Here’s what we recommend you do:
1. Let her feel a NEW type of attraction for you that will reawaken her sexual and romantic interest
In most cases, a woman won’t consider divorcing her husband unless she feels that she can no longer look up to him, respect him, feel sexually attracted to him and love him as her man.
So, if you want to restore your broken marriage, you first need to get clear on what caused your wife to disconnect from her feelings for you.
You then need to quickly prepare yourself to offer her a new and exciting attraction experience that will reawaken the desire and romance inside of her and make her want to be with you again.
An example of a new attraction experience is starting to be more of a playful challenge (i.e. playfully refusing to do things she asks, sometimes not answering her questions in a straightforward manner), rather than being a yes man, or a neutral man who just goes along with everything she wants like a friend.
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So, in terms of re-attracting her in a new, refreshing way, here are some questions to ask yourself that will help you begin figuring out where you’ve gone wrong and what you need to do now to re-attract her:
- Did you continue to display the behaviors and personality traits that first attracted your wife to you, or did all that change after you and her got married (e.g. were you initially confident, emotionally strong and someone she could always depend on, but after a while, you became insecure, unsure of yourself and unreliable)?
- Did you stick to making her feel like a beautiful, desirable woman throughout the marriage, or did you gradually start treating her more like a buddy or roommate?
- Did you make her feel loved, appreciated and valued in the relationship with you, or did you take her for granted and made her feel like she was in last place in your life after your work, hobbies, friends or interests?
- Were you and her actively working towards the same goals for your future together as a couple, or were you each pursuing different things?
- Did you take the lead in the relationship thereby allowing your wife to relax into thinking, feeling, acting and behaving like a feminine woman around you, of did she have to be the emotionally stronger one in the relationship and carry the burden of all the responsibilities in the marriage?
- Did you continue to reach for your true potential as a man and make progress on your goals in life (e.g. finish your studies, work towards a promotion, start your own business), or did you become lazy and un-ambitious once you and her got married?
The better your understanding you have of what caused your marriage to break down, the faster you can change your approach to how you interact with your wife from now on.
When you begin to think, behave, act and respond to her in ways that reawaken her sexual and romantic feelings for you, she won’t be able to stop herself from feeling drawn to you again.
When that happens, her defenses begin to come down and she feels more open to the idea of fixing your broken marriage.
On the other hand, if you don’t re-spark some of her feelings for you first, she’s not going to feel motivated to give you another chance.
She will then likely go through with the divorce if she hasn’t already, or if you and her are currently divorced, she will focus even more on fully getting over you and finding herself a new man.
Another tip for restoring a broken marriage is…
2. Stop setting off negative chain reactions while you still can
What is a negative chain reaction?
Basically, it’s a bad habit or behavior that gets built up over time to become a major issue in a relationship.
In the same way, a positive chain reaction is a good habit or behavior that gets repeated over time to the point where it becomes an unbreakable link in the relationship.
For example: A negative chain reactions is…
A guy becomes unsure of himself and his value to his woman.
This then has the effect of making him worry about losing her and he begins to think things like, “What if she meets another guy who makes her feel more attracted? What if she decides to leave me for him?”
Those insecure feelings then lead to him feeling jealous of any relationships she has with other men (e.g. at work or university, online, at the gym).
From there, he might begin spying on her (e.g. checking her phone to see who she’s texting, checking her social media posts, listening in on her phone conversations).
As a result, he becomes more and more controlling.
This causes her to feel smothered by him and she naturally starts to lose respect for him as a man.
When she stops respecting him, she also ceases to feel attraction for him.
Their sex life then starts to suffer as well, because she no longer wants to sleep with a man she doesn’t feel attracted to.
Inevitably, her love for him also begins to fade away and by this point, it’s only a matter of time before the relationship breaks down completely and she walks out on him.
As you can likely see, the whole process was a chain reaction of negative events.
Now, the opposite of a negative chain reaction is a positive chain reaction.
An example of that is where a guy is confident and self-assured.
No matter what his woman says or does to make him feel insecure about himself around her (e.g. she teases him, throws tantrums, disagrees with him just to get a reaction out of him), he just remains emotionally strong.
He also uses humor to ease any tension between them and then he assertively, yet lovingly, puts her back in her place.
As a result, she feels a strong surge of renewed respect and attraction for him for being a ballsy, emotionally masculine man with her.
This then makes her put in even more effort to be a good, loving devoted woman to him.
In return he treats her well and makes her feel loved and appreciated.
The marriage then naturally grows stronger and neither of them ever feel the need to break up, because being in a committed relationship with each other is where they feel the happiest and most fulfilled.
So, as you can see, your actions and behavior will either build on your marriage and make it stronger, or erode it until it’s left in pieces.
This is why, if you want to restore your broken marriage and get back to the point where you and your wife are happy, in love and want to stay together for life, you have to stop setting off negative chain reactions and begin creating positive ones instead.
In other words, you need to get in the habit of doing the right things from now on.
That means, when it comes to building your wife’s feelings of respect, attraction and love for you, you need to make sure that you say and do the types of things that spark those feelings inside of her over and over again (e.g. by being confident, emotionally masculine, ballsy, more of a challenge, you make her feel feminine and girly), rather than turning her off (e.g. by being insecure, jealous, controlling, emotionally sensitive, clingy, needy, wimpy, treating her like a neutral friend).
The more you can replace negative chain reactions with positive ones, the more open your wife will become to giving you another chance.
Then, not only can you restore your broken marriage, you will also be able to make it last a lifetime.
Another tip for restoring a broken marriage is…
3. Use a new approach to communication that makes both you and her really enjoy talking to each other again
A common mistake that guys make when trying to fix their marriage is using interactions with their wife to talk about all the issues and problems in the relationship.
In cases like that, a guy might repeatedly go on and on about what he thinks their problems are, how sorry he is for his mistakes and how he believes they can fix things, in the hope that this will convince her not to walk away for good.
Yet, rather than making her think, “He really seems to be motivated to fix our marriage. I guess, after everything we’ve been through together I owe it to him to at least try. Besides, he’s being so sweet…” she instead feels stressed out by the constant reminder of how bad things really are between them.
She then closes up and possibly even walks away, leaving the guy thinking things like, “What just happened? What did I do? I was making the effort to try and fix out marriage and she just got up and left. What is her problem?”
Her problem is that his approach to communication wasn’t making her feel like she wanted to be around him.
Instead, she felt so tense and annoyed that she just wanted to get as far away from him as possible.
Of course, that doesn’t mean you should avoid talking about the problems in your marriage completely.
It’s just better to first focus on making conversations with your wife more enjoyable, rather than always dwelling on the negative.
The more you use humor to lighten the mood between you and make her feel relaxed and happy to be around you, the more likely it is that she will want to discuss ways to fix the marriage.
On the other hand, if you make the communication between you and her all about what went wrong and what you both have to do to restore your marriage, she may remain closed off.
By the way, making her laugh and smile doesn’t mean you have to crack jokes all the time and not be serious, it simply means you take the pressure off the both of you to get back together again, so that things aren’t so tense and strained all the time.
When you get your wife laughing and feeling good, she stops focusing so much on the negatives about you and the relationship.
From there, reconnecting with her feelings of respect and attraction for you becomes a lot more possible.
So, just get her laughing and smiling to help her relax enough to drop her guard and open herself up to the idea of working on fixing your marriage.
Another tip for restoring a broken marriage is…
4. Take the blame for your mistakes without expecting anything back from her
Everyone makes mistakes in a relationship sometimes.
That doesn’t make you a bad person, it just makes you human.
So, don’t be afraid to go ahead and take the blame for your mistakes.
For example: You might say something along the lines of, “Hey, I just want you to know that I accept responsibility for my mistakes. I know I stuffed up and there were times where I let you down by being too needy/irresponsible/closed off/immature. For that I am truly sorry and even though I know you probably won’t believe me right now, I want you to know that I’m not that man anymore. I’ve made a point of learning from my mistakes, because I never want to hurt you again.”
Of course, don’t say that to your wife expecting her to say something like, “Yeah, I made mistakes too. I’m sorry. Let’s forget about everything and get back together again,” because she probably won’t do that.
However, if she loves you, she will naturally begin to admit her mistakes.
That might happen right after you’ve admitted your mistakes to her first, or it might take some time for her to process everything before she’s ready to do that.
On the other hand, if she’s worried about you using her mistakes against her, she might not say anything.
However, it’s important for you to lead the way by being emotionally brave.
Even if your wife doesn’t admit to her mistakes, she will almost certainly feel respect for you for having the balls to do it.
When she respects you, she naturally starts to feel attracted to you again and with those two emotions in place, reconnecting with her feelings of love becomes something she’s more willing to do than she was before.
You and her can then work on restoring your marriage.
Note: Don’t make the mistake of taking the blame for everything and making her out to be perfect.
By doing that you’re not only rewarding your wife for her bad behavior, you’re also causing her to lose more respect for you for sucking up to her when you know that she was partly to blame.
So, just say what you need to say and then focus on using the rest of your interaction with her to build on her sexual and romantic feelings for you by behaving in ways that are naturally attractive to her (e.g. confident, charismatic, ballsy).
The more you do that, the more you will be able to rebuild the trust, respect and love between you and her and fix your marriage.
Another tip for restoring a broken marriage is…
5. Don’t become neutral towards her
It’s understandable that when a marriage is broken, a guy might feel that in order to convince his wife to give the relationship another chance, he has to be on his best behavior around her.
As a result, he might stick to always being nice and polite and friendly with her and pretend that he’s no longer interested in her in a sexual and romantic way.
In his mind he might even justify his behavior by thinking things like, “I want her to feel comfortable around me rather than like I’m trying to pressure her into giving our marriage another chance. When she sees that I’m not pushing her into anything, she will relax around me and that might open her up to the idea of getting back together again. However, if I come on too strong (i.e. give her the impression that I want her back), she might clam up and then I will lose her for real.”
Yet, here’s the thing…
If your wife has left you, it’s only a matter of time before other men will start hitting on her and making her feel sexy.
So, while you’re being nice and neutral towards her, she’s likely going to think something like, “It’s quite obvious that my marriage is over and my husband has lost interest in me, so why should I stay faithful to him when there are other guys out there who still find me attractive. I deserve to be made to feel desirable and since it’s clear he’s not going to make me feel that way anymore, I’m going to open myself to finding someone who will.”
So, if you don’t want that to happen, make sure that you actively spark her feelings for you during interactions, rather than being too neutral and giving her the impression that you’ve lost interest in her.
Don’t pretend that you only want to be her friend and that you’re not interested in being her husband and lover again and expect her to remain loyal to you.
You have to make her want you again sexually and romantically and when you do, the relationship will naturally get back together again.
On the other hand, stick around being neutral and she’ll almost certainly find someone else who can spark her feelings.
Another tip for restoring a broken marriage is…
6. Don’t go to counseling
When a guy feels stuck and like nothing he’s tried so far to convince his wife to give their marriage another chance has worked (e.g. he’s had long discussions with her about what he needs to change to make her happy again, bought her flowers and gifts, promised her he will do whatever she wants if she gives him one more chance) he may then start thinking that counseling is the only way to restore their broken marriage.
Yet, even though the media has led couples to believe that counseling is the solution to all their problems, it’s not.
In fact, counseling can even cause a relationship to become unfixable, rather than restore it.
Why?
Counselors usually make it out to be the man’s fault and, due to political correctness, essentially tell him to be the opposite of what is attractive to a woman (i.e. be even nicer, listen more, do the housework for her).
However, that only leads to more problems in the marriage, because when a woman gets the sense that her man is too submissive and wimpy and afraid to assert his will with her, she stops respecting him.
When she doesn’t respect him, she also can’t feel attracted to him and then the motivation to fix their relationship disappears.
So, if you want to restore your broken marriage, but can’t see a way to do it other than to go to counseling, there is.
When you actively make your wife have some positive feelings for you again (i.e. respect, attraction, love), the idea of fixing your relationship begins to feel like something she would like to do.
By the way…
Here are 5 simple steps to reactivating your wife’s feelings for you again:
Show her via your attitude, conversation style, actions and behavior that you’ve fully understood her real, hidden reasons for breaking up with you.
If you haven’t already done so, apologize to her for your mistakes. (Just make sure you don’t grovel or take all the blame for everything that happened.)
Show her that you’ve begun to level up as a man (e.g. you’re more confident, you’re more emotionally independent, you’re more emotionally mature).
Use every interaction you have with her from now on, whether over the phone, or in person, as an opportunity to make her smile, laugh, feel attracted, feel feminine and girly and feel good to be interacting with you again.
Then, gently guide her back into a relationship with you.
When she experiences the new you, she will naturally start to feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you.
That then opens her up to restoring your marriage, because losing you no longer appeals to her.
Another tip for restoring a broken marriage is…
7. Be careful about asking her for advice on what you should change
For many guys, asking their wife for advice on how they can change and improve makes perfect sense.
After all, she’s the one who is unhappy in the marriage, so if she asks for what she wants and then gets it, she will be happy and the marriage will be restored, right?
Wrong.
Here’s the thing…
Even though some women won’t take advantage of a moment like that, some will.
These women will use a guy’s vulnerability in that moment to gain power over him (e.g. she might make unreasonable requests to see how far she can push him).
Yet, the funny thing is, that when a woman like that gets power over her man, it doesn’t necessarily make her want to be with him.
Why?
In a relationship, if a guy hands his power over to a woman, she won’t be able to respect him anymore.
If she can’t respect him, she won’t be able to feel sexually attracted to him and without those two things in place, restoring the marriage doesn’t feel like the right thing for her to do.
On the other hand, a woman who doesn’t want to get power over her husband will also lose respect for him if he asks her for advice on what he needs to change. Why?
Here’s the thing…
A woman wants to know that her man is able to figure out what he has been doing wrong by himself and then take action to make the necessary changes to his thinking and behavior.
What she doesn’t want is for him to force her into the role of being his teacher and telling him how he needs to think, act and behave to maintain her respect, attraction and love.
Basically, she wants a guy who is already a man, so she can just relax and love him.
So, if you want to restore your broken marriage, you need to show your wife that you can give her what she wants, without needing to ask her to help you figure it out.
When you can do that, you will instantly regain a lot of her original respect and attraction for you.
Her guard will then come down and then making your marriage work again will be something she wants to do.
3 Mistakes to Avoid When Restoring a Broken Marriage
When your approach is right, regaining your wife’s respect, attraction and love is actually pretty easy to do.
However, when your approach is wrong, you end up turning her off even more.
This is why, you need to make sure you don’t make any of the following mistakes:
1. Hoping that showing her how sad and lonely you are, will make her want you back
That can work if your wife is still in love with you and attracted to you.
However, if she has disconnected from her sexual and romantic feelings for you, she may feel turned off by what she perceives as your emotional weakness and your inability to cope with a stressful situation like a real man.
She may then decide that you’re not the kind of guy she wants to be married to anymore and rather than try to restore your broken marriage, she will focus on getting over you and moving on.
So, if you want your wife to feel motivated to get back with you, make sure that you show her that even though you still love her and want to be married to her, you’re not falling apart without her.
When she can see that you’re confident, happy and emotionally fulfilled even though the marriage is in disarray, she will naturally and automatically feel respect and attraction for you.
You can then build on her feelings and make her want to be your wife again.
Another mistake to avoid making is…
2. Getting into long, drawn out and exhausting discussions with her, rather than just re-attracting her
Nothing that you can say to a woman will make her change her mind if she has lost touch with her feelings for you.
So you having long, drawn out, emotional, tiring conversations with her is not going to have the effect on her that you’re likely hoping for (i.e. that she feels motivated to work on the relationship).
A better approach is if you simply focus on creating a spark inside of her again, rather than trying to convince her with all of your logical reasons why you and her should restore your broken marriage (e.g. for the sake of the children, you will do better this time, you love her).
When she’s feeling respect and attraction for you again, she will naturally want to make things work for her own reasons (e.g. she doesn’t want to regret it later on if she leaves you, she realizes she still loves you).
Another mistake to avoid making is…
3. Becoming her texting buddy while she secretly begins moving on behind your back
If you settle for just being your wife’s texting buddy and not ever talking to her over the phone or seeing her in person, don’t be surprised if the relationship breaks down completely and she moves on with someone else.
Here’s the thing…
If you want to restore your broken marriage, you have to take action and lead the way.
That means, it’s up to you to reactivate your wife’s sexual and romantic feelings for you, so that she wants your marriage to work as much as you do.
That’s not going to happen if you stick to nice or neutral texting.
Remember: Texting is fine when a woman is in love with you and perceives you in a positive light.
However, when she has disconnected from her feelings for you, anything you say via text, no matter how sincere, can easily be misinterpreted (e.g. you might say that you love her and rather than feel flattered, she may assume you’re just being selfish and thinking only about your feelings and what you want).
So, to avoid that from happening and to speed up the process of getting her back, make sure you talk to her over the phone and then meet up with her in person.
When you meet up with her, focus on making her laugh and smile and feel good to be around you again.
The more respect and attraction she feels when she interacts with you in person, the more she starts to believe that you’re not going to suddenly revert back to being the same guy you were before.
It then becomes difficult for her to say no to the idea of restoring your broken marriage, because she’s feeling good around you now and she doesn’t want to lose you.
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