If you look around online, most people will tell you to use the No Contact Rule and avoid contact for at least 30 days.
Yet, is that the solution? Does it really work?
When the No Contact Rule Does Work
The No Contact Rule works when a woman:
- Doesn’t have any other options with guys and then misses you.
- Is inexperienced with relationships and can’t deal with the feeling of a break up.
- Only stopped seeing you to get you to chase her, because she wanted to gain some power in the relationship.
- Realizes that you are the one for her and comes running back to you.
When the No Contact Rule Does NOT Work
The No Contact Rule doesn’t work when a woman:
- Moves on with a guy who makes her feel more attraction than you do.
- Is experienced with relationships and knows that the pain she is feeling will fade away.
- Never really loved you anyway.
- Only hooked up with you because she was bored and wanted some attention.
- Is beautiful and can easily get new guys interested in her.
The no-contact rule is not a magic bullet that will miraculously make your ex feel insecure, get her to call you rush back into your arms.
It is only one technique that applies to some situations. However, even if your girlfriend does call you and want to see you, if you are unable to make her feel a lot of respect and attraction for you at the meet up, she is just going to lose interest and break up with you again.
What I Recommend That You Do
My expert advice to you is to not waste time with the No Contact Rule, unless you need time to fix and improve yourself before calling your ex.
The most important thing that you need to do to get an ex back is start saying and doing the things that will make her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you. This is most effective when said on the phone or in person.
Don’t hide behind texts and worry that she doesn’t want to meet up with you. Fix your issues, improve yourself and quickly arrange a meet up with her. Anything other than that is not a real solution to get an ex back.
Make the Necessary Changes and then Get Her Back ASAP
Being in love with a woman is an amazing thing, until it gets taken away from you.
Nothing feels better than waking up next to a beautiful woman in the morning and knowing that she is there because she wants to be with you. Out of every other possible guy she can choose from, she wants to be with you.
However, if a guy doesn’t know how to deepen a woman’s love, respect and attraction for him over time, the initial fuzzy feeling of being in love gradually fades away.
Often, a guy feels shocked that his woman would want to break up with him so quickly, but he usually just missed the warning signs. Did you encounter any of these signs before your break up?
- She stopped going out on dates with you.
- The sex became sparse or completely dried up.
- She began complaining about the things you like to do, such as drinking, playing computer games, hanging out with your friends, etc.
- She began spending more time going out with her friends and less time with you.
- She was going out to nightclubs and bars without you.
- She was suddenly spending time in groups that included other guys.
- She was spending more time doing things by herself and not with you anymore.
- She didn’t wait up for you anymore.
- She was going to work earlier and coming home from work later every day.
- She began avoiding talking or communicating with you.
- She was flirting with other guys in front of you.
Whatever the reasons are why she broke up with you, the good news is that you can fix those things about yourself. This break up is a wake up call for you and it is a huge opportunity for you to become an even better man that you are right now.
Don’t let this break up with her kill your confidence for months or years. Fix any issues that need fixing, improve yourself and get right onto arranging a meet up with her. At the meet up, apologize for your mistakes and make her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you.
That is what works to get an ex back. Hiding behind the No Contact Rule is not a proper solution for all situations. If you want to get her back for real, you have to make real changes and follow through like a man.