Could one of the following mistakes be the reason why you haven't been succeeding with women lately? As you read through each of the common reasons why men fail with women, you'll see that most of them are completely FIXABLE or avoidable. How many of these mistakes have you made with women?

10. Showing too much interest too soon

The best way to show interest in a woman is to allow your interest to rise and fall depending on how she treats you, what she's like as a person and on any other criteria you decide that you like or don't like in a woman. A lot of guys make the mistake of becoming 100% attracted and interested in a woman right away. By doing that, a woman feels as though she doesn't to do anything else to impress him or maintain his interest and she may then decide that he's desperate or that she is out of his league. A woman wants to feel lucky to be with you, so you should only show interest when she looks and behaves in the way that you like. If she is being mean and bitchy towards you, or not contributing much to the conversation, you should pull back your interest in her. Believe me, she will respect you so much more for doing that and in most cases, she will then try to impress you to get your approval.

9. Being too nice

Women often say, "I just want a nice guy" when asked what they're looking for in a man. However, most guys don't understand what women really mean by the statement. When a woman says "I just want a nice guy," she isn't referring to a wimpy nice guy who feels like he needs to pay for everything, buy her gifts all the time, do everything that she wants to do, always give in to her demands and basically try really hard to impress her. Instead, women are referring to a nice guy who:

8. Not creating sexual tension

Creating sexual tension between you and a woman is a MUST. If there is no sexual tension between you and a woman, she will usually place you in the "just a friend" category...or worse, the "nobody" category. To create sexual tension between you and a woman, you first need to make her feel sexually attracted to you and then use flirting and challenging humor to create some position tension between you.

7. Feeling unsure how to make a woman your girlfriend

We've all been in this situation...

You're walking through a shopping mall and you see a beautiful woman that you'd love to meet. Yet, despite the fact that she could be your ideal woman, you don't approach her.

It may be that you:

If you fall into one or more of those categories, then you have a decision to make:

  1. Continue being unhappy with your ability to approach and meet women.
  2. Learn how to confidently approach women and walk away with their phone number in minutes. 

6. Ignoring opportunities to meet single women

You may be surprised to realize that there are millions of beautiful, single women who would love to be in a relationship with you right now. It really is true. Millions of beautiful, single women wish they could find a guy just like you today. So, why haven't you met each other yet? I'm not sure how you are currently trying to find yourself a girlfriend, but most guys who fail with women tend to rely on:

  • Maybe getting lucky one day. How long have you been waiting so far?
  • Chance encounters (e.g. you happen to get introduced through friends and then hit it off). When was the last time that happened? Would you be confident enough to handle being introduced to a beautiful woman or would you feel intimidated by her, get nervous and ruin the opportunity?

As you may have experienced, using only a couple of ways to find a girlfriend often leads to being single and alone for long periods of time. If you want to speed the process up of getting a girlfriend, I highly-recommend that you listen to 21 Great Ways to Get a Girlfriend.

5. Giving up too easily

At the first signs of a woman losing interest, most guys give up thinking that they've blown it and quickly leave the interaction. When it comes to approaching women, one of the most important things you will ever learn is to STAY IN THERE. After coaching guys on weekend courses in bars and clubs for many years, I've seen guys (who'd previously never approached women in their life) hook up with beautiful women on their second night of practice. One of the main reasons for their success was simply staying in there and not giving up. The guys would keep the conversation going, keep flirting and keep moving things forward all the way to a phone number, kiss or sex. Note: All of the techniques that are taught on our live, weekend courses are now available in Dating Power.

4. Lacking confidence

The #1 thing that women are attracted to in men is confidence. However, most men have a hard time feeling confident around the women they like. If you tend to doubt yourself around women (maybe it's just the beautiful women who intimidate you), you simply need to change the way you think. For example: Ben from The Modern Man once worked as a personal trainer in a gym. A lot of the customers were beautiful women; many of which he wanted to date. So, he decided to conduct an experiment. Instead of thinking like he always had, "Does this woman like me?" or "Would I have a chance with her?" he changed his thinking to, "She wants me" and assumed that he was correct. Not only did he feel an immediate boost in his own confidence, but he also noticed an immediate change in how women spoke to him. Suddenly, women were smiling and giggling when they talked to him. Why? The women sensed his confidence by noticing his body language, the way his spoke and how he looked at them. Needless to say, Ben went on to have sexual relationships with a number of the women in the gym over the following months.

3. Embarrassed to improve your skills with women

The truth is that most guys find it difficult to meet new women and get a quality girlfriend. Despite having this problem, many guys try to distract themselves with work, study, sport, TV, porn, wasting time online, etc...while continuing on single, lonely and frustrated. If you've read this far, then you're obviously different to most guys. You know that it's possible to improve your skills with women and you're not embarrassed to begin working on it. Or, are you?

2. Fearing rejection

If meeting and dating women was as simple as saying "Hi" and then living happily ever after, then we'd all be living in a completely different world right now. In the real world, no guy is compatible with every woman he meets. The guys who are the most successful with women don't see this as "rejection" like other guys do. If they meet a woman and it doesn't work out, they see it as NORMAL. In fact, the guys who are most successful with women see it as normal to meet 10 women and only properly "click" with three or four of them. They also understand that is completely normal to then only choose one or two of the women to begin dating and having sex.

1. Living in the past

It doesn't matter if you have failed with women in the past. It also doesn't matter if you've loved 100 women, only to be told the "I just want to be friends" line each time. All that can change. EVERY GUY who has learned my techniques for success with women has failed with women (in some form or another) in the past. I did too. What separates me from all the other guys who continue to fail with women is that I have discovered the techniques for success with women and I now USE THEM.

I can now go out for a few hours during the day or night and come home with 4-5 phone numbers from beautiful, interesting and intelligent women who all want to date me. You can have the same power. You can have the same control. You just need the RIGHT information. It has taken Ben, Stu and I a total of 5 years to discover, develop and master the techniques for success with women that we now teach in our advanced training product called Dating Power. You don't have to waste years trying to figure it all out. By watching this program, you will learn EVERYTHING in a matter of hours. OVERNIGHT you will know more about how to succeed with women and dating than 99% of guys on this planet.

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  • gurpreet  

    About the giving up part ‘:: should we keep trying with the girl that doesnt show interest in us

    And I don’t know if you’ve read my comment but am a good looking alpha male I flirt talk to girls but unfortunately it never works out they either get terminated from my office or leave the city or their long lost bf or current flame becomes their soulmate and am not a guy who lwoul break a relaion d

    I am a believer in god but i would get frustrated why he would do this ‘:: no*s of gilrs who called me (old friends who gt hot) are switched off

    Basically bcaus of these unconventional weird mysterious reaons it doesnt work out but i have taken these as lessons now i havelearned a lot but sometimes i get frustrated when i see beta maales get frmale attention and getting to feel a females body even with the slightest touch when i cd b spanking them without them even minding ( have done it)

    Also i tend to grt ignorant and arrogant from the getgo cz women at my office and ones i see are pro fmeininsts do u think i shd be friendly and then aggresssive ?? DO REPKY THIS TIME BROs

  • Tim  

    Finding many women are extremely cold and very unfriendly and many do look at a man’s account, clothes, and height, I am 5’7 in descent shape. I divorced after 23 years and seem rusty. I had better luck when I was in my early 20′s. Ideas? Thanks.Tim

  • Tony  

    Hey Dan, it’s Tony. I’ve been using advice and techniques from the modern man for about 6 years now and it’s changed my life over. I now enjoy routine sex with hot woman. I recently just got out of a 10 month relationship with a perfect 10 hottie… because it was ME who was not happy. Awesome right? Anyways, I’m back in the game again and for the most part things are great. I am currently talking to so many women that I often forget about some of them at times lol. Recently though, 2 women i’ve been on dates with, have blown me off. Sorta flaked out. One girl I had over at my place and things went GREAT to the point where she’d touch me to show she wanted me to make a move. So i did, but when i went to take it to sex, she said she didn’t want too because she just met me. Fair enough, so i played it cool. We scheduled to hang out tomorrow night. She texted me the entire next day, but than hours before we were supposed to hang out… she didn’t even show up. And what is even more weird, she’ll snap chat me and like my facebook statuses… but hasn’t told me why she blew me off. Same thing happened with another girl after. We hung out twice, and each time we hung out, she’s late by a considerable hour or too. And makes up excuses like “i got lost, i got held up in traffic” just very stupid stuff that you’re just kinda like… yeah bs. I called her out on it last night when we were going to hang out for our 3rd date and she said she was VERY sorry and hopes i’ll still talk to her. I said no worries, just tell me when you’ll be here. She said at 10pm she was on her way home from downtown (which is an hour from my house). 2pm rolls around and she says traffic is bad and she had to stop home. I said forget it. I’m done with my time being wasted like this. So my question is WHY are girls doing this? They are obviously interested in me, I’ve been in the game and followed the flow long enough to where i can tell they like me. WHY are they doing this though?


    • Hey Tony

      Great to hear about your success man. Well done.

      About the issue you are currently facing. That happens when you:

      a) Begin to attract and date higher quality women who will test to see how you react when they play hard to get. Do you become needy, angry, lose confidence in yourself, etc or do you remain calm, keep moving forward with your life and see them whenever it happens? If you’re stepping up in the quality of women you’re approaching and attracting, your game needs to be tight to deal with the challenges they will dish out to test you.

      b) When you approach and attract women who are not good enough for you. They know that you can have a higher quality woman and they worry about being heartbroken if they have sex with you and then fall in love with you, only to get dumped by you a few weeks or months down the track.



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Dan Bacon

My name is Dan Bacon and I used to be hopeless with women. No matter how hard I tried, I couldn’t get women to like me and I was single and lonely for many years.

When I discovered the secrets that I now teach here at The Modern Man, women began flooding into my life and I've had my choice with women ever since.

I've already helped 1,000s of guys to achieve instant success with women and I would love to help you too. View success stories. If you're sick and tired of not getting the results you want with women and want to try something that is guaranteed to work, then get started here.