What's Your Idea of Fun?

Many modern men are facing lonliness, boredom and frustration because a major component is lacking in their life. What is it? Read on to find out...

When do you have the MOST fun? Is it when you are bored and alone on the couch? I'm guess that your answer would be a certain NO. So, when DO you have the most fun?

Personally, I think that fun is BEST when it's shared with others. Sure, it's great to be alone sometimes...but, not lonely. If you stop now and think back to all the fun times you've had in life, I'm pretty sure most - if not all of them - would have been around friends, family, a girlfriend or other people you know.

Here's the thing though...

If that's the case, then why do so many modern men HIDE away from socializing? Why do people avoid the happiness that comes with having fun with others? The answer to that would require a huge explanation. So, instead I'll give this some more context by telling you about a movie I saw recently. It's a bit of an 'extreme' example of hiding away from socializing, but it raises some interesting points.

The movie is called 'Into the Wild', with the main actor being Emile Hirsch. It was made a few years back now and is based on a true story. He basically thinks that being a part of society is a scam and he'd rather be by himself to explore life and be with his own thoughts. We could debate that topic all day, but we won't...I'll continue on here. As the story unfolds, you begin to see that he is not alone...he is lonely.

Near the end of the movie (I won't spoil it for you by saying what happens), he has a massive realization and writes down the following 6 words, "Happiness is only real when shared."

Very powerful.

Although I don't agree 100% with that, I do think that happiness is often BEST when shared. Now, at this point you might be wondering what the 'moral of the story' is in this article and where I'm going with it. In case you haven't already thought ahead and worked it out, let me tell you: Many modern men avoid socializing.

For a lot of guys, it seems like the LESS social interaction they can have the BETTER. However, this not only leads to a shrinking circle of friends and a boring lifestyle - but it also keeps these men AWAY FROM WOMEN. I remember coaching a guy once who came to me complaining about not being able to get a girlfriend for the previous 3 years. When I asked him about his lifestyle, I found that he went to work during the week, came home and ate dinner, watched TV and browsed the net until it was time to go to bed... almost every night.

On the weekends, he caught up with his friend and they kept to themselves. He and his friend went out to bars, events, etc...but, they generally kept to themselves anyway. ...and he was wondering WHY he couldn't get a girlfriend! It was no surprise to me that he was ALSO a guy who suffered from 'that one special girl I've always liked' syndrome. Meaning, he'd met a girl YEARS AGO who showed him some interest...and he was still hung up on her.

He and the girl stayed in touch sometimes, but nothing ever happened. Well, nothing happened in his life...she on the other hand was dating other guys. He often talked about her with his friend, going over and over what he'd done right and wrong. Meanwhile, he was SURROUNDED by millions of women in his city...but, none of the women were ending up in his bedroom.

Why?

Over the years, I've found that the guys who avoid meeting new people often are the ones who struggle the most with women. Their life becomes SMALL and they only know a 'few people'...often, NONE of which can introduce them to single women. However, not ALL guys are like that. Over the years, I've also been lucky enough to meet a lot of guys who are NATURALLY good with women. EACH and EVERY time, these are the kinds of guys who start conversations with people ANYWHERE and EVERYWHERE.

If they are in a shop, they will start talking to the shop assistants...then, next thing you know - some of the browsing customers get involved too. Then all of a sudden, the natural is getting a phone number from either the female shop assistant or a female customer. These guys NEVER complain about not being able to meet women...and it's pretty obvious why.

However, what if you're not used to talking to people in your everyday life?

What if you're the sort of guy who keeps to himself most of the time? CHANGE. Keeping to yourself will only do one thing: Keep you to yourself. I believe that fun is often the best when it's shared with others...especially when you're sharing the fun with beautiful women, who love you and want to be with you. It's a big part of what being a man is all about.

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	Article by Dan Bacon. Founder and lead dating coach for TheModernMan.com
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