"But, I'm a nice guy...can't you see that?"

When asked what type of man she wants, a woman will usually say something like, “A nice guy…someone who cares, who listens and treats me like a princess.” Yet, she will then do the OPPOSITE by dating a bad boy, a jerk or a guy who doesn’t treat her well. So, what is going on there?

The woman isn’t lying. She really does want a good guy, but a typical nice guy usually misinterprets what she means by “nice” and that is where the problems begin.

What she means by “nice guy” is a confident, masculine guy who is also a good guy. She does not mean a shy, unassuming, nervous nice guy who feels intimidated by her and makes her feel as though she’d almost be doing him a favor by being with him.

Do Nice Guys Finish Last With Women?


Absolutely not.

Nice guys who get rejected or dumped by women are those who are shy, nervous, wimpy and intimidated around women. Most guys in this world are GOOD GUYS and most guys have a girlfriend or wife.

Women do not prefer bad men or bad boys over good guys who are confident and masculine. When you see a nice guy getting rejected by a woman, it is almost always because he lacks confidence and masculinity.

How do you become more confident and masculine? You need to focus on becoming an even stronger man (mentally and emotionally) than you already are right now.

Being a shy, nervous, self-doubting nice guy is not the answer to short or long term success with women. If you lack confidence and masculinity, it won’t matter how nice guy are to women, they just won’t be interested because your mental and emotional weakness will turn them off.

You can trust me. I am your friend. I am here for you. I'm not like all the other guys.
I've been a great friend to her for months, but she doesn't want to have sex with me. Bitch!

The Type of Nice Guy That Women Don’t Like: Wimpy, Pushover, Nervous, Too Nice

When a woman says that she wants a nice guy, she is NOT referring to the type of guy who:

  • Is overly nice and polite to her like he would be to his grandmother.
  • Tends to accept her demands or bad behavior, just so she will spend time with him or continue talking to him.
  • Is nervous around her.
  • Is shy in social situations.
  • Is intimidated by her and feels as though he needs to impress her.
  • Doesn’t understand that getting her to like him as a person is completely different to making her feel sexually attracted.
  • Calls or texts her too often, not allowing her to miss him.
  • Tells her that he has “feelings” for her too early.
  • Lets her push him around.
  • Usually puts her needs ahead of his own in the hope that it will impress her.
  • Listens to all of her problems and discusses them in the same way that her girlfriends would.
  • Thinks that being a good friend means that she will eventually reward him with sex.

The Type of Nice Guy That Women Do Like: Confident, Stands Up For Himself, Cool, Good Guy

Now that we have talked about what women DON’T want in a nice guy, what DO they actually want? A woman’s version of a nice guy is a man who:

  • Is a good guy, but is not a pushover or doormat for women or people to walk all over.
  • Is confident around women.
  • Is confident around other guys.
  • Is charming.
  • Takes on the masculine role in an interaction, on a date or in a relationship.
  • Respects women and enjoys their company, but also gives plenty of time and attention to his life and what he’s achieving/trying to achieve (i.e. his life purpose).
  • Uses humor in a confident, attractive way.
  • Engages her in stimulating conversation that has a sexual undertone.

If I Did it, So Can You

Personally speaking, I transformed myself from a nervous, self-doubting nice guy into a confident, good guy alpha male. I went from constantly being rejected to constantly having sex.

Here are some photos of me BEFORE and AFTER I learned how to be the confident guy that I am today. If I can do it, so can you. These guys have already learned from me and are now enjoying easy success with women.

I am still the same nice, good guy that I always was, but the difference is that I am now a confident good guy. My nervousness, shyness, anxiety and fear of attractive women is GONE. Why is that important? Women are attracted to the strength in men and turned off by the weakness.

Nervousness, anxiety, shyness, insecurity, etc are all weaknesses. The more confident and strong that you become as a guy, the more naturally attractive you are to women. However, confidence is only ONE of the ways that you can attract women.

At The Modern Man, I teach guys how to attract women in more than 100 different ways. You have a lot more power when it comes to attracting women than you probably realize.

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  • FredMan  

    Good point, Dan.
    You say it’s easy to pick-up most women using your methods.

    You ever picked-up and laid any Christian women?

    I know some women have morals, but am curious if any devout Christian girls ever gave you their “innocent” vaginas, and what it was like for you, a player, to be the first to break their holy hymens and “introduce” them to the real world of dating and sex…

    It’s quite a visualization on my part, the sweet “innocent” Christian girl giving herself that to way to nonChristian guys…

    • Hey Fred

      Yes, I’ve had women from pretty much all nationalities and religious backgrounds. I’ve never come across a Christian woman who didn’t want to have sex before marriage.

      What it was like for me: The same. I don’t get off on it. In fact, having sex with virgins is annoying because they are in pain for the first couple of times.


  • EddoSan  

    Bro, you’re the best!! To be honest, I did notice these facts a while back when I started feeling more comfortable with women. I used to be shy, and that was not the best experience.. It’s like all the time I was shy I lived in garbage lol (but seriously, i used to feel like an alien) Now, it has gotten much better, women DO like CONFIDENT, and DARING men. Turns out I believed I was shy, but that all changed once I started going out with girls; first with some female friends (it was then that I discovered the wolf within me,) and I left them wanting more of this final masterpiece lol

    I assimilated your words of wisdom just now Dan, and i have an even clearer picture now. Thanks again!

    My advice for the gentle guys out there is: don’t lay back and wait.. (as it will only waste your time;) instead go out and be daring, and act as confidently as possible (it becomes natural later on) only then will women notice you and give you the chance you have been waiting for.

    • He EddoSan

      Great to hear of your transformation and success with women so far.

      Remember: There is nothing wrong with nice or good, but those things do not make women feel sexually attracted. Women only care if a guy is nice/good if they feel sexually attracted to him. You can make a woman feel sexually attracted in so many different ways, as explained in my book: http://store.themodernman.com/the_flow.html


  • apoorv  

    hey i want to have success with women too…and i am a guy women dont like…but the rub is…i am a chartered accountancy student so i am always short of time…what is a solution then??

    • Hey Apoorv

      Thanks for your question.

      Simple. Attract them. It only takes 1-5 minutes to make a woman feel intense attraction for you during an interaction. Watch the video here: http://www.themodernman.com/blog/how-to-know-if-a-woman-is-interested-in-you.html

      Don’t ever use time as an excuse for yourself. When a guy knows how to attract women, it happens instantly and women make it easy to hook up with them. There’s no long, drawn out dating process or “getting to know her” when you can attract women properly. She is attracted and you move things forward to kissing, sex and a relationship. If you don’t know how do to that, all the answers are in my book: http://store.themodernman.com/the_flow.html


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