How to seduce a woman

The basic steps involved in seducing a woman are:

  1. Make her feel sexually attracted to you.
  2. Connect with her on emotional level.
  3. Kiss her.
  4. Have sex with her.

However, as simple as that seems, the truth is that a guy will find it very difficult to seduce a woman if he feels nervous or shy around her, or if he doesn’t know how to flirt and make her feel sexual attraction for him. Why?

Women are attracted to the strength in men (e.g. confidence) and turned off by the weakness (e.g. nervousness, shyness, anxiety, insecurity, etc). The more confident you are as a guy, the more natural and easy it is to seduce a woman. In fact, when you have the level of confidence that an alpha male has, women will try to seduce YOU.

There are many different alpha male traits that women love to see in guys. One simple way of showing her that you are alpha and not like 80% of the guys she meets, is to be a bit of a challenge. Make her work to attracted and to get you really interested in her, then let her have the privilege of having sex with you.

How Confident Are You Around the Types of Women You Want to Seduce?

So, the question is: How confident are you around the types of women you want to seduce? If you lack confidence around a woman and instead show signs of nervousness, shyness and insecurity, don’t expect her to want to have sex with you; she’s not going to be feeling turned on by you.

To seduce a woman, you have to start by making her feel sexually attracted to you. Only after she feels that way, will she then truly open up and want to connect with you emotionally. When that happens, she will want to get physical by kissing you and having sex with you.

Do You Have a Particular Woman in Mind?

Most of the guys who want to know how to seduce a woman already know of a particular woman that they are looking to seduce. Maybe it’s a girl at school, a woman at work, a friend of a friend or even your neighbour.

Whatever the case for you, I am here to help and I will not only show how to seduce this woman into having sex with you, but I will also explain exactly how to seduce new women that you meet. I have personally had sex with more than 250 women, so seducing women into sex and love is something that I know a LOT about.

Guys who come to me for help are often making the mistake of trying to become a woman’s “friend” in the hope that she will eventually want to have sex with him. That storyline works out in the movies in TV drama series, but in real life, an alpha male simply comes along, makes a woman feel sexual attraction to his confidence, flirts with her and then escalates to kissing and sex.

Being really nice to her or trying to be her innocent friend is not only the slowest way to seduce a woman, it is the way that results in REJECTION most of the time.

How to Seduce a Woman Into Love

A common mistake that guys make when they want to seduce a woman into a loving relationship, is thinking that it is all about the “connection’ they have with her. Based on this thinking, the man then tries to become really good friends with the woman and make her see him as a super nice, sweet, loyal, innocent guy.

A good connection is an important part of courting a woman, but if she doesn’t feel sexual attraction for you, then it is simply a friendship. All it will take for you to be slammed further into the dreaded friend zone is for a confident guy to come along, make her feel attraction, connect with her and then escalate to kissing and sex with her.

How to Seduce a Woman Into Seducing You

The guys who enjoy easy, natural and consistent success with women are those who TURN THE TABLES by getting women to seduce them instead. The best part is that women actually WANT it to be that way; they prefer guys who aren’t desperate to be with them.

Have you ever heard a woman say, “I want man who is a challenge” or noticed that the types of guys whom women CHASE AFTER are those who don’t desperately try to impress women? That is not a coincidence.

At The Modern Man, our whole approach to success with women is about switching the roles so that women try to seduce you. It is SO MUCH EASIER this way because when you try hard to seduce a woman like most guys do, she notices and:

a) Puts up her guard.
b) Plays hard to get.
c) Feels like she has more value in the situation.

At The Modern Man, we teach special “undetectable” techniques that you can use to make a woman feel like YOU are the valuable one and that SHE should be chasing you. No doubt you have seen women behave like that around guys who are just normal, average guys right? It happens all the time, but only SOME guys know how to do it.

Most guys think that success with women is all about looks, height, muscles or money. However, we’ve all seen ugly guys hooking up with beautiful women. Why? It’s not about looks for most women…and SOME guys know that.

Are You Serious About Learning How to Seduce Women?

There are millions of “dating advice” sites online that have articles written by men and women who are NOT successful with women. They are just making up their tips as they type because they want to have a lot of articles on their site.

That’s where The Modern Man is different.

We are actual experts at approaching, talking to and seducing women. Everything that we teach here at The Modern Man has been TESTED by us in our own lives and by our 1,000s of happy customers from all over the world.

If you want real advice on how to seduce women, don’t go looking on random websites for “tips” from anyone who can write text on a website. If you want to learn how to seduce women for real, then consider learning from real experts like us.

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  • ahmed suleiman  

    I have this problem of seducing a last girlfriend left me for this problem after all the sacrifices. We dated for 4 years and after everything she say that she can’t continue wit me, lets b friends. I was heartbroken for 6 months. After that i tried seducing some ladies but i found out that i was the one that gets hurt at d end. Pls hlp me on this issue.

    • Hi Ahmed

      Thanks for your comment.

      Sounds like you need to read this article on getting an ex girlfriend back.

      Also, make sure you sign up to get my free videos on seducing women. I will teach you how to:

      * Build more confidence around women.
      * Seduce a woman during a normal, every day conversation.
      * Approach women and get them turned on by using secret body language.
      * Make a woman so attracted and turned on by you that she makes the first move.


  • richard m  

    Alright. There’s this girl that IV been like the best of friends with for about 5 years. Never was I a pushy type or always wanting to be around her every second of every day. But I have always had VERY strong feelings for her. We have been very close even tho she was dating someone else most of the time. And every now and then we would break out in some hot make out sessions but I never tried to push it. And then about 2 months ago. We just were watching a movie like all the other times and somhhow started kissing then she wanted to have sex(finally). It was al gravy for about a month then beetween me Being jelous of one of her Guy friends kinda made drama beetween us. We were not dating but we were with no one else either. Well I thunk she got a little freaked about my feelings for her after I told her. And now she’s cut me off from everything. Were still hanging out and I’m acting the same as I was before we ever had sex. But this girl really is everything to me. She’s not with anyone else but were really trying to work things out. She told me she doesn’t have feelings but I know for a fact she does. All her friends tell me that she dose like/ love me. Idk what to do. I really just want us back together

    • Hi Richard

      Thanks for your question.

      The main mistakes you made:

      1. You took too long to have sex with her.

      We’re no longer living in the 1920s. Today, most women are totally open to having sex with a guy quite quickly (the first night, the first date or after a couple of dates). You said that you were never a “pushy type”, but escalating things to kissing and sex is the NORMAL protocol in the modern world. If you wait too long, the woman assumes you either are too afraid to make a move, you don’t like her or – even worse – you might like men instead.

      2. She is everything to you.

      You said that you weren’t trying to be around her every second of every day, but secretly you wanted to be. Women CAN and DO pick up on this and it turns them off. While it is nice and flattering for a woman to have a man who is extremely interested in her, she will get frustrated if she becomes the entire focus of his life. Women don’t want a man who hides from the world by only focusing on his relationship with her. She wants to see that you are being a man and taking on the world (e.g. advancing in your career, following your dreams, etc) AS WELL AS loving her and having a relationship with her.

      3. You told her you had “feelings” for her.

      If you want to be successful with a woman, you need to make her so attracted to you that SHE tells you she has feelings for YOU first. Ever heard a woman say, “I want a man who is a challenge” and noticed that they reject the super keen guys all the time? This isn’t an accident. A woman wants to be the one who is lusting after YOU. Sign up now to get free videos, audio clips and secret reports from me on the right way to seduce a woman.


  • Nick  

    Hey man, how you doing? Well theres this girl I meet not to long ago. I got her number the first day I met her because she was fairly new to the area. I texted her a few times but to no avail. I see her amost everyday, but I only talk to her when I ‘feel social’. I just don’t no how to escalate sexually and get women to feel sexual attraction to me so I don’t talk so I won’t embarass myself. Basically, what my question is how do I fix this problem?

    • Hi Nick

      Thanks for your question.

      Women are sexually attracted to a man’s confidence and masculinity. To find out if she feels sexual attraction you need to flirt with her. When she flirts back, she is telling you that she feels it. If you want to learn more about confidence, masculinity and flirting – sign up for my free videos and start learning.


  • Tom H.  

    Theres a girl I’ve been trying to date for about I guess a month. When I first saw her I knew I had to talk to her, but I didn’t that day because I was in a rush. Anyway long story short I finally spoke with her and got her number. We talk every now and then but now what? I try to play hard to get, by not running over to speak to her when I see her. I don’t call or text all the time like I used to with a previous girl. Honestly, I don’t know if what I’m doing is right or wrong. A buddy of mines who’s good with women said act like you don’t care. And quite frankly i dont think i know what that is. I dont know what to do, can you steer me in the right direction.

    • Hi Tom

      Thanks for your question.

      No amount of talking will ever do what a kiss or sex will. A kiss changes things from friendly to sexual and then sex deepens the connection. You need to stop wasting time talking to this girl and at least kiss her. The sexual tension that would have existed early on when you first got her phone number has now died by the sound of it because all you’ve been doing is talking. All it will take for you to lose your opportunity with her is another guy to come along and kiss her (or have sex with her) and she’ll then forget you or place you in the “friend zone.”

      BTW: You can’t “play hard to get” with a woman who doesn’t care if she loses you or not. You need to make her so attracted to you that SHE desperately wants something to happen and then YOU need to make a move and kiss her. If you don’t know how, sign up and I will teach you.


  • gaurav trivedi  

    what to say to a girl to come in relationship with me and how i convince her to talk to me ?

    • Hi Gaurav

      Thanks for your question.

      It’s not about what you say to a woman, it is about how you make her FEEL. You have to make a woman feel attraction for you via your confidence, humor, flirting, body language, masculinity AND conversation. It’s not just about conversation.

      Also, you can’t “convince” a woman to like you. She has to feel attraction for you and THEN she will “like” you. If you don’t know how to make a woman feel attraction, sign up to watch my free videos now.


  • Adam  

    Hey, i need ur help. I have tried to make girlfriends to have sex but i always failed. I tried on first girl. I created s0me situati0n that she c0mes excited to me to know who i am and it worked. Due to s0me backstabbers she came to kn0w that i like her and she told me that she just wants to be frnd. Later 0n she got in relati0nship with other g0od lo0king sporty guy. Then i tried to go slow 0n an0ther girl by making an impressi0n that i am caring, friendly, c0nfident but she also wanted to be frndz and n0t m0re than that. I proposed her after 7 m0nths but i again failed. What is wr0ng with me that i cant get a date? Is it because i have average l0oks? Plz help me. The 2nd girl is n0t talking to me even after proposal but she told she wants to talk but i dnt knw y she isn’t. What can i do to get her back and have relati0nship? What do i say? Plz help

    • Hi Adam

      Thanks for your question.

      This is a perfect example of why most guys get rejected when they try to “ask a woman out.” Women don’t want to see that you’re a caring guy or hear that you like them UNTIL they are attracted to you. You have to ATTRACT women first, then work on building a connection and THEN you escalate things to a kiss, phone number or date.

      Also, you asked “Is it because i have average looks?” Of course not! Don’t be silly. You see average and BELOW average looking guys with beautiful girlfriends ALL THE TIME. True? How many times have you seen an “ugly” or average looking guy with a hot woman and thought, “What?? How did he get her?”

      It happens all the time. Watch this video to find out why.


  • osho  

    Man… you are awesome. You see I’ve got a friend. She was my best friend a long time back. We used to talk about everything so openly,
    but nowadays I don’t have much contact with her. Just text… but at the same time I started having strong feelings for her. She’s got a boyfriend too now, but they do fight always. Is there any chance for me?

    • Hi Osho

      Thanks for your question and positive feedback.

      If you want to have a woman as your GIRLFRIEND you should not act like her FRIEND. The guy who became her boyfriend would have done what you failed to do when you began having feelings for her; he would have kissed her and had sex with her.

      Kissing changes things from being friendly to sexual. Sex deepens the connection and begins the relationship. NO AMOUNT of talking will ever do what a kiss or sex does to a relationship.

      If she does break up with her boyfriend, make sure you watch my videos to find out how to make her your girlfriend:


  • Josue  

    Hey Dan. You really seem to know what you’re doing I can see that a lot of what you’re saying is true. Now I’m not looking for anything serious at the moment. I just want to “shop around” and have women want to have sex with me. I have no problem approaching women and initiating conversation and sending out that “attraction” vibe but once I’m past that initial part I don’t know what to do next. I’m stuck and it usually ends up at an awkward “stalemate” how do I fix this problem? Another problem I have is sometimes I’m not sure how to flirt sometimes to get them to come after me. Can you help me?

    • Hi Josue

      Thanks for your positive feedback and question.

      Most guys don’t know about it, but there is actually a natural process that you need to follow to go from a conversation to sex and into a relationship. It is literally a step-by-step thing that you can follow. The reasons you’re getting stuck at a certain level:

      1) You’re waiting for VERY obvious signals from the woman. Almost as though you’re hoping she’ll say, “Kiss me” or “Let’s go have sex”
      2) You’re unaware that most women would rather MISS OUT on a sexual encounter with a man than be the one to take on the masculine role and make the first move. A woman will only give you a certain “window of time” to make a move before she loses interest.

      In terms of flirting during conversation, log in and watch the first free video I provide. I give examples of how to flirt and keep conversations going with women you meet.


  • madhu  

    How do I sex a woman who let me touch her breast but deny me sex? I’ve been trying lot but unsuccessfully. How do I have sex with her?

  • Maurice B.  

    I have a girlfriend and been together off and on for 13yrs. Its so hard to seduce her either she isnt in the mood so I face several rejections and i even know when she is the mood..please help me

  • Innocent  

    I seduced my girlfriend but she did not accepted to go with me into the bedroom inorder to play sex with her and i tried any way but failed upto now so i don’t know which technique to use coz her parent are very rude so she can not get enough time to meet me.

  • Raj  

    Hey Dan,

    I have been knowing a girl for 20 months now. We met thru facebook and started getting close day by day, sharing all the secrets. She was very easy going, over friendly, she had some bfs too, which she’d discuss with me. After sometime she had bad times with the guy and she broke off, she had issues with professional life too, and we got closer. She came over to my place to meet me once and we had long rides n nice fun..Everything was fine until her parents got her engaged, and she had to do it. She asked me to meet her once but before i cud go, she started avoiding me and we fought and i didnt meet her. again after a few days, she started missing me and we were back again.. somehow i convinced her to meet again, she was ready but now she behaves strange agian..Anyways im going. I wished her in my life but she is not ready, just friends is all, she wants. How can I have sex with her once, I like her so much. Im a virgin. Dont want to have a regret missing her.

  • tatoo  

    i want to have sex with a lady, she talk with me sincerely. i got attracted to her, is she attract towards me or not? how to get her to have sex with me

  • Mbae  

    Hi bro, I have never had a girl friend all my life. i would like to get a girlfriend for marriage. I have a girl i have always longed to have in my life and she is a good christian friend in church. Just recently, i approached her but she confessed that she does not have any feelings towards me and cannot be my girlfriend. Do i leave her, give her time and interact more? Am a bit torn on going on with her or looking for another one. Thank you.

  • buchy  

    i have been having sex with my girl though when we just started dating she told me she didnt want us to be having sex in our relationship. Of late we are not having sex she has become so resistive and am not liking it i feel like breaking up with her though she tells me she loves me. What should i d?

  • rajat  

    hey buddy thnx for ur this article
    i need ur help…
    I love a girl but she is committed with someone else. We both are good friends from last 4 mnth. I had tried hard to make her mine ;done flirting,play with her;
    but i lost all the hope. My looks are like an average boy and her boyfriend is a little bit more smarter than me. Would you plz help me out.
    What techniques i should use to make her mine

  • Kuku Butrus  

    Hi guys? I ,ve a girlfriend that i really love but when i try to meet her ,she fears 2 meet me even also fears to talk 2 me in the phone.When i meet her accidently ,her body dances what w’d be the problem?

  • leumas  

    this is very good, but i am still having problems with my girlfriend, she is 18 now and we have been going for two years but still cant have her in bed

  • Zenith kingswitcth  

    My gal does nt luv me bt i do.i don’t knw hw to kiss her am shy over her reaction,pls help me

  • Bayo  

    I jst met a girl but we re working in the same company and i asked her to date me.she said she is not interested that we can be friends i instantly reject it that we re not friends and she said are we enemies and i said is better we re enemies and she said she wont greet me again jokingly and i said fine.The nxt morning we jam each other we didnt greet each the afternoon she greeted like we re playing a mind game and i dont what to do next

  • Almaggedon  

    Hi,i met a lady that i cherish alot but she is in love with a friend of mine and she told my friend,am nice looking guy but i can’t express myself in front of her,am coward,timid,slow to her liking and am not confident so what should i do to win her and to let me look attractive to her,how i can kiss and seduce her to bed.

  • Ayoola  

    I av a girl dat i love but when i try 2 move closer 2 or even kiss or other trick she would ignore me and take my hand away 4rm hers wat should i do 2 av sex wit her

  • Mr.X  

    Hey Dan!

    I have this girl who is my ex gf.we havent been in touch for 9 months,but we occasionally talk to each other,say once in a month.The problem is-she has made me her ‘brother’, as girl sometimes do,but i love her ‘sexually’ and sometimes she shows signs of this too…. i am very confused what to do… i failed in all the tests because of this…

  • Aamir Khan  

    Hi Dan,I love a girl who is married and she is my colleague she is very friendly and she love the way i carry myself, even she carry her self very well,please give me tips to get her on bed and how should i know that she want to have sex with me.

  • Ralph  

    hello thanks for dis opportunity. everytime i ask a lady out dey usually turn me down. im tired dey dont seems to have interest in me

  • sheriff  

    yow dude these methods are awesome

  • mike  

    hey dan!!
    I met a girl on twitter and we started to talk and we have been dating for 5 months then she just stopped talking to me idk if I upset her or not we have never had sex but Ik she wants to idk what to do plz help me

    • Hi Mike

      Talking for 5 months and you didn’t have sex with her?? Dude, she slept with someone else. You waited way too long. Read my book and learn how to go from a conversation to sex. Log in here.


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My name is Dan Bacon and I used to be hopeless with women. I lacked confidence in myself and couldn't get women to like me. Despite being a good, honest guy, women just weren't interested.

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