What to say to get a girlfriend

When getting a girlfriend, what you say is important, but how you make her feel by way of your behavior, confidence and overall vibe as a guy is the most important thing of all.

If she feels turned off by your conversation style or lack of confidence around her, she just won’t be interested. Likewise, if you don’t know how to make her attracted and instead just show her how interested you are in her (95% of guys she meets do the same thing), then she isn’t going to excited about the possibility of hooking up with you.

Examples of What to Say

Knowing what to say to get a girlfriend involves being able to start a conversation, keep a conversation going, keep it interesting by flirting with her and using humor and then escalate to a phone number, kiss, sex or date. Simply saying one amazing thing to her is not going to make her become your girlfriend, you have to go through a process that I call The Flow.

With that said, here are some examples of what to say:

  • When you first approach her: “Hey, I thought I’d come over and be social and say hi. I’m Dan, what’s your name?”
  • During a conversation: “So, what’s the best thing that’s happened to you lately?”
  • When getting a phone number: “Hey, it’s been good talking to you. Do you want to chat again sometime?” (Wait for her to say “Yes” and then say) “Cool, put your number in…” (and then hand her your phone).
  • When asking her out on a date: Have you been on many good holidays? What’s your favorite place to travel?
  • When asking her to come back to your place: Hey, we should go back and chill out at my place for a bit. 

How You Make Her Feel is the Most Important Thing of All

Getting a girlfriend is not so much about what you say, but more about how you make her FEEL by what you say and how you come across when you say it. For instance, if you’re talking to her in a nervous or shy way, she isn’t going to be very interested in you. Why? Women are attracted to the strength in men and turned off by the weakness.

If you’re showing mental and emotional weakness by being shy, nervous or insecure, most women aren’t going to be interested in being your girlfriend. They might like you as a person because you’re a good guy, but the all-important feeling of sexual attraction will be missing.

Turning a Female Friend into Your Girlfriend

Is there a woman in your life who you really like, but she only sees you as a friend? If so, what should you say to her to make her want to be your girlfriend?

The best thing to say to her (to let her know that you’re not just interested in being friends) is to tell her that she is sexy. If she walks into work, class or arrives somewhere to meet you for lunch or coffee, don’t say that she looks NICE. Tell her that she looks sexy. Smile and say something like, “Ooh, look at you today…looking very sexy” and give her a wink. That instantly lets her know that you see her in a sexual way, which is very important to do.

Why? Most women are insecure about their looks. According to many surveys (including the global survey done by Dove Cosmetics), up to 96% of women do not consider themselves to be beautiful. So, don’t be afraid to let her know that you find her sexy. You will see how happy she is to hear it.

When you know how to naturally attract women and then let them know that you find them sexy, you won’t be worrying about what to say to get a girlfriend anymore, because most girls will be interested in you. From there, you simply have to choose which of them get to have sex with you or be your girlfriend.

Why You Should Learn From Me if You Want to Get a Girlfriend

I will teach you how to get a girlfriend by using techniques that 95% of guys will die never knowing about. Seriously, most guys don’t even think that it’s possible to improve their success rate with women. Most guys think that it’s all about looks, money, height and muscles. They have no idea that 1,000s of guys have been using techniques to get laid, get a girlfriend and have their choice of women.

My techniques make women HOPE that they get to be your girlfriend. When you use my techniques on a woman, you will see her make it completely obvious that she wants to get sexual with you. It’s pretty cool how it works…

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