Cocky, confident and getting laid

Be a confident guy, but not too cocky and you’ll get the girl.

Women want the experience of meeting you to be fun, enjoyable and exciting. Confident guys and cocky guys usually succeed at creating that effect because they behave in ways that cause women to feel all sorts of fun, enjoyable and exciting emotions. Whereas, guys who are too nice, too polite and too reserved tend to make the experience of meeting them feel boring and lacking authenticity. So, if you are struggling to find yourself a nice girl and are often getting rejected by women, then maybe you’ve been being too nice, too polite and possibly even too boring during your interactions with women.

Cocky (adjective): Excessively proud of oneself, arrogant; pertly self-assertive; conceited.

What Does it Mean to Be Cocky Around Women?

Being cocky around women means that you will be self-assured, confident and unafraid. If you are a cocky guy, then you will assume that women like you and if they don’t, you will laugh at how silly they are for not seeing that. Yet, is being cocky like that a good approach to use? Not at all! Guys who use that approach get rejected 9 times out of 10, but guys who use the approach that I recommend pick women up 9 times out of 10. What is that approach?

Focus on Being Confident, Rather Than Cocky

Since cocky guys get rejected most times they try to pick up women, I highly recommend that you focus on being confident and using what I call Playfully Arrogant Humor. Here is an example:

Her: “So, what to do you for a living?”
You: “Guess.”
Her: “Haha! I don’t know.”
You: (Take a step back and get her to look you up and down). “Have a guess. Check out my body. I’m pretty handsome. What do you think I do for a living?”

With the example above, even if you’re an “ugly” guy, most women will say, “A model?” and laugh. However, most women have said, “You work in I.T” to me for some reason! Either way, you’ve gotten her laughing and are being playfully arrogant. Here is a more arrogant version of how to reply:

Her: “So, what do you do for a living?”
You: “Why? Are you looking for a sugar daddy? Do you want me to buy you expensive stuff or something? I’m not a stockbroker, okay? I’m just a rubbish collector who is living pay check to pay check. Is that okay?”

When using cocky humor or being playfully arrogant, it’s not about making women feel bad or being overly serious about what you’re talking about. Be assertive, but also light-hearted and playful at the same time. Don’t be afraid to smile and laugh at the dynamic you and her are creating with each other. Instead of trying to be Mr. Polite and Innocent when you meet women, try to make an impact by being playfully arrogant or playfully cocky at times. Women love it and it’s great fun for you too.

Watch this video for a couple more examples of Playfully Arrogant Humor:

Why learn from me?

Who Am I and Why Should You Listen to Me?

My name is Dan Bacon and I founded The Modern Man based on one very important principal: All men can improve their success with women, no matter how hopeless you think your case is. I’ve helped 1,000s of guys to become truly confident and achieve success with women. Maybe you’ve recently hit a slump when it comes to women and don’t know how to break out of it, or maybe you’ve never been able to attract the types of women you want. Whatever the case, let me be your guide!

Among other things, here are some of the things you will learn here at The Modern Man:

  • How to make women chase you and try to pick you up and still be seen as a nice guy.
  • How to be truly confident around women in social situations, but not too cocky. Getting this right is the key to success with women and in life.
  • What beautiful women look for in a man and how to get them attracted to you instantly.
  • The secrets that women don’t want you to know about what turns them on during a conversation, which will ensure that you never get rejected again.

You have already made the FIRST STEP by reading this article and knowing that I can help you. Now all you need to do is take the SECOND STEP and not let fear hold you back anymore.

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Welcome to The Modern Man!

My name is Dan Bacon and I used to be hopeless with women. I lacked confidence in myself and couldn't get women to like me. Despite being a good, honest guy, women just weren't interested.

When I created the controversial attraction techniques that I now teach here at The Modern Man, beautiful women began flooding into my life and I've enjoyed my choice of women ever since.

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