Why did my girlfriend break up with me?

The reason why your girlfriend broke up with you was that she lost respect for you, then lost attraction for you and then fell out of love with you.

Here’s a video by Dan Bacon, the founder of The Modern Man, which explains the process she went through.

Don’t Focus on the Superficial Reasons. Look at the Deeper Reasons

Confused men thinking that it's all about looks

If you believe what you hear in the media about a woman’s attraction for a man, you might think that your girlfriend broke up with you because she didn’t like something about your appearance. Maybe you need to get six pack abs? Maybe you need to lose weight?

No, no, no.

That’s not the answer.

Your girlfriend broke up with you because your behavior in the relationship led to her losing respect for you as a man. Without respect, there’s no attraction, and when she no longer feels sexually attracted to you, she begins to fall out of love with you – and she breaks up with you as a result.

This might seem harsh, but it’s the truth.

Real women living in the real world don’t dump guys over trivial superficial issues such as a new hairstyle, and they don’t split up with a guy just because he happens to have different musical tastes to theirs. Women don’t fall in love with a guy because of how he looks or how he dresses so they don’t fall out of love with a guy because of how he appears on the outside either.

Women fall in love with who a guy is on the inside and they fall out of love with a guy for the same reason. Of course, if you’re asking, “Why did my girlfriend break up with me?” you’ve yet to figure out what caused her feelings for you to change. Consider the following:

Did You Take a Back Seat and Expect Her to Lead?

Women are attracted to confident, masculine men who have qualities that make them natural leaders. These are qualities she will have seen in you when you first got together but there must then have been a change in your attitude or your behavior that led to a change in the way she saw you.

One of the most common mistakes guys make in a relationship is slipping into putting their girlfriend “in charge” in the mistaken belief that this will keep her happy. It won’t! Sure, that’s how it looks on TV with “happy couples” being led by a domineering woman who is in control of everything, but real life is not like TV life and women do not want to lead the way.

Women instinctively want to be in a relationship with a man who has what it takes to make them feel feminine, so it takes a man who knows how to be masculine to create the ideal sexual dynamic.

Being masculine is nothing to do with having big muscles or having the “confidence” to push other people around, and everything to do with having the emotional and mental strength to be a provider and a protector in the modern world.

Taking a back seat in the relationship and expecting her to make all of the decisions does not make her happy, it makes her lose all respect for you as a man.

Did You Become Needy?

Being insecure

Any form of needy or desperate behavior is a complete turn off. It’s not uncommon for guys to fall into the trap of thinking that they must do everything together with their girlfriend in order to be a “real couple” but in reality this can only lead to the relationship becoming suffocated.

Women are attracted to confident guys who are secure in who they are and what they’re about. Being needy and wanting to be with her every second of the day shows you to be an insecure guy who is desperate to keep hold of her, suggesting that you’re unsure of your ability to attract another woman into your life.

Women are instinctively attracted to men with strong alpha male characteristics because they are men who know who they are and know where they’re going in life. This makes them men who have a “real man” presence about them that women can feel – effectively making a woman feel weak at the knees – and this in turn makes them men who have their pick of women.

The more “in demand” a guy is, the more attractive he is in a woman’s eyes.

Dropping everything else that’s going on in your life and making a woman the center of your universe does not make her feel “special” in the way movies would have you believe, it makes her feel that you’re an insecure guy who has nothing else going on in his life other than her and she’ll feel less attracted to you as a result.

Do You Know What Women Want?

With the above in mind, the answer to the question of, “Why did my girlfriend break up with me?” can be found in finding the answer to the question of what women really want in a man.

The bottom line is that a woman wants to be with a man who has what it takes to make her feel like a woman, and to be that man you need to understand how women think and how they communicate their needs.

When a guy asks, “Why did my girlfriend break up with me?” he’s usually in shock at her decision and he’ll say it came like a bolt “out of the blue” and she gave him no warning signs.

However, this is unlikely to be the case and she will have sent out plenty of signals through her body language to let him know how she was feeling – he just didn’t see them or he didn’t respond in the way she wanted him to.

A woman wants a man to be able to “read” her and to know what she wants without her having to spell it out for him.

The good news is that all men can quickly learn how to develop the qualities that women find irresistibly attractive…and I can teach you right now. Here at The Modern Man, we’ve helped 1,000s of guys to become the type of man that women desperately want to be in a relationship with.

We can help you to get your girlfriend back now, or if you want a new woman, we will help you with that too. Your choice. Ready to begin?

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