There is nothing worse than being single and alone at midnight on New Year's Eve and having to stand aside while all the happy couples kiss and embrace each other. It's such a sad, empty feeling.
As a man, it's your responsibility to have the confidence to take the lead and create a spark between you and a woman. So, this year, don't sit back and hope that women will rush over and kiss you at midnight because, as you may have experienced year after year, that just doesn't happen. You might get lucky and get a kiss once every few years, but if you definitely want to get a kiss this NYE, I recommend that you be proactive about it by creating a spark of attraction and interest between you and a woman and then escalating things to a kiss.
Getting a Kiss Before MidnightFirst and foremost, you must realize and accept that on New Year's Eve, most women are open to random a kiss for the sake of tradition and to have a little bit of innocent fun. People wanting to kiss a random stranger on New Year's Eve is a tradition, so don't think that it's just you who wants to lock lips when the clock strikes 12. Almost everyone who is single on NYE is hoping to get a midnight kiss and maybe even meet someone special.
In the lead up to the big countdown just before midnight, there are plenty of opportunities to meet women, get to know each other and even get an early kiss. As the drinks flow and people start to loosen up, you'll often see a lot of new "couples" passionately kissing each other and embracing. The best way to get yourself a kiss before NYE and is to use what I call The Hug Technique. Essentially, The Hug Technique is used by walking up to a woman (or group of women) in a playful, genuinely happy mood and then initiating a hug for a certain reason. It immediately gets you and a woman being physical with each other, but more importantly, it feels great for both of you and will usually lead to kiss.
Example scenario: You see a group of women walking around and having fun on New Year's Eve. Walk up and say, "Eyyh! Happy New Years guys!" with a smile. If the women respond well and turn their attention to you (indicating that they are open to continuing to interact with you), smile, move in a little closer and say, "Come here - Give me a New Year's hug!" After the hug, you can then naturally transition to a kiss if the mood is right. Usually, all it takes to begin kissing is to continue holding her, but pull back from the hug a little and gaze into her eyes with a smile. If she keeps looking at you and smiling and doesn't pull away from the hug, then go ahead and move in for a kiss. Her friends will most-likely be excitedly cheering her on and enjoying the moment. On the other hand, if she pulls away from the hug and just wants to talk or continue having fun together, then do that. Just hang out, flirt and have a fun time together. As the night progresses, make sure that you and her have a chance to connect a little more, while also continuing to flirt with each other and have a great time. Throughout the night, look out for signals that show she is interested in kissing you and then move in for it, or wait until midnight for the big moment. If you're not sure how to move in for a first kiss with a woman or what signals to look out for, I recommend you watch the various demonstrations we provide in Dating Power.
You can also use The Hug Technique on many other occasions, such as when a woman says it's her birthday. Don't be afraid to use it. Share the love. Be happy, confident and outgoing and just enjoy yourself. There's nothing to be shy about. Generally speaking, when you're out meeting new women it's important to be in a fun, social and outgoing mood so you can take action when you want to and the women feel great when they meet you. However, on New Years Eve it's even MORE important to bring that type of energy to an interaction, because everyone wants to be having fun on that night of the year and you don't want to be seen as a downer. When you are in a fun, social and outgoing mood, the Hug Technique will serve you extremely well and will either lead to an instant New Year's Eve kiss or you'll have one lined up and waiting for midnight.
Getting a Kiss at Midnight
If the clock strikes 12 and you still don't have a woman to kiss, look out for the women who:
- Are looking around the room/venue/place as though they are searching for someone they know. There's a chance that she doesn't have anyone. So, make eye contact with her, smile and then use The Hug Technique.
- Are smiling mischievously and looking around at guys, but are not "with" any of them. Approach her, smile and make eye contact. If she holds eye contact with you and keeps smiling, just go ahead and kiss her, or begin with the Hug Technique by smiling and saying, "Give me a New Year's hug!" and then kiss her afterwards.
Getting a midnight kiss is the aim of the night, but if you meet a woman at 10:00pm and she seems interested, DON'T wait until midnight to kiss her.
Why? Women are more open to moving things forward quicker on NYE. If you don't move things forward quickly enough, she might think, "Hmm...maybe this guy will be too scared to kiss me when midnight comes around...I should find another guy...fast!" On New Years Eve, almost everyone wants to be having as much fun as possible NOW, before the night is over. So, don't waste too much time getting to know a woman - get stuck into the New Year's Eve kiss bright and early. Begin escalating to touch (use the Hug Technique) as soon as you meet the woman. Then, as things heat up, escalate to a kiss. If you want to learn how to move into a for a kiss and escalate to amazing sex that night, watch Dating Power.
Have Transportation Sorted Out
I don't know about you, but where I live it is virtually impossible to get a taxi after midnight on NYE. I remember a time when I had to get a woman (my first ever catwalk model) to walk 20 minutes to my car to come home with me on NYE. She almost turned around and lost interest about 5 minutes into the walk, but I reassured her that we were almost there and we kept on walking. When I finally got her home (a 45-minute drive from where we met!), the effort was definitely worth it. She was a very sexy woman and we ended up staying awake for hours just getting it on. It was an awesome NYE!
I was lucky enough to not screw that opportunity up, but it taught me a lesson to be better prepared next time. So, make sure you have transportation ready. Also, try to get to where you're going a bit earlier than usual so you can park closer to the action.
Go Out With Fun People
If you are hanging out with people who are quiet, reserved, have a dorky fashion sense or who aren't open to being fun and social with others, it'll be more difficult for you to get results on New Years Eve. On NYE, almost everyone wants to be having the best fun possible and to be hanging out with the coolest people they know or can meet on the night. If you're a single guy who is looking to meet women, I recommend that you either go out with:
- A confident male friend (or friends) who can be fun, social and outgoing.
- A cool couple that you know, who are fun to hang out with and who will also be social with other people.
- Female friends who are fun, happy people.
Okay, so I hope that helps. Just remember: It's your responsibility as a man to initiate things with women. Don't sit back hoping that they'll hit on you because of your nice shirt or cologne. Be confident, head over to say hello and use the Hug Technique.
Have a great NYE!