The Secret to Making New Friends

Make new friends, date more women and enjoy your life...before it's too late

This may NOT apply to you, but I thought I'd share it anyway because it's a VERY COMMON problem for men today. I'm talking about the lack of FRIENDS in a modern man's life and how it can seriously slow him down from succeeding with women & dating.

If you're interesting in learning how to make more friends, check out Phil's story below, before reading my response to it.

Success story & question: "Here's my story...

I'm 28 and am in the process of getting divorced. My wife just up and left one day and it pretty much destroyed me. When I started to put the pieces back together I realized that I was never good with women and won my wife on a whim. That's what brought me to your book. I need to get better with women, I need to be more confident and interesting.

I think I'm different from most guys because I'm not afraid to get shot down. I really just don't know what to say and most women think I am a jerk when I try so I just don't. The thing is I refuse to date even mediocre looking women. This is something that I catch a lot of shit from my friends for. I am probably one of the ugliest guys around who has never dated a fat girl.

Tonight I ran into a girl I have known since I was a kid at the local grocery store. I haven't seen her in a few years. She's at least five years older than me. She's hot, I mean hot!!! When I saw her, I said hey, how have you been. I kind of expected her to say hey and keep walking but she stopped and gave me a hug. Not a what's up little bro kind of hug either.

Anyway we caught up for a few minutes, then I started to realize that she was showing interest in me. Instead of doing the right thing and trying to spark attraction I got nervous and ended the conversation. Needless to say after I walked away I got mad and felt like a wuss. Did I mention she is hot???

Also, I don't have any single friends right now so I don't have a wingman to go out with to socialize. I guess that's the first thing I need to find. Do you have any ideas on that? Phil, 28 from CA in the USA"

Response from Dan

Well done Phil.

Sounds like you are regaining your power with women and good luck with the hottie you're working on. I'm also impressed that you flat-out REFUSE to date ugly women even though you're not that good with women yet AND you also consider YOURSELF to be 'ugly'. As Stu from The Modern Man says, "Life's too short to date ugly women..."

You've also raised an important topic about FRIENDS that I will now expand on. You said, "I don't have any single friends right now so I don't have a wingman to go out with to socialize. I guess that's the first thing I need to find. Do you have any ideas on that?"

Definitely. Over the years, I've found that most guys have guy friends that are either:

1. In relationships already, so they usually aren't up for going out and meeting single women.
2. Not good with women, so even if they went out to meet women they probably wouldn't get very far anyway.
3. Good with women, but are unwilling or unable to help.

This leaves a lot of guys feeling STUCK and alone with their problem of being unsuccessful with women. Their friends can't help them and they also don't feel comfortable going out ALONE to meet women all by themselves.

This is something that I understand well, because it held me back from success with women for a long, long time. For many years, the ONE and ONLY friend I had was a negative kind of guy who NEVER wanted to approach women.

He'd just stand there making fun of people, complaining or coming up with excuses as to why we shouldn't approach the women we found attractive. "Ahh, they're probably just bitches with boyfriends..." he'd say, "All they want to do is dance and have guys hitting on them..."

He'd then call them all sorts of names and insist we just 'kick back and have a drink'. Yeah, like that's going to ever allow us to get a girl or make new friends! I'd often try to get him to look at the situation differently, "Come on man, they all can't be taken ...surely some of these women are single and want to meet a guy..."

My friend refused to change, so I eventually stopped hanging out with him altogether. Unfortunately, this then left me with pretty much no-one to hang out with. Fortunately, I knew a couple of guys through work and (once or twice a year) I would get invited to small house parties.

While these party invites were a great relief and made me feel a little better about my non-existent social life, they never did deliver what I wanted in the first place: A girlfriend (or some new women to date for a while) as well as some new friends to hang out with.

I felt stuck...and as the best years of my life ticked away, it suddenly dawned on me that I had two choices:

1. Settle for an ugly, fat woman (that nobody else wanted).
2. Continue to stay single and alone.

The reason I only saw TWO CHOICES back then was that I didn't know it was possible to improve my ability with women. There was no 'Modern Man' back then! Even though I was pretty desperate to meet a woman, I didn't settle for Option 1...I chose Option 2 and remained single.

Here's the thing though...

Being single is FANTASTIC when you are good with women, because you can hook up with new women all the time and often have several women fighting to get into a relationship with you. As Ben, Stu and I often jokingly say "It's a tough life being this good with women!"

However, being single when you're not good with women is NOT fun. It sucks, it's boring and it's downright lonely. It's also annoying. I remember getting to the point where I would DREAD going to functions or family dinners because I knew I'd have to face up to the annoying "Do you have a girlfriend yet?" questions and the follow-up comments of "Don't worry, you'll find a nice girl one day..." I hated hearing that!

I WANTED to meet a girl, but to do that I needed to make some new friends so I would have someone to go out on the town with. There was only one problem with that... I had NO IDEA where to find new friends...I mean, how do you do it? (I'll explain how in a minute).

4 BORING, LONELY YEARS LATER I made friends with a cool guy through a chance introduction. Like me, he was keen to go out and meet women on the weekends. Both of us were hopeless with women and had a LOT to learn, but at least now I had SOMEONE who wanted to go out and meet women with me.

That weekend, we went out and approached women together on Friday & Saturday night. Within 2 months, I realized a HIDDEN benefit to approaching & meeting new women: WE WERE ALSO MAKING LOADS OF NEW FRIENDS in the process.

Before too long, I had made 4 new friends, then 10 and then loads more as the months went on. I was getting invited to more parties, more functions and catching up with more friends during the week. This led to me being introduced to women through friends (which is one of the EASIEST ways to meet women) and hooking up with some amazing women. It's interesting, because for most of my life, I've really only ever had 1 or 2 friends at any given time.

These days, I have loads of great friends and about 30% of them are female. With my female friends, there is always either an invite to a party, a call to say hello or a catch up mid-week for dinner or coffee. As my for my guy friends: One of the reasons I didn't have many (or any) 'cool guys friends' in the past, was that I didn't know how to get along with 'cool guys'.

In high-school, I usually hung around with the NERDS - even though I didn't see myself as a NERD. I WANTED TO hang out with the cooler crowd (and I sometimes got a random opportunity to) but for some reason, I just couldn't relate to them on their level.

Since learning the secrets to making loads of new friends, I am living a COMPLETELY different lifestyle. I have many beautiful women in my life and loads of great friends. So, what are some of those secrets?

1. Get out there and start meeting women in MANY DIFFERENT PLACES.
   
   If you don't know how to do that and are currently restricting yourself to only bars on weekends, or relying on 'luck' to meet women, then download this program on approaching women, right now. Ben, Stu and I will teach you WHERE to meet new women during the day AND night. We will ALSO explain what to SAY and DO differently in EACH situation so you can date more women and make more friends with men AND women than you ever have before.
2. Take advantage of opportunities to spark up conversations with women AND men in your everyday life.
   
   You'll be surprised how keen most people are to make new friends, and how keen most women are to find a boyfriend or lover. By the way... Most guys have NO IDEA how to meet women outside of bar environments, which means that there is almost always LITTLE OR NO COMPETITION from other guys when you approach a woman.
3. Get contact details from people you connect with.
   
   The dynamics of 'getting contact details' change in almost every environment you meet people, so you need to adjust what you say and do to avoid things getting awkward. Getting a number from a woman in a bar is COMPLETELY different to getting a number from a woman you've stopped to chat to in a shopping mall. The exact wording and 'how to' instructions for this are explained in 21 Great Ways to Meet Women.
4. Invite these people to parties or functions.
   
   By doing #4 on the list, you will be ADDING VALUE to other people's lives. When you can be that guy, people practically LINE UP to be your friend. However, if you offer no value to a person's life (e.g. you live a boring life yourself, go to the same places and do the same things all the time, are more interested in getting something for yourself rather than allowing your friend to get something or to feel good about himself/herself, etc) then you will probably never be an attractive friend option.

There are MANY more secrets to making friends that I could tell you, but I'll leave it here for now. If you're reading this now and would like to:

1. Make loads more friends.
2. Date and have sex with more women.
3. Get a girlfriend.
4. Increase the amount of fun & adventure in your life.

...then go ahead go ahead and listen to 21 Great Ways to Get a Girlfriend. I guarantee and PERSONALLY PROMISE YOU that when you use the techniques in this program, you will get more phone numbers and go on more dates with women that you're attracted to - as well as making more friends.

You will also discover how to turn your life into the fun, interesting and fulfilling adventure that you've always wanted it to be. Plus, you'll have plenty of new friends to share it all with. Take action today - you'll be glad you did!

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	Article by Dan Bacon. Founder and lead dating coach for TheModernMan.com
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