How to Talk to Women
Do you run out of things to say to women? Do you sometimes find it difficult to keep a conversation going and keep it interesting with a woman you've just met?
These days, a lot of guys are unsure how to talk to women and often ask me, "What do you say after you say hello to keep the conversation going?" Usually after a guy has introduced himself, he only has a few more things to say before the conversation dries up and the woman begins to lose interest. He then begins to feel nervous and the woman notices and loses even more interest in him.
When a guy is unsure how to talk to women, he usually makes one or more of the following mistakes.
- Sticks to safe, boring conversations: Instead of cracking a few casual jokes, flirting or just talking about anything and everything like he would when chatting with friends, he turns conversations with women into boring interviews. "So, what do you do?", "What do you study?", "Do you come here often?" , "Where are you from?" A woman can only assume that if your conversation with her is boring, a relationship with you will probably be too. When talking to women, make sure that you include humor and flirting with your conversation. Without it, you'll just come across as another boring guy who is too afraid to loosen up and chat with her in a fun, interesting way.
- Mistakenly thinks that he has to impress women during conversation: The fact is, women hate it when you try to impress them during a conversation because it shows that you feel unworthy. One of the most important lessons you need to learn about how to talk to women is to get her trying to impress you. That way, she will do most of the talking, she'll laugh at all your jokes and will be more eager to listen to what you have to say.
- Hides behind overly polite conversation: A guy will usually do this because he fears that any flirtatious or risque conversation may cause the woman to slap him or reject him! Women rarely slap guys they don't know - I've personally never seen it happen and I've been teaching clients how to approach women (in real life situations) for 6 years now. A guy getting slapped or getting a drink tipped over his head for cracking jokes or asking a woman out only happens in the movies. In real life, women want to have fun and interesting conversations and are not interested in guys who act as though they are super polite and super nice. So, don't hide behind overly polite conversation - be yourself, relax and just chat freely and openly. It is much more attractive to women because it demonstrates confidence and honesty.
- Is afraid to express himself in an emotional way in fear of being judged or embarrassed: Women are more attracted to men who are confident enough to express their opinions and emotions in a masculine way. An example of how to express yourself in an alpha male way that women find interesting is at the bottom of this article.
My Story: Learning How to Talk to Women
I can totally understand why guys make these mistakes when talking to women, because I used to be very much the same. I can still remember back to the horrible time in my life when I had NO IDEA how to talk to women. Even though I really, really wanted to have an interesting conversation with the women I'd meet, I usually would run out of things to say and they'd then get bored and lose interest in talking to me. The conversation would die anywhere between 15 seconds and 2 minutes. Following that, I'd feel down about it for days because I knew I was probably going to have to wait a long time until I had another opportunity to talk to another woman.
When I tried to talk to new women in bars or clubs, they'd usually walk away saying, "I have to go to the bathroom" only to never return! Like you, I started searching around for answers on how to talk to women. Yet, I couldn't find anything useful, so I decided to keep approaching women every weekend in bars and clubs until I worked out how to talk to women in a way that captured their interest in me and - most importantly- maintained their interest. After a lot of trial and error, I eventually developed my OWN conversation techniques that worked every time. I knew exactly how to talk to a woman in a way that sparked AND maintained her interest long enough for her to really get to know me and see the real me. Then, I improved the techniques so women started showing me loads of interest and began trying to pick ME up.
Today, I teach the techniques here at The Modern Man and can absolutely guarantee that when you learn from me - you will know exactly how to talk to women in a way that leads to sex, dates, love and relationships.
Example Conversation Technique
One of the techniques that I now use to keep conversations going and keep them interesting is technique that I call Talk From Your Own Perspective. This is where you offer some conversation from your personal perspective and then ask the woman a question on the same topic to bring her into the conversation. This works SO MUCH better than just asking a woman questions and not offering any personal opinions to the conversation yourself.
For example: Instead of asking her, "Do you like the beach?" you would first talk from your perspective by saying, "I love the beach...I've managed to get there twice this summer with some friends...ate too much ice-cream the last time I went! How about you, did you get to the beach much this summer?"
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By Dan Bacon, Founder of The Modern Man. Dan Bacon on Google+ (Personal photos with women)