Whether it was her decision or yours, losing the woman you love and suddenly being alone again can naturally make you feel sad, dejected and brokenhearted.
You can get over your broken heart, but if you don’t approach it correctly, the pain will never go away.
It will always remain the background and you will always miss her.
So, if you honestly want to move forward and overcome your heartache, avoid these 7 common mistakes that men often make:
1. Not having sex with new, beautiful women
Having sex with new women who are just as attractive, or more attractive than your ex is one of the quickest ways to start getting over a broken heart.
However, most guys who get dumped by the girl they love no longer have the confidence to approach attractive women, or they feel so down and dejected from the break up, that they just don’t have the kind of cool guy energy they used to have.
As a result, attractive women simply aren’t interested.
So, the guy will often end up sleeping with less attractive women who don’t make him feel as much as his ex woman did.
Even though the sex is enjoyable in the moment, he doesn’t feel the kind of draw to the new woman as he feels towards his ex, because she’s just not as attractive.
This results in him always missing his ex and deep down, still feeling brokenhearted and left behind.
If you want to be able to attract beautiful, pretty women who will make you forget about your ex, then make sure that you understand exactly how to do it so you can pick up the next hot woman (or the next) that you meet.
Another mistake the guys often make, which results in them continuing to feel heartbroken is…
2. Trying to stay in contact with her, even though she doesn’t feel attracted
You’ll never get over being heartbroken if you continue to see or speak to your ex who no longer feels the same way anymore.
It doesn’t matter if you make up excuses to see her or talk to her (e.g. asking her what she wants you to do with items that she left at your place, going into her workplace, hanging out at the places she goes to or attending parties where you know she will be), what matters is how you are making her feel.
Whatever your reason for trying to say in touch, it’s a bad choice unless your plan is to make her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you and get her back.
On the other hand, if you don’t focus on making her feel respect and attraction for you, she won’t respond or react well when you contact her.
She may even ask you to leave her alone.
3. Ignoring your feelings
It’s important to acknowledge the loss and deal with the pain.
That’s the only way you are going to be able to move on and get to a place where you will once again feel good about yourself, become an even better man than you already are, experience happiness and be ready to move on to a new love.
4. Wasting time feeling sorry about yourself
It’s one thing to acknowledge your pain, feel it and deal with it, but it’s quite another to allow yourself to wallow in self-pity for a prolonged period of time.
That is not how to get over a broken heart.
You must be willing to move forward and do what is necessary to learn from the past, so you can confidently head into the future, or be willing to do what it takes to get her back.
5. Surrounding yourself with painful memories
It makes it much more difficult to move forward when the past is always nearby.
At least for now, pack away everything that reminds you of your ex so that you can have a clear path to move on and get past the breakup.
6. Not learning from your mistakes
Do you know exactly why your ex broke up with you?
Watch this video and see if you can identify some of the mistakes that you made, which caused her to lose respect, attraction and love for you…
When you do look back at your relationship, it’s essential that you do it with a critical eye.
If you only focus on all of the happy times and the things that worked well when you were a couple, you’re missing a learning opportunity.
Ask yourself questions and be totally honest.
Who was the dominant party in the relationship – you or her?
When you were together, did you feel like a confident man or did you often feel weak, jealous and nervous because you doubted her commitment to you and you were afraid you would lose her?
Was there a strong emotional and sexual connection between the two of you at the start of your relationship?
Did that connection continue throughout your relationship or did it slowly fade and you ignored the signs in the hopes that things would get better on their own?
If you could go back in time, what would you have changed about yourself?
When you’re not truthful about the things you may have done in the past that you could have done better, you’ll never be ready to learn to how make yourself a better man for the future.
That’s why the answers you exposed can help you in learning how to get over a broken heart and moving forward.
7. Going back to your ex for the wrong reasons
If you want to get back with your ex simply to spare yourself the pain of the breakup or because you fear you won’t ever find another woman who will love you and make you happy, that’s what a weak man would do.
Depending on the circumstances, it may be only a temporary solution.
If the breakup was your idea, the problems you had that caused you to want the split, likely are still going to be there.
If that’s the case, invariably another split will be just around the corner and you will be in no better shape to handle the pain then either.
Going back to you ex under those circumstances won’t end your pain; it will simply delay it.
If your ex broke up with you because you lacked the qualities of a strong, confident alpha male that she wanted and you haven’t taken the steps to acquire those traits, your chances of winning her back are doubtful.
When she rejects you again, you will suffer further.
On the other hand, sometimes a breakup wasn’t the best idea because when you’ve had a chance to think about it for a while, you realize that what you had was worth saving.
What do you think you should do?
Get her back or move on and find a new love?
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