She’s left and suddenly you’re faced with the hard, cold reality that you are going to have to live without her. Suddenly you realize that she was the one for you; you were good together. Sure, the relationship wasn’t perfect, but whose is?
Now that you’ve broken up and, having realized that you want her back, you want to get your hands on a “get your ex back ebook”.
But before you rush off and spend your hard earned money on the first ebook promising you love and reconciliation, consider the fact that ebooks are generally too short and too vague to help you with the complex breakup that you are going through.
Before you work on getting her back, you should first look at what caused you to break up in the first place, or else your attempts at getting her back will be futile and if she does come back and nothing has changed, you will risk losing her again, and this time forever.
How Badly Did You Screw Up?
Let’s face it, there is a good reason why she’s your “ex”, and there were obviously problems in the relationship that were not addressed before they became serious. Before you try to get her back ask yourself some difficult question about the cause of the break up.
Be brutally honest with yourself; that is the only way you will be able to make the necessary changes to get her to come back to you.
Consider the following…
- Did you stop making her feel attraction for you?
- Did the spark between you die?
- Were you spending too much time at your job, watching sports, hanging out with your friends, playing computer games, etc?
- Did you give her enough attention?
- Did you have the same goals or were you going in different directions?
- Were there issues of trust between you?
- Did you suddenly start behaving in an insecure and jealous way?
- Did you stop showing affection?
Your success in getting her back will depend on the severity of the mistake (if it is your fault) that you have made that led to the two of you breaking up, and on your willingness to change the things that caused her to break up with you.
Consider this, if you are exactly the same person that she broke up with, then she won’t be interested in getting back together with you. Words and promises won’t do much to change her mind either; you are going to have to take some action.
However, unless it is something huge that has caused your break up, such as infidelity or abuse, women will very seldom tell you the real reasons for breaking up with you and will usually give you a variation of the break-up line “it’s not you, it’s me”.
For this reason, you will have to do some homework to find out what the real cause of the break-up was. If you don’t know what to fix, you won’t be able to fix it, or you will fix the wrong thing, and if she contacts you to try to patch things up and you still exhibit the same behavior, then you are more than likely to blow your second chance.
Don’t Make the Same Mistakes Twice
Getting her back is going to take more than just reading a get your ex back ebook and saying the right things. This might solve the problem in the short term, but when she realizes that she has been fooled into believing that things have changed, you will find yourself in double the trouble.
There are 3 things that you should do that will give you a good chance of getting her back.
1. Invest in your personal development
Personal development is one of the most vital qualities that women look out for in a man. Not only does it guarantee that you will find a woman, it is a sure fire way to sustain your relationship once you have it.
Being a person who makes the effort to develop and better himself is a big turn on and if you actively pursue your development now that she is actually gone instead of falling to pieces, you will be giving her a message that you are a man of action who wants to do better.
Of course, if you want to do better in the other areas of your life, she will assume that you will also want to do better in your relationship with her, which is a good thing.
2. Become more well rounded
In thinking about yourself and about moving forward, it is important to make sure that you plan for the future and do some of the things that you always wanted to do and either couldn’t find the time, or the money, to do them.
Working on becoming a well-rounded person is imperative, not just because you want to get your girlfriend back, but also because you know that these are the qualities of an alpha male.
When you meet with your ex girlfriend again she will be able to see that you have made some changes in yourself and in your life, and she will determine, quite correctly, that you are the kind of guy she is looking for; after all it’s these alpha male qualities that drew her to you in the first place.
3. Get the right kind of help
At this point you are in a very vulnerable position. If you follow the wrong advice, advice that you find in a get your ex back ebook, for example, you can blow your chances for ever. Remember, a break up is a very complex matter and requires a lot of professional advice.
Here at the Modern Man we deal with this type of problem almost every day and we know that our solution works. Our video program will lead you through the process of getting your ex back, making it easier for you.
This program is not about changing who you are, but about you wanting to improve yourself and to get better. In this way, when you see your ex girlfriend again she will see that you are committed to the relationship and to her, and that you are a forward thinker who thinks about the future and your relationship together.
Handle the Situation Like a Real Man
Throughout the process of getting your ex back, especially if you were the one who messed up, it is important to remember that your girlfriend was attracted to the alpha male qualities that you displayed when you met her and during the better part of your relationship.
If you suddenly revert to being a wimp, by doing things like begging, nagging and whining, she will be even less inclined to give you a second chance. This is your chance to make yourself, and your current and future relationship with your ex, even better than it was before.
Handle the break up like a Real Man and stand your ground. When the two of you get back together again, you can be sure that your relationship will be stronger and better than it was before.