10 Common Reasons Why Men Fail With Women

Could one of these mistakes be the reason you haven't been succeeding with women?

As you read through each of the common reasons why men fail with women, you'll see that most of them are completely FIXABLE or avoidable. How many of these mistakes have you made with women?

10: Showing too much interest too soon

If a woman feels that a guy is showing too much interest too soon, she will usually assume (and rightly so) that he is desperate and 'starved for female attention'. If you've ever made the mistake of showing too much interest in a woman too soon, then you may already know that it causes women to lose interest in you FAST.

So the question is: What is the right way to show interest in a woman? The answer is simple: Gradually. Your interest in her should gradually rise and fall depending on how she treats you, what she's like as a person and on any other criteria you decide.

A lot of guys make the mistake of becoming 100% attracted and interested in a woman right away. If you want a woman to remain interested in you, then you need to let your interest in her build gradually.

9: Being too nice

Women often say, "I just want a nice guy" when asked what they're looking for in a man. However, most guys don't understand what women really mean by the statement.

When a woman says "I just want a nice guy", she isn't referring to a 'nice guy' who feels like he needs to pay for everything, buy her gifts all the time, do everything that she wants to do, always give in to her demands and basically try really hard to impress her.

Instead, women are referring to a 'nice guy' who:

• Is confident around women (and people).
• Flirts with her.
• Behaves like a 'challenge'.
• Takes the lead during an interaction, on a date and in the relationship.
• Spends time with them, but also gives plenty of time and attention to his life and what he's achieving/trying to achieve.
• Uses humor in an attractive way.
• Confidently makes conversation in an interesting way with women.

8: Not creating sexual tension

Creating sexual tension between you and a woman is a MUST. If there is no sexual tension between you and a woman, she will simply place you in the 'just a friend' category...or worse still, the 'nothing at all' category.

To create sexual tension between you and a woman, you need to spark her attraction for you while also being a challenge. For example: You're at a bar and the woman you're chatting to asks, "Would you like another drink?"

This is a perfect opportunity to create some sexual tension, by playfully saying, "Another drink huh? You're trying to get me drunk aren't you? I'm not that easy...you're going to need to work a little harder than that to get me into bed..."

She will be attracted to you because you're using humor and even more attracted that you are being a challenge.

7: Feeling unsure how to make a woman your girlfriend

We've all been in this situation...

You're walking through a shopping mall and you see a beautiful woman that you'd love to meet. Yet, despite the fact that she could be your ideal woman - you don't approach her.

It may be that you:

• Don't know how to.
• Are unsure what to say when you approach.
• Don't how to get a woman interested in you right away.
• Have never actually done it before, so you don't know that it's possible.

If you fall into one or more of those categories, then you have a decision to make:

1. Continue along being unhappy with your ability to meet women.
2. Learn how to approach and meet the women you see and quickly turn your favorite one into your new, loving girlfriend!

6: Ignoring opportunities to meet single women

You may be surprised to realize that there are millions of beautiful, single women who would love to be in a relationship with you right now. It really is true. Millions of beautiful, single women wish they could find a guy just like you today.

So, why haven't you met each other yet?

I'm not sure how you are currently trying to find yourself a girlfriend, but most guys who fail with women tend to rely on:

1. Maybe getting lucky...one day.
2. Chance encounters (e.g. you happen to get introduced through friends and then hit it off). When was the last time that happened?

As you may have experienced, using those 2 ways to find a girlfriend often leads to being single and alone for long periods of time. If you want to speed the process up, I highly-recommend that you listen to 21 Great Ways to Get a Girlfriend.

5: Giving up too easily

At the first signs of a woman losing interest, most guys give up thinking that they've blown it. However, one of the most important things you'll ever hear about success with women is to STAY IN THERE.

After coaching guys on weekend courses in bars and clubs for many years, I've seen guys (who'd previously never approached women in their life) hook up with confident, beautiful women on their second night of practice. One of the main reasons for their success was simply staying in there and not giving up.

The guys would keep making conversation, keep flirting and keep moving things forward. Eventually, it either led to a phone number, kissing or sex.

4: Lacking confidence

The #1 thing that women are attracted to in men is confidence. However, most men have a hard time feeling confident around the women they like. If you tend to doubt himself around women (maybe it's just the beautiful women who 'scare' you), then you need to change the way you think.

For example: Ben from The Modern Man once worked as a personal trainer in a gym. A lot of the customers were beautiful women - many of which he wanted to date. So, he decided to conduct an experiment. Instead of thinking like he always had, "Does this woman like me?" or "Would I have a chance with her?" he changed his thinking to, "She wants me" and assumed that he was correct.

Not only did he feel an immediate boost in his own confidence, he also noticed an immediate change in how women spoke to him. Suddenly, women were smiling and giggling when they talked to him. The women sensed his confidence by noticing his body language, the way his spoke and how he looked at them.

Needless to say, Ben went on to have sexual relationships with a number of the women in the gym over the following months.

3: Embarrassed to improve their skills with women

The truth is that most guys find it hard to meet new women and find a girlfriend. Despite having this problem, these guys try to distract themselves with work, study, sport, TV, wasting time online, etc...while continuing on single, alone and frustrated.

If you've read this far, then you're obviously different to most guys. You know that it's possible to improve your skills with women and you're not embarrassed to begin working on it. Or, are you?

2: Fearing rejection

If meeting and dating women was as simple as saying "Hi" and then living happily ever after, then we'd be living in a completely different world right now. In the real world, no guy is compatible with every woman he meets.

The guys who are the most successful with women don't see this as 'rejection' like other guys do. If they meet a woman and it doesn't work out, they see it as NORMAL. In fact, the guys who are most successful with women see it as normal to meet 10 women and only properly 'click' with 3 or 4 of them.

They also understand that is completely normal to only then choose 1 or 2 of the women to begin dating.

1: Living in the past

It doesn't matter if you have failed with women in the past. It also doesn't matter if you've loved 100 women, only to have heard the old "I just want to be friends" line each time. All that can change.

EVERY GUY who has learned my techniques for success with women has failed with women (in some form or another) in the past. I have too. What separates me from all the other guys who continue to fail with women, is that I have discovered the techniques for success with women and I now USE THEM.

I can now go out for a few hours during the day or night and come home with 4-5 phone numbers from beautiful, interesting and intelligent women who all want to date me. You can have the same freedom. You can have the same power. You can have the same control. You just need the RIGHT information.

It has taken Ben, Stu and I a total of 5 years to discover, develop and master the techniques for success with women that we now teach in our advanced training product called 21 Great Ways to Get a Girlfriend. You don't have to waste years trying to figure it all out.

By downloading and listening to this program, you will learn EVERYTHING in a matter of hours. OVERNIGHT you will know more about how to succeed with women and dating than 99% of guys on this planet. Talk about giving you the edge over other guys!

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	Article by: Dan Bacon, founder and lead dating coach for TheModernMan.com
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