Confidence with women

Women are naturally attracted to the strength in men (e.g. confidence) and turned off by the weakness (e.g. (e.g. nervousness, insecurity, shyness), so the more confident you become, the more attractive you will be to women.

You Can’t Ignore it

Lacking confidence with women is one of the worst things to live through as a man. You may know that you are a good guy and that deserve to have quality women, but when you are around attractive women, you stop yourself from feeling nervous, anxious, unworthy or even intimidated by them.

You might try to ignore it and tell yourself to just feel confident in the moment, but somehow your nervousness and insecurity always wins and you end up looking tense, anxious and unattractive to women.

You may feel confident when you’re at work or with your studies, but when you are around attractive women that confidence seems to dissapear and be replaced by self-doubt and a fear of rejection.

The only solution is to actually build confidence. You can’t ignore the problem and hope that it goes away. It doesn’t, unless you face it head on and fix it.

Personally speaking, I used to have very little confidence with women. Day by day, year by year, my life was wasting away as I missed out on the love, sex and relationships that other guys were enjoying with women. I would see attractive women in public places, but I didn’t have enough confidence to approach and meet them.

If I did managed to meet an attractive woman, I’d be too nervous while talking to her and she would feel turned off by it. I had to settle for unattractive women, getting lucky with a drunk woman or getting nothing at all.

Nervous - Dan

Look at how nervous I was when I first began approaching women and trying to improve my confidence! :) I was in panic mode when talking to this girl. I managed to get her phone number, but I then screwed up the date because I was too nervous around her. I felt as though she was out of my league. By rejecting me, women like her forced me to build more confidence and become more of a man.

Dan - confident

…then, I became confident and this is what happened.

Why Did I Lack Confidence With Women?

List most guys, I didn’t know WHY I wasn’t confident with women. It didn’t make any sense. I knew that I was a good guy and deserved better, but that wouldn’t stop me from feeling nervous, anxious and fearful about the idea of approaching women.

I wanted to approach women and meet them, but I thought, “Why do I always get nervous around the women I really like? Is there a confidence trick that I am unaware of? Why do other guys seem so confident around women, when I feel awkward? What am I missing here?

For many years, I asked random people if they had any advice and also sought help from self-help books at the bookstore, but all I ever found was shallow statements like, “You just need to be confident…believe in yourself … and then women will like you…” I thought,

Yet, how do you build confidence with women? How do you start believing in yourself if you’ve had a lot of bad experiences when you’ve tried to approach or pick up beautiful women? Is there actually a solution that works in the area of confidence with women?” The answers just weren’t there.

My lack confidence with women also meant that I hardly had any girlfriends and would MAYBE get one phone number per year if I got lucky.

Since the phone number came from getting lucky, it usually meant that the woman was unattractive or she was drunk and would then realize her mistake when I called her (and wasn’t very confident in myself) or when we went on a date and I said all the wrong things.

It was frustrating because no matter where I turned, no-one seemed to have any real answers on how I could quickly fix my confidence issues with women. No amount of buying new clothes, getting new haircuts, working out in the gym or using nice aftershaves did the trick. I still lacked confidence with women and I still didn’t have a girlfriend.

Eventually, I decided that I’d had ENOUGH!

I decided to put my balls on the line and start going out every weekend to approach women in bars and clubs. Over the next 1.5 years, I developed confidence-building system that unleashed a side of me that had been hidden away all my life. Suddenly I was the most confident guy in a room, no matter where I went…and women noticed.

Every time I approached another woman to start a conversation – I felt a noticeable improvement in my confidence. Instead of getting one phone number per year like I was when I lacked confidence, I was starting to get one phone number every night.

Within a month of discovering how to be confident around women, I had at least 2 different women coming over to my house each week for sex. Then, shortly after that I discovered the secret to getting many women to fall in love with me at the same time. It was all happening so fast and I didn’t know which woman to keep as my girlfriend.

Following that, I created this website and have been teaching guys the secrets to building confidence with women ever since.

If you want to know how to build your confidence with women, overcome all of your confidence issues with women and quickly become the guy that all women are desperately looking for, then make sure that you click around my site and you will find the life-changing answers that you have been seeking all along…

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The Secret to Success With Women

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The Secret to Success With Women

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Welcome to The Modern Man!

My name is Dan Bacon and I used to be hopeless with women. I lacked confidence in myself and couldn't get women to like me. Despite being a good, honest guy, women just weren't interested.

When I created the controversial attraction techniques that I now teach here at The Modern Man, beautiful women began flooding into my life and I've enjoyed my choice of women ever since.

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