Could one of the following mistakes be the reason why you haven't been succeeding with women lately? As you read through each of the common reasons why men fail with women, you'll see that most of them are completely FIXABLE or avoidable. How many of these mistakes have you made with women?
10. Showing too much interest too soon
The best way to show interest in a woman is to allow your interest to rise and fall depending on how she treats you, what she's like as a person and on any other criteria you decide that you like or don't like in a woman. A lot of guys make the mistake of becoming 100% attracted and interested in a woman right away. By doing that, a woman feels as though she doesn't to do anything else to impress him or maintain his interest and she may then decide that he's desperate or that she is out of his league. A woman wants to feel lucky to be with you, so you should only show interest when she looks and behaves in the way that you like. If she is being mean and bitchy towards you, or not contributing much to the conversation, you should pull back your interest in her. Believe me, she will respect you so much more for doing that and in most cases, she will then try to impress you to get your approval.
9. Being too nice
Women often say, "I just want a nice guy" when asked what they're looking for in a man. However, most guys don't understand what women really mean by the statement. When a woman says "I just want a nice guy," she isn't referring to a wimpy nice guy who feels like he needs to pay for everything, buy her gifts all the time, do everything that she wants to do, always give in to her demands and basically try really hard to impress her. Instead, women are referring to a nice guy who:
- Is confident around women (and people).
- Flirts with her.
- Is charismatic.
- Behaves like a real man, not a wimp who is afraid of his true potential as a man.
- Uses humor in an attractive way.
- Is respected by other men.
8. Not creating sexual tension
Creating sexual tension between you and a woman is a MUST. If there is no sexual tension between you and a woman, she will usually place you in the "just a friend" category...or worse, the "nobody" category. To create sexual tension between you and a woman, you first need to make her feel sexually attracted to you and then use flirting and challenging humor to create some position tension between you.
7. Not approaching the women you find attractive
If you only talk to women that you're not attracted to or can't hook up with, then you're not going to be getting what you want with women anytime soon.
No doubt you've been in this situation...
You're walking through a shopping mall and you see a beautiful woman that you'd love to meet. Yet, despite the fact that she could be your ideal woman, you don't approach her.
It may be that you:
- Don't know how to approach to approach a woman in a shopping mall.
- Are unsure what to say when you approach.
- Don't how to get a woman interested in you right away.
- Think that it's not possible to approach and pick up women in shopping malls.
- Are afraid of being rejected.
If you fall into one or more of those categories, then you have a decision to make:
- Continue being unhappy with your ability to approach and meet women.
- Learn how to confidently approach women and walk away with their phone number in minutes.
6. Ignoring opportunities to meet single women
There are millions of beautiful, single women who would love to be in a relationship with you right now. It really is true. Millions of beautiful, single women wish they could find a guy just like you right now. If that is the case, why haven't you met each other yet? I'm not sure how you currently try to meet women, but most guys who fail with women tend to rely on:
- Maybe getting lucky one day. How long have you been waiting so far?
- Chance encounters (e.g. you happen to get introduced through friends and then hit it off). When was the last time that happened? Would you be confident enough to handle being introduced to a beautiful woman or would you feel intimidated by her, get nervous and ruin the opportunity?
As you may have experienced, using only a couple of ways to find a girlfriend often leads to being single and alone for long periods of time. If you want to speed the process up of getting a girlfriend, I highly-recommend that you listen to 21 Great Ways to Get a Girlfriend.
5. Giving up too easily
At the first signs of a woman losing interest, most guys give up thinking that they've blown it and quickly leave the interaction. When it comes to approaching women, one of the most important things you will ever learn is to STAY IN THERE. After coaching guys on weekend courses in bars and clubs for many years, I've seen guys (who had previously never approached women in their life) hook up with beautiful women on their second night of practice. One of the main reasons for their success was simply staying in there and not giving up. The guys would keep the conversation going, keep flirting and keep moving things forward all the way to a phone number, kiss or sex.
4. Lacking confidence
The #1 thing that women are attracted to in men is confidence. However, most men have a hard time feeling confident around the women they like. If you tend to doubt yourself around women (maybe it's just the beautiful women who intimidate you), you simply need to change the way you think. For example: Ben from The Modern Man once worked as a personal trainer in a gym. A lot of the customers were beautiful women; many of which he wanted to date. So, he decided to conduct an experiment. Instead of thinking like he always had, "Does this woman like me?" or "Would I have a chance with her?" he changed his thinking to, "She wants me" and assumed that he was correct.
Not only did Ben feel an immediate boost in his own confidence, but he also noticed an immediate change in how women spoke to him. Suddenly, women were smiling and giggling when they talked to him. Why? The women sensed his confidence by noticing his body language, the way his spoke and how he looked at them. Needless to say, Ben went on to have sexual relationships with a number of the women in the gym over the following months.
3. Embarrassed to improve your skills with women
The truth is that most guys find it difficult to meet new women and get a quality girlfriend. Despite having this problem, many guys try to distract themselves with work, study, sport, TV, porn, wasting time online, etc...while continuing on single, lonely and frustrated. If you've read this far, then you're obviously different to most guys. You know that it's possible to improve your skills with women and you're not embarrassed to begin working on it. Or, are you?
2. Fearing rejection
If meeting and dating women was as simple as saying "Hi" and then living happily ever after, then we'd all be living in a completely different world right now. In the real world, no guy is compatible with every woman he meets. The guys who are the most successful with women don't see this as "rejection" like other guys do. If they meet a woman and it doesn't work out, they see it as NORMAL. In fact, the guys who are most successful with women see it as normal to meet 10 women and only properly "click" with three or four of them. They also understand that is completely normal to then only choose one or two of the women to begin dating and having sex.
1. Living in the past
It doesn't matter if you have failed with women in the past. It also doesn't matter if you've loved 100 women, only to be told the "I just want to be friends" line each time. All that can change. EVERY GUY who has learned my techniques for success with women has failed with women (in some form or another) in the past. I did too. What separates me from all the other guys who continue to fail with women is that I have discovered the techniques for success with women and I now USE THEM.
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