Have you ever started talking to a woman (or group of women) and run out of things to say after only a few seconds or minutes? Have you ever been on a date and began to panic because you couldn’t keep the conversation interesting and kept coming up against those “awkward silences”?
Don’t worry, most guys have that problem and it is EASILY fixed. When a guy runs out of things to say when talking to a woman, it’s usually because he:
- Is too worried about saying the wrong things, so he sticks to safe conversation topics (e.g. work, study, etc) to avoid making a mistake.
- Is trying too hard to impress the woman instead of just being himself and enjoying the conversation with her.
- Doesn’t listen well-enough to what the woman is saying (and not saying) because he is more focussed on trying to work out whether or not she likes him.
- Doesn’t use enough humor to open the woman up and get rid of any awkward tension between them.
- Doesn’t use enough (or any) flirting, so he creates more of a friendly vibe between them rather than a sexual vibe.
- Is unclear what topics of conversation women find interesting.
- Is putting on a persona that he thinks will impress the woman (e.g. being really nice, acting very intelligent, pretending to be very politically minded, etc).
- Doesn’t have much experience talking to women, so he is unsure what he needs to do differently when talking to a woman compared to talking to a friend.
- Is too neutral or unemotional in his expressions and energy because he is worried about being judged for his real personality.
- Is too uptight and tense, rather than being relaxed and easy-going.
- Is unsure how to tell stories and share information about himself in an interesting way.
- Is not asking the right questions to get the woman to open up and talk freely.
The good news is that all of these mistakes (and more) can be prevented quickly and easily. If you make any of those conversation mistakes, you are NOT doomed for life. You can learn how to be better at conversation and you can easily go from a conversation to a kiss to sex and into a relationship with a woman.
Let’s look at one of the problems from the list above and I will give you an example of how to fix it:
12. Is not asking the right questions to get the woman to open up and talk freely.
This one is interesting. Guys who are great at conversation can make even the most COLD, distant and ‘stuck up’ woman open up to them and start talking freely. In fact, with the right techniques you can make a woman not want to stop talking to you for HOURS. There are many things that a great conversationalist does to make this happen. One of those is to ask the RIGHT questions, in the RIGHT order.
Some guys make the mistake of asking simple, standard questions that tend to lead to a DEAD END in the conversation. After the woman has finished answering the ‘simple’ or ‘standard’ question, there’s really nothing more to talk about on the subject so it dies…and all that’s left is an awkward silence.
I must point out: While asking the right questions is very important, it doesn’t solve everything on its own. You need to know how to make women feel emotional and excited about talking to you, by using a number of other techniques revealed in The Ultimate Guide to Conversation.
A question that I like to ask during a conversation with a woman I’ve just met is, “So, what’s the best thing that has happened to you in the last few months?” You’ll find that women tend to smile and think hard about the last few months of their life. When she comes back with an answer, you will have just discovered the BEST THING to be talking to her about!