Being human means that we all come with our own little quirks and idiosyncrasies and inevitably your girlfriend will do something that you don’t like, or that looks suspicious to you, and this will inevitably result in issues of trust.
The truth of the matter is that you can never really fully trust anyone, but if you are dating a person or living with them, then you just have to.
If you don’t trust each other, the relationship will not be able to continue because trust is essential in keeping a relationship alive. You just have to give it your all and hope for the best, while at the same time also understanding that your girlfriend may break your trust, and your heart, one day.
This is the risk, and the beauty, of all relationships.
Why Are You Feeling Insecure About Your Girlfriend?
If you have to ask the question, “Should I trust my girlfriend?” then you also have to explore the underlying issues that come with it.
In essence, if there is a cause for your suspicions then there is a relationship issue that you need to address urgently. Cause for mistrust means that your relationship is in trouble and requires attention.
If on the other hand there is no, or very little, cause then you are struggling with issues of trust and will need to look inwards to find the root of the problem.
Establishing why you feel the need to ask the question “Should I trust my girlfriend?” is the first step to resolving your feelings.
Ask yourself the following questions:
- What has your girlfriend done to make you feel distrustful?
- Has she gone out clubbing or partying without you?
- Are you feeling insecure, and if so why?
- Is she getting the excitement from the relationship that she wants and needs?
- Is your relationship growing stale, or has your relationship become boring?
- Has the spark died in your relationship?
- Is there someone else trying to split the two of you up?
- Are you being neglectful of her needs and desires?
- Are you making her feel desirable?
- Has she done something to break your trust in her before?
- Why does she need excitement away from you?
- Is she trying to make you jealous because she feels that you’re neglecting her?
Answering these questions will give you a good indication of whether something is wrong with your relationship that requires your attention, or, if you find that there is nothing wrong with the relationship, then it all comes down to you, your behavior and your attitude.
Are you behaving like a lower ranking male in the relationship or are you behaving like an alpha male? Are you behaving like a Real Man or are you being a wimp spending more time looking for problems than living your life?
Are You Ruining a Perfectly Good Relationship With Your Insecurity?
Your relationship can easily be affected by your behavior and if you change your attitude towards your relationship, it can make you as attractive to your girlfriend as the first time that you met.
If there are no serious issues in your relationship that are bringing up questions of trust, then the problems boil down to insecurity; and insecurity is the quickest and surest way to blow a good thing.
Remember, your girlfriend is attracted to you because you display all the alpha male qualities that women find attractive. If suddenly you revert to lower ranking male behavior, she will begin to question her judgment and will start looking elsewhere for the qualities that she’s lost in you.
If you are behaving in any of the following ways, you are behaving like a lower ranking male and you need to stop immediately!
- Feel Insecure and mistrustful.
- Your self confidence has taken a dive and you find yourself feeling doubtful and unsure.
- You have stopped flirting with your girlfriend.
- You’ve allowed insecurity to erode your mental and emotional strength.
- You have stopped using body language to seduce your girlfriend.
Make Her Fall in Love With You All Over Again
When you making your girlfriend feel a lot of love, respect and attraction for you, there is no reason why your girlfriend would be looking elsewhere, and the question “Should I trust my girlfriend?” won’t be something you worry about anymore.
Make sure that…
1. You know what you want from life and you go after it with unrelenting confidence in yourself
Lower ranking male behavior dictates that, even if they know what they want (and this is not likely), they are afraid to go out to get it because they are scared, anxious or nervous. Alpha males know what they want and they go out to get it. This includes the woman that they want and the type of relationship that they want to have.
2. Know when to lead and lead with confidence
Lower ranking males feel uncomfortable leading in social situations and in the relationship with their girlfriends. An alpha male leads when he is required to lead and does so with confidence. The woman who is with him feels confident that he is leading and is in control, and this allows her to be herself and to express herself more fully; socially and in the relationship. Confidence and self assurance makes him all the more attractive to her.
3. Make her feel like a real woman
An alpha male is confident in his manliness and is not afraid to express himself, either in social situations or in relationships. Women subsequently feel comfortable enough with this to express themselves in turn. Lower ranking males are afraid of the power of their emotions and are afraid to express themselves honestly. Women pick up on this and look for someone who can make them feel like real women.
4. Exude confidence
Alpha males exude confidence in everything they do, and this is telling in their relationships with their girlfriends. This confidence brings out the best in everyone around them and this is why women find the alpha male irresistible. Who wouldn’t want to be with someone who makes them feel good about themselves?
It is important to maintain the allure, interest and excitement that you had in the beginning of your relationship. You behaved like an alpha male then and if you have reverted to lower ranking male behavior now, your relationship will inevitably feel strained.