What do modern women want when it comes to dating, sex and relationships with men these days?
While some particulars may vary from woman to woman, most things women want from men are virtually universal and here is where you’ll find the answers to this age-old question.
A Man With a Great Personality
Above all else, a great personality is what women are searching for in a man. Why? A woman wants to be with a man who makes her feel desirable emotions. The man has to make her FEEL something and behave in certain ways that will make her fall in love and stay in love.
She can’t fall and love and stay in love with a pretty boy just for his looks. Both men and women eventually stop feeling the initial lust they felt for the other person, so there needs to be more substance if the relationship has a chance of lasting.
If you’re the guy who can make her laugh by cracking jokes, being a little cheeky, and teasing her, you’ll literally charm the pants/skirt off of her. Her natural instinct will tell her that if she hooked up with you and happened to get pregnant, at least the relationship will be fun of love, happiness and laughter. That is way more important than a fleeting bit of lust based on the physical.
A Man Who Exhibits a Relaxed, Masculine Confidence
Women also like a man who exudes a relaxed, masculine confidence when he approaches, talks to her for the first time, is on a date with her and in the bedroom with her.
A woman pays special attention to see if you carry yourself with self-assurance, whether you are at ease when you talk to her and if you are a man who is comfortable with yourself.
If you can be confident and easy-going when talking to a woman, it is very appealing and she will find it almost impossible to reject any offers you make to date her.
A Man Who is a Bit of a Challenge
A Man Who is Comfortable to Treat Women as Equals
When a woman says that she wants to be treated like your equal, she doesn’t mean that she wants you to treat her like one of the guys. She just wants you to respect her, appreciate her intelligence and value her opinions. She still wants you to be the man – don’t ever forget that.
A Man Who is Supportive
She also wants someone who has her back, is there to support her and, when necessary, can protect her. That doesn’t mean that she always wants you always to run to her rescue, but she does want to know that if she needs your help you’ll be there. You don’t have to tell her this – she will pick up on it by observing your overall character as a man.
A Man Who Allows Her to be a Woman
Men are natural problem solvers and when a woman airs a problem to a man, many men often feel that it’s their job to solve the woman’s dilemma. However, that’s not necessarily what she wants.
Most of the time (80%), she’s just looking for you to lend an ear but sometimes (20%), yes, she does want your input. So how can you tell the difference? Well, when a woman comes to you with a problem, just sit there and listen. Usually that’s all that she wants.
Too often you might have the natural male impulse to jump in with a solution and say, “Here’s how you should handle this,” or “Do you want to know what I think you should do?” Politely, she’ll say, “Yes, okay” as you give her your advice.
Then, she’ll likely do what she feels is best and not necessarily use the advice you offered. Some guys find this behavior from women confusing, frustrating and insulting. However, the main reason why you shouldn’t take offense in these situations is that she didn’t actually ask for your help. You offered it first and, being a woman (who naturally submits to the masculine), she simply listened.
On the other hand, if she’s sharing a problem with you and you are actively listening, when she’s finished you can ask, “So how are you going to handle it?” At that point, she will either tell you what her plans are or she’ll ask you what you think she should do.
If she does ask, then she is looking to you for a possible solution. Once you give her your opinion, she very well may go with your suggestions but even if she doesn’t, you can be sure that she will weigh them carefully – most women do have a brain.
Most importantly, the way you handled the situation will make her happy with you as a man. She’ll realize that you believe she is capable of using her judgment and she won’t feel as if you’re forcing your opinions on her.
A Man Who Treats His Woman as Special
Women like to feel special and cherished. This doesn’t mean she wants you to put her on a pedestal – a common mistake of the nice guy. When you first approach a woman or are just getting to know her, she wants you to treat her like you would any other woman; not any better or any worse. She wants you to be yourself – your best self – in her presence.
Of course, once you’re in a relationship, yes, she does want you to remember things that are special to the two of you (or to her) like birthdays, anniversaries, Valentine’s Day, where you went on your first date, special holidays and so forth.
Women are usually very sentimental. If you can show that you understand a woman’s sentimentality by remembering things that are important to her, you will be greatly rewarded for your efforts.
A Man Who is Comfortable Showing Affection and Attention
Most women love occasional, impulsive gift giving. And, no, a first date is not the time to bring candy or flowers – it’s a surefire case of ‘trying too hard’ and will turn 99% of modern women off you in an instant.
Once you’re in a relationship – the game changes. Every now and then, do something really special for her or buy her something that you know she’ll like when it’s not a gift-giving occasion. Most women respond to this by becoming more loving and affectionate to the man…as long as he has not being doing too many special things for her – that’s when she takes it for granted and begins feels bored.
Speaking of affection, most women adore sudden public displays.
We’re not talking about mauling her in a supermarket, but giving her a warm, affectionate kiss on the cheek or lips, telling her you love her (once you’ve reached that stage of your relationship) once in a while, or holding her hand as you walk down the street. These are all loving acts that when done in public will usually be reciprocated ten-fold in private by her.
A Man with Ambition
While most women aren’t necessarily looking to marry a millionaire, she does want to know that you have a good work ethic and that you have at least some ambition to improve yourself.
Whether it’s taking a class to advance your career or reading books that will improve your mind, women love men who aren’t content to just always sit in front of the tube or hang with their friends. They want a man who actually shows a desire to improve his life and possibly their life together.
You see, it’s not the grand gestures that most women want. It’s the little things that tell her that she’s chosen a great guy. Don’t believe what you see in TV sitcoms and magazine advertisements, telling you that you need to be tall, rich and handsome to be what a woman wants.