I want a girlfriend

Getting a girlfriend is one of the easiest things a man can do.

So, if you’re sitting around thinking, “I want a girlfriend” the first thing to do is work out where you’ve been going wrong. Have you been making any of the following mistakes?

1. Not Approaching Women

I want a girlfriend

I’ve helped a lot of guys to get a girlfriend or wife and when I’ve coached them in person, on the phone or responded to comments on the site, one thing has been consistent: Guys who can’t get a girlfriend RARELY (if ever) approach women they find attractive.

I know, it probably sounds so obvious! Yet, it’s true.

Unless you actually walk over and give yourself a chance to make the woman feel attracted to you (don’t worry, that’s the easy part), then you’re not going be having sex or a relationship with her. You’re just another stranger in the background of her life.

Approaching women to get a girlfriend

Many guys are surprised to learn that most women actually WANT to be approached. Many guys go through life feeling as though they would be annoying a woman by approaching her or would be an unwanted interruption if she is talking with friends. Yet, women aren’t that mean. Women want to be in love and enjoy sex and a relationship just as much as you do. Sure, they might act cold initially, but they do that to test the guy’s confidence.

Why? Women are attracted to confidence and emotional strength and turned off by nervousness, insecurity and other emotional weakness. So, when a guy approaches a woman, she will often play a little hard to get initially to see how he reacts. If he is confident, she will be excited and happy to be interacting with him.

Additionally, women know that it is not their role to approach and pick up men. When a guy approaches her, it is an opportunity for her to potentially meet the guy she has been hoping to find. She knows that and she is hoping that it goes well.

However, if a guy approaches in a nervous way or appears intimidated by the woman, she will close herself off to the conversation and may even directly reject him. Women hate it when a guy approaches nervously or creates awkward tension between them. A woman wants the interaction to feel relaxed and easy-going, but also exciting. If she feels tense or awkward in response to the guy’s nervousness, she will want to get away from the interaction as quickly as she can.

2. Being Too Nice

If you’re saying to yourself, “I want a girlfriend!” but have been acting (yes, acting) extra nice when talking to women, then it shouldn’t be any surprise that you are still single. Why? Being nice to a woman doesn’t make her feel sexual attraction. It might make her see you as a nice friend, but it won’t make her wet.

I recommend that guys be good guys, but being way too nice to women never gets to you anywhere. Why? For a woman to want to have sex with you or be your girlfriend, she first has to feel sexual attraction for you. You’ve got to establish sexual attraction first and then the fact that you’re a good guy is simply a bonus to her, but it’s not essential, which is why you will sometimes see women hooking up with “bad boys.”

Only after she feels sexual attraction for you, will she be impressed by the fact that you’re also a good guy. If you approach women and put on an act of being a really, really nice guy (when in real life, you’re just a normal good guy), 99% of women will see through it and will know that you’re just trying to impress them. When a woman gets that sense, she will then play hard to get or simply reject your attempts to pick her up.

3. Doubting Yourself Around Attractive Women

Have you ever seen a beautiful woman with a fat, ugly, bald or short man and wondered, “How the heck did he get HER?” In most cases, the reason why the guy is with her is that he simply didn’t doubt himself when he met her. Why is this important? Women are attracted to the strength in men and turned off by the weakness. When you display the emotional strength of confidence, women can’t help but feel a natural attraction for you.

If you display nervousness, shyness or appear intimidated by the woman, she will naturally feel turned off by you. The more confidence you allow yourself to feel, the more that women will naturally feel attracted to you.

Additionally, women don’t want you to doubt yourself around them! They are HOPING that you can be the confident guy they’ve been looking for.

4. Liking a Woman Too Easily

Most guys don’t realize that 80% (or more) of the guys that a woman meets will be willing to have sex with her immediately if she was open to it. Women can attract men for sex very easily, so they hope to meet a guy who needs to be impressed by her first, before he is willing to have sex with her.

Watch this video for more info:

It Sucks to Not Have a Girlfriend

I want a girlfriend

I remember being in your situation many years ago. I felt sad about the fact that I didn’t have a girlfriend, while other guys were enjoying sex, love and great times with women. I wanted a girlfriend so badly, but I didn’t know how to go about it. Then, I discovered the secrets that I now teach here at The Modern Man and women began to flood into my life.

So, if you are serious about wanting to get a girlfriend, click around and learn from my website. All of the best techniques for getting a girlfriend are here at The Modern Man!

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Welcome to The Modern Man!

My name is Dan Bacon and I used to be hopeless with women. I lacked confidence in myself and couldn't get women to like me. Despite being a good, honest guy, women just weren't interested.

When I created the controversial attraction techniques that I now teach here at The Modern Man, beautiful women began flooding into my life and I've enjoyed my choice of women ever since.

I've already helped 1,000s of guys to get instant results with women (100s of success stories here) and I would love to help you too.

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