If you’ve been thinking, “I want to get my girlfriend back,” the first thing that you need to do is work out why she really dumped you.
Women don’t always explain the real reasons why they’ve broken up with a guy because they don’t want to teach him how to be the man they want. Women expect us men to know how to be men and if we don’t, they simply move on.
Watch this video to understand the process that your girlfriend went through before breaking up with you and what you’ll need to do to get her back…
Have You Already Tried Getting Her in Any of These Ways?
Guys make all sorts of classic mistakes when trying to get an ex back, which only push the woman away further. Such as:
1. Bombarding her with phone calls, voice mails, text messages, e-mails or Facebook messages
It’s only natural to feel worried that you might be losing the woman you love and want the most. It might make you feel sick to the stomach and feel a type of bodily stress that makes you feel hot, worn out and frazzled.
I know, I’ve been there. It happened to me many years ago.
There’s nothing wrong will calling, texting or messaging your ex, but ONLY if it is going to make her feel respect and attraction for you. If you’re annoying her, turning her off and frustrating her with your communication style, it’s only going to push her away further.
2. Begging and pleading to be given a second chance
Begging and pleading does nothing to help change a woman’s mind about a break up, other than turn her off even more.
The only thing that makes a difference and actually gets a woman back is when a guy stops saying and doing the types of things that are turning her off, and starts saying and doing things that make her feel respect and attraction for him.
For example: Instead of begging and pleading, it’s much better to accept the break up in a mature way and then leave. By accepting the break up in a mature, calm way, she will feel respect for you and by leaving right after it, she will feel attracted to the fact that you’re not needy and are confident without her.
Of course, that’s not the only way to make an ex girlfriend feel respect or attraction, but it is one of the ways.
3. Asking her to tell you what you need to change
Women hate it when they are put into a position of being a man’s teacher in life. It goes against their natural desire to be with a man who knows how to be a man.
When a guy asks his girlfriend something like, “What do you want me to change? I will do whatever you want…just tell me what I need to do” a woman will often say something, “I don’t know…I can’t tell you that…I think I just need space.”
Giving a woman space doesn’t always result in getting her back. Sometimes it does because she gets lonely and is unable to find a replacement guy. However, if your girlfriend is pretty and has single girlfriends, she will probably go out and hook up with another guy soon.
If she can’t be bothered doing that, all she has to do is use Tinder or online dating and she will instantly have 100s of guys interested in meeting her.
So, don’t think that giving your girlfriend space is going to work. What you need to do is work out where you went wrong, make some quick changes and then meet up with her in person. At the meet up, you need to focus on making her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you.
Once she feels that, she will become open to the idea of getting back with you, or she will get back with you right then and there.
Getting Her Back the Right Way
To get your girlfriend back for real, you have to focus on making her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you. If your girlfriend doesn’t respect you or feel attracted to you anymore, she isn’t going to care if you want her back.
There are many qualities that you can display to get her respect and attraction back. Here is an example of two core qualities:
Women are attracted to men with genuine self-confidence. A confident man is secure in who he is and what he’s got to offer; he knows who he is and what he stands for in life and he’s genuinely comfortable and relaxed just being himself.
When interacting with your ex girlfriend, you need to show her that you are confident with or without her. You love her and want her in your life, but you don’t need her to make yourself feel okay about yourself.
A truly masculine man has what it takes to make a woman feel truly feminine, and that’s ultimately what all women want.
Chances are, the reasons behind your ex-girlfriend’s decision to end your relationship are that you simply haven’t been enough of a man for her lately. Ask yourself: Are you a genuinely confident man or do you have annoying insecurities that have been getting in the way of your relationship with her?
Are you a deeply masculine man, or have you been thinking, behaving and acting neutral or even a bit feminine around your girlfriend?
The first step towards getting her back is to start displaying the qualities that make you a better man than who you were when she dumped you.
Are you prepared to do what it takes to get your girlfriend back?