The Nice Guy Funeral

Bury the nice guy act and start using the secrets of bad boys and jerks to become the perfect man

Boring, predictable, pushover, forgettable and friend; words often used to describe the nice guy. Not too flattering is it? If you are a nice guy, here is the truth that you must face: Nice guys don’t succeed in the dating arena.

To explain why, I’m going to draw a comparison between nice guys, bad boys and jerks..

The Nice Guy

What he does: The nice guy is charming and sweet when taking out a woman. He hangs on to her every word, constantly admires and compliments her while allowing her to lead and decide. He tells her how wonderful and beautiful she is and how lucky he is to have found her, while giving her gifts that are breaking his bank account.

How she feels: Smothered and bored. There is no chase in the relationship and the woman is completely secure because the relationship has no surprises. There is no excitement for the woman, it’s too ‘nice’ and she quickly loses interest.

The Bad Boy

What he does: The bad boy is aloof and has an air of danger about him. He never seems to get too involved in the woman and may come across as a little selfish. He is spontaneous and secure in his masculinity, calling a woman when he feels like it and never becoming too close to any one woman.

How she feels: Excited! Women love the thrill of chasing the bad boy, because they get excited about the chance that they might be the one woman who can change him. Women are glad to give the authority in the relationship to the bad boy and eagerly wait for his phone calls. They are also happy to initiate sex with him, hoping to please him.

The Jerk

What he does: The jerk puts his needs above the woman’s needs. He dominates everyone around him, is suave and sophisticated and is selfish and aggressive in his dating approach. Often the jerk dates multiple women at once, without apology.

How she feels: She loves it. There is no bigger challenge to a woman than trying to change a jerk into a good guy. Woman are obsessed with the jerk and are often waiting around to see him and willing to do anything to spend more time with him.

It should be obvious that the jerk and the bad boy are the clear winners in the dating circle. However, you do not have to become a jerk or a bad boy. The magic balance is to be a good guy with edge.

A good guy with edge is where you take some of the traits of jerks and bad boys and mix it in with your nice personality. The result: The perfect man. No matter how much a nice guy you currently are, there are proven techniques that will instantly get more women eagerly wanting to date you and be and your girlfriend.

My name is Dan Bacon, creator of The Modern Man. Our start-to-finish guides for success with women have been created with the nice guy in mind. If you want to stand out from all the other guys in a room, know the perfect time to call up a woman and know the right things to say on the phone - then you've come to the right place.

To begin breaking through the nice guy act that is killing your chances with women, start with something easy like your body language. Nice guy body language to avoid: Being timid, eyes down, eyes shifting around, fidgeting your feet when you talk to a woman.

A nervous guy is not a confident guy and women avoid nervous nice guys at all costs, because it is very unappealing to them. You should always aim to display confident, but relaxed body language when around women. Would you like tips on transforming the nice guy in you into the perfect man? Click below and see how quickly your life with women will change...


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