Do you become shy or nervous around women you like?

Do you often run out of things to say when talking to attractive women?

Don’t worry, you’re not alone.

In fact, although most people won’t admit it, many secretly suffer from social shyness.

I am also a former shy guy, so I know how it feels to go from being shy to being totally confident around women.

Before I transformed myself into a confident guy though, my dating life was basically non-existent.


Women are attracted to the strength in men (e.g. confidence, masculinity, emotional strength, etc) and turned off by the weakness (e.g. shyness, nervousness, anxiety, etc).

So, women could sense my emotional weakness and no matter how much I tried to improve my appearance, they just didn’t like me.

Sure, unattractive women were interested, but pretty or beautiful women weren’t.

Additionally, whenever I went to a bar, club or party as shy guy, I would feel the need to stand to the side and let the “cool crowd” get most of the attention, or I would find somewhere to sit down alone.

I was shy about talking to people I didn’t know, especially women.

It was a horrible life to live.

I felt alone, left out and awkward even when around people who I knew.

Something just didn’t feel right.

I felt like an outsider, or as though I needed to maybe prove myself to them before they’d like me, or had to wait for them to make it clear that I was accepted.

Yet, no matter how nice I was, how well I dressed, or how I came across, people just didn’t give me the acceptance or reassurance that I thought I needed.

I thought I needed them to reassure me, but I was wrong.

What I needed was to learn how to be confident with women, which as a man, is directly tied to your confidence around people and in life in general.

Once you get confidence with women sorted, everything else falls into place.

That said, here are some conversation starters that you can use whether you are shy, confident or anything else in between…

Conversation Starters For Shy People: Examples

1. Make a statement, followed by a question

Questions naturally require a response, so a woman will often feel obligated to respond to what you have said when you make statement and then follow it up with a question.

Not all women respond to a question on its own.

So, to ensure that you get a response, give the question some context first by making a statement and sharing what you think about what you’re going to ask her.

For example: “Hey, those cocktails look fantastic…what do they put on those?” or “Hey, my friend and I just arrived. We had some dinner with friends and have now come here to party. How about you? What has your night been like so far?”

2. Be honest

When you’re honest, it gives a woman no room to reject you or be mean to you, like she will to other guys who put on an act or persona to try and impress her.

One of my favorite conversation starters is to walk over and say: “Hey, I thought I’d come over, be social and say hi. I’m Dan, what’s your name?” 

This conversation starter puts a bit of pressure on her to loosen up and be social with you.

No-one wants to be seen as mean and unsocial to the “cool people” in a social environment.

Using this conversation starter automatically makes you look like one of the cool people who is being social and making sure everyone is having a good time.

This conversation starter also helps to get the conversation going because a woman will reply with her name, to which you can then flirt with her by saying, “Jenny? Oh, I like that name. You’re off to a good start. Now, you just need to buy me a drink and then I’ll really like you.”

Wand to Learn More?

My name is Dan Bacon, founder of The Modern Man and I am a former shy guy.

After discovering what I now teach here at The Modern Man, I instantly began to transform into the confident man that I am today…and it completely changed my success with women and improved so many other areas of my life (e.g. I got promoted at work 3 times within 6 months, people respected me so much more, I made new friends, my family (parents/siblings) showed me more respect and so on).

If I had continued being the shy guy that I was, I probably would have had to accept an unattractive woman and would’ve been miserable my entire life.

I always knew I deserved better and I only got a better life when I fixed my shyness.

You can do it too.

My start-to-finish system for success with women will teach you EVERYTHING that you need to know to overcome your shyness and achieve what you want with women and your social life.

When you use my techniques, you won’t be one of the shy guys anymore.

You will be truly confident and will be be having fun, experiencing love and sex with the types of women you really want to be with.

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