Get a Waitress's Phone Number in 5 Minutes or Less

The next time you have an opportunity to get a waitress's phone number, will you be ready?

Imagine this: You walk into a café and are happily greeted by a beautiful waitress. As she smiles and talks to you, her beauty, warmth and upbeat personality begins to win you over.

You wonder whether you might have a ‘chance’ with her if you’d just give it a try. After placing your order, you sit down at a table and think about how you could stand out from all the other guys she meets each day. How you could get her to show interest in you, other than being ‘just another customer’...but, you don’t try anything out of the ordinary.

As you approach to collect your order, she makes eye contact with you and smiles. You know that this is your moment to act, but you just can’t bring yourself to do it. Instead, you just say “Thanks” and begin to leave the café. Just as you're walking outside, you feel an instant wave of disappointment wash over you.

A great opportunity to get the phone number from a beautiful woman has slipped through your fingers. To make matters worse, another guy walks in right after you and places an order with her. Only he immediately sparks her interest by flirting and making conversation and then walks away with her phone number in less than 5 minutes.

Let's begin to look at how he did it, by exploring 5 important techniques for interacting with waitresses:

#1: Don't just talk to her in ‘customer mode’

Most guys only talk to waitresses as a CUSTOMER would.

Standard guy: Can I have a coffee please?
Waitress: Yes, what kind would you like?
Standard guy: Flat white please.

This is a standard, boring TRANSACTION and does not inspire desirable emotions inside of a woman. If you want to spark a waitress’s interest, you need to stand out from all the other customers she meets each day.

Instead of treating her like a robotic, customer service employee, FLIRT with her and talk to her like a real person. Talk about your day (i.e. what you're up to that day) and in the case of a coffee shop - ask her if she's the best coffee maker in the place.

Ask it with a smile, so she knows you are joking around with her. Then, tell her you're going to rate her coffee out of 10 when you try it. Then, give her a 3. If you ask how her day is going and she replies with, “Busy”, smile and playfully tease her about not working hard enough and tell her to work harder.

When done correctly, this kind of conversation breaks waitresses out of ‘employee mode’ and into ‘personal mode’ with you. Once she is in personal mode, it then becomes easy to flirt, chat and move things towards a phone number.

#2: Ask for her phone number when the time is right

While each situation that you meet women in requires some adjustments to what you say and do, getting a woman’s phone number is often the easiest part. Two common mistakes that guys make when attempting to get a woman’s phone number are:

1. Asking for the phone number too quickly.
2. Asking for the phone number in the wrong way.

For example: When ordering his food in a restaurant, a guy might say, “I’ll get a steak and chips...and I’ll get your phone number while you’re at it”. What he doesn’t realize is that the waitress hears that cheesy line ALL THE TIME. It’s not original, it’s not funny and it doesn’t follow the basic structure of a male female courtship.

To be successful at getting a waitress’s phone number, you need to:

1. Spend 1-5 minutes talking to her.
2. Spark her attraction and interest for you, by being confident and using humor.
3. Break her out of ‘customer service mode’ and into ‘personal mode’ with you.
4. Connect with her using fun & interesting conversation.

By using this approach, the waitress will have a REASON to give you her number, “Wow, this guy is interesting...and we have ______ in common...I’d like to see him again...” However, asking for her number without first sparking her attraction & interest for you, will lead to rejection almost every time.

#3: Don't assume that the fault lies entirely with you

A lot of guys walk around thinking that women are perfect, socially-cool people who know the deal when it comes to dating and relationships - especially if the woman is beautiful. However, after personally meeting over 10,000 women during our research at The Modern Man, we have found that most women don’t have good social skills.

With that in mind, you will often (I repeat, OFTEN) come across women who like you, but don’t know what to say to you or are unsure of how to handle themselves in the situation. The next time you approach a waitress, just keep that in mind - she might like you, but just feel nervous and shy about showing it.

#4: Make sure you include flirting

When it comes to 'picking up' waitresses, I often get asked, “How can I get her to take an interest in me, other than just being another customer that she has to serve?” Here’s the deal...

Unless you are being attractive in your behavior and making the woman feel a SEXUAL attraction for you, then she will usually only see you as a customer. The best way to spark any woman’s sexual attraction for you is through FLIRTING.

Flirting is how men & women show their sexual interest in each other, without actually having to say the words “I like you...do you like me?”

We provide LOADS of flirting examples throughout the training program, 21 Great Ways to Get a Girlfriend. Download it now and you'll have plenty of flirtatious things to say to women when you meet them!

#5: Read her signals of interest and then make a move

Instead of saying, “I like you, please get my phone number” a woman will give off many signals to show that she is interested in you. When you’re interacting with a waitress, some of the signals of interest to look out for are:

• She gives you a flirting look (e.g. dips her head down, looks up at you and bites her lip all at once).
• She’s proactively keeps the conversation going with you, even though you’ve already ordered.
• She plays with her necklace or twirls her hair with her finger.

I could list plenty more, but I’ll leave it there for now. If you want to learn more about the dynamics involved in approaching and meeting women in the modern world, then I recommend that you listen to 21 Great Ways to Get a Girlfriend.

Throughout the 7 hours of MP3 audio, you will learn how to approach, meet and begin dating women that you see in 21 different situations throughout your everyday life.

BTW: This program will give you the ability to smoothly and easily approach the women you want, anytime, anywhere. Years from now, you will look back on this day as THE START OF IT ALL... and I'm excited for you. Congratulations on making the decision to go after what you want in your dating life.

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	Article by Dan Bacon. Founder and lead dating coach for TheModernMan.com
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