what they REALLY find funny(and attractive).
I don’t know if you had this experience, but it happened to me several times that somebody did something to women that I thought was totally awkward and definitely not funny and that a guy was doing an idiot out of himself but the opposite was the truth. They loved him for it. Also vice versa.
Would you like to make an article about what you found out?
Let’s say a list of things guys that aren’t good with women say that they think is funny and attractive, but it really is not.
Thanks.
Cheers,
Tomy
Hi Dan,
I really need a help or your advice. I am a student 18 years old. I like the girl who is in the same class with me, but we have only one lesson together per week. Semester just started and I saw her in the first lesson but I wasn’t able to talk to her because she ran away from the class very quickly after lessons. In the second(last) lesson she wasn’t in the class. We have the college emails, so I am wondering: should I write her something to her college email or wait until the next week and talk to her?
Waiting for your help Dan!
Dan!
Please Help!
This isn’t really a dating question but any advice would be cool.
I’m going to be taking a course with another company in a city near my hometown because I just can’t get going with this (still shitting myself).
Have you got any suggestions how I can explain to my parents that I need to do this in a way they would understand?
My parents are very strict and its not as simple as leaving for 3 days to do a course and coming home. Part of the reason I have to tell my parents is because they always want to know where I am (I’m 19) My mum is always givig me advice like ‘be myself’ and all this irritating advice that people give she doesn’t understand I don’t expect her to but she also belittles me looking for help.
I honestly need to do this course I can’t caryy on living in this manner I’ve been saving for months to do it and I just have to go for it. How can I tell my parents? I’m dreading it.
Thanks
Billy