What to say to get a girlfriend

What you say is important, but how you make her feel by way of your behavior, confidence and overall vibe as a guy is the most important thing of all.

You’re not alone with this problem…

Many guys don’t know what to say to get a girlfriend, so they say NOTHING at all or avoid talking to the types of women they really like. Yet, as you may have experienced, not saying anything to a woman you like means that she won’t really know you exist! It also means that another guy will easily be able to step in front of you and begin having sex with her.

Examples of What to Say

Knowing what to say to get a girlfriend involves being able to start a conversation, keep a conversation going, keep it interesting by flirting with her and using humor and then escalate to a phone number, kiss, sex or date. Simply saying one amazing thing to her is not going to make her become your girlfriend, you have to go through a process that I call The Flow.

With that said, here are some examples of what to say:

  • When you first approach her: “Hey, I thought I’d come over and be social and say hi. I’m Dan, what’s your name?”
  • During a conversation: “So, what’s the best thing that’s happened to you lately?”
  • When getting a phone number: “Hey, it’s been good talking to you. Do you want to chat again sometime?” (Wait for her to say “Yes” and then say) “Cool, put your number in…” (and then hand her your phone).
  • When asking her out on a date: Have you been on many good holidays? What’s your favorite place to travel?
  • When asking her to come back to your place: Hey, we should go back and chill out at my place for a bit. 

How You Make Her Feel is the Most Important Thing of All

Getting a girlfriend is not so much about what you say, but more about how you make her FEEL by what you say and how you come across when you say it. For instance, if you’re talking to her in a nervous or shy way, she isn’t going to be very interested in you. Why? Women are mostly attracted to a guy’s confidence. They are turned off by the weakness in men and turned on by the confidence. So, if you’re showing mental and emotional weakness by being shy, nervous, insecure or behaving like a lower-ranking male, most women aren’t going to be interested in being your girlfriend.

When interacting with you, a woman wants to feel excited, turned on, nervous, happy and comfortable all at the same time. Most guys make women feel bored, awkward and turn them off within 30 seconds of conversation. Watch the video below to learn some of the most common mistakes that guys make during a conversation with a woman they like.

Turning a Female Friend into Your Girlfriend

Is there a woman in your life who you really like, but she only sees you as a friend? If you’re like most of the guys I’ve helped, you might be thinking that she needs to wake up and see what a great guy you are or that you need to tell her how you feel, but both of those assumptions are be wrong. If you want her to be your girlfriend, stop thinking about what to say to get a girlfriend and start focussing on how to behave around a woman to make her want to have sex with you and be your girlfriend. Watch the video below for a full explanation:

After watching the video above, you will know what you need to do to change how she perceives you. Getting her or any woman to want to be your girlfriend is not about being even nicer to them, being even more of a good friend or doing lots of favors for the woman. The secret to getting a girlfriend is to make women feel sexually attracted to you. Conversation is extremely important, but you also need to focus on improving your confidence, charisma and social skills. When you do that, you won’t be worrying about what to say to get a girlfriend, because most girls will be interested in you and you will simply have to choose which of them get to have sex with you or be your girlfriend.

Listen to the audio clip below to learn how I went from being the sort of guy that women rejected and dumped (if I managed to get lucky and score myself a relationship) to the type of man that women desperately want to be with and never want to leave:

Why learn from me?

My name is Dan Bacon and I had sex with more than 250 women (some photos) before recently settling down into a relationship with my perfect girl. I have helped 1,000s of guys to experience the same type of success with women that I’ve enjoyed and I would be honored to help you too. Are you interested in learning my techniques for success with women?

Why You Should Learn From Me if You Want to Get a Girlfriend

95% of the “dating advice” that you will find online is written by people who are making up their tips as they type. They are not experts and in most cases, the male writers are not even successful with women. They just guess what you should do because they are trying to fill up their website with articles, or do their job and write for the newspaper or magazine that employs them. As for me, I am an actual expert. I have helped 1,000s of guys to achieve success with women (some success stories here) and I would be honored to help you too. My advice isn’t made up on the spot. I have spent years taking guys out to bars, clubs and shopping malls and showing them how to approach women. My advice is based on real experience and real success. For example, here is what Ben, Stu and I (from The Modern Man) went through to create our now famous program called, Dating Power

When you use my advice, you are absolutely guaranteed to get a girlfriend or if you want, you can start dating and having sex with multiple women at once (I did that for years before recently settling down with my girlfriend). So, don’t waste your time looking through the millions of “dating advice” articles online that are written by random writers (who are not experts) or fake “dating gurus” who are just trying to take your money. If you want to fix your problem areas with women for real, then I recommend that you learn from a real expert like me.

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About Me

Dan Bacon

My name is Dan Bacon and I used to be hopeless with women. I lacked confidence in myself and couldn't get women to like me. Despite being a good guy, women just weren't interested. I couldn't work it out!

When I discovered the controversial secrets about women that I now teach here at The Modern Man, women began flooding into my life and I've been having an AMAZING time ever since.

I've already helped 1,000s of guys to achieve instant success with women (view success stories) and I would love to help YOU too. If you are sick and tired of not getting results with women and would like to try something that is absolutely guaranteed to work for you, then get started here.

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