• Kyle

  Thanks!

  • Dan Bacon

    You’re welcome mate!

    Cheers
    Dan

• ivan

  Hi Dan,
  I just recently purchased your “better than a bad boy” videos and must say it has opened up my eyes so I want to thank you for that.
  I have a question about getting my ex back which hopefully you can give me some insight on. I had just come back from a 4 week trip with a female friend (just a friend, who my ex knows) of mine. The trip was organised before I met my ex so there was no way I was gona change it. A week before I left for overseas my ex of 4 months had gone cold and stopped the contact as much. I confronted her and had a conversation. She mentioned that she wanted some more freedom and that she was still in contact with her ex. The night before I was to leave for overseas she texted me saying ” have a good trip and don’t hold back on the ladies” this really annoyed me so i had a good time with the ladies. Now that I’m back I contacted her via txt and had a few brief basic conversations about what’s been happening while I was gone. I then on the following day asked her to meet me but she texted ” I’m really busy all weekend got so much to do” so I didn’t reply. She then texted me the following with a random off the topic txt ” you prob won’t believe me but iv been sober now for two weeks” at which I replied ” well done, just make sure u keep it up”. Now, after that I saw her in the gym and spoke to her for a little while and that was that. She then texted me ” was nice to see you!:)” at which I replied ” it was nice to see you too!:). I saw her again at the gym where she approached me and talked to me for a little longer. I haven’t instigated to call her or text as I want her to make the moves to get back together if that’s the way it should be. I there anything else I should do? Or is there something I’m doing wrong because I really do want her back?
  Any help would be much appreciated! Thank you guys.

  • Dan Bacon

    Hey Ivan

    Thanks for your positive feedback.

    Basically, you’ve got to make her see that you’re better than her ex and any other guys on her radar. Follow the advice in Better Than a Bad Boy and that will happen. You have to put the work in to become the type of man I talk about in the program. Additionally, when you see her at the gym again, make sure she doesn’t get the vibe that you are hoping she shows interest in you and that you are secretly pining for her. As we explain in our program Dating Power http://store.themodernman.com/in/ff7fdd (which about how to pick up new women), if you give the woman the “dating power” then she will usually play harder to get. So, unless you want a woman to play hard to get, don’t give her that power over you. You will be able to not give her that power if you truly follow the advice you have learnt about in Better Than a Bad Boy. If you have any more questions for me, feel free to ask, but first tell me about the steps you’ve taken to start doing what I’ve advised in Better Than a Bad Boy.

    Cheers
    Dan

• Them

  Hi Dan,

  Been going through The Flow and learning a lot, but wanted your opinion on my recent breakup.

  She and I had an instant connection and things were great for the first 8 months. Her career began to pick up, and she put more focus there because she’s very ambitious and wants to make a name for herself. Two or three times, she would complain about having “too much work”. I realize I made a mistake here, but I would cancel our plans, tell her to get her work done and that we’d make plans when she wasn’t so stressed. She would object and would want to see me, but I’d insist she get her work done first.

  I was unhappy at my current job, and she knew this, but I was actively seeking new employment and getting interviews. I wasn’t getting the jobs, however, and expressed disappointment, but never broke down. I was frequently tired, however. She would make time to come see me, but I admit that we didn’t do exciting things the last month we were together. I was playful with her, we laughed and had fun, I bought her a gift that I teased her with but refused to give her for a few weeks…but I was exhausted from work and it showed. The relationship slowed down to a “go out for food, spend time together, have (great) sex” routine for the last 2-3 weeks because I was just too tired.

  Seemingly out of the blue, she breaks up with me, and she was a WRECK during it I might add. She says she “loves me so much”, but doesn’t feel the way she think she should – doesn’t feel the “romantic connection” anymore. She said this should have been the “perfect relationship”. She claimed that maybe we got together too soon from her last relationship (we began seeing each other 1.5 months after he dumped her out of the blue), and that she didn’t have enough direction in life…and that she felt that I had a more solid idea of what I wanted and that she and I might not match up when she figures out what she wants.

  I may have slipped up four days later – she contacted me and wanted to talk. I did not beg or plead, but I did stand my ground and tell her that I loved her and wanted to work this out. I admit that some tears slipped thought the conversation, and I did tell her that I was still figuring out exactly where I wanted to go in life, but that I knew I wanted her in it.

  She’s reached out to me twice since, just to wish me a good day. I’ve acted cheerful and happy, and acted like the breakup never happened. However, she hasn’t reached out to me in three weeks.

  Two weeks ago, she asked a close friend about me. She got teary eyed, said that she loved me but felt that something was “off” and HAD to let me go even though she knew I was “a gem”. She made it a point to tell him that she’s rejected every other guy that’s approached her since. She told him that she’s happy being on her own and needs to stay that way for awhile because she’s been in a different relationship every year for the past decade, and none of them have worked out – and that she must the problem.

  Do I have a chance of reconciling this and getting her back?

  • Dan Bacon

    Hey Them

    Thanks for your positive feedback and question.

    Man, this is an interesting one. If what you are saying is 100% true, with no exaggerations, then it doesn’t make a lot of sense. However, I have had a fair bit of experience with these “weird situations” so I can help. When she refers to something being “off,” my experience tells me that it’s usually one of two things:

    1) She feels as though you’re not compatible with her socially, but she’s too embarrassed to say it.
    2) She feels as though you’re not experienced enough with relationships, to the point where you are making “newbie” mistakes that ruin the dynamic between you and her.

    If you want to get her back, I recommend that you use Get Your Ex Back: Super System to do it. There are specific techniques that will get her contacting you and wanting to meet up. If she doesn’t, then there are techniques to use when you contact her so she is interested in meeting up with you. You can also get her to overlook any incompatibilities you may have with each other, by saying a few simple things to her (all explained in the program).

    Cheers
    Dan

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