How to Get a Girlfriend

Are you using outdated strategies to get a girlfriend? It is easy to get a girlfriend in today’s dating environment because the old rules (of getting to know each other first) no longer apply.

The first thing you need to know about how to get a girlfriend is that most women want something happen with you immediately.

Sure, some girls like to take things slower than others, but most modern women want you to escalate to a phone number, date, kiss or sex very quickly. So, getting a girlfriend has never been easier than it is today. Unlike women from the 1950s, today’s women don’t need to spend lots of time “getting to know” you. If you wait too long, another guy (who knows how to get a girlfriend) will take her from you.

Modern women don’t expect you to court them for months like women did 60 or 70 years ago. These days, most women are open to giving you their phone number, kissing you or even having sex with you the first time they meet you. As I said, not all women want sex on the first date or night, but many do. If you find that upsetting, you should leave this website now. You should only continue to read this if you are prepared to accept the truth about women, learn what you need to learn and then get on with enjoying the love, sex and companionship that you seek.

Accept the Truth About Modern Women

If you’ve been searching online for information on how to get a girlfriend and wondering why it is so difficult for you, then you are most-likely unaware of how the modern dating environment works. Relaxed attitudes to premarital sex makes it SUPER easy to get a girlfriend and start having sex immediately. A lot of guys make the mistake of thinking that if they approach a woman, she will be upset, angry or annoyed that he approached. However, the truth is that if she is single and hoping to meet a potential boyfriend, she will be happy that you have approached and offered her the opportunity. If she already has a boyfriend, she will tell you. No big deal. She is not going to be angry and you don’t need to feel rejected. You’re just “checking” to see if she’s available. No big deal.

FACT: We have surveyed more than 6,000 women during the last 7 years and 73% say that men don’t approach women enough anymore. Women also complain that a lot of modern men have become too wimpy and take too long to make something happen.

If you do approach a woman, but don’t follow through to a phone number or even ask her to join you for a coffee (or juice) right then and there, she will actually walk away feeling disappointed and rejected by you. Additionally, if you live in a big city you probably won’t ever run into her again. Ever notice how that happens? So, you need to get in the habit of making something happen immediately. Get a phone number, get her to join you for a quick coffee or if you’ve met her in a bar get her phone number, kiss her or have sex with her that night.

How to Get a Girlfriend: What to Say

If you’re searching for information on how to get a girlfriend, you probably don’t give yourself much opportunity to meet NEW women. The truth is, great opportunities to get a girlfriend are always right in front of you. However, out of fear or laziness, you just let the awesome opportunity slip through your fingers. Don’t do that. Instead, decide to take action by talking to women and giving yourself the opportunity to make a connection. Don’t run away in fear. Don’t hide. Just say SOMETHING to her and get the interaction started.

For example: Imagine you walk into a Starbucks to buy a coffee. After you place your order, you notice an attractive woman waiting for her coffee order to be made. Instead of hiding away from an opportunity to get a girlfriend out of fear or laziness, say something to her!

You: Hey…so, is this your first coffee for the day?
Her: (Whatever she says doesn’t matter. Yes or no – you can still reply in the same way).
You: This is my 10th coffee. I drink 20 cups a day.
Her: (She will laugh and will most likely know that you’re joking).
You: Nah, just kidding…this is my second cup. I think three is enough for one day. I’m ______ (say your name) by the way – what’s your name?

From there, continue the conversation and get her phone number. If you don’t know how to keep the conversation going and get her phone number, I will teach you exactly what to do in every situation you encounter when trying to attract, pick up and date a woman. I have all the answers here at The Modern Man, so you don’t need to waste any more time going around in circles. You can get all the correct advice right now.

How to Get a Girlfriend: Why is it So Difficult For You?

Have you ever noticed that some guys seem to be able to get a girlfriend easily, while others suffer for months or even years without so much as a kiss from a woman? Why do guys like you need to learn how to get a girlfriend, while others are enjoying sex with women right at this moment? It really isn’t your fault. The fact is, while most modern women are no longer shy to give out their phone number or kiss or have sex with a man they’ve just met, they still do make it difficult for guys to pick them up. They behave as though they aren’t interested, they challenge the guy to see if he feels uncomfortable and they tend to reject the guys who are too nice. Why is that?

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  • Steven  

    Good info, mate!

  • Jeffery A. Eskridge  

    I want girlfriend badly because I feel lonely I have no one to hold.

    • Hi Jeffery

      Thanks for your comment.

      Well, watch this video and learn how to get a girlfriend. It’s easy to get a girlfriend and when you sign up to watch my free videos you’ll learn how.


    • keith armstrong  

      i dont seem to get a girl friend i dont no why please can you help thankyou

  • so right  

    once women’s lib took over, it really messed up their head. as a man that was married twice at one time, i was a very caring and loving husband that never cheated on them and both of them cheated on me. i was very committed to them as well. now that i go out, i seem to meet the nastiest women with their no good attitude. i did not do nothing wrong for both of my marriages to have failed. they just turned out to be whores. now i hate being alone and single again, and would like very much to meet the right one this time for me again. it hurts so much not to be loved anymore, and i would like to give love as much as receiving it as well. i would have thought going to the book store would be a lot easier to meet them, but they are a good thirty years younger than me. so where in the world can a good sincere man go to meet a good woman today for me? when i see other couples out there that were lucky enough to have met and have families, it makes me very upset. they should be very thankful for what they have, when men like me are very lonely and have not been that lucky.

  • Kit Quiton  

    So easy to say and practice but so hard to apply. It was very interesting man and very helpful, I just hope I have the courage to actually do it. Thanks man.

    • Hi Kit

      Thanks for your positive feedback.

      Yes, it is difficult for most guys to work up the courage to approach women. That’s what The Modern Man is here to help with. Sign up to my free newsletter and I’ll teach you how to overcome your fears and talk to women anytime, anyplace, anywhere.


  • Priyanshu Kakra  

    hey very good info but feel hard to talk to girls
    thanks buddy

    • Hi Priyanshu

      Thanks. Yes, well you need to build your confidence and learn how to talk to girls. Sign up here and I’ll begin teaching you.


  • abenezer  

    I have this specific girl which i know at school she is at the next section.i know her, she knows me ,just because she knows my sister.i said hi once and she said hi back but she didn’t give me the chance to how am i supposed to make her my girlfriend?please reply.You can even use my email i will provide you details if you need too.

    • Hi Abenezer

      Lol…she didn’t give you the chance to talk? Dude, you make the rules, she follows. You decide when you want to talk to girls, they stop and listen. That is what an alpha male does and that is what women respect. Sign in to my video, audio and article newsletter and learn.


  • Olalekan juninho  

    Pls teach me hw to get a girlfriend

  • vincent  

    hi I hv a problem (am afraid to be close to girls ,wh I get closer I lack words pls

    • Hi Vincent

      Thanks for your question.

      So, you are lost for words when you’re around girls? No problem, sign up here (it’s FREE) and I will give you free access to a bunch of free training videos (check your e-mail for the link) that will teach you how overcome your fear and also what you can say to start and continue a conversation.


  • Chad  

    I feel like girls are just going to say why Are u coming up to talk to me wen I like them and want to get to know them. I feel like my past with them will afflict on everything I try to do towards the girls in my highscool. I went to junior high with them all and I just transferred back to a school with all my friends from grades school after going to a all guys scool for 3 years:( can you help? Please I’m so insecure

    • Hi Chad

      Thanks for your question.

      Yes, if you approach women in a way where you are obviously trying to pick them up, they will treat you that way. However, if you approach them using The Modern Man method, they will be open and friendly with you. Sign in here for free to learn more.


  • ryheem  

    I like a girl but i am not sure what to do or wether to tell her or not .i don’t know how to stat and continue a conversation a might not be funny ariund this girl because i am kinda scared i always know what to do after the chance has passed but not while i have the chance and i need help because i really like this girl ad other guys like her too and are always trying to or talking to her .i need some help and advice.!!!!!!!!!!!

  • Severus  

    I have some questions to ask, hence my frequent commenting.

    Do you think it is a good idea to ask a woman out on the first meeting? I think so because even if it is in class, it is easier because their is more chemistry in the first meeting.

    Just asking for your opinion. Thanks.

  • Simon  

    Hey Dan! I need a nice girl that I can get married to so can u help me out?

    • Hi Simon

      Thanks for your question.

      Of course man. You first need to learn how to attract women, then how to maintain the interest of women and then how to keep a relationship together and then deepen the love, respect and attraction that you feel for each other.

      That is what all of my programs are about. Watch this video to determine your starting point and then get started:


  • John  

    Dan, specifically how do most guys learn how to approach and talk to women in order to attract them in order to get a girlfriend? like most guys have their first girlfriend, lose their virginity in their teenage years, what made them achieve early success with women? what made them know how to create sexual attraction in a woman and flirt with them? was it something they were born with? or was it how they were raised in their childhood, by their parents, social experiences with their friends and peers, what factors made these guys “naturals”, with women? because often times I feel depressed and frustrated because I feel like i’m a disgrace to the male gender for not knowing how to get a girlfriend, I feel this should be common sense for me, overall, specifically, when, where and how do guys learn or get it when it comes to leading and guiding the woman through the flow of a sexual courtship?

    • Hey John

      Thanks for your question.

      Most guys get lucky and fumble their way into relationships with women, which is one of the reasons why there is such a high divorce rate and why I am constantly being asked for help from guys who are trying to get their ex back after ruining the relationship.

      Only a small percentage of guys are as good as I am when it comes to women. The rest are just getting lucky and will usually suffer the consequences. Read:

      You’re not a disgrace to the male gender, you just need to learn a few things to get yourself on the right track. Read:


      • Andrew  

        I wish I could be able to fumble my way into a relationship with an attractive good-looking woman, overall a woman I am strongly sexually attracted to, how do most guys learn or instinctively, know how to do that? are they born with some “gene”, something in their DNA or mind that gives them the confidence, social-skills, conversation-skills that are essential in order to getting a girlfriend? are lot of guys naturally instinctively born knowing how to attract women and getting a girlfriend? or is the way a guy is raised by his family, parents, upbringing, the type of friends and peers he has in his childhood growing up that are all factors that determine how a guys dating life/sex life is gonna be?
        Because you yourself Dan stated that you used to be absolutely hopeless with women, meanwhile to me it doesn’t sound like you were that hopeless because you said you started on this journey after your girlfriend broke up with you, cheated on you, meanwhile I have yet to have a single girlfriend in my all years living on this Earth, I would rather have loved and lost than to never have loved at all even if it means getting cheated on. So i’m wondering, are literally some guys or men meant to be alone, not meant to experience the pleasures of sexual relationships? were not destined to? or can really all of this be learned?

        • Hi Andrew

          I just had a look through the 7 or 8 comments you’ve left on the site so far. Guess what? They are all about things prior to actually approaching women.

          Your main problem is not approaching women and using the techniques you are learning. From now on, start putting the advice into action rather than sitting around thinking “what if.” What if gets you nowhere, while taking action gets you places.

          In this comment for example, you’re asking all sorts of questions about DNA and a guy’s upbringing. Who cares? Yes, those do play a part, but stop making excuses for not approaching women.

          As for destiny: Dude, stop daydreaming and approach women. Big questions about the universe always end with, “Well, we don’t know…it’s fun to think about though, isn’t it.” I love talking about those sorts of topics, but I will not encourage you to waste more time avoiding what you need to do. Approach!


  • Dan  

    So I’m a pretty confident guy with a great job and I’m in shape. I am very comfortable approaching women and talking to them. But I have often found that I don’t get far because of my height. I’m 5’7 and I have been on dates where the girls face will literally drop if she’s even slightly approaching my height in heels. Unfortunately I am not wealthy enough for them to “like me for who I am” and look past it. So I guess what I’m asking, is what use is confidence, success and self belief if at the end of the day, heels and a looming figure to swoon over are what a modern woman prefers?

    • Hi Dan

      Thanks for your question.

      If you have that type of belief about height and women, then you will always see evidence of it. However, if you are willing to look at the small percentage of short guys who are really confident and masculine, but not successful in life, you will notice that they always have a hot woman.

      Yes, most women do not prefer a short guy, but they will happily accept a short guy if he is confident and masculine (in how he thinks, behaves and takes action in life) enough.

      You’ve got to accept the body you are in now and do the best you can with what you’ve got. Or, you can sit around and make excuses. Your choice…



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