If you don't know how to meet women, it is easy to begin feeling lonely, bored and frustrated about your lack of success with women. Instead of kissing and having sex with real women, you have to resort to jerking off to porn every week to calm you desires. When that goes on for a long time, it's only natural that you may begin to feel like a failure as a man.
If you're ready to ditch the lonely masturbation and start hooking up with real women, here are the 5 steps to success:
1. Start Conversations in a Confident, Easy-Going Way
One of my favorite conversation starters is to walk up to a woman in a busy social setting and say, "Hey, I thought I'd come over, be social and say hi...I'm Dan, what's your name?" This type of approach allows women to feel comfortable and not have to worry about you desperately trying to pick them up, like other guys do. When you approach in a confident, easy-going way, most women drop their guard and open up to the conversation. However, if you approach in a nervous or appear intimidated by the women, they will automatically close off to you and the conversation. Why? Women are attracted to the strength in men and turned off by the weakness. This is why confidence is the #1 thing you need to have before you begin trying to meet new women.
Here's a video I made about developing the confidence to approach and meet women:
2. Make Women Feel Sexually Attracted to You
Without sexual attraction, most women that you meet won't be interested in anything more than a quick conversation. If you're lucky, they may like to have you as a friend. If you want to have sex with women instead of just being seen as a friend or being rejected after a few minutes of conversation, make sure that you focus on creating a sexual vibe between you and the woman and making her feel sexually attracted to you. Watch the video below to learn where guys usually mess up when talking to women.
3. Keep Conversations Going and Keep them Interesting
If you can't keep an interesting conversation going for a least 5 minutes, you won't be able to establish a proper connection with most women you meet. Keeping a conversation going for long enough allows the woman to experience more of who you are are begin to fall in love with you. Watch the video below for a more in-depth explanation.
4. Take Things to the Next Level: Phone Number, Kiss, Sex or Date
As long as you've sparked feelings of attraction inside a woman, she will be open to giving you her phone number. One of the keys to meeting women is that you actually move things forward to the next level. For example: Conversation > Phone number, or Conversation > Kiss, or Kiss > Sex. Don't ever wait for a women to suggest the next move. You've got to lead the way by believing in yourself and knowing that if you're being confident around her, she is naturally going to be feeling attraction for you. The more confidence you allow yourself to feel, the more naturally attracted she will be to you.
There's no point learning how to meet women if you don't escalate to sex, a kiss or at least a first date. When meeting new women, many guys make the mistake of just behaving like a friend instead of creating a sexual vibe between themselves and the woman and then escalating to the next level. Women like sex just as much as men, but they usually don't make it as obvious because they don't want to seem easy or "slutty" in your eyes. As a man, it is your responsibility to have the confidence, social intelligence and masculinity to move things to next level.
5. Improve on Your Weak Points
Have you been approaching and meeting women, but not getting any results? This will happen if you are not yet ready to be meeting women. For example: If you lack confidence around women, don't know what to say, don't know how to flirt or are unsure how to go from a conversation to a phone number or to sex that night, then it won't matter how many women you meet - nothing much will happen because women won't feel very compatible with you. When it comes to the topic of how to meet women, one of the first things you need to do is work out the areas that you need improve about yourself (e.g. confidence, conversation, body language, etc) and then when you are ready, you need to get out there and meet women who are compatible with the newer, more improved version of you.
Right now, you will be compatible with certain types of women; most likely the types of women that you don't actually want. If you're like most guys, you want to be able to meet and attract higher quality women, but to do that, you need to make sure that women feel lucky to meet a guy like you. If you try to meet higher quality women, but are intimidated around them or don't know what to say, then you won't really get anywhere and will likely get rejected most times you try. If you do get lucky, it doesn't mean that you will be able to keep the woman in a relationship either. If you're like most guys who get lucky with a woman who is out of their league, you will eventually become clingy, insecure or begin treating her badly when in a relationship. She will then dump you and you will probably be looking online for advice on how to get an ex back.
Here's what happened to me:
What Do You Need to Improve or Learn More About?
Many guys are unsure how to meet women because they have so many unanswered questions, such as:
- Where are the best places to meet women?
- How do I approach women that I don’t know?
- What should I say when I approach women?
- Do I need to say something different if I meet a woman in a mall, compared to a bar?
- How can I get a woman to become interested in me instantly?
- How do I stand out from other guys so women want me instead?
- How can I overcome my fears of approaching and meeting women?
All of these are valid and important questions on the subject of how to meet women. If you need the answers to those questions then, believe me, you need answers to 100s of more questions about approaching, meeting, dating and being in relationships with women. Some guys are naturals at meeting, attracting and keeping quality women whereas other guys need to learn. If you want to learn more about how to meet women, then stick around here at The Modern Man. We have all the answers and are ready to help you succeed with women today.