In this post, I will be teaching you how to get your ex-girlfriend back.
One thing I want to point out right up-front is that each situation is different, so you shouldn’t just use extreme techniques like the no contact rule (i.e. ignore your ex for 30-60 days) on every ex-girlfriend situation that you encounter.
Sometimes, you need to use more subtle techniques, and sometimes you need to take action very quickly to get the woman back.
So, in this post, I am going to cover 8 different break-up scenarios and explain what approach the guy should use to get his ex-girlfriend back:
- He was dumped after one date.
- He was dumped after less than a month of dating.
- He was dumped after being together for one to five years.
- He was dumped after being together for more than five years.
- He was dumped for cheating on her.
- He was dumped for being insecure, clingy or jealous.
- He was dumped for taking her for granted.
- He was dumped for not knowing how to give her the kind of attraction experience that she really wants.
1. He was dumped after one date
When a woman dumps a guy after one date and says “I just want to be friends,” or “I don’t think it’s going to work out,” what he actually needs to do is call her up, and not worry that he stuffed up the first date.
He needs to be confident enough and get on a call and re-attract her on the phone.
In most cases, the woman would then agree to meet up with him in person and when she meets up with him in person, he can then make her feel more respect and attraction for him, and hook up with her again.
2. He was dumped after less than a month of dating
If a guy was dumped after less than a month of dating, the relationship could have fizzled out due to a lack of attraction.
The woman would have been interested in him initially, she would have saw potential, but as she got to know him she realized that he was possibly too nervous and insecure and self-doubting and that he just wasn’t enough a man for her at this point in his life.
Of course, that doesn’t mean that it’s over and he can never get her back and he can never get another chance with her now that he’s stuffed things up.
To get another chance with her, what he needs to do is call her, get her to meet up with him, and then hook-up with her at the meet-up.
If she doesn’t want to hook up with him right away, that’s not a problem either. He just needs to continue to build up on her respect and attraction to him when he texts her, when he talks to her on the phone, and when he meets up with her in person again.
3. He was dumped after being together for one to five years
In cases like this, the woman has a fair idea of who the guy is and what his usual tricks are to get her back together with him.
For example: He might have been out to get her back in the past by begging and pleading, convincing her to give him another chance, etc, but it’s gotten to the point where she just doesn’t see that he is changing and then she’s broken up with him and moved on.
Alternatively, the attraction may have fizzled out and she end up liking another guy and maybe cheating on him and leaving him because of that.
So, if a guy is in that situation, what does he need to do to get his ex-girlfriend back?
What he needs to do is call her, meet up with her, get her to forgive his mistakes, make her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for him, then hook-up at the meet-up or arrange another time to meet up.
Of course, a lot of guys in this situation are at the point where their ex-girlfriend won’t even talk to them. She won’t even answer their texts.
So, how is he going to call her and get her to meet up with him?
Well, that’s another story altogether.
Guys who are in that situation where they are blocked out of a woman’s life, the need to use other techniques to bring down her guard so she then open herself up to texting with him and getting on a phone call with him.
All the really tough situations that guys are going through, and what to do, what to say, how to get a girlfriend back are covered in my program Get Your Ex Back Super System.
4. He was dumped after being together for more than five years
This is pretty similar to the previous one, except in these cases what I have found is that the attraction, the respect, and love, has really faded away.
The relationship may have been great in the beginning but over time, the man made some mistakes that caused her to lose respect, attraction, and love for him.
So, getting your girlfriend back in a case like this is not as simple as clicking your fingers and saying, “Yes, I’ve sent her a text and now we’re back together. Everything is magically fixed.”
In a case like this, what a guy need to do is call her, meet up with her in person, get her to forgive his mistakes, explain to her that he doesn’t expect her to forgive him right away, make her feel a renewed sense of attraction and respect for him, hookup with her or arrange another time to meet up.
With relationships like this, what I have found is that the woman isn’t always willing to catch up again very soon.
She’s often at the point where she is sick and tired of her guy, and she doesn’t want to be around him, she wants to try and move on, etc.
If she is unwilling to agree to catch up again, what a guy needs to do is, at least, get her to agree to keep the lines of communication open.
Keeping the lines of communication open means he is able to text her and get her on a phone call, he is able to have her on Facebook or social media, and the point of that is so he can have interactions with her that cause her to feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for him.
The more that he makes her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for him, the more her guard comes down and she becomes open to interacting with him in person and giving the relationship another chance.
I will point out also that in cases like this, a guy often has to use more advanced techniques that I only teach in my program,Get Your Ex Back Super System.
Those techniques are about attraction, persuasion, and getting her to feel a mix of painful and positive emotions so she feel compelled to meet up with him and give the relationship another chance.
5. He was dumped for cheating on her
What he needs to do is call her, get her to forgive him over the phone for her benefit, tell her that he knows she won’t be able to trust him right away and he respects that.
Get her to meet-up with him, make her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction at the meet-up, and then hook-up or arrange another time to catch up.
By the way, when I’m giving this examples, I’m starting off with “call her” and I know that a lot of guys are in a situation where if they call their ex, she won’t answer the phone.
I’m very much aware of that because I help phone coaching clients every day to get women back.
So, if you are in a situation where your woman isn’t answering your phone calls, there is a text message that you can send to her to get her to answer your phone call.
Simply try to call her and if she doesn’t answer, send the message of, “Hey Jenny – it’s Dan here. I was just calling because I have something quick I wanted to ask you over the phone. I guess you are busy at the moment. I might try to call you another time.”
That message lets her see that you’re not being crazy and needy and desperate, and it’s not a serious thing that you are trying to talk to her about. It’s something quick.
You wanted to get her on the phone to ask her something, and what is that thing that you wanted to ask her?
To get her to meet-up with you.
If you don’t think that she is going to agree to catch up with you, or she doesn’t want to see you, doesn’t want to be around you, don’t worry.
If you’re interested in learning from me, in my program, Get Your Ex Back Super System, I provide all the examples of what to say and do.
The examples of what to say have been tested with my phone coaching clients, and they use the psychology of persuasion to get her to agree to catch up with you.
The way that you will explain the meet up to her, and why she should spend more time around you, is something that she won’t be able to say no to.
I’ve never had a client who could not get his woman to meet-up with him.
You can do that.
You can get her to interact with you in person, and when you are interacting with her in person you can make her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you.
You can bring her guard down.
You can make her open up emotionally to the relationship again.
You can do that.
6. He was dumped for being insecure, clingy or jealous
What he needs to do is call her, get her to forgive him over the phone for her benefit, tell her that he knows she probably doesn’t care if he’s changed, and also let her know that he is not asking her to care about that.
Get her to meet-up with him, make her feel a new sense of respect and attraction at the meetup, then hook up with her at the meet-up or arrange another time to catch up.
7. He was dumped for taking her for granted
Call her, tell her that you know she won’t be able to trust you immediately and that you respect that.
Get her to meet up with you, make her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction at the meet-up, get her to forgive you for her own benefit. Hook up with her or arrange another time to catch up.
8. He was dumped for not knowing how to give her the kind of attraction experience that she really wants
A lot of the guys who fall into this category aren’t even aware that this is one of the main reasons why their girlfriend broke up with them.
When a woman says, “I don’t feel the same way anymore,” or, “I don’t want to be in a relationship anymore. I need time for myself. I don’t know what I want anymore,” and so on, it often because she’s not getting the type of attraction experience that she wants.
A woman will also say things like, “You’re really nice and I really care about you, but I don’t think that we should be in a relationship,” or, “You deserve someone better than me,” or, “It’s not you, it’s me.”
Essentially what it all comes down to is that she’s just not getting the attraction experience that she wants.
An example of a woman not getting the attraction experience that she wants is when she’s in a relationship with a guy who is too clingy and is suffocating her with how much attention he gives her and he is just all over her.
But really what she wants to experience at times, not always, is a guy who isn’t so available and attentive to her. She wants to have a boyfriend where she feels like she needs to impress him a bit.
On the other end of the scale, sometimes a woman is not getting the type of attraction experience that she wants because the guy is taking her for granted and is pushing her too far.
For example: A guy might get into a relationship with a girl who really likes him, she adores him, she looks up to him, she thinks the world of him.
He then starts to take her for granted and he pushes her away and she enjoys the chase at the start but after a while, it becomes a little bit insulting and lonely and unfulfilling.
That’s not to say that she doesn’t like it when her boyfriend pushes her away a little bit and is a bit hard to get, but she doesn’t like it when he is is only like that.
She wants him to have more of a balance where she does feel loved and appreciated.
How about your relationship?
Where you giving your ex-girlfriend the attraction experience that she really wanted?
Do you even know what type of attraction experience she really wants?
If you don’t know what to offer a woman in a relationship to make her happy with the attraction experience, all of that is explained in my program, Get Your Ex Back Super System.
Get Your Ex Back Super System is a simple, 7 step system that gets your ex-girlfriend back faster that any other method available online.
It’s 10 hours of video training, and by the end of watching it, you will be ready to contact your ex-girlfriend and make this happen.
You do not have to ignore her and waste time hoping that she runs back to you.
The Get Your Ex Back Super System approach is about taking action and making it happen.
When you go through the seven steps of the system, your girlfriend will want to be back together in a relationship just as much as you do.
The relationship will feel better than it did before because you won’t be making the same old mistakes that were turning her off, and you will be able to bring out a side of her that has been missing when she’s been around you.
She will start to respect you again and let you lead the way in the relationship because she will look up to you and trust you as the only man that she needs.
Your Relationship is Unique, So Be Careful When Using Extreme Ex Back Techniques
I hope this post has been helpful for you and you’ve learned more about what you need to do to get your ex-girlfriend back.
Before I finish up, I just want to remind you to be careful.
Don’t go and use extreme techniques like the no contact rule on just any woman you break up.
Sometimes the no contact rule (ignoring a woman for 30-60 days) can work to get a woman to run back to her guy and say that she’s sorry and she misses him and she wants to be with him.
However, the majority of guys who are trying to get an ex-girlfriend back are at the point where their girlfriend doesn’t want anything to do with them.
She’s had enough and when he tries to convince her to give him another chance, she says things like, “Get away from me, I don’t have any feelings for you, you don’t have a chance with me. It’s too late, no thank you.”
So, when a guy ignores a woman like that, she will often just use that time to move on.
Of course, sometimes she will contact him, though, just to check, “Is he still missing me?” and if she contacts him and sees that he’s still missing her, he still wants to be with her, but he hasn’t contacted her for 30-60 days or whatever it is, she then realizes that he’s probably been using that no contact rule that everyone talks about on the internet.
She thinks, “He’s wanted to get back with me all this time, my life has been great without him, and he’s just been sitting around licking his wounds, feeling sad about himself, missing me, feeling pitiful” and she then she loses more respect and attraction for him as a result of using a manipulative tactic like the no contact rule.
Balls, Balls, Balls
What I’ve found is that most women respond positively to an ex boyfriend who has the balls to make something happen, rather than ignoring her and hoping that she magically runs back to him.
So, don’t be afraid of getting in contact with your ex-girlfriend, getting her to meet-up with you, and getting her back into your arms again.
If you want to get an ex-girlfriend back, what I’ve found is that the best method is to be a man about it and make it happen.
Get her back into your arms again by doing something about it.
Don’t waste time ignoring her if she doesn’t want anything to do with you.
If you want her back into your arms again, what you need to do is to start actively making her feel some respect, attraction, and love for you again.
You can do that in every interaction that you have with her, whether that is via text, on a phone call, or in person.
Make sure that in every interaction that you have with your ex-girlfriend, you use at as an opportunity to make her feel something for you.
Make her feel SOMETHING for you and then her guard begins to come down.
She then becomes open to interacting with you again in person and giving the relationship another chance.
This is something that you can do today. You don’t have to sit around wasting time and hoping that she comes running back to you.
You can get your ex girlfriend back by doing something about it right now.