Over the years, many guys have asked me, “Dan, why don’t women like me? Can you tell me what I am doing wrong?” and luckily I really do have the answers.
So, if you’re wondering why you haven’t had sex in months or can’t seem to find a nice girl to have a relationship with, it might be time to ask yourself the question: What is it about you that may be turning women off?
Do You Know How to Attract Women?
The main skill that you need to develop and master to be successful with women is the ability to trigger feelings of sexual attraction inside of a woman.
If you only talk to women in a friendly, polite, platonic or neutral way and don’t actively say and do the things that will make them feel attracted to you, then most of the woman that you meet will not be interested in having a sexual relationship with you.
The woman might like you as a person, but she won’t be feeling turned on by you and wanting to kiss you or have sex with you. Instead, she will just see you as another random guy. To get women to like you, you’ve got to create a spark of sexual attraction and then build on that.
Watch this video to understand how attraction really works between men and women and how you can use that to your advantage the next time you meet a woman…
Are You a Good Guy With Good Intentions When it Comes to Women?
Most women want to find themselves a good guy to have sex with, get into a relationship with and potentially marry if it feels right. Yet, just being a good guy who has good intentions with a woman isn’t actually enough for her to want to be with you sexually.
You also have to make her feel sexually attracted to you. Without sexual attraction, there is no reason for her to be anything other than a friend or a stranger to you. Sexual attraction has to come first, even before getting her to like you as a person.
When a woman feels sexually attracted to you, the fact that you are also a good guy is a welcome bonus to her. However, goodness is not what makes a woman feel sexually attracted and experience feelings of intense lust for a guy.
There’s nothing wrong with being a nice guy or a good guy, but you ALSO have to spark feelings of sexual attraction inside of a woman, otherwise she will reject you when you try to make a move on her.
Watch this video to understand why this happens…
One of the many ways to make a woman feel sexual attraction for you (I teach more than 100 different ways to naturally attract women) is to display confidence around her. The more confidence that you allow yourself to feel around her and in social situations, the more she will naturally feel attracted to you.
I’m not talking about having the type of confidence where you show off, be loud or try to be the center of attention. I’m talking about the type of relaxed, masculine confidence that women feel attracted to and other men respect. Having the right type of confidence is just ONE of the ways that you can attract women, but it is a very important piece of the puzzle.
If women don’t currently like you very much, you probably don’t have a lot of confidence around women at this point in your life, right? Maybe you are the type of guy who feels a bit shy, nervous or self-doubting around beautiful women. Even though you know that you are a good guy and that a woman would be lucky to be with you in a relationship, you can’t help but feel unworthy when you interact with women that you’re really attracted to.
You try to stop yourself from feeling nervous around attractive women, but you can’t. She notices that you’re nervous, tense, anxious or intimidated by her and it turns her off. Why does nervousness and anxiety turn women off? Women are naturally attracted to the strength in men and turned off by the weakness.
When you display mental and emotional weakness (e.g. nervousness, self-doubt, anxiety) it literally turns the woman off sexually. If you want to be able to naturally turn women on, ONE of the things you need to have is relaxed, masculine confidence. When you make women feel attracted to you as a result of your confidence, the fact that you are also a good guy is simply a welcome bonus to her.
Improving on Your Weak Points
Every guy has weak points that he can improve upon (e.g. confidence, conversation, lack of a sexual vibe, etc). Although every guy is unique, the problems that he experiences with women are very similar (or the same) as most other guys that I’ve helped. So, don’t think that you’re a special case who can’t be fixed: Your problems and issues with women are normal, common and absolutely fixable.
If you tired of wondering, “Why don’t women like me?” and would rather be thinking, “Which woman out of the 20 who like me will I allow to be my girlfriend or have sex with me?” then you need to focus on becoming a lot more attractive to women.
A woman’s attraction for a man is based on many things, but it mostly comes down to your confidence, masculinity (how you think, behave and take action) and your social skills/social intelligence. All of those things are listed below.
|Attractive to women||Unattractive to women|
|Confident behavior.||Shy or nervous behavior.|
|High self-esteem.||Low self-esteem.|
|Good conversationalist.||Has trouble keeping a conversation going and keeping it interesting when talking to a woman.|
|Flirts during conversation to create a sexual vibe.||Sticks to polite, friendly conversation and doesn’t create much or any sexual vibe.|
|Confident body language.||Insecure or nervous body language.|
|Has high standards with women and only accepts truly compatible women as his girlfriend or lover.||Hopes to get lucky with pretty much any half-decent woman he meets.|
|Alpha male behavior.||Lower ranking male behavior.|
|Emotionally strong/secure.||Emotionally weak/insecure.|
|Has many friends or a small group of great friends who respect him.||Doesn’t have many good friends or has friends who don’t respect him.|
|Has a life purpose and is going after it with unrelenting determination.||Hides from going after his true purpose in life out of a fear of failure or for any other reason.|
|Makes a woman feel like a woman (e.g. girly, protected, free to be feminine) when he interacts with her.||Makes a woman feel masculine and awkward when he interacts with her, by places women above him in terms of dominance or value.|
Do I Have to Become Something I’m Not to Get Women to Like Me?
Getting women to like you is not about changing who you are deep down as a guy. It’s about adding to who you already are right now. It’s about becoming stronger and more well-rounded (e.g. conversation skills, ability to flirt, confidence, purpose in life, more charismatic, etc) than you already are. It’s about being yourself, but being a better version of who you are…