The secret of how to meet women on Facebook is to set up your profile in a way that makes her think, “Wow, this guy is cool. I’d like to meet him in person” or “I wish that I was a part of his life.”
When a guy meets a woman in person, he will be able to attract her based on his confidence and personality (i.e. he is charming, charismatic, funny, has a masculine vibe, etc). However, if he is trying to meet her on Facebook, she can’t experience that side of him, so she has to judge him on his looks, lifestyle and likeability.
Looks, Lifestyle and Likeability
Meeting women online is a lot different to meeting women in person. A woman can’t experience your confidence and personality, so she has to judge you on something.
The first thing she is going to look at is your physical appearance.
If you’re a very handsome guy, it will give her an initial REASON to be interested. She can rationalize to herself, “Oh, he’s good looking…okay, maybe I will open myself up to this and get to know him.”
However, if you’re not a very handsome guy, then you need to give her a REASON to be interested in you by showing her that you live and interesting lifestyle (that she might like to be a part of) and that you are also well liked by others.
Yes, it is superficial and shallow, but that is how online dating works.
Unlike meeting women in person where guys who aren’t good looking can pick up attractive women by being confident, masculine, funny, etc, it doesn’t work that way online. When a womn is assessing a guy’s attractiveness on Facebook, she looks at superficial things because she has to judge him on something.
Many guys make the mistake of posting up lonely photos of themselves at home, or photos of them hanging around the same 2-3 people over and over again.
If you want to meet women via Facebook, you need to give the woman a REASON to be interested. When she looks at your photos, you want her to be thinking, “Wow…this guy is cool” and begin imagining herself as your girlfriend.
For example: If you have photos of you at a sports game with friends, hanging out with some other friends at a cookout/BBQ, travel photos, family photos, etc, then she’s going to see that you live an interesting lifestyle.
Now, if you’re thinking, “Damn women these days…that’s just too much work to get laid or get a girlfriend. Why do women have to make it so difficult? Why can’t a woman just like me for me and get to know me?” then you need to wake up to reality.
Facebook and the internet is still a new phenomenon here on planet Earth. For 99.9% of human history, humans met in person. A man would meet a woman, flirt with her, build up her feelings of attraction and then kiss her, have sex with her and then take it from there.
If you know how to do that in person when you meet women, you will always find it incredibly easy to get laid or get a girlfriend. However, if approaching and attracting women is still somewhat of a mystery to you, then you might decide to try contact women online.
If you are serious about meeting women on Facebook, you need to understand that different rules apply online than they do in person.
Online, dating is VERY superficial.
It’s pretty much all about looks, lifestyle and likeability and if you don’t have at least two of those elements, most women aren’t going to be the least bit interested. You may feel like women are shallow bitches for being superficial online, but you can’t blame them.
Most single guys who are looking to meet women via Facebook and online dating are essentially willing to have sex with pretty much any half decent woman who will reply. Yet, that’s not how women work.
Watch this video to understand why…
If your Facebook profile is full of you posting random things that people never like, what might that suggest about your relationship with others?
Well, it might not mean anything, because people don’t click “like” or comment on everything that a person posts. Yet, when a woman that you’re trying to meet via Facebook has a look at your profile and notices that no-one seems to care about what you post, she will likely assume that you are treated that in way in real life too.
She has to make a judgement because she hasn’t met you in person and if your photos don’t show you to be a popular, cool guy, then she is usually going to judge you in a negative light.
Likeability also comes down to your body language and positioning in photos with other people. For example: If you’re often the awkward, shy guy in photos, then she’s going to assume that you will be like that around her too.
She will immediately begin to imagine how embarrassed she would feel introducing a shy, awkward guy to her friends or family and the thought of that will turn her off. Why?
As you may know, women feel the most amount of sexual attraction for confident guys and are turned off by shy, insecure guys. So, if a woman judges you to be a socially shy guy after looking at your Facebook profile, she isn’t going to be very interested in meeting you in person, if at all.
Do You Have Enough Time to Meet Women in Person?
Many guys who want to know how to meet women on Facebook, will complain that they don’t have enough time to meet women in person.
Yet, while that is absolutely true for some guys (e.g. workaholics, single dads, etc), the majority of other men do have time to meet women in person, but are simply afraid approach women and start a conversation, get a number and follow up for a date.
Sometimes, the reason a guy is trying to meet women via Facebook is usually connected to his lack of success meeting women “offline” and his mistaken belief that things will somehow work out differently if he meets women on Facebook, rather than face-to-face.
The thought process is that maybe he can “sneak in the back door” so to speak and slowly get to know a girl via Facebook and eventually get her interested. That way, he doesn’t have to face the prospect of getting rejected by women in person.
Yet, chatting to a woman on Facebook doesn’t mean much or anything to her. A guy can be chatting to her on Facebook for months and she will instantly forget about him if a guy attracts her when he meets her in person.
If she happens to go out to a bar or party and a guy triggers her feelings of sexual attraction, she isn’t going to be thinking, “Oh, but there are 20 guys talking to me on Facebook…I shouldn’t kiss this guy who is turning me on in person…I need to stay faithful to my Facebook admirers!”
Instead, she’s just going to kiss the guy, have sex with him and then possibly begin a relationship with him. Meanwhile, the Facebook chatter boys suddenly stop getting replied to. She goes cold and they wonder, “Did I say something wrong? Maybe I over-texted her?”
If you’re going to meet women via Facebook, you have to quickly transition the chatting to an actual Facetime call, Facebook video chat, telephone call or Skype call.
You have to make the transition, so she can get to experience you on the phone. You can make a woman feel attracted to you 10x faster on the phone and she is 10x less likely to say “No” if you ask her out on a phone call compared to chat.
So, just like meeting women in person, when meeting women on Facebook, you’ve got to take things to the next level. Don’t be the guy who just talks and talk and never does anything with her.
For some of the guys who struggle to attract women women in person, making “friends” on Facebook can feel like an easier, safer option than going out to socialize in bars and clubs or going to parties. If it doesn’t work out, he can just say, “Oh well…at least she chatted with me” and he then goes and jerks off to porn and feels lonely afterwards as usual.
In his mind, as long as he is avoiding rejection in person, then everything is fine. Yet, his life is ticking away and he’s not getting any younger. His friends, co-workers (or fellow university students) are enjoying love, sex and relationships and he is still alone, even though he is a good guy who deserves a woman.
Why Are You Finding it Difficult to Meet Women and Get Laid or Get a Girlfriend?
If you’re looking for tips on how to meet women on Facebook, but you’ve also been struggling to get laid or get a girlfriend in person, you need to figure out why you’re struggling to meet women or why women are not responding to you in the way you want them to.
1. Do you lack confidence around beautiful women in person or online?
All women are instinctively attracted to confident men on a primal level because confident men have always been and still are the best at surviving and thriving in this challenging world of ours.
When a guy lacks confidence in himself around attractive women or the “cool crowd” it instantly turns the majority of women off on a primal level. Instinctively, they don’t want to be paired up with a guy who is going to have a hard time surviving and thriving throughout life.
Of course, a guy who lacks social confidence can still survive and thrive in the modern world (e.g. if he works as a stock trader, etc), but primal attraction is based on deep-rooted instincts, rather than on recent, superficial changes in society.
Whether you are meeting women via Facebook or meeting women in person, they want to see, feel and experience your confidence. It is very important to women.
If you lack self-confidence and feel shy, nervous or anxious when talking to a beautiful woman, your vibe and behavior will be a complete turn off for her.
With this being the case, befriending women on Facebook can feel like the perfect solution because you can confidently hide your insecurities behind the computer screen, right? Wrong.
What will happen when you meet a woman on Facebook and arrange to meet in person? Your lack of confidence still exists and when you meet up with her, she is going to feel that.
If you’re serious about being successful with women, the first thing that you need to master is your self-confidence. You’ve got to believe in yourself and let a woman see that coming through in your photos online and when she meets you in person. It is very important to women, especially beautiful women, that you’re confident in yourself and don’t doubt your value or attractiveness to women.
2. Are you being too nice to women that you meet in person or online?
Many guys who lack confidence around women try to make up for it by being very nice to women and hoping to be “liked” as a person.
They are hoping that being liked by a woman will lead to her wanting to be his girlfriend, but this is unlikely to happen. To want to be with a guy in a sexual relationship a woman needs to feel sexually attracted to him, which is not the same as liking him as a friend.
For example: He might try to be “liked” by her by using cutesy, girly language in his messages. In his mind, he is hoping that she thinks, “Wow, this guy is so nice…and he chats in a girly way like I do! Wow! We get along so well!”
Yet, what she is really going to be thinking, “Is this guy gay? Why is he acting like a girl?” and she’s not going to feel any sexual attraction for him as a result.
Of course, there’s nothing wrong with being a “nice guy,” but you also have to be sexually attractive in your behavior, communication style and attitude.
If you try too hard to “make friends” with a woman on Facebook and you speed reply to every comment she posts or reply in a super-nice, overly complimentary way every time, you’re making yourself less attractive to her.
3. Do you know what women really want in a man?
Essentially, a woman wants to be with a man who has what it takes to make her feel like a woman (i.e. feminine and girly in response to his masculinity).
The types of things that women are most attracted to about men are not about looks. Yes, a man’s looks can attract a woman, but most women are more interested in how a guy’s personality makes her feel and what his potential to live a good life will be.
Women don’t want to get stuck with a boring guy, or with a guy who will be a no hoper for life. A woman wants a guy who has the type of personality that excites her, makes her feel alive, makes her feel girly and makes her feel horny.
The Overall Process to Use When Meeting Women on Facebook
If you are serious about meeting women via Facebook, here is the overall process to use to get some action:
1. Make your profile appealing to women
Post up photos of you having a lot of fun with different friends in various environments, rather than photos of you alone or having a boring time with the same people over and over again. Essentially, you need to make a woman feel as though being your girlfriend would make her life more interesting and enjoyable.
2. Add women who are in the “People you might know” section
When Facebook suggests adding a woman as a friend because she is someone that you “might” know, add her as a friend and check if she is single. If she is, message her directly.
3. Start casual conversations with the single, available women that you’ve added
If you’ve added a single woman who is a friend of a friend, you can message her with something like, “Hi Georgia – I added you because Facebook suggested you as a friend, so I thought I’d say a quick hello. I notice that you’re into skiing like I am. You look like a pro on the slopes. I only got started skiing last year. You been doing it for long?”
4. Take it to the next level
If you can get her into a live messaging chat with you, take it to the next level (i.e. a phone call, Facebook video chat, Skype call, etc) when the moment is right. “Hey – we should say a quick hello on the phone. What’s your number?” or “Hey, I’ll give you a call via Facebook to say hi. Cool?” and then get her on a call.