If you asked a girl out and she said maybe, you either didn’t make her feel enough attraction first, or she is just trying to make you chase her a little more.
You may have interacted with her several times and you can definitely feel a spark between you. You’ve also sensed that there is some attraction from her side. Yet, when you ask her out on a date, she says, “Maybe.”
You might have felt shocked at her answer and wondered why she would want to play games like that, when clearly she has some interest in you.
You maybe even ask a friend, “Hey, can you help me? I asked a girl out and she said maybe? What does this mean? Did I do something wrong? Did I misjudge her interest in me? What do I do now? How do I get her to say yes?”
You’ve been left standing scratching your head, with a whole lot of burning questions that you don’t know how to answer and are now wondering what to do.
Here’s What You Must Do Right Now
Do not think that you’ve blown it because you haven’t. You can get this girl to date you, you can have sex with her and you can have a relationship with her.
In most cases, she will simply be testing your confidence to see if you will doubt yourself, or she will testing to see how much you like her. Either way, you have to remain confident and focus on making her feel attracted to you.
Here’s a great video by Dan Bacon (founder of The Modern Man), which explains how a woman’s attraction for a man works….
What Not to Do
Okay, let’s face it, the whole situation was a let down. After all the excitement and adrenaline of a blossoming new romance you feel like you’ve been punched in the chops. In some ways you feel that it would have been better if she had just said no, because this way you would know.
With a “maybe” you just don’t know where you stand with her, nor do you know what to do next. There is nothing a guy hates more than being left uncertain about whether he’s got the girl or not. And there’s also the social consequences of having to tell your friends, “I asked a girl out and she said maybe?”
A whole range of emotions rage within you and you decide to react. However, this is the point where you can make or break the (potential) relationship and it is all dependent on what you do next.
If you still want to get that date with her then above all else DO NOT do any of the following things:
1. Don’t appear to be hurt
You are the man in this situation and you definitely do not want to give her all the power over you. If you act all hurt she will perceive you as weak and insecure and this is a sure fire way of changing her “maybe” into a “no”.
2. Don’t get angry
Behaving like a spoilt child who didn’t get what he wanted is definitely not a turn on for anyone. Getting angry with her and shouting is the quickest way to blow your chances with her. Even if you don’t show your anger immediately, anger has a funny way of festering and will show its ugly head the next time you see her. Maintain a cool head at all times.
3. Don’t think, behave or act in an insecure way
Behaving like an insecure little boy is a definite turn off. Insecurity is the behavior displayed by lower ranking males and is definitely not they way that alpha males behave. Women are attracted to alpha males and if you react with insecurity she will definitely walk away… for ever.
4. Don’t beg or nag her
“Please, please, please go out with me!”, “Please, please, please say yes!” Please, please, PLEASE do NOT beg! There is nothing attractive about a man who begs or nags and if you want her to run, this is the best way to achieve it. Begging is a sure sign of a lack of self esteem and women are attracted to confident men… period.
5. Don’t stalk or harass her
Okay, need I say more here? Don’t be a stalker; that is just creepy and it reeks of desperation. Making her think that she’s stuck with a psychopath is definitely not going to get her to say yes. Back off and don’t act desperate… or crazy.
6. Don’t text, e-mail or phone her repeatedly
This is the same principle as above. Modern technology allows you to harass a person from a distance. Don’t do it.
7. Don’t just roll over and play dead
Finally, when all has been said and done, the worst thing you can do is just give up. You have a golden opportunity here to get this girl to go out on a date with you and then take things further from there; a kiss, sex and even a relationship.
How you handle this first “test” that she’s given you will determine whether you will proceed further, or whether it will fizzle out and die a premature death. Now is not the time to give up, now is the time to act like and alpha male and take action.
Extra Things That You Can Do to Ensure That She Says, “YES!” Next Time
Now that we’ve covered some of the important things that you shouldn’t do, let us look at more of the things that you should do.
1. Take charge of the situation
If you’ve asked her out and she’s said maybe you are simply giving her too much power over the decision. She doesn’t necessarily want to be put in the position of having to make a decision.
She dreams of feeling so much attraction for a guy and having such strong feelings for him that she is desperate to be with him, not the other way around. Take charge of the situation and make her want you so badly that she can’t resist saying yes.
This is classic alpha male behavior and irresistible to women. Confidence is sexy; if you’re not groveling at her feet or showing how hurt, confused or insecure you are she will be making up her mind (in your favor) sooner rather than later.
2. Flirt with her
Flirting is sexy; it gets the body to release endorphins and adds a playfulness to the interaction between a man and a woman. Flirting denotes confidence and self assurance and is a definite turn on.
3. Turn her on with your body language
Body language is more powerful than words. A simple touch of the hand can yield results better than a thousand words. Use body language to lure her in and have her eating out of the palm of your hand.
4. Make her feel sexy; make her feel like a woman
Women want to feel sexy; they want to feel like a woman. This means that you have to be the man. If she senses that you are weak and that she has to “wear the pants” she will be turned off.
A strong, confident man with high self esteem will take charge of the situation and make her feel sexy; so much so that she’ll want to say “yes” right away because she’ll want to feel more of what she’s feeling.
5. Be interesting and funny
A man who is interesting and funny is a definite catch. These characteristics show that he takes time to develop himself and she perceives him to be a forward thinker; someone who has goals and who is moving forward in his life. This is a turn on and a sure fire way to get her to say “yes”.
Seal the Deal
Establish yourself as the alpha male in the relationship. Make her feel so much attraction for you that she is the one coming to you for more.
Remember, women don’t want to feel like they are doing a guy a big favor by going out with him. She wants to feel lucky to be hooking up with you and potentially getting into a relationship with you.