Picking Up Women Without Falling Flat on Your Face

Discover the right approach to avoid embarrassment and rejection when picking up women

Approaching and picking up women is simple and easy for the 'naturals' (guys who are naturally good with women), because they understand things about women and dating that most guys don't. The naturals also use techniques that instantly get women interested and wanting to be their girlfriend.

Wouldn't it be nice to begin picking up women like the naturals do? The great news is that you CAN learn how to do it - guys are learning the secrets everyday thanks to the internet and sites like this.

First things first though. Before you begin picking up women you need to find:


  • Courage: You may be afraid, angry or just too traumatized by past dating experiences to give it another try, but you have to. The alternative is being alone, feeling left out and missing out on love, sex and relationships.
  • Belief: If your approach to picking up women is about trying to pick up women who aren’t very attractive, you must push yourself further. You have to rise up to the challenge and believe in yourself. Other guys who look like you are with beautiful women, so why aren't you?

It can be so tempting to stick to your dating security blanket and avoid the type of women you REALLY, but dong so will never stop you from being hurt in a relationship. The secret to avoid being hurt is to have the power in a relationship, so you are in control and the woman is afraid to lose you to another woman - not the other way around.

Approaching and picking up women

If you’ve ever approached a woman before and struck out, you are among a very large group of men. There are common reasons why men strike out with women:


  • Approaching a woman who is unavailable.
  • Not knowing what to say after meeting her.
  • Misunderstanding the woman’s body language.
  • Seeming too uptight, nervous or shy.

It doesn’t have to be that way. There is an easy, 5-step process that you can use to overcome and retrain yourself for success at picking up women. You can use this to start a conversation with a beautiful woman you meet at the library, to speak to the girl you see every week at the supermarket, ask out your sister’s friend or get out of the ‘friend zone’ and date your best girl-friend.


  1. Pre-plan: Practice makes perfect. Preplanning before you go out for the evening helps you feel more confident doing what you’re about to do. Walk through the stages of making initial eye contact, greeting her, adding some casual flirting, enjoying a brief conversation and then getting her phone number.
  2. Act, don’t think: There is a time for speaking and a time to take action. If you hesitate when trying to pick up women it’s just too easy to psych yourself out and miss your opportunity because of your own worries and fears.
  3. Keep the power: Once you have a woman interested in you, use her sexual attraction for you to keep the power in the relationship. Don’t let her be the one who is in charge of how things progress.
  4. Be interesting: You don’t have to be rich, handsome or famous to succeed at when picking up women. Just having something that you are passionate about is more than enough. If you are passionate about a topic, you will convey a warmth and natural confidence when speaking that will draw women in.
  5. Don't talk for too long on the phone: Timing a phone conversation is critical for keeping a woman engaged. Keep the conversation funny and friendly when talking on the phone, but don’t let the conversation drag on so long that you’re both yawning and dealing with awkward pauses. Hang up before you lose her interest and she’ll be eager for you to call again.

These five steps put you on the right path for picking up women, but they are not enough to fix all of your problems with women. If you want to find out more about how you can pick up a woman and enjoy a lasting relationship that leads to great sex, click below to continue and let me teach you everything I know about picking up women!


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