Kissing a woman instantly releases natural drugs in her brain that cause her to consider having sex with you.
So, if there’s a woman that you like and you are aiming to have a sexual relationship with her, stop talking to her or trying to get to know her and just kiss her.
Some guys make the mistake of hanging around a woman for months and sometimes YEARS, hoping that something will happen.
Guys like that will often lose sleep at night wondering if the girl likes them or not, never realizing that a sexual relationship with her is just a kiss away.
Most women won’t kiss a guy first because they want to see that he has enough confidence and masculinity to do it on his own.
Women don’t want to have to guide an insecure, hesitant or clueless guy through the process of hooking up with them. They want you to know when they are interested and then kiss them when the time is right.
Kissing Releases a Natural Drug That Makes Her Want Sex
Scientists have discovered that when a man and a woman kiss, it triggers the release of several neurotransmitters in their brain, such as:
Dopamine: Dopamine is directly associated with the reward system of the brain. The chemical induces enjoyable feelings in a person to help motivate them to continue performing certain activities. So, when you kiss her, the dopamine naturally increases her feelings of desire for you.
Serotonin: An increase in a woman’s serotonin levels creates that feel-good mood associated with kissing. Both of you might feel that “buzz” in your heart where you suddenly feel like you have connected and there is a unique and exciting spark between you.
Oxytocin: Also known as the love hormone, oxytocin is released during orgasm, kissing and foreplay. The release of oxytocin is believed to increase the bond of attachment between couples.
No amount of talking or being nice to a woman is going to get this chemical flooding through her brain. If you want a woman to have sexual desire for you beyond her initial attraction, you have to make a move and kiss her so you can get some oxytocin flowing through her brain.
Kissing Her Changes Everything
The end of the friendship (or a friendly interaction between two strangers) and the beginning of a sexual relationship, starts with a KISS.
No amount of talking to a woman will cause her to feel the same kind of sexual desire that will occur when you kiss her. A woman might really like you and want to be with you, but without a kiss, those feelings can fade away.
If you just talk to a girl and hope that something magically happens or that she makes the first move, you run the risk of being replaced by another guy who knows how to make her feel attracted and then has the confidence to make a move.
Nothing bad will happen if you move in for a kiss and she doesn’t want to. You just have to say in a confident, relaxed manner, “Oh, okay…I guess I was reading the signals incorrectly. You’re not ready to kiss me yet.”
If that happens, you haven’t been fully rejected. It’s just a temporary obstacle that you need to overcome by making her feel more attraction for you. Here’s how it works…
Personally speaking, I will sometimes kiss a woman within minutes of first meeting her.
I know that once I have kissed a woman, it instantly becomes so much more likely that I will have sex with her that night, or at least have sex with her on the first date.
The reason I am able to kiss women so quickly and easily is that I start by attracting women first. I don’t talk to them like a friend who is trying to get to know them. I do talk to them in a friendly way, but I also make the interaction feel sexual in a subtle way.
The woman feels attracted to me, notices my sexual attraction for her and then a window of opportunity will open and I’ll have a chance to kiss her. When I see the opening, I just go ahead and do it. If I don’t see that she is open for a kiss, I usually just wait and build up more attraction first and then make a move when the window of opportunity does appear.
What Your Kiss Reveals to Her
The first kiss is very important to a woman.
When you kiss her for the first time, she wants to feel your confidence, masculinity and love. However, she doesn’t want you to go overboard with it. She wants to see that you find her incredibly sexy, but you can also control yourself.
You really like her, but you’re not needy or desperate. You’re very confident, but you’re not trying to show off. You’re masculine, but you’re not trying be overly dominant to impress her.
Instead, you’re just relaxed, confident and doing whatever you feel like doing in the moment.
If a woman gets the sense that you’re not worrying about trying to impress her and are just doing whatever you feel like doing in the moment, it will be deeply attractive to her. Being like that allows her to trust in your ability to be the man.
She doesn’t have to continually question whether or not you are confident enough to be with her. She can see it. You are the man.
When she sees that, it allows her to relax into being girly around you, which is hugely satisfying for women. Most guys can’t make women feel that way.
When she feels girly around you and trusts in your confidence, your kiss will feel a million times better than it would if she felt awkward around you because you lacked confidence.
In a study carried out by evolutionary psychologist Gordon Gallup, 66% of women reported that they had once ended a new relationship because the guy they were dating was a “bad kisser.” That’s a pretty big percentage and a very strong case for not just planting your lips onto a woman’s face and hoping for the best.
“Any man who can drive safely while kissing a pretty girl is simply not giving the kiss the attention it deserves” – Albert Einstein
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Firstly I’d like to thank you for writing this article as it’s an area I’m a little confused on. What I want to know Dan, is if I apply the traits that you set out in Better Than A Bad Boy and the traits set out in Alpha Male power, obviously based around The Flow. By applying this correctly I should have placed the woman in the feminine. By then watching for the signals of interest, secondly by kissing her when the signals are present, will she feel that deep level of attraction?-if the kiss is representative of the traits I have mentioned i.e. that she is being kissed by a Real Man. Or is it the perfecting of the physical act of kissing itself, or is that just a talk show myth that I have unfortunately listened to? I know that this sounds procedural Dan and over thought because it is, but I just don’t know if its the build up to the kiss by displaying the masculine traits set out in Better than a bad boy, Alpha Male power and the flow that will make the women feel that deep love, or if its the quality of the kiss itself?
Thanks for your question.
Yes, the most important part is who she is being kissed by and how you do it. To explain a little further:
1. Who she is being kissed by.
Women want to be kissed by a man who moves in for the first kiss confidently and without hesitation. Yes, you should read her signals of interest and then do it, rather than just jumping all over a woman and kissing her all of a sudden! the signals of interest are demonstrated and explained in Dating Power, as well as how to move in for the first kiss in a way that ensures you can’t get rejected.
If you ask her if it’s okay to kiss her, then you are robbing her of the tremendously exciting and fulfilling feeling she will get from being kissed by a man who kisses her confidently and without hesitation. Women hate weak, hesitant men and love men who are confident, but also respectful.
2. How you do it.
I demonstrate and provide examples of how to kiss a woman like a real man does in Better Than a Bad Boy, including how to touch her face, the facial expressions to make, etc. A lot of guys kiss women in a hesitant way or they focus only on being sweet, sensual, passionate and romantic. However, there are other critical areas to bring to the surface if you want to make her melt when you kiss her.
Are those other critical areas mentioned in Better than a Bad Boy? Or another programme?
Yes, they most definitely are explained in Better Than a Bad Boy.
I have a problem wif ladies, I easily get along wif ladies(make them quickly fall 4 me) but I dnt knw ow 2 close d deal wif dem (turnin dem 2 my gf) 10k u as I eagerly await ur response
Thanks for your comment.
1. You’ve got to escalate things to a kiss, so it changes from being friendly to sexual. You can talk to women for months and nothing will happen unless you have the confidence to change things from friendly to sexual. You just have to do it. If you’re worried about being rejected, use the rejection-proof first kiss techniques we provide in Dating Power
2. Do you realize that the style of writing you are using was invented by little girls? A lot of cool, intelligent guys have been sucked into writing in the style that you’re using because they think it is cool. If the writing style is so bad, then why do some guys write like that and get results with women? Read: Terrible Texts That Turn Women Off to find out.
Dan you mentioned about testosterone??Do you have to take testosterone pills to increase your testosterone level so that it will have a greater effect when my saliva get into contact with hers??I ‘m just wondering if it works.
Thanks for your question.
Of course not. Billions of men around the world are having sex with women and enjoying relationships with them. Why? Well, it’s certainly not because of testosterone pills! Don’t look for excuses to avoid approaching and talking to women you find attractive. Build your confidence, learn what to say and do and then DO IT. Read this: http://store.themodernman.com/in/58e9e6c
First of al, i want to start by saying a big tnk u to al d texts & messages u hv been sending to me. Now i hv a little problem, theres dis gal i met, i love her & told her that i want to be her boy friend. To cut d störy short, she said dt she has given me a chance to prove my sef. Modern man pls i ned ur help, as u know am not d only guy that is afta dis gal so ow do i win her over oth€r guys that want her.?
Thanks for your question.
1. Writing in the type of slang that you used when making your comment is NOT “cool.” It is a trend that was started by LITTLE GIRLS when they got on the internet. So, unless you want to come across as a child when you’re writing messages, stop using that style of writing.
2. If you want her to be your girlfriend, watch this and follow my instructions: http://www.themodernman.com/videos/turn-your-female-friend-or-co-worker-into-your-girlfriend.html
I hate that writing style. If I were a girl, I would feel totally turned off.
Write like a man!
thumbs up dan, i love this article.
Hi Dan, am so grateful for This article. I actually won her heart with your support. Thanks For that. By the way my question is, she said am a bad kisser and would teach me how to kiss her.even though none of my ex-girlfriends has ever complain. So in this case what should I do to improve upon. Because I really love kissing
You’re welcome mate. Great to hear of your success so far.
I teach kissing techniques in this program: http://store.themodernman.com/in/2cf8a89 I can’t reveal those techniques on the site for free. My best techniques are in my programs for my customers.
After reading many of your great articles, I have come to a conclusion that Hollywood /media is a massive misinformation machine that its only aim is to make profit off entertainment , not education. But after reading this article, I’m beginning to feel confused because you used pop culture examples as supporting evidences.
Which is why you’re assessment of Hollywood is wrong. Hollywood doesn’t have “evil intentions” at all. Many people in that industry hope to inspire a better world, tolerance and understanding and sometimes they really do achieve that. However, one of the problems is this: Many of the writers of TV sitcoms are guys who are HOPELESS with women and end up creating scenes that play out their fears and insecurities about women on the screen (e.g. a guy gets slapped for approaching a woman).
If you want to learn how to be successful with women, learn from us here at The Modern Man. There’s no evil intentions with pop culture; it’s just that many people in the industry broadcast their fears and insecurities and people who have the same fears and insecurities say, “See! I told you! Women are BAD! If you walk up to a woman and show sexual interest in her, she will slap you or tip a drink over your head! Don’t approach!!”
I really want to appreciate you for your messages and mails, its really given me the confidence i lacked. before now, getting laid and kissing a pretty lady aint just difficult as they used to be before i encountered ur site……THUMBS UP
Thanks mate – I’m glad you’re making progress already.
I checked your e-mail in our customer database and it appears that you haven’t purchased any programs yet. If you want to speed up your progress and get mastery level results, check out our programs: http://www.themodernman.com/success/which-product-is-for-you.html
I look forward to hearing more about your success in the future. Enjoy the great times ahead!
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