Yes, but only if you are ready to re-attract her in person when you see her.
If you’re going to be nervous and unsure of yourself, it will make her put her guard up and feel turned off.
So, make sure that if you ask her to go to the movies, you are fully ready to make her want you again.
By the way…
Here are 3 common reactions that women have when their ex guy asks them to go to the movies:
1. She says, “Yes” because she has been missing him and hoping that he’d do something to get her back
Sometimes, when a woman loses touch with her feelings of respect, attraction and love for a guy (e.g. because he has become too distant lately and she feels neglected, he treats her more like a neutral friend than an attractive woman, he feels unsure of his value to her so he is too jealous and suspicious of her every move causing her to feel smothered), she may decide to break up with him.
However, after a few days apart, she might begin missing him and she then starts to think things like, “I never thought I’d feel so sad and lonely without him. Suddenly I realize that he wasn’t such a bad guy after all and that deep down he really did care for me. Maybe I was too quick to break up with him. Maybe we could have worked things out if I’d stuck around for a while longer.”
She then begins hoping he will do something to get her back.
So, if her ex is confident enough to ask her to go to the movies with him, she will usually jump at the chance, because it’s exactly what she’s been wanting all along.
Of course, even though your ex might want you back and agrees to go to the movies with you, it doesn’t mean she’s going to do all the work for you.
Instead, she’s going to go out with you and look to see if you’ve managed to change and improve (e.g. she’ll be looking at your body language, listening to the tone of your voice, watching to see how you respond and react to her when she’s been cold and aloof towards you), before she allows herself to fully open up to getting back together again.
This is why you need to make sure that you approach the situation in such a way that will reactivate her feelings for you and make her want to see you again and again.
For example: Some of the ways you can do that are by…
- Feeling confident and self-assured when you’re with her, rather than allowing negative thoughts like, “What if she doesn’t enjoy herself?” or, “What if she decides she never wants to see me again after this?” make you feel insecure and unsure of yourself.
- Being a good man, but also being confident and assertive when talking to her, so she can see that she can’t dominate you during conversations.
- Making her laugh, smile and feel relaxed and happy to be around you again, rather than trying to get into intense, deep discussions about the relationship.
- Flirting with her to create sexual tension, rather than being too nice and neutral and giving her the impression that you’re no longer interested in a romantic, sexual relationship with her so she decides to move on.
The more you continue to show her via your behavior and conversation style that you’ve reshaped yourself into the kind of man that she can now look up to, respect and feel attracted to (e.g. confident, self-assured, emotionally masculine) the more her defenses will come down.
She will naturally begin to open up and you can then progress to giving her a hug, a kiss and then hook up with her sexually.
Note: She might not be ready to have sex with you the first time you and her go out together, so don’t worry about it.
Instead, just continue to interact with her over the phone and especially in person over the next few days, and build on her initial feelings of respect and sexual attraction for you until she’s ready to get back together again, or at least opens up to having sex with you to see how she feels afterwards.
Another possible outcome if a guy asks his ex to go to the movies with him is…
2. She says, “No” because she no longer feels attracted to him
When a woman stops feeling sexually and romantically attracted to a guy, him asking her to go to the movies with him, is the last thing on her mind.
Instead, she will want to distance herself from him as much as possible and begin doing things that will help her fully get over him, move on and meet someone else (e.g. hang out with her single friends in clubs and bars, join meet up groups, register on online dating sites or go on Tinder).
She will then likely reject him by saying, “No,” and possibly leaving him feeling dejected and like he no longer stands a chance with her.
Yet, here’s the thing…
For a woman to want to interact with you again (i.e. talk to you over the phone, go to the movies with you, meet up for coffee), you have to make it feel appealing to her and that means, you need to reactivate her feelings for you first.
For example: One of the most effective ways to make a woman reconnect with her feelings of respect and attraction for you is by making her smile, laugh and feel happy to be interacting with you again.
When she is laughing and smiling, it becomes a lot more difficult for her to continue thinking about you in a negative way and she instead begins to see a new, more positive side to you.
Here’s an example of how to use humor to diffuse a potentially difficult situation between you and your ex and make her open up to wanting to go to a movie with you.
Imagine that you’re talking to your ex on the phone and she says something like, “What do you want? Why do you insist on calling me when you know I’m not your girlfriend anymore?”
She will likely be expecting you to get upset and possibly even react by begging and pleading with her for another chance, telling her how much you still love her, or possibly even getting angry with her.
Instead, you can shock her (in a good way) by maintaining your confidence and using some humor to take the sting out of her words by saying something like, “You’re not my girlfriend anymore! I must have been off sick the day that happened. Why didn’t anyone tell me?” and have a laugh with her about it.
She’s telling you that she’s not your girlfriend anymore and you’re playfully teasing her about it, as though she’s not that important and you didn’t notice she was gone.
You can then say, “I’m only joking. Of course I noticed that you’re not my girlfriend anymore because my arm doesn’t look as pretty anymore, without you holding it,” and have a laugh with her about that.
By using humor to make her smile and laugh and ease the tension between you and then giving her a bit of a compliment by calling her pretty, she can’t stop herself from feeling some surges of attraction for you again for having the balls to joke around with her in a moment that may have previously made you feel insecure and nervous.
When she senses your confidence and notices that you’re also being a good guy (i.e. you’re not being mean to her with your jokes), she won’t be able to stop herself from feeling some respect and attraction for you again.
Her guard will come down and she will then become more open to going to the movies with you to see if you really are a new man now.
You can then use that opportunity to fully re-attract her and get her back.
Another possible outcome if a guy asks his ex to go to the movies with him is…
3. She says, “Maybe” because she isn’t sure whether she should give him another chance
Most relationships experience a few ups and downs where a couple will get into an argument or fight and the woman says things like, “I’m sick and tired of putting up with all of this! You’re such a jerk and there’s just no hope of you ever changing. I think it’s better if we break up.”
The guy will then usually try to calm her down and make her change her mind by saying things like, “I really care about you so much and I don’t want to lose you. Please give me just one more chance to prove to you that I can be the man you want me to be. I know I’ve said this before, but I promise you that this time I really will put in the effort to change.”
She may then forgive him and give him one more chance to prove to her that he can change.
However, if time after time she forgives him, only for him to revert back to being the same after things have calmed down, she may eventually give up and go through with the break up.
So, if he then asks her to go to the movies with him, she will feel unsure of whether to risk saying “Yes,” and then feel hurt and betrayed when she discovers that he’s still the same as before, or just say “No,” and spare herself any heartache, so she says, “Maybe,” instead to stall for time while she decides.
This is why you need to show her right away, via your actions, behavior and conversation style, that you’ve already started to change and improve in some of the ways that matter to her.
For example: Some of the ways you can do that is by…
- Maintaining your confidence regardless of how she responds to you when you ask her to go to the movies with you.
- Laughing at her (in a loving way) when she acts like she’s unsure of whether to give you the benefit of the doubt and showing her that she doesn’t have power over you.
- Responding differently to the way she’s expecting you to (e.g. if she thinks you’re going to get upset, beg and plead or sulk about her saying “Maybe,” you instead laugh, remain calm and tease her for being an indecisive woman).
The more she can see for herself that you really are a new man now, the easier it becomes for her to make up her mind and say, “Yes.”
You can then use further interactions you have with her to fully reactivate her feelings for you and get her back.
Where Guys Go Wrong When Asking an Ex Out
When you decide to ask your ex to go to the movies with you, make sure that you don’t make any of the following mistakes that will cause her to say “No,” instead of “Yes.”
1. Asking her via text
Texting is easy (and safe) to do, but it’s not a very effective way of getting what you want from an ex.
Basically, because she’s not hearing your voice (or looking you in the eye), it’s a lot easier for her to brush you off and say, “No.”
Via text, she can’t see your body language or hear the tonality of your voice, so she will think things like, “Why should I even bother to go to the movies with him when he doesn’t even have the balls to call me and ask me over the phone. This is just another indication of the type of person he really is inside (i.e. insecure, unsure of himself, timid). If I say yes, I will just be wasting my time because nothing about his behavior is convincing me that it’s worth my while giving him a second chance. I’ll just be giving him false hope, when in reality I’m just not interested in him anymore.”
She then declines your invitation and possibly even stops responding to your texts altogether.
So, if you don’t want that kind of response, make sure that you ask your ex to the movies on a phone call, or in person if you still see her from time to time and only after you’ve sparked some of her feelings for you first.
When you do it that way, it becomes a lot more difficult for her to reject you.
The next mistake to avoid is…
2. Acting like just a friend and expecting her to want to be your girlfriend again
Sometimes a guy might use asking his ex to go to the movies with him as an excuse to get her back.
Essentially he’s hoping that if they start doing fun things together again, they will eventually fall back into a relationship without too much effort on his part.
So, he asks her to go to the movies with him just as friends and spends the entire time pretending that he’s not sexually or romantically interested in her anymore.
- He only talks to her in a nice, polite, neutral way.
- He doesn’t flirt with her to build up sexual tension.
- He only makes “safe” jokes that he feels won’t offend her, rather than using ballsy humor to spice things up and make her feel turned on.
Naturally, this causes a woman to remain closed off, because there’s no sexual attraction and respect to make her feel motivated to want to be his girl again.
If he then says something along the lines of, “Look how well we get on with each other. It’s like we’re two peas in a pod. We still have so much fun together. Why don’t we just forget about this break and get back together?” she will likely feel shocked and say something like, “What are you talking about? Why would you even say that? We’re just friends now!”
He may then feel disappointed and possibly even give up on the idea of getting her back at all.
Yet, what he doesn’t realize is that his approach was wrong.
Here’s the thing…
If you want a relationship with your ex, you need to make sure that you don’t pretend that you don’t.
If you do, you will likely get the same results.
However, if you ignite sexual and romantic feelings inside of her (e.g. by flirting with her, making her laugh and smile and feel good to be interacting with you again), then you won’t even need to ask for a relationship again, because it will happen naturally all by itself.
Note: There is nothing wrong with suggesting going to the movies just as friends. In fact, that is what recommend you say.
However, make sure that when you meet up with her, you don’t just act like a friend.
In person, re-attract her and seduce her back into a relationship with you.
Watch the video above by Dan Bacon, founder of this website.
3. Talking about going to the movies as though it’s a date
In some cases, a guy will ask his ex to go to the movies with him and if she says “Yes,” he might respond by saying, “Great! Well, it’s a date then.”
She might then instantly put up her guard and wonder, “Why is he calling it a date? I thought this was just a movie, but now he’s making a big deal about it like I just agreed to get back with him or something. I’m not ready for that. I don’t want him getting the wrong idea. Maybe I should just cancel on him to be on the safe side.”
Here’s the thing…
If your ex has broken up with you, she won’t like the idea of going out on a date with you, because that will imply that she’s open to giving your relationship another chance when right now, she’s not.
So, to stop her from canceling on you, you need to make sure that you don’t refer to going to the movies with her as a date.
Instead, just say that you’ll be hanging out as friends.
When you approach it in that way, it takes the pressure off her and she can relax because she’s not feeling like you’re trying to push her into something she’s not ready for yet.
Then, when you go to the movies with her, make sure that you say and do the types of things that will spark her feelings of respect and attraction for you, rather than making the types of mistakes that will turn her off (e.g. being confident and self-assured rather than nervous and insecure around her, maintaining your dominance rather than letting her have power over you, being emotionally masculine rather than too nice and well-behaved).
As long as you focus on re-attracting her properly, going to the movies with your ex will actually turn into a date after all, even if you don’t call it that.
Then, before you know it, you’ll be going on dates and calling yourselves a couple again.
The next mistake to avoid is…
4. Giving up too easily if she initially says, “No” or, “I’m not sure”
Most women won’t be willing to go to the movies with an ex the first time he asks her.
However, that doesn’t mean she’s not interested and that he should give up and walk away.
Instead, it’s a woman’s natural instinct not to make it easy for an ex guy to get her back. Why?
Firstly, she doesn’t want to come across as desperate and like she’s been waiting around for him to ask her to the movies because she doesn’t have anyone else interested in her.
Secondly, she wants to be sure that he’s not just asking her so that when she says “Yes,” he can reject her by saying something like, “I knew you still had feelings for me. I was just checking, but now that I know for sure, I don’t really want to go to the movies with you. Ha! Ha!”
Finally, she wants to make sure that he’s confident enough to handle her initial rejection without giving up.
If he can handle her “No,” or “I’m not sure” without falling apart, she will know that he’s now emotionally stronger than before and she will then be more willing to accept his invitation.
So, make sure you don’t give up if your ex doesn’t agree to go to the movies with you right away.
Just maintain your confidence with her and in a friendly, easy-going way say, “Hey, I get it. I understand why you feel the way you do right now and the last thing I want to do is pressure you into doing anything that you don’t feel comfortable with. However, all I’m asking for is for you to catch a movie with me as friends. It’s not a big deal, right. We can do that, because we’re mature adults. So, let’s prove it and go watch a movie together, with no strings attached.”
By taking the pressure off her to make a decision about getting back together again, she will feel more comfortable about saying “Yes,” to going to the movies with you.
Then, when you meet up with her, make sure you reactivate her feelings for you and make her want to be in a relationship again.