It depends because each woman is different.
1. Some women feel nothing and move on easily
This usually happens when a guy has ruined a woman’s feelings for him so much (i.e. by repeatedly acting, thinking and behaving in unattractive ways), that she no longer feels any respect, attraction or love for him.
So, rather than feel bad or possibly even a little sad that the relationship has ended so badly, she instead feels relieved to be rid of him.
She also feels excited at the prospect of finding a new man who can finally ignite positive feelings inside of her (e.g. desire, enthusiasm, passion) rather than only bring out the worst in her (e.g. she’s always angry, nagging, annoyed, turned off).
However, something to bear in mind is that even when a woman feels nothing for her ex, it doesn’t mean he can’t change that and make her want him again.
If he quickly transforms himself into the man she always wanted him to be (e.g. more confident, less needy, more emotionally masculine in the way he thinks, acts and behaves), even if she initially said something along the lines of, “There is no way I would ever give him another chance. My feelings for him are dead and I know nothing will change how I feel,” she won’t be able to stop herself from feeling drawn to him again in a way that feels good.
She might try to fight it by telling herself things like, “A leopard never changes its spots. I’ve already given him plenty of chances to change and every time he improves for a little while and then when I relax my guard and open my heart back up to him, he just reverts back to being a jerk once again. I simply can’t trust him to change for real. Besides, I’ve dumped him now and there is no going back,” but her heart won’t let her move on.
It’s then up to the guy to interact with her as often as possible on the phone and in person (without coming across as being needy or desperate) and show her that he really is a new man now.
Of course, she will initially try to test him (e.g. by being cold and aloof, telling him he doesn’t stand a chance of getting her back, pretending to be interested one minute and pushing him away the next), to see if he will revert back to his old self as soon as the pressure gets too much for him.
However, as long as he maintains his confidence and continues to think, act and behave in some of the ways that are attractive to her (and women in general), she won’t be able to resist him for long.
Her walls will begin to crumble and she will most likely open back up to hanging out with him more often to see where things go from there.
So, if your ex has dumped you and is currently saying that nothing on Earth would make her give you another chance, don’t believe her.
Newfound respect, attraction and love will.
Focus on making her feel those three emotions for you again and she’ll be back in your arms before she even knows it.
Another outcome is that…
2. Some women feel regret and struggle to get over their ex and move on
Sometimes a woman will break up with a guy, only to realize that she made a big mistake.
For example: Some of the reasons why woman will break up with a guy and then end up regretting it are…
- She dumps him in the heat of the moment during an argument, even though she still has feelings for him.
- She is inexperienced with relationships and doesn’t know how to handle relationship problems without threatening to break up, or breaking up.
- She feels bored in the relationship so decides to dump her guy and find someone new, only to regret it later on when she can’t find a replacement guy, or she dates other guys and realizes that her ex was the right guy for her after all.
- She was dealing with other issues in her life that were stressing her out (e.g. at work or university) and she couldn’t handle the demands of a relationship as well, so she dumped her man only to realize it was the wrong move.
- She felt attracted to a new guy so she dumped her man, only to lose interest in the new guy and then regret her actions.
- She felt insecure about her attractiveness to her guy, so she dumped him to see if he would chase after her and beg her for another chance to make herself feel more valuable (Btw. If the guy does run after her, she will actually lose respect and attraction for him for being desperate and she will then choose to remain broken up).
As you can see, it’s quite possible that your ex may at this very moment be sitting at home thinking things like, “I was such a fool to break up with him! I can’t believe I made such a stupid mistake.”
At this point, many guys might be asking, “Well, if she regrets dumping me, why isn’t she coming back to me?”
The answer is quite simple: A woman will rarely put herself at risk of being rejected by a guy, especially if she dumped him.
At the back of her mind she will likely be thinking things like, “If I contact him and tell him I’m sorry for breaking up with him, he might laugh at me and tell me I deserve it. So, even though I’m really struggling to forget him and move on, I won’t take the risk of being humiliated by him for my stupid mistake.”
As a result, she does nothing and if the guy then does nothing too, they end up losing falling back in love again and having a new and improved relationship with each other.
So, if you don’t want that to happen to you, you need to be bold enough to make the first move.
However, don’t expect your ex to jump at the chance to get back with you right away, even if she does regret dumping you.
Instead, she’s going to play a bit hard to get and wait to see if you’re serious about getting her back.
All you need to do is relax, maintain your confidence regardless of what she says and does to put you off and reawaken her sexual and romantic feelings for you.
Before you know it, you and her will be kissing, having sex and starting a new relationship with each other.
Another outcome is that…
3. Some women feel disappointed and lose faith in relationships with men, so they remain single for a while
In some cases, a woman might become quite bitter after she breaks up with a guy (e.g. because he cheated on her, he took her for granted, he was abusive towards her, he belittled her and made her feel bad about herself).
She may then start thinking things like, “All men are jerks! I’m never going to let another guy hurt me the way he did. Men are just not worth it. I don’t care what anyone says, I’m going to stick to being single. Relationships are just not for me.”
She then focuses all her attention on other areas of her life (e.g. her work or career, her studies, doing charity work, going traveling) as a way of avoiding getting into another relationship with a guy.
Another outcome is that…
4. Some women worry that they might miss their ex and run back to him, so they hook up with a new guy instead
If a woman is inexperienced with relationships and break ups, she might not know how to handle the emotions that naturally occur once the dust has settled after she dumps her man (e.g. she misses him, feels sad and lonely from time to time, wonders what it would be like to see him again).
So, to stop herself from running back to her ex, she may decide to make herself available to hooking up with other guys pretty quickly (i.e. she accepts dates from guys who have been interested in her while she was in a relationship, she goes to bars or clubs and opens herself up to kissing and sex with the men she meets there, she joins online dating sites or dating apps).
As a result, her ex might discover that she’s moved on with another guy within a very short period of time (sometimes even after a week or two).
So, if you want to prevent your ex from hooking up with a new man to stop herself from missing you, you need to quickly begin renewing her feelings of respect and attraction for you, before she has a chance to do that.
You actually want to make her miss you and think about you all the time, but not because she’s not hearing from you.
Instead, you make her miss you by interacting with her, making her feel sparks of attraction for you again and then not contacting her for a day or two.
Then, call her again, spark some more of her feelings for you and get her to meet up with you so that you can get her back.
At the meet up…
- Be prepared to show her that you’ve changed and improved in some of the ways that matter to her (e.g. you’re more assertive now and you no longer back down when she’s being stubborn or unreasonable, you want her back but you don’t need her back to feel happy and content, you feel confident about your value and attractiveness to her rather than feeling insecure).
- Make her laugh, smile and feel good to be in your company again.
- Flirt with her to create sparks of sexual tension between you.
Once you’ve fully reactivated her feelings of respect and attraction for you again, you can then progress to giving her a hug and if she doesn’t pull away, give her a kiss as well.
From there, if she’s open, you can go to your place or hers and hook up with her sexually.
By that stage, she will likely begin falling back in love with you again and you can then guide her back into a relationship with you.
Another outcome is that…
5. Some women feel like they’ve made the right decision and then try to move on with their life
In most relationships, a woman won’t dump a guy the very first time he makes a mistake or behaves in a way that’s unattractive to her.
Instead, she will usually forgive him and give him another chance (in most cases multiple chances) to change and improve.
She might also give him hints, suggestions or even come out and say what is bothering her, in order to help him understand where she’s coming from and what is bothering her.
However, many guys end up ignoring these warning signs from their woman until it’s too late.
For example: Sometimes, a guy might say to himself, “I know that she’s mad at me right now, but she’ll eventually get over it. She always does because she loves me and she knows that I love her, even though I stuffed up.”
However, he doesn’t make any effort to change, so his woman stops feeling motivated to contribute to the relationship and be good a woman to him.
Instead, she begins pulling away, being closed off and treating him with less and less respect over time, until eventually she gets fed up with waiting for him to take her seriously, so she dumps him.
However, even though it may hurt for a little while (e.g. because she still has some feelings for him), she doesn’t regret her decision, because she knows from experience that he’s not going to change and become the man she wants him to be.
She then puts all her effort into fully getting over him, moving on and finding herself a man who can give her what she wants.
Is it possible that this is what happened between you and your ex?
If so, to make her change her mind about being broken up with you, the first thing you need to do before you even contact her, is to quickly make some attractive changes to yourself, so that you can attract her in the ways that are important to her (e.g. you’re less insecure and self-doubting now, which means you don’t doubt your value to her anymore, you’re more emotionally independent, which means that you don’t need her to be happy or feel good about yourself, you’re more emotionally masculine now, which means that you don’t let her walk all over you with her confident personality).
Then, you need to interact with her on a phone call and in person and let her experience the new you for herself.
When she sees that this time you really have changed, she won’t be able to stop her guard from slipping down (even if only a little bit).
You can then build on her feelings for you and show her that falling in love with each other again will be the most rewarding experience of her life so far.
Where Guys Go Wrong After Getting Dumped
By the way…
If your ex dumped you and you want to get her back, make sure you don’t make the following mistakes that guys make in a similar situation to yours.
1. Hoping that she will come to her senses and realize how good of a guy he is, even though he hasn’t shown her that during their new interactions
Sometimes a guy wants to know how a dumper feels after a break up, because he’s secretly hoping that his ex will be feeling sad, missing him and thinking things like, “Now that I’ve had the time to think about what I did, I realize what a great guy he really is. He was always so nice and sweet and loving towards me and I was just a bitch back to him. I don’t know what made me break up with him like that. I must have been out of my mind. Maybe I should call him to see if he can forgive me. However, knowing him I’m almost certain that he will forgive me and give me another chance, even though I treated him so badly. That’s how wonderful he is.”
She will then contact him and they can get back together again.
Although that’s a great plot for a romantic movie or novel, in real life a woman rarely thinks that way about an ex guy if he doesn’t reactivate her feelings for him first.
This is why, if you want your ex back, you need to show her via your actions, behavior, conversation style and the way you respond to her during interactions that you’re the guy for her.
When you spark her feelings and are also a good guy to her, she won’t be able to stop feeling regret for breaking up with you.
As a result, her heart begins to thaw and she allows herself to feel respect and attraction for you again.
It’s then up to you to continue building on those feelings inside of her (by interacting with her more and more and showing her that you’re a new man now) and before long, you and her will be a couple again.
Another mistake that guys make in a similar situation to yours is…
2. Hoping that she will meet guys who aren’t as good as him and come running back
This sometimes does happen.
However, in many cases, a woman will simply move on quickly, even if it’s by getting into a rebound relationship until she can find a guy who can truly give her what she wants in a relationship with him.
Alternatively, she might move on from a break up slowly and deal with the pain privately, rather than hooking up with random guys.
In the meantime, her ex might sit in the background waiting for her to go running back to him, which never happens.
Then, not only does he miss out on the chance of getting her back (i.e. because he’s not doing anything to make it happen), by waiting around and hoping that she comes running back, he ends up losing confidence in his attractiveness to women.
As a result, he ends up hanging on to the idea of getting his ex coming back to him even more and thinking things like, “I don’t want another woman. I want her. I’m going to prove my love to her by waiting for her to realize I’m the right man for her.”
This causes him to avoid interacting with his ex to re-attract her, but also avoid interacting with other women to attract and start dating them.
Then after many months and possibly even years have passed by, he comes to the realization that his ex is not coming back to him and by that stage, he’s too insecure and self-doubting to do anything about getting her back, or finding himself a new woman.
Another mistake that guys make in a similar situation to yours is…
3. Assuming that getting back together is pretty much up to her and out of his control
Just because a woman dumped a guy, it doesn’t mean she is the one who dictates whether they can get back together again or not.
In fact, what a lot of guys don’t realize is that a man actually has control over the ex back process if he focuses on making his ex woman have sexual and romantic feelings for him for again.
When a woman begins to feel surges of respect and desire for him once more, she naturally begins to want him back, because she feels good to be around him again, rather than always feeling annoyed, turned off or disappointed.
As a result her defenses come down and she becomes open to hanging out, kissing and hooking up sexually to see where things go from there.
So, don’t make the mistake of thinking that because your ex dumped you, it’s all up to her whether you get back together.
If you want her to give you another chance, you have to be courageous enough to take the lead and make it happen.