When a woman asks a man for space from a relationship, some guys make the mistake of thinking that giving her space will solve the issue and make her realize that she wants to stay with him.
However, if your girlfriend, fiance or wife is asking for space, you need to ask yourself why she really wants to put some distance between you.
Answer the following questions to understand where you’ve been going wrong…
1. Has she lost respect for you?
Women are attracted to confident, masculine alpha males who naturally take the lead in a relationship.
If you have slipped into putting her in a position of “wearing the pants” or having to make all of the relationship decisions, she will feel less like a woman and will respect you less as a consequence.
It’s not as if women are incapable of taking the lead or making decisions in a male/female romantic relationship, but generally speaking, a woman will want you to take on that role as much as possible, so she can relax into your masculine direction and not feel as though she needs to lead you.
Watch this video to understand the 3 step process that a woman usually goes through (including losing respect for a guy) before she decides to break up with him…
As you will discover from the video above, giving a woman space when she has lost respect and attraction for you isn’t going to fix the problems between you.
What you need to do is get her to feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you by beginning to talk, think, behave and take action in ways that make her feel respect and attraction. When she feels that, she will then feel drawn to you again and will begin to reconnect with her old loving feelings.
When that happens, she won’t want to have any more space or time away from you and will simply want to be with you again.
2. Has she lost attraction for you?
A loss of respect leads to a loss of attraction. When a woman is in a relationship with a man who knows how to be a man, she is able to relax into feeling like a woman – and that’s ultimately what a women wants from her romantic relationship.
A man with alpha male qualities who naturally leads the way and creates the ideal relationship dynamic in the process, is a man who has what it takes to make a woman feel like a woman, and that is a huge part of keeping the sexual spark alive in a relationship.
Watch this video to understand how a woman’s attraction for a man works…
3. Has she fallen out of love with you?
When respect and sexual attraction are lost, a woman quickly begins to fall out of love with her man.
After all, she’s not with you for the sake of a friendship, she’s in it for love, sex, intimacy, security and friendship.
Whether you’ve made the mistake of thinking that a woman wants to be “in charge” in a relationship, you’ve become needy and overly-possessive, you’ve put her on a pedestal or adopted any other kind of insecure patterns of behavior, your change of attitude and your lack of alpha male qualities will cause her feelings to change and she will fall out of love with you as a result.
When a Woman Asks For Space, She’s Usually Just Trying to Soften the Blow Before an Actual Break Up
It goes against a woman’s instinctive caring nature to deliberately hurt someone’s feelings if it can be avoided, so rather than come right out with her intention of breaking up with you, she may attempt to soften the blow by saying she needs some space.
With this being the case, giving space in a relationship is effectively just dragging out the inevitable break-up of the relationship, unless you actually change the things about you that have caused her to lose respect and attraction for you and then fall out of love with you.
Space Won’t Solve the Problems Between You and Her
Thinking that space will solve a problem in a relationship is a mistake that many guys make.
They assume that giving space will give her time to realize the mistake she is making, because after all, she’s not actually saying she wants to end the relationship.
Often, the woman will be so sincere about needing space and time to think that a guy will believe that giving her space will make her realize that she misses him and wants to get things back to the way they were. However, this is not how things are likely to work out in reality.
The only way to resolve a problem is to identify what the real problem is.
This means figuring out what happened to cause her feelings to change in the first place, rather than just giving her space and hoping that she’ll work out her issues and get back to you.
If your girlfriend wants space, you need to figure out what changes have taken place in you and in your relationship to cause her to feel differently about you. Until you know what negative changes have taken place, you can’t take any kind of positive action to make changes for the better.
In most cases, giving space in a relationship (and not working on improving yourself while it is happening) is effectively giving a woman time to focus on all of the negative things about you that are turning her off.
To change the way she feels about you and make her want to stick with the relationship, you need to change the things that are causing her to lose respect for you, lose attraction for you and consequently fall out of love with you.