So, how can you get an ex back who doesn’t want you?
You want her.
You feel attracted to her, you feel love for her and in your mind, it’s not over.
You want her back.
You want to have a relationship with her again, but she doesn’t want to have anything to do with you.
She’s over it.
How can you get her back?
Here are my 5 tips to help you get her back in this kind of situation…
1. Understand what will make her want you
When a guy wants a woman back who doesn’t want him, he will sometimes make mistakes such as:
- Begging and pleading for another chance.
- Explaining that he has changed or that he will change and she just needs to give him a chance to prove it.
- Being really nice to her all of a sudden.
- Giving her lots of space and just getting out of her way, waiting for weeks or months and hoping that she changes her mind.
If you’ve tried any of those approaches to get your ex back, you will know that they don’t work.
Sometimes it can work and a guy will get another chance initially, maybe for a few days or maybe even for a few weeks or a few months, but once a woman has learned her lesson, she usually doesn’t want to keep making that same mistake.
What is the lesson?
She gave him another chance and he wasn’t able to be the sort of man that makes her feel respect, attraction and love.
He just wasn’t able to live up to what he promised or the expectations that she had of him.
So, what will make a woman want a guy in that type of situation?
The place to start is by creating a spark of attraction.
For a man and a woman to want to be in a relationship with each other, there needs to be mutual attraction.
If you feel attracted to her and you love her so much, but that’s just not enough to get an ex back.
She also has to feel attracted to you too.
She doesn’t have to be totally in love with you for you to get her back.
Instead, you’ve just got to make her feel that spark of attraction.
You’ve got to make her feel that special thing that brings a man and a woman together and keeps them together.
When it comes to getting an ex woman back, most guys are in a situation where they feel attracted to her, but she doesn’t feel the same way.
She doesn’t have strong feelings for him anymore or she doesn’t have any feelings for him anymore.
So, if she doesn’t want anything to do with him, he has to start where it’s most important — a spark of attraction.
Luckily for us men, we can literally create feelings of sexual, romantic and loving attraction inside of a woman.
We can literally create that by how we are talking to the woman, how we are behaving, the way that we’re using our body language and how we are reacting to her.
For example: If a guy is interacting with his ex woman and he’s being insecure and his body language appears nervous, then she’s not going to feel attracted to him.
The reason why is that women are not attracted to the emotional weakness in men.
On the other hand, if a guy is interacting with his ex woman and he is displaying confidence in his body language and how he’s talking to her, how he’s behaving and how he’s reacting to her, then she’s going to feel some attraction for him.
If he also gets her laughing and smiling, she’s going to feel more attracted to him.
If he makes her feel girly in comparison to his emotional masculinity, then she’s going to feel even more attracted to him.
If he starts being charming and charismatic, she’s going to feel even more attracted to him.
So, if you’re in a situation where your ex doesn’t want you, you have to focus on the one thing that will make her want you.
That is, a spark of sexual attraction.
If you can create that when you’re interacting with her, then she’s going to look at you differently.
She’s going to stop focusing on the negatives and start looking at you in a more positive light.
She’s going to start thinking, “Well, hang on. He’s not so bad after all. I’m actually feeling good around him now. Why am I being so harsh on him? Why is my guard up so high? Maybe I can just joke around with him a little bit. Maybe I can flirt with him. Maybe it is okay to hug. Hang on a second. Why am I feeling so drawn to him all of a sudden?”
That’s what you need to do.
You need to focus on making her have feelings for you again.
When you do that, she starts to want you.
She changes her mind because you’ve changed how she feels.
2. Become emotionally attractive again
During a breakup and after a breakup, some guys become emotionally unattractive to their ex.
That means that they become insecure, they become self-doubting, they become needy, clingy, desperate and so on.
All of those things are emotionally unattractive to a woman.
Some guys don’t react in that way, so they’re able to be emotionally attractive to their ex and get her back.
For example: The guy is able to be confident, emotionally masculine, charismatic and so on. He’s able to re-attract his ex.
In other cases, though, where the guy becomes emotionally unattractive and he loses control of his emotions, she won’t want him back and as a result, he’ll be on his own.
Some guys are able to get over the pain of a breakup immediately, some guys need a few days, some guys need a week, some guys need a month and some guys don’t get over the pain of being rejected and dumped for YEARS.
It sticks with them. It stays with them. It messes with their head.
They lose confidence in themselves, they don’t feel as attractive to women anymore and they don’t feel worthy.
A guy like that will usually worry about getting into a relationship again because he will fear that it will end in the same kind of way.
Each guy is different and your case is unique and how you feel is unique, but if you want to get her back, you must get back to a point where you are emotionally attractive again.
You can interact with your ex and she can sense that you feel good about yourself, you have a lot of confidence in yourself and you have the confidence to joke around with her and make her laugh and feel attracted to you.
She has to get the sense that you aren’t lost and you aren’t losing it on the inside, you aren’t a total mess on the inside.
You are strong, you believe in yourself, you’re confident, you feel good about yourself and as a result, she can feel attracted to you.
3. Understand that most guys who get their ex woman back start out in your situation
Pretty much every guy that I’ve helped to get a woman back has started out in a situation where she doesn’t feel attracted to him, she’s not feeling much respect for him, she’s not in love with him, she’s over it, she doesn’t want to be in a relationship.
Pretty much every guy starts at that point because most guys don’t come looking for help on how to get their ex back when their ex is still attracted to them and still in love with them and still wants to be with them.
The guys who actually need the help are in your situation.
Your situation is unique, the breakup is unique, the connection between you and her is unique, but the solution is the same.
You’ve got to be able to re-attract her.
If you don’t make her feel a spark of attraction again and you don’t get her looking at you with attraction in her eyes, then she’s not going to be feeling drawn to you.
She’s going to have her guard up and she’s going to say no when you try to get back with her.
She’s going to say things like, “I just don’t feel the same way anymore. I’m sorry. It’s over. You just have to deal with it. You have to leave me alone. Stop contacting me,” and so on.
Guys who get their ex back (who started out in the same or similar position to you) are the ones who focus on making her have feelings for him again.
Sometimes a guy will get his ex back simply by walking away and she will then not be able to handle the pain of a breakup.
She won’t be able to deal with the fact that he’s not contacting her anymore.
That is true, but those women are the minority.
The vast majority of women do not react in that way.
They simply don’t care enough about their ex anymore because they don’t have enough or any feelings for him anymore.
They simply move on.
So, if you want to get her back, tip number 4 is very important.
4. Give her the attraction experience that she really wants
Some guys make the mistake of trying to get their ex woman back while behaving in a way that is not attractive to her.
For example: A guy will just send neutral or friendly texts to her, which won’t create a spark, or a guy will beg and plead and try to convince and explain and promise that things will be different.
As a result, he’ll come across as being desperate and she won’t feel attracted to that.
If you want to get her back, you have to understand what type of attraction experience she really wants in a relationship with a man.
For example: Sometimes a woman will break up with a guy because he’s just too soft. He’s a bit too much of a wimp for her.
She can walk all over him. He’s too emotionally sensitive.
She might not tell him about that exactly when she’s breaking up with him.
She might say that she just doesn’t have feelings anymore or she doesn’t want to be with him anymore, but what is going to get her back is if he can show her that he really has changed.
More importantly, she now feels differently around him.
It’s not about him saying to her, “Hey – I’ve changed. I’ve manned up. I’ve become more confident now. I won’t let you walk all over me. Please give me another chance.”
That is not going to be attractive to her.
It’s going to appear desperate and she might also see that his efforts are fake.
She will feel as though he’s just putting on a front to try to act more manly and act more confident to hopefully get another chance with her.
A woman doesn’t want to have that feeling in a relationship where a guy is basically doing anything and everything to please her.
What she wants is a natural feeling of respect, attraction and love to happen when she interacts with her guy.
She interacts with him and he is different now and as a result, she feels differently.
He can now give her the type of attraction experience that she really wanted all along.
He doesn’t have to tell her that he can do it.
She can feel it on her own.
All of a sudden, she starts to smile.
She starts to look at him in a more positive light.
She starts to feel drawn to him.
She can see that things are different now.
She feels differently around him.
She feels attracted.
She feels some respect for him again.
She’s starting to feel love for him again.
As a result, she starts to want him again.
She opens back up to having a relationship with him.
5. Make her want the relationship rather than pressuring her into it
A big mistake that guys make is that they assume the way to get a woman back is to ask for another chance, is to talk about the relationship and say, “Hey – let’s give it a go. Let’s work on it. Things can be different. I promise. Just let me show it to you. Let me prove it to you.”
That is not the approach that works to get a woman back.
It will sometimes work on women who don’t have much experience with relationships or women who can’t deal with going through a breakup.
That will sometimes work.
Yet, for most women, they’ll just say no when a guy is trying to pressure them into a relationship, when they don’t even have feelings for him anymore.
If she doesn’t feel respect, attraction and love, she is over it. She doesn’t want to be in the relationship anymore.
So, when her guy is saying to her like, “Please just give me a chance. Let me show it to you. I promise that things will be different. I’ve changed. Things are going to be different,” and so on, it just doesn’t work.
She doesn’t feel it.
She’s thinking, “Well, it’s just too little too late. I don’t feel much or anything for you. You want to deal with me, but no – I’m not going to give you another chance.”
What you need to do is make her want the relationship rather than trying to pressure her into it.
The only way to make a woman want the relationship is to focus on making her have feelings for you.
Once you’ve created a spark of sexual attraction inside of her and romantic attraction, you then need to build on that.
Every time you interact with her, use it as an opportunity to build on her feelings for you.
Some guys are able to get their woman back immediately.
Sometimes it takes a couple of interactions and sometimes it takes a few interactions.
Whatever the case is with you, it doesn’t matter.
You’ve just got to focus on what works.
You’ve got to focus on her feelings because that’s all she really cares about now.
She doesn’t want to be with you anymore, so she’s not going to care about your feelings unless you make her have feelings for you, unless the feelings are mutual.
Okay, I hope you’ve enjoyed this video and learned something from it.
If you’d like to learn more or if you need more help to get your ex back, I recommend that you watch my program Get Your Ex Back Super System
When you watch the program, I will take you through the rapid process of becoming emotionally attractive again.
Not only will you get your confidence back with her, but you will also know exactly what to say and do to make her have feelings for you as well.
You will be able to get her to meet up with you, get her to hook up with you, get her to want the relationship again.
This works for a guy even if he starts out at a point where his ex woman hates him and doesn’t want anything to do with him.
It also works if her feelings are absolutely dead.
You can bring her feelings back to life.
As a man, you can literally create feelings of sexual and romantic attraction inside of a woman.
You Can Change How She Feels About You
One final point that I want to make for you in this video is that it’s understandable that you might feel a bit down about the fact that she doesn’t want you at the moment.
However, you can turn that around.
You can make her feel attracted to you again.
You can make her feel something for you again.
When you interact with her and you make her feel attracted to you and you see the changes in her body language and behavior and energy, it’ll all make sense to you.
You will see that you actually have a lot of control over how she feels about you.
Women are mostly attracted to how a man makes her feel when he interacts with her.
If he’s being emotionally attractive, she is going to feel attracted to him.
If he’s being emotionally unattractive, she’s going to feel turned off.
For example: If he’s being insecure and self-doubting and he doesn’t really feel worthy of her anymore, she’s not going to feel attracted to that.
However, if he’s being confident and he’s making her laugh and smile and he’s building on her feelings for him when he’s interacting with her, she’s going to feel attracted to him.
It doesn’t matter if you start out at a point where your ex doesn’t want you anymore.
You can make her want you again.
You can create a spark, so stay strong.
Believe in yourself.
Focus on making her have feelings for you again and get her back.