Facebook gives people an opportunity to connect with people ranging from their closest friends, long lost friends, high school teachers and former co-workers.
With Facebook, a person can follow the daily lives of these people without actually having to speak to them or meet up with them in person, which is one of the things that makes Facebook so addictive.
Yet, this is where it gets tricky. Do you really want to know everything about your friends, family and people you haven’t seen in a long time? If you are like most people, there are some things you probably don’t want to know.
You Can Post Whatever Crazy Stuff You Want on Facebook, But it Will Have an Negative Impact on Some of Your Relationships
At the end of the day, it doesn’t really matter what you say or do in life. It’s completely up to you.
You can decide to be a slob or a gym junkie, a nerd or a cool guy, a family man or a player. It really is up to you and there is no ONE way that everyone has to live life.
However, when you post up unecessary things on Facebook, it can and will have a negative impact on some of your relationships.
For example: Women may think that if they get into a relationship with a guy who behaves in an “uncool” or weird way on Facebook, they will then become a part of the crap that he posts on Facebook.
If you don’t really care about having good relationships with people that you know via Facebook, then go ahead and post up whatever you want. However, if you want to have good relationships with people and be liked, focus on being positive and keep your status updates to a minimum.
Only post up what absolutely needs to get posted up (e.g. photos of events like birthdays, weddings, hanging out with family and friends, etc) and share things that are genuinely going to help people that you know on Facebook.
To guide you through the murky waters of Facebook status updates, we’ve made a list of things that you should try to avoid in Facebook status updates…
Top 10 Things You Probably Don’t Need to Post in a Facebook Status Update
10. Your sex life
Bragging to your Facebook Friends (often including family and co-workers) about how great your girlfriend or wife is in bed isn’t the coolest thing to do in the world.
Most people have no sex life or a crappy one that they are bored to tears with, so they aren’t going to rush to your Facebook profile and congratulate you – they’re probably going to resent you instead.
9. The details of your recent surgery or illness
Facebook is the place to share information about your life and if you are sick, it’s okay to tell your family and friends.
However, some people take it too far and begin revealing the gritty details of bowel movements, leaking surgical wounds and other nasty details in their Facebook Status Updates. Some take even further and post pictures of their surgery online. Is this what you want to see as you check Facebook while eating breakfast?
8. Anything relating to your divorce
This is a bad idea for so many reasons.
According to the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, 66% of divorce lawyers say they search Facebook for evidence on their client’s soon-to-be ex-spouse. Updating your status with a description of the great time you’ve been having with your current girlfriend may not go over too well with the family court judge in your divorce case.
7. Trash talk about your boss
These days, many employers monitor how much time employees spend on social networking sites during work hours. Imagine their surprise when they learn that you call them Douchebag, Numpty or some other creative nickname behind their back.
Likewise, an unflattering comment about a co-worker can cause serious tension in the office or may result in you being fired.
One of the best ways to use Facebook is to just keep it simple. Post positive stuff online, click like, comment nicely and then just shut up. If you have something mean to say, don’t post it online. Say to a friend in person or say it to the person’s face.
6. Company trade secrets
Sometimes an innocent comment about the details of your work can give away a trade secret to a competitor. In most cases, this will be a direct breach of the confidentiality agreement you may have signed when you began work at the company.
5. Drug use
“Man that was a good joint!” or “Stoned…” or “Got the munchies”
Declaring that you smoked marijuana won’t bring the police to your door instantly, but it can cause all types of problems for you.
For example: If you are going through a divorce (see #3) or fighting a custody battle over children, if you work in a drug-free workplace or you end up getting caught with drugs in a foreign country (that treats drug use very seriously) and claim to have never used drugs.
4. A sales pitch
“I can make you $5,000 in the next 12 months if you go to my website and sign up now!”
Facebook is an excellent place to market products, because you have 100s of millions of users to advertise to. However, marketing your products or services to friends on Facebook is just not cool. Create a Facebook fan page or group instead.
3. The cryptic plea for pity
While it’s fine for a women to post a status update like, “Arrrgh….what a day! I need a hug” or “Why does it always happen to me? Life sucks” a man behaving in that way looks pretty lame.
We men are expected to be pillars of strength in this world. If you want to be attractive to women, you can’t behave like a little boy or girl who needs a hug from mommy to feel better. You have to deal with your problems like a man (i.e. feel the emotion and then do something about it without whining or crying out for pity…especially from women).
What’s even worse in the cryptic pleas for help is when people ask, “Why? What’s wrong?” or “What happened? Are you okay?” and then a guy replies, “Nothing…don’t worry.”
Lame. So lame.
2. Unimportant details about your life
“I had two eggs, toast and orange juice for breakfast. Yum!”
Some people use Facebook Status Updates to tell everyone the most mundane things. Most people don’t care that you ate turkey or watched a certain TV show. They only really care about the important things going on in your life.
It’s up to you though what you post on Facebook. If you don’t care about annoying people, then go ahead and post up everything. It doesn’t really matter, but it will have some negative impacts on some of your relationships with people you know via Facebook.
1. A declaration of your sadness
The last thing you ever want to do is bring attention to the passing moments in your life when you feel down, frustrated, lonely or heck – even temporarily depressed. Everyone goes through ups and downs. Part of being an effective, attractive and likeable man is staying in control of your emotions and how you display them.
It’s fine to be angry, upset or annoyed at something, but Facebook is definitely not the place to show your temporary shifts in emotion. That’s what girls do…