The most important skill that a guy needs to have to be successful with women is the ability to trigger feelings of sexual attraction inside a woman.
Your level of ability to attract women determines the quality of woman that you can have access to and it’s also one of the major things that determines her desire to want to stay with you when in a relationship.
The Ability to Attract Women When You Meet Them and Maintain the Attraction in a Relationship
As a man, if you don’t have the skill of being able to trigger feelings of sexual attraction inside of a woman, your interactions with women will usually feel boring, awkward and forced. A woman might like you as a friend, but she’s not going to feel much attraction for you and thus won’t be very interested in starting a sexual or romantic relationship with you.
In a relationship, after the initial lust has faded away, if you’re unable to make a woman feel attracted to you in the more deeper, longer lasting ways, then she will naturally lose interest in being with you.
Do You Have the Skill of Being Able to Attract Women?
Being able to attract women is a skill that a guy either has or doesn’t have. Some guys are absolutely clueless when it comes to attracting women, some are okay at it, some are great at it and some are excellent at attracting women.
How about you?
Do you have the skill of being able to attract the women that you really want into having sex or a relationship with you? Are you only able to get lucky or can you attract women at will? One way to find out is to ask you a number of questions.
Have you ever had any of the following situations happen to you?
1. You were talking to a woman you really liked and hoping to begin a sexual relationship with her, but the conversation felt boring, awkward and even forced. You then ran out of things to say and you lost your opportunity with her.
2. You were on a date with a woman and there was clearly some friendly chemistry between you, but you didn’t know how to “switch gears” and spark the sexual chemistry. So, the date felt a bit boring and awkward, she lost interest and you didn’t get a second date.
3. You met an attractive woman who was clearly “girlfriend material” and she liked you, but only as a friend. You wanted to get her to feel the same way about you, but you just didn’t know how to do it, so you gave up and remained alone.
How about right now in your life….
Is there a woman that you really like and you want to begin a sexual relationship with her, but the sexual chemistry just isn’t there? If you answered yes, then I’m going to let you in on a BIG secret about attraction that most guys are completely unaware of…
A Big Secret About Attraction
Most guys think that they have NO CONTROL over whether or not a woman feels attraction for them.
That is absolutely incorrect.
You can CREATE feelings of attraction inside of a woman.
If a woman doesn’t initially feel attracted to your looks, it doesn’t mean that you can’t make her feel intensely attracted to you for other reasons.
A lot of guys make the mistake of assuming that if a woman doesn’t feel attracted to him because of his looks, height, job or whatever else, then he CANNOT make her feel attracted to him.
Many men assume that since they their decision on which women they’re interested in based on looks, women must do the same thing when choosing a guy. Yet, it just doesn’t work that way for most women. Most women can look at guys who are “good looking” and feel attracted, but if she interacts with the good looking guy and his personality, communication style and behavior turns her off, then she isn’t going to want to be with him in almost every case.
However, if a woman sees a guy who isn’t very good looking, but he then interacts with her and creates feelings of attraction, she will be interested. For example: He may make the woman feel attracted to him by:
- Making her laugh.
- Being confident around her.
- Being masculine.
I teach guys how to make women feel attracted to them in more than 100 ways and what I’ve mentioned above are only 3 ways. There are so many different ways that you can make a woman feel attracted to you. You can create the attraction. It doesn’t have to be there from the start based on your looks!
As a man, it’s really important for you to understand that fact of attraction and accept it. If you don’t accept it and you instead go through life thinking, “I’ve got to look good and that is how I will get women” or “If I’m not tall and don’t have big muscles, women won’t be interested in me” or “Women have to choose me based on my appearance” then you’re going to have a really difficult time with women for the rest of your life.
You’re going to be standing back and hoping that women like you and want to have sex with you or start a relationship with you simply based on how you look…and it’s not going to work. A very good looking, very handsome man can use that strategy to get himself a woman because women are going to look at him and say, “Wow…he’s handsome” and they may then approach him to talk to him or make it super easy for him to pick them up if approaches and starts a conversation.
If the good looking guy is also very confident and has the skill of attracting women with his personality, then it’s going to be very easy for him to pick women up for sex or a relationship. Yet, if you’re the sort of guy who doesn’t get approached by women because of your looks (95% of guys), then you need to accept that you have to create attraction by interacting with women face to face.
When you know that you can attract women face to face, you are not afraid of approaching them. You know that most of the women you approach will feel attracted to you and be interested in you, so you simply approach and choose the women you find the most attractive. You can choose to have sex with many women or get yourself a girlfriend or wife.
You have that power of choice because you can attract women at will, rather than wasting half or most of your life waiting and hoping to “get lucky”…and then potentially ruining that relationship because you still don’t even know how to maintain the woman’s attraction for you once you’ve got her.
A Strange, But True Fact About Attracting Women in Other Ways
This is strange, but true.
You might not want to believe it right now, but you WILL see it from now on after I tell you this.
Here it is….
When you attract a woman in many other ways, she actually sees you as being good looking. She likes the way that you look, even if you are overweight or don’t have male model features. She starts to focus on the good things about you and begins to pick out qualities and features about you that she likes.
That is the essence of what attraction is all about. If you look at the dictionary definition of attraction, you will understand why it is possible to attract women in ways OTHER than looks:
Attraction (noun): A quality or feature of someone that evokes interest, liking or desire.
As a man, there are so many different qualities that you can present to a woman that will evoke feelings of interest, liking and desire.
Why is Humor One of the More Than 100 Ways That a Guy Can Attract Women?
Why does being funny and making a woman laugh make her feel attracted to a man? Why is humor one of the things that a woman is drawn to about a guy? Why is it one of the things that you can do that make women feel attracted to you and want to be with you?
Isn’t it all just about looks?
A couple of reasons why humor is something that a guy can use to attract women are:
1. Life can get pretty dull, stressful and depressing at times and it’s great to have someone who can lighten the mood and make you smile.
2. Having the ability to make her laugh means that other people will probably like you to, which is going to be better for her survival. You will most-likely be a better survivor and provider.
So, what am I talk about with “survival” and being able to provide for her and things like that? For most of human history, surviving as a human hasn’t been that easy. It has been a challenge all the way to the current day.
Even today, in our modern world with all of our technology, supermarkets, systems, etc, survival is still a challenge. You still have to be capable of doing well and getting somewhere in life so you can survive, thrive and enjoy a great life. Life isn’t as dangerous as it used to be, but the instinct that a woman has to align herself with a guy who is going to be a better survivor is still there.
Using humor and being able to make her laugh is ONE of the signals to her that you’re most-likely going to be the sort of guy that can survive well. You will most-likely get along well with others and be liked by other people. As a result, you will probably be better at providing, surviving and thriving in this world than a guy who doesn’t get along well with others and is disliked by others.
Attracting Women With Your Personality
To help you understand what I mean by attracting women with your personality and being naturally attractive to women for reasons OTHER than looks, a great example to show you is the example of a pair of identical twins.
So, which of these twins is going to be more attractive to women?
The twin on the left is nervous around women, he doesn’t know how to flirt with women, he doubts himself and comes across as a bit shy and awkward. The twin on the right is confident around women, knows how to flirt with women, he believes in himself and comes across as confident and easy-going.
Which of the twins is going to be more attractive to women? The twin on the left or the twin on the right?
If you understand attraction, you will know that women are attracted to the strength in men and turned off by the weakness. Therefore, the twin on the right is going to be more naturally attractive to women. He is confident, he believes in himself (emotional strength), whereas the the twin on the left lacks confidence and doubts himself around women (emotional weakness).
Being emotionally strong is just ONE of the ways that you can attract women. It’s not the only way.
There are more than 100 different ways that I teach guys how to attract women and being emotionally strong is just one of the ways that you can attract women.
In this example with the twins being “identical twins,” some guys will still look at them and say, “Well…I think the twin on the right is better looking, so that is why she would go for him.” Guys who think like that still don’t understand that you can attract women in many different ways. They either don’t understand or are not yet willing to accept the fact that women are more attracted to a guy’s personality and how it makes her feel, than what he looks like.
Women can be attracted to what a man looks like, but if a man’s personality doesn’t make her feel good (i.e. it doesn’t turn her on sexually and emotionally) and she feels turned off by his personality (e.g. the twin on the left is nervous and doubts himself around her, etc), then she’s not going to want to be with him even if he looks better than the twin on the right.
Most Women Have an Open Type When it Comes to Men, Even if They Don’t Openly Admit it
Some women are extremely picky and will only go for a guy who looks like a male model, who is tall, rich, has a perfect gym body and drives an expensive car. However, most women have what I call an Open Type, which means that they are open being with many different types of guys as long as the guy can make her feel attracted in other ways.
The truth is, you don’t have to be rich, good looking, tall or have big muscles to attract most women (95%). What you need to have is the ability to attract women with your personality, communication and behavior. Women only need to see that you have the potential to do well, but you don’t have to be already successful in life.
You can be the sort of guy who is on his way to success or who is pushing forward in life and reaching for your true potential as a man. For most women, that is just as attractive as a guy who is already successful in life. You don’t already have to be at the peak of your career or successful in life to be attractive to women.
Some guys waste half or most of their life thinking, “I’m going to get a good job first…I’m going to save up a lot of money…I’m going to buy a car and a house and THEN I’m going to start trying to get a girlfriend because women will like me for being so well set up and successful in life.”
Yet, the truth is that you really don’t need to do that to attract almost all women.
As you would have seen out there in the real world, millions of guys are with women and they are NOT fully successful in life. The majority of guys aren’t fully set up and successful in life, but they still have a girlfriend, a wife or are having sex with many different women on rotation.
Almost all women are not expecting you to be a tall, male model with the perfect gym body and billions of dollars before you are worthy of them. They just expect to feel attracted to you and you can make women feel attracted to you in many different ways.
The Ability to Trigger Feelings of Sexual Attraction in a Woman
The ability to trigger feelings of sexual attraction in a woman is the most important thing that a guy needs to learn if he wants to be successful with women.
A guy can be going through life and have a good job, a nice car and live in a great apartment or house, but if he interacts with a woman and his personality and communication style doesn’t make her feel sexually attracted, then she won’t really care that he has a nice job and car.
Interacting with him isn’t going to make her feel attracted, so it’s going to feel quite boring, awkward and forced. Without the feeling of sexual attraction, there’s no reason for the woman to want to have anything other than a friendly conversation with him and then turn away and forget about him. However, when a woman feels sexually attracted to a guy, then there is a reason to get to know him further and like all the other things about him.
So, one thing that I really want to make 100% clear for you here is this: Attraction can be created.
Once you open your mind to that, you will start to see it all around you. You will see guys interacting with women and they will be creating feelings of attraction inside of the woman and that is what is drawing her to him. That is something that YOU can do.
I spent YEARS figuring out how to attract women and then took the time to put all the advice into my book, The Flow. You don’t have to spend years trying to work this stuff out on your own. In a matter of HOURS, you can learn what has taken me YEARS to figure out.
If you read my book The Flow, you will get an education and understanding of women that will allow you to naturally attract women when you interact with them. Yet, if you decide to go through life and refuse to have the skill of being able to attract women, then what you can look forward to is probably the same sorts of things that you’ve been experiencing with women so far.
You might get the same rejections, the same awkward conversations, the same lack of sexual chemistry between you and the woman that you meet. In a relationship, after the initial lust has faded away, you’ll probably get the same sort of result again where the woman isn’t attracted to you for deeper reasons. The spark and the fire that once burned between you just isn’t there anymore, so the relationship starts to fall apart.
I know that all too well because it happened to me. The whole reason why I started The Modern Man in the first place is that I got lucky many years ago. I was at a party, had gotten a bit drunk and there was a girl on the dance floor (in the backyard of the house party) who was a bit drunk too and somehow we started to kiss. After that, we started a relationship, but I had gotten lucky.
I didn’t know how to attract her when I met her and didn’t know how to maintain her attraction and build on it in the relationship. In the relationship, I did so many things that turned her off that she eventually cheated on me and then dumped me. I then went through many years of being lonely and losing a lot of confidence in myself around women and “throwing my hands up” and giving up at times.
Eventually, after getting sick and tired of the loneliness and lack of confidence around women, I decided that I was going to work out how to approach women, how to naturally attract them and how to have my choice with women. Back then, it was very difficult to do because there wasn’t a book called The Flow, so I was on my own and trying to work it all out through trial and error.
After a lot of initial rejection (because I had no idea how to attract women and lacked a lot of confidence in myself), I eventually did work it all out and had a great time picking up women for many years before settling down with my girlfriend. Ever since working out the secrets to attracting women, I’ve been teaching other guys how to do the same thing and I’ve also been helping guys to get their ex girlfriend back.
Unlike when I got dumped by my girlfriend many years ago (before the internet had dating and relationship experts devoting their life to helping others), I now know how to get an ex girlfriend back. You’ve got to make her feel respect for you, make her feel attracted to you and open her back up to the love, which is actually very easy to do when you know how to make women feel attracted to you.
To finish up here, I just want to go back to the most important skill that you need to have as a man if you want to be successful with women. That is: The ability to trigger feelings of sexual attraction inside of a woman.
Skill (noun): The ability to do something well; expertise.
Attracting women is one of those complex skills in life that initially feels a bit awkward and difficult, but once you know how to do it, it is then very easy and automatic.
For example, if you think about learning how to play a musical instrument (e.g. guitar); initially it feels really awkward and you don’t really know what to do, but after a bit of practice, you are able to play songs and it’s very easy and enjoyable. It is a complex skill that initially feels like it will be difficult to master, but eventually feels like one of the easiest, most enjoyable things to do in life.
Another example is when you are learning how to drive a car. You get into the car for the first time and there are so many different things to focus on all at once. Initially, it may feel like a difficult thing to do, but once you learn how to do it and you have the complex skill, it’s very easy, natural and automatic.
The same thing applies to attracting women.
Attracting women is actually a skill that you can develop and master as a man. If you don’t have the skill of being able to attract women, then when you interact with women, your conversations are usually going to feel awkward, boring, forced or just friendly. The sexual chemistry and attraction just isn’t going to be there with pretty much every woman you meet.
Sometimes, you might be able to get lucky and click with a girl one time out of 100, but if you want to attract most of the women that you meet, if you want to have your CHOICE with women and be able to create feelings of attraction inside random women that you meet throughout your life, then you will need to have the skill of being able to attract women.
If you’re interested in learning how to attract women and you want to develop that complex skill right now, the two programs that I recommend you start with are either:
- The Flow.
- The Modern Relationship.
The Flow is for guys who are looking to approach and attract women to get themselves a girlfriend or have sex with many women and enjoy their choice of women.
The Modern Relationship is for guys who are already in a relationship with a woman and want to be able to build on the attraction, respect and love that their woman feels for them.
When a guy doesn’t know how to do that with his woman when in a relationship, then the attraction, respect and love is pretty much guaranteed to fade away over time. However, when you know what you’re doing, the attraction, respect and love that you and your woman feel for each other deepens over time.
Naturally attracting women is an ability that you can have as a man. It’s either something that you know how to do or you don’t know how to do. If you don’t know how to attract women when you’re interacting with them, most of the women that you meet just won’t feel the spark with you and they won’t be interested in anything other than just talking to you or being a friend.
Most women go through their life feeling very unsatisfied with the options that they have in terms of dating and relationships. When a woman is in a relationship, she will often feel disappointed that her guy isn’t able to maintain her attraction for him. When you are the guy who can deepen her attraction, then YOU are the guy that she wants to stay with.
If you are interested in learning how to develop the skill of attracting women when you meet them, so you can get yourself a girlfriend or get laid and have your choice with women, then I welcome you to read my book, The Flow. If you already have a girlfriend, fiance or wife and you want to learn how to build on the attraction, respect and love that she feels for you, then I recommend that you watch my program, The Modern Relationship.
When you learn how to attract women and you start using the techniques, you will realize how easy it is. Most guys go through their life never really understanding how to attract women and as a result, they get rejected by women or end up ruining the relationships that they have with women throughout their life.
Every guy can improve on his ability to attract women and if you need the help, I’m here for you. I hope that you decide to give my programs a try. You can get started and try the programs with no risk. I offer a 30 day money back guarantee, so give it a try, start learning how to attract women, use the techniques and you will be AMAZED at how women respond to you.