To get a one night stand (sex on the first night), the first thing that you must do is at least kiss the woman.
When you kiss a woman, it changes the dynamic from being friendly to being sexual in an instant. I’ve had more than 100 one night stands and I’ve kissed all of the women before pulling them back for sex.
Prior to a kiss, there might be a lot of attraction and flirting going back and forth between you, but that doesn’t mean you are going to get laid. You have to take the next step and kiss her, so she can physically experience what it’s like to be sexual with you.
4 Mistakes to Avoid When Pulling a One Night Stand
Getting laid on the first night you meet a woman is pretty easy, as long as you play your cards right.
According to a recent study, 55% of couples had sex on their first date and 70% of women admitted to having experienced a one night stand before. In other words, sex usually happens very quickly.
To ensure that you get your fair share of booty, avoid these 4 classic mistakes…
1. Don’t wait for her to make it completely obvious that she wants to sleep with you
In the movies, you will often see women making it obvious that they want to have sex with a guy. They might say, “What hotel room are you staying in? I will come to see you at midnight” or “Your place or mine?”
In the real world, most women don’t want to give you the impression that they will have sex with you so easily. Why? Although she wants sex just as much as you, she also wants to show you that she’s not an “easy lay” and that if you get into a relationship with her, you will be able to trust her not to cheat on you.
In the movies and on TV, women will say cliche lines like, “If I have sex with him, will he respect me in the morning?” but in real life, women who are open to having sex on the first night don’t even care about that.
Some women will SAY that they are worried about a guy not “respecting them in the morning” (i.e. he will lose interest in her after getting to have sex with her so easily), but in most cases a one night stand leads to a relationship…and women know that.
Yet, don’t expect women to openly admit that or to show obvious interest in having sex with you right away.Most women will pretend as though they’ve never had a one night stand before, or that they would never do it.
Personally speaking, about 85% of the women that I’ve had a one night stand with have said, “I just want you to know: I’ve never done this before. I usually wait for a long time before having sex” After we’ve finished having sex, a woman will usually say, “I can’t believe I just did that. This is so not like me.”
Early on, I used to confront women about it and say, “Hey, it’s okay…you don’t have to give me that line. I will still respect you in the morning.” Later on though, I realized that it was best to just smile, not say anything and then get on with the relationship.
It’s not her fault that the dating scene has changed. In the past, a woman had to save herself for marriage and then stick with one man for life.
Today’s women can have sex with whoever they want and settle down into a relationship whenever they feel like it. Most guys are still talking to women as though they’d never be open to having sex right away because they are using an outdated approach.
If you want to be successful with women in today’s world, you’ve got to realize that one night stands happen all the time. Women are open to having sex with you, but don’t expect them to make it obvious.
Women still have to act like they aren’t interested in having sex right away because most people are still hanging on to old ideals. Yet, the sex is happening behind closed doors.
2. Don’t try too hard to impress her
If you approach women and try to impress them by talking about your job, where you live, what car you drive, etc, you are coming from a weak and insecure place. Most women, especially the beautiful ones, will assume you don’t feel worthy and are trying to “wow” them with your credentials.
If you want to get laid with sexy women, you’ve got to be the sort of guy that makes them feel turned on and excited. One of the easiest ways to do that is to be what women refer to as a challenge…
3. Don’t hide your true personality
Do you wish that women would just love you for who you are? Would you prefer it if women stopped playing games with you and started respecting you as a man?
If you answered “Yes,” then here is the solution: Be your real self and don’t put on an act of being someone you’re not, just to suit the woman you’re talking to. Let her experience the real you. Let her experience your confidence and belief in yourself. Let her see that, no matter what she says or does, you remain strong and stick to who you are.
Being real is a million more times more impressive than a guy who walks over and pretends to be something he’s not. The guys who get one night stands easily and naturally don’t pretend to be anything other than themselves.
They know that their normal self is impressive enough and they simply make women feel attracted and then move from one step to the next until they are having sex on the first night.
Do you know how to make a woman feel attracted to you? Watch this video to find out…
4. Don’t see having a one night stand as a big deal
If you want to have sex with women on the first night that you meet them, don’t go around thinking that sex is a big deal and that you’re attempting to do something “bad” or “wrong.” Sex on the first night is normal, natural and happens millions of times every night, all over the world.
To pull one night stands, start looking at sex as the expected outcome of you and a woman feeling mutual attraction for each other. Know that after you kiss a woman, she will be feeling sexual attraction for you and the door to having sex with her will open wide…