How to get a girlfriend today

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Make sure you spend at least 10-20 minutes learning from my site.

By sticking around here to learn how to get a girlfriend, you will understand exactly what you need to say and do to get a girlfriend the next time you talk to a woman.

Making Her Feel Attracted is the Most Important Thing of All

Getting a girlfriend can be very difficult, confusing and frustrating for a guy if he doesn’t know how to make women feel attracted to him during a conversation.

If a guy talks to women and doesn’t focus on making them feel sexually attracted, most women will only see him as a friend or just another forgettable, random guy that they’ve met.

Watch this video to see what I mean…

When a guy doesn’t know how to attract women, he will often make the mistake of trying to get women to like him based on how nice of a guy he is.

Yet, what he doesn’t realize is that being nice doesn’t make him stand out as special to the woman.

Why? Most guys try to get laid or get a girlfriend by being really nice to women because they don’t even know how to create a spark of sexual attraction inside of her.

Don’t get me wrong here…

There is nothing wrong with being to nice to women, but for her to appreciate your niceness, you first have to make her feel sexually attracted to you.

You Don’t Have to Date a Girl For a Long Time to Get a Sexual Relationship Started

Start off by creating a spark of sexual attraction
Some women want to wait 5 or more dates before they begin a sexual relationship with a guy, but most women are willing to have sex on the first night they meet a guy or on the first date.

Depending on the country, statistics show that up to 70% of modern women admit to having had at least one “one night stand” before. In an American survey, 55% of couples admitted to having sex on the first date.

Unlike women from the 1950s, today’s women don’t need to spend lots of time “getting to know” you to see if you are good husband material.

Sex on the first night or first date

Instead, today’s women select men based on how much sexual attraction they feel and well they connect with him.

Most women are open to having sex immediately to begin the relationship and see how it goes. So, if you wait too long, she will get bored with your outdated approach to dating or another guy (who knows how to attract women and escalate to sex right away) will take her from you.

Accept the Truth About Modern Women

If you’ve been searching online for information on how to get a girlfriend and have been wondering why it has been so difficult for you to get women interested in a relationship, then you are most-likely unaware of how the modern dating environment works.

Relaxed attitudes to premarital sex makes it SUPER easy to get a girlfriend and start having sex immediately.

All you need to do is approach a woman, make her feel attracted to you, connect with her and then get her phone number (to arrange a date) or kiss her and then have sex with her that day or night.

A lot of guys make the mistake of thinking that if they approach a woman, she will be upset, angry or annoyed that he approached. However, the truth is that if a woman is single and hoping to meet a potential boyfriend, she will be happy that you have approached and offered her the opportunity.

If she already has a boyfriend, she will politely tell you that. If you are saying and doing things that make her feel attracted, the taken woman is not going to be angry that you approached her. She will be feeling some attraction for you, so she will be polite and tell you that you’re cute or sexy, but she has a boyfriend.

You don’t need to feel rejected if you approach a woman and find out that she already has a boyfriend. You were just “checking” to see if she’s available.

No big deal.

Go All the Way

If you do approach a woman, but don’t follow through to a phone number or even ask her to join you for a coffee (or juice) right then and there, she will actually walk away feeling disappointed and rejected by you.

Additionally, if you live in a big city you probably won’t ever run into her again. Ever notice how that happens?

So, you need to get in the habit of making something happen immediately. Get a phone number, get her to join you for a quick coffee or if you’ve met her in a bar get her phone number, kiss her or have sex with her that night.

How to Attract a Woman to Get Yourself a Girlfriend: What to Say

As long as you make women feel attracted to you by the way you talk to them and interact with them, most single women will be interested and very open to talking to you or giving you their phone number.

You can get a girlfriend in any environment where you see women. Just make sure that you focus on making her feel attracted to you.

For example: Imagine you walk into a Starbucks to buy a coffee. After you place your order, you notice a beautiful woman waiting for her coffee order to be made. Instead of hiding away from an opportunity to get a girlfriend out of fear, say something to her!

You: Hey…so, is this your first coffee for the day?
Her: (Whatever she says doesn’t matter. Yes or no – you can still reply in the same way).
You: This is my 10th coffee. I drink 20 cups a day. [Note: This will make her feel attracted to you because you’re using humor. Making women laugh is ONE way (of 100s that I teach at The Modern Man) to make women feel attracted to you].
Her: (She will laugh and will most likely know that you’re joking).
You: Nah, just kidding…this is my second cup. I think three is enough for one day. I’m ______ (say your name) by the way – what’s your name?

From there, continue the conversation and then get her phone number. If you don’t know how to keep the conversation going and get her phone number, I will teach you exactly what to do in every situation you encounter when trying to attract, pick up and date a woman.

I have all the answers here at The Modern Man, so you don’t need to waste any more time going around in circles. You can get all the correct advice right now.

How to Get a Girlfriend: Why is it So Difficult For You?

Have you ever noticed that some guys seem to be able to get a girlfriend easily, while others suffer for months or even years without so much as a kiss from a woman?

Why does that happen?

Simple: Guys who are good with women know how to make women feel ATTRACTED to them. Guys who suck at getting a girlfriend or getting laid are usually only friendly, nice, polite or neutral when they talk to beautiful women.

You have to actively make women feel attracted to you when you interact with them. You can do this by displaying the personality traits and behaviors that naturally attract women when you talk to women.

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  • Steven  

    Good info, mate!

  • Jeffery A. Eskridge  

    I want girlfriend badly because I feel lonely I have no one to hold.

    • Hi Jeffery

      Thanks for your comment.

      Well, watch this video and learn how to get a girlfriend. It’s easy to get a girlfriend and when you sign up to watch my free videos you’ll learn how.


    • keith armstrong  

      i dont seem to get a girl friend i dont no why please can you help thankyou

  • so right  

    once women’s lib took over, it really messed up their head. as a man that was married twice at one time, i was a very caring and loving husband that never cheated on them and both of them cheated on me. i was very committed to them as well. now that i go out, i seem to meet the nastiest women with their no good attitude. i did not do nothing wrong for both of my marriages to have failed. they just turned out to be whores. now i hate being alone and single again, and would like very much to meet the right one this time for me again. it hurts so much not to be loved anymore, and i would like to give love as much as receiving it as well. i would have thought going to the book store would be a lot easier to meet them, but they are a good thirty years younger than me. so where in the world can a good sincere man go to meet a good woman today for me? when i see other couples out there that were lucky enough to have met and have families, it makes me very upset. they should be very thankful for what they have, when men like me are very lonely and have not been that lucky.

  • Kit Quiton  

    So easy to say and practice but so hard to apply. It was very interesting man and very helpful, I just hope I have the courage to actually do it. Thanks man.

    • Hi Kit

      Thanks for your positive feedback.

      Yes, it is difficult for most guys to work up the courage to approach women. That’s what The Modern Man is here to help with. Sign up to my free newsletter and I’ll teach you how to overcome your fears and talk to women anytime, anyplace, anywhere.


  • Priyanshu Kakra  

    hey very good info but feel hard to talk to girls
    thanks buddy

    • Hi Priyanshu

      Thanks. Yes, well you need to build your confidence and learn how to talk to girls. Sign up here and I’ll begin teaching you.


  • abenezer  

    I have this specific girl which i know at school she is at the next section.i know her, she knows me ,just because she knows my sister.i said hi once and she said hi back but she didn’t give me the chance to how am i supposed to make her my girlfriend?please reply.You can even use my email i will provide you details if you need too.

    • Hi Abenezer

      Lol…she didn’t give you the chance to talk? Dude, you make the rules, she follows. You decide when you want to talk to girls, they stop and listen. That is what an alpha male does and that is what women respect. Sign in to my video, audio and article newsletter and learn.


  • Olalekan juninho  

    Pls teach me hw to get a girlfriend

  • vincent  

    hi I hv a problem (am afraid to be close to girls ,wh I get closer I lack words pls

    • Hi Vincent

      Thanks for your question.

      So, you are lost for words when you’re around girls? No problem, sign up here (it’s FREE) and I will give you free access to a bunch of free training videos (check your e-mail for the link) that will teach you how overcome your fear and also what you can say to start and continue a conversation.


  • Chad  

    I feel like girls are just going to say why Are u coming up to talk to me wen I like them and want to get to know them. I feel like my past with them will afflict on everything I try to do towards the girls in my highscool. I went to junior high with them all and I just transferred back to a school with all my friends from grades school after going to a all guys scool for 3 years:( can you help? Please I’m so insecure

    • Hi Chad

      Thanks for your question.

      Yes, if you approach women in a way where you are obviously trying to pick them up, they will treat you that way. However, if you approach them using The Modern Man method, they will be open and friendly with you. Sign in here for free to learn more.


  • ryheem  

    I like a girl but i am not sure what to do or wether to tell her or not .i don’t know how to stat and continue a conversation a might not be funny ariund this girl because i am kinda scared i always know what to do after the chance has passed but not while i have the chance and i need help because i really like this girl ad other guys like her too and are always trying to or talking to her .i need some help and advice.!!!!!!!!!!!

  • Severus  

    I have some questions to ask, hence my frequent commenting.

    Do you think it is a good idea to ask a woman out on the first meeting? I think so because even if it is in class, it is easier because their is more chemistry in the first meeting.

    Just asking for your opinion. Thanks.

  • Simon  

    Hey Dan! I need a nice girl that I can get married to so can u help me out?

    • Hi Simon

      Thanks for your question.

      Of course man. You first need to learn how to attract women, then how to maintain the interest of women and then how to keep a relationship together and then deepen the love, respect and attraction that you feel for each other.

      That is what all of my programs are about. Watch this video to determine your starting point and then get started:


  • John  

    Dan, specifically how do most guys learn how to approach and talk to women in order to attract them in order to get a girlfriend? like most guys have their first girlfriend, lose their virginity in their teenage years, what made them achieve early success with women? what made them know how to create sexual attraction in a woman and flirt with them? was it something they were born with? or was it how they were raised in their childhood, by their parents, social experiences with their friends and peers, what factors made these guys “naturals”, with women? because often times I feel depressed and frustrated because I feel like i’m a disgrace to the male gender for not knowing how to get a girlfriend, I feel this should be common sense for me, overall, specifically, when, where and how do guys learn or get it when it comes to leading and guiding the woman through the flow of a sexual courtship?

    • Hey John

      Thanks for your question.

      Most guys get lucky and fumble their way into relationships with women, which is one of the reasons why there is such a high divorce rate and why I am constantly being asked for help from guys who are trying to get their ex back after ruining the relationship.

      Only a small percentage of guys are as good as I am when it comes to women. The rest are just getting lucky and will usually suffer the consequences. Read:

      You’re not a disgrace to the male gender, you just need to learn a few things to get yourself on the right track. Read:


      • Andrew  

        I wish I could be able to fumble my way into a relationship with an attractive good-looking woman, overall a woman I am strongly sexually attracted to, how do most guys learn or instinctively, know how to do that? are they born with some “gene”, something in their DNA or mind that gives them the confidence, social-skills, conversation-skills that are essential in order to getting a girlfriend? are lot of guys naturally instinctively born knowing how to attract women and getting a girlfriend? or is the way a guy is raised by his family, parents, upbringing, the type of friends and peers he has in his childhood growing up that are all factors that determine how a guys dating life/sex life is gonna be?
        Because you yourself Dan stated that you used to be absolutely hopeless with women, meanwhile to me it doesn’t sound like you were that hopeless because you said you started on this journey after your girlfriend broke up with you, cheated on you, meanwhile I have yet to have a single girlfriend in my all years living on this Earth, I would rather have loved and lost than to never have loved at all even if it means getting cheated on. So i’m wondering, are literally some guys or men meant to be alone, not meant to experience the pleasures of sexual relationships? were not destined to? or can really all of this be learned?

        • Hi Andrew

          I just had a look through the 7 or 8 comments you’ve left on the site so far. Guess what? They are all about things prior to actually approaching women.

          Your main problem is not approaching women and using the techniques you are learning. From now on, start putting the advice into action rather than sitting around thinking “what if.” What if gets you nowhere, while taking action gets you places.

          In this comment for example, you’re asking all sorts of questions about DNA and a guy’s upbringing. Who cares? Yes, those do play a part, but stop making excuses for not approaching women.

          As for destiny: Dude, stop daydreaming and approach women. Big questions about the universe always end with, “Well, we don’t know…it’s fun to think about though, isn’t it.” I love talking about those sorts of topics, but I will not encourage you to waste more time avoiding what you need to do. Approach!


  • Dan  

    So I’m a pretty confident guy with a great job and I’m in shape. I am very comfortable approaching women and talking to them. But I have often found that I don’t get far because of my height. I’m 5’7 and I have been on dates where the girls face will literally drop if she’s even slightly approaching my height in heels. Unfortunately I am not wealthy enough for them to “like me for who I am” and look past it. So I guess what I’m asking, is what use is confidence, success and self belief if at the end of the day, heels and a looming figure to swoon over are what a modern woman prefers?

    • Hi Dan

      Thanks for your question.

      If you have that type of belief about height and women, then you will always see evidence of it. However, if you are willing to look at the small percentage of short guys who are really confident and masculine, but not successful in life, you will notice that they always have a hot woman.

      Yes, most women do not prefer a short guy, but they will happily accept a short guy if he is confident and masculine (in how he thinks, behaves and takes action in life) enough.

      You’ve got to accept the body you are in now and do the best you can with what you’ve got. Or, you can sit around and make excuses. Your choice…


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Dan Bacon - Dating & Relationship Expert

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My name is Dan Bacon and I used to be hopeless with women. I lacked confidence in myself and couldn't get women to like me. Despite being a good, honest guy, women just weren't interested.

When I created the controversial attraction techniques that I now teach here at The Modern Man, beautiful women began flooding into my life and I've enjoyed my choice of women ever since.

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