There are several reasons why your girlfriend will tell you that you’re moving too fast.
Sometimes, this can happen if she has just come out of a long relationship and is feeling unsure about getting involved with someone else so soon after her break up. Other times, it could be because the relationship is really new and you seem to already be thinking about settling down with her.
In other words, there is no challenge, no thrill of the chase and nothing for her to aim for with you. You are smitten about her and will do anything to hopefully get her feel the same way, even if she isn’t treating you well or respecting you as her boyfriend.
Many don’t ever realize the reason why women prefer guys who are more of a challenge to secure into a committed relationship.
Watch this video to understand…
As you will discover from the video above, if you have been making your girlfriend feel like she doesn’t have to do anything to impress you and can even treat you badly and you’ll still be 100% keen on her, then she’s going to start to feel turned off by the lack of challenge.
Preferring a guy who is more of a challenge isn’t about her wanting to waste time with “silly mind games,” but it’s an instinctive process that women go through when deciding on whether to have sex with a guy or commit to him in a relationship.
Women instinctively know that the majority of guys who are willing to put up with a woman’s bad behavior and who don’t require the woman to impress them in any way, are the type of guys who really don’t know how to attract other beautiful women.
When a woman gets the feeling that she’s made a mistake by allowing her boyfriend to “get lucky” by getting a chance to be with her, she will then begin to want to slow things down.
It might have felt good for her at the start or when you first kissed, but if your girlfriend is getting the sense that you would struggle to attract other women if she dumped you, then she’s going to begin saying things like, “This relationship is moving too fast. I think we should slow it down or spend less time together.”
As you will discover from the video above, there are many classic mistakes that can cause a woman to reject a guy initially or quickly lose interest in him when in a relationship. You can turn things around with your girlfriend if you can start approaching her and the relationship correctly from now on.
Where Guys Go Wrong
If you are now in the position where you’re saying, “My girlfriend thinks we’re moving too fast,” you might be making one or more of these classic mistakes that are turning her off and pushing her away…
1. Not creating enough attraction.
As a guy, you have to actively make a woman feel attracted to you when you interact with her. You can’t expect that because you feel attracted to her, she will magically feel the same way about you.
You’ve got to actively turn her on by what you say and do when you’re with her in person, when you’re talking to her on the phone and when she checks you out on social media.
A big mistake that guys who don’t know how to make women feel sexually attracted to them make, is to behave like a good friend to her, even though they are interested in being in a sexual relationship with her.
They give off the “friend” vibe by always being available to her and doing favors for her like fixing things around her house for free, helping her out with money, running all her errands for her, etc. Then, “out of the blue,” they suddenly try to hold her hand, kiss her or move to sex.
If a woman doesn’t feel attracted to a guy sexually, she will think, “What is this guy doing? Why is he trying to kiss me? How do I let him down without hurting his feelings?”
If she is particularly comfortable having him around to do all those nice things he’s been doing for her, she may even say to him, “I think we’re moving too fast.” In this way, she gives him enough “hope” to keep him around, but puts the brakes on his advances.
Another example is a guy who lacks confidence and has low self-esteem, but who gets lucky with a woman he really likes, and she agrees to go out with him.
Yet, over time, he allows his insecurities to cause him to doubt himself, which she instinctively begins to pick up on. She will sense that he doesn’t feel as though he is good enough to be with her and she will begin to lose respect and attraction for him as a man.
Why? Women are attracted to the strength in men and repelled by weakness.
They don’t want to feel that they’re doing you a favor by being with you; they want to feel lucky to be with you.
If you’re not making your girlfriend feel intense attraction for you, and if you’re not making her feel like she’s lucky to have you, she will naturally not feel respect and attraction for you.
So, although she may not fully want to dump you because you’re convenient for her, she WILL tell you that you’re moving too fast. However, if she meets a guy who can spark intense feelings of sexual attraction in her, she will drop you like a hot potato to be with him.
2. Sharing his deep feelings for her too soon.
Some guys make the mistake of revealing their feelings too soon. For example, a guy might have only been on a few dates with a woman and they may have only held hands, or briefly kissed goodnight, when he tells her, “I’m CRAZY about you! You’re the one for me! I really think we’re meant to be together!”
Quite understandably, if a guy reveals his feelings to a woman before they have sex, it almost always takes away the romance, excitement, suspense and anticipation that she hopes to experience with him.
The fact is, if a woman is attractive, she knows that there are numerous men who are willing to have sex with her and be in a relationship with her.
If you’re saying, “My girlfriend thinks we’re moving too fast,” you need to understand that you’re not the only guy who is interested in her, and she doesn’t really care that you have feelings for her.
Essentially, if you’re not making her feel the way she wants to feel when she’s with you, she will look for any excuse to get you to back off.
You might think that it’s wrong to hide your feelings from her, you might even be saying, “Why is it wrong to tell her how I feel? Why should I play games with her? I thought women WANT men to be honest about their feelings.”
However, creating and maintaining the right dynamic when in a relationship with a woman is very important, and if she doesn’t feel respect and attraction for you, she will not be interested in being in a relationship with you.
3. Being the needy, insecure, jealous boyfriend.
Sometimes guys make the mistake of trying to become the most important thing in their girlfriend’s life. This isn’t so much about just being important to her, but rather about wanting her to give up other things that are important to her, like her hobbies, her friends, ambitions and dreams, and only be with him.
They become clingy, over protective, jealous and smothering, and they live in fear of losing their woman. A guy like this constantly needs his girlfriend to reassure him that she loves them and wants to be with him, and he constantly says things like, “I really love you, you know that don’t you?” or “You mean everything to me. I couldn’t take it if we broke up.”
This type of behavior is not attractive to a woman. If your girlfriend perceives you as being mentally and emotionally weak she will be turned off by you and she will look for an “easy” way to get herself out of the relationship – like telling you you’re moving too fast.
4. Needing her more than she needs him.
Although some women (masculine women or insecure women), like it when their guy needs them more than they need him, most women don’t. Most women want to feel lucky to be with their guy. They want to feel that even though he could have any woman he wants, he chose her and this makes her feel attracted and turned on.
When a guy needs his girlfriend more than she needs him, it’s usually because he is missing a key ingredient in his life; that being a life purpose that is more important to him than her.
When a guy makes a woman his life purpose or his reason for living, she feels turned off by that. If she gets the feeling that his life would crumble if she wasn’t in it, and that she’s the one that is keeping him together and that, in a sense, she is what is supporting him and without her he’d be lost, she instinctively loses respect for him.
A woman doesn’t want to feel like she is the one leading in the relationship and the one who has to be responsible for the future of the relationship, because being in that position makes her feel like less of a woman.
Make Her Feel Lucky to Have You
Even though right now you’re saying, “My girlfriend thinks we’re moving too fast,” it doesn’t mean that you can’t turn things around and get her feeling lucky to be with you.
When you fully understand what is causing your girlfriend to tell you that you’re moving too fast, you can make the changes she needs to make her feel that if she “plays games” with you, she will lose you and that will be a bad thing for her.
As a man, it’s your responsibility to guide both yourself and your woman into deeper feelings of love, respect and attraction for each other. You have to take the lead and be the man in the relationship so that she can relax into her feminine self and know that she can fully rely on you.
When you make her feel like this, she will feel lucky to have you and she will be the one who wants to move things faster.