Dan Bacon - Founder of The Modern Man and author of The Flow

If you are sincere about learning how to be a player and getting endless sex, love and affection from women, then don’t leave my website until you learn my secrets.

My name is Dan Bacon and I transformed myself from a dateless nice guy into a confident, alpha male who has lived the player lifestyle for more than 10 years now. How did I do it? I worked out the right way to approach and pick women up and then developed a more advanced style of pick up where I get women trying to pick me up. I then have sex with the woman on the first night or first date and after that I don’t call her…

Yes, you read it right.

Have sex with the woman and then don’t call her. Let her chase you after that and keep sleeping with the other women in your life. Treat her well when you are with her, but don’t commit to her and only her. If you want to be a player for real, you will need to have more than one woman in your life. If you only have one girl, then you will likely fall in love with her or feel as though you need her.

When you’re living the player lifestyle for real, you don’t need any woman, no matter how hot she is. She might be a 9/10 with a stunning body, but another girl sucked you off last night and she was just as hot. The irony of being a player is that women actually want you more and love you more because of it. They will complain, but secretly they love it and are excited to have finally met a guy who has his choice with women.

A woman wants to feel LUCKY to be with her man, not feel as though she settled for a guy who couldn’t get any other woman so he stuck with her. When most women meet a player, they get excited and hope to the girl who finally gets you to settle down. If you do show her any signs of commitment or love, it feels so much more valuable to her compared to the love of a desperate guy.

My Story: How I Became a Player With Women

I used to lack confidence in myself and as a result, most women didn’t feel sexually attracted to me. One day, I got lucky and hooked up with a girl at a party and we then started a relationship. A year and a half into the relationship, she cheated on me and then dumped me because I had become jealous, over-protective and insecure. The break up sent me into a downward spiral where I lost even more confidence in myself.

I was single, alone and frustrated for many years after that and no matter what I did to improve myself (e.g. working out at the gym, buying expensive clothes, etc) women didn’t like me. Since confidence is the #1 thing that a player needs to succeed with women, I was essentially out of the game. I felt intimidated by beautiful women, sucked at keeping conversations going and didn’t know how to flirt with women.

If I did manage to get laid, it was usually with an ugly girl or a drunk woman who would realize her mistake when she sobered up. After a while, I got sick and tired of settling for second best because I knew that I deserved better. I realized that I was going to have to become more confident, charismatic and alpha around women if I ever wanted to live the player lifestyle I was dreaming of.

There weren’t any websites like The Modern Man back then, so I had to work it all out on my own. I began getting rid of my nervousness around women, eliminating my insecurities and becoming more confident guy.The more confident I became, the more that women liked me and wanted to have sex with me. After a while, I got to the point where I was dating and having sex with multiple women at once.

Instead of rejecting me or seeing me as a try-hard player like they used to, women were now opening themselves up to the conversation and were completely comfortable with me touching them and escalating to a kiss within about 10-20 minutes.

When I discovered what I now teach here at The Modern Man, everything changed and women began flooding into my life. For around 10 years, I’ve had at least 2 new women coming over to my place each week for sex, until recently settling down with my girlfriend. While living the player lifestyle, women were always trying to make me choose them as my serious, long term girlfriend, but I just wanted to be a player and enjoy what I had been missing out on for so long.

I eventually got to the point where ANY time I went out to a club, I would be able to pull a hot woman back for sex. I was no longer the confused, frustrated guy who had to approach 100s of women to hopefully get lucky with one of them; I was a legitimate player. Now that I’m in a relationship with my perfect girl I am enjoying a different side to success with women. It’s just as cool, but in a completely different way.

Dan Bacon with girlfriend

My girlfriend and I. Life is good when you have your choice of women. I met her at a nightclub and picked her up even though the club was full of tall, “good looking” guys. How? I used the techniques that we teach here at The Modern Man.

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  • Koketso  

    I so wish i could be just like you but i just don’t know where to start.

    • Hi Koketso

      Thanks for your comment.

      Sign in to my newsletter and I will teach you what you need to know to get started on your journey to being a player. I’ll send you free videos, audio clips and interviews, articles and reports via e-mail every few days.


  • ray brandon  

    ay man, i tend to play the hard to get you know just be cool with them all and flirt here and there but for some reason i still feel like im not getting anywhere. need help asap email me or what ever just need you broooooooooo!!!!!

    • Hi Ray

      Thanks for your comment.

      It’s not about playing hard to get. There is a 4-step process you need to go through that I call “The Flow.” When you go through that process, a woman will be naturally attracted to you (without you having to play games/play hard to get), want to get to know you and want to escalate to kissing and sex. Sign up to my newsletter to learn more.


  • t man  

    Hw do I sign up 2 this page

    Because I would love to know all the tricks of being a player

  • Pheello  

    I liked you advises and i wish i could be like you right now, and have all the attention from the women

    • Then get started! :)

      Waiting, procrastinating and delaying doesn’t turn you into a player. You become a player by taking action. At least sign up to my newsletter and let me teach you what I say and do around women to live the player lifestyle: http://store.themodernman.com/secrets.html


  • Roger  

    I’m sick and tired of ma lyf not havin hot chicks dat i want, plz help i’d lyk 2 hv az many gal i can get

  • Adex Emmex  

    man i also need help here a good lookin guy wit problem wit hot gurlz

  • Junior  

    I signed up to ur program years ago my email if filled with your news letters and im not proud of it,my biggest problem is that im having a hard time purchasing the flow online,maybe its because im not familiar with any of the terms when im supposed to pay for the product…..im from Africa by the way…..so i was wondering if you had another way of buying the product besides online

    • Hey Junior

      Thanks for letting me know.

      Actually, many African guys say the same thing because they don’t usually have a credit card. I will have to try to make it a bit clearer on the site. Go to the FAQ (Frequently Asked Questions) page here and look at Question 9: http://store.themodernman.com/faq.html

      You can pay via Pay Pal or by making a direct transfer from your bank to ours.


  • kevin  

    Dan I really wanna improve my game, I know the basics but I would like you to teach me how to master my game. I always feel that other guys will get a lot of chicks more than me. because of their good looks and etc. need help

  • Ali  

    I understand that you actively need to approach women to get one. But the problem is that I go easily back into my shell so to speak, after getting rejected a few times. And then I may not approach for a month or so. I’m not so good at attracting the opposite sex so well and I can’t work out what I’m doing wrong.


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Welcome to The Modern Man!

My name is Dan Bacon and I used to be hopeless with women. I lacked confidence in myself and couldn't get women to like me. Despite being a good, honest guy, women just weren't interested.

When I created the controversial attraction techniques that I now teach here at The Modern Man, beautiful women began flooding into my life and I've enjoyed my choice of women ever since.

I've already helped 1,000s of guys to get instant results with women (100s of success stories here) and I would love to help you too.

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Success Stories


"Approaching women was a nerve-wracking experience for me until I decided to learn from Dan and his team. The Flow helped me overcome my fears, become confident and get results fast. I didn't have a single woman in my life for more than three years, but by using The Flow I now have a fiance and we are planning to marry in the fall of next year." Adrian


"I was surprised at how quickly I got results because I was always the typical nice guy who girls saw only as the friend. This has been the most exciting year of my life. There's no better feeling than to have control over this area of one's life." Ajay


"My parents were quite worried that I still didn't have a girlfriend at age 29 and it was really getting me down. So I searched online, found The Modern Man and gave it a try. I experienced more success with girls in three months that I've had in my entire life. I now have a great girlfriend and my parents have finally stopped pestering me, except now they want grandchildren...!" Wei


"Getting your book The Flow has been the best investment I've ever made in myself as a man. It has not only taught me how to be confident, but has given me the type of skills with women that make my friends super jealous. I am currently seeing four different girls at once. Don't hate the playa! Hahaaa..." Tyrone


"After my wife and I separated I didn’t know where to turn for help. I tried a bunch of things that I’d found online, but it was just pushing her further away from me. Another guy was in the picture so I knew that I needed to act fast. A friend suggested The Modern Man, I got the Ex Back program and her and I are back together in a better relationship than we had before. I've become a better man than I was before which has not only helped my marriage, but my standing at work where I have recently been promoted. I can't thank Dan and his team enough." Dave


"Any guy who isn't learning from The Modern Man is missing out big time. I've been getting laid like crazy lately....it's funny how easy it is once you get it." Ricky


"I recently lost my virginity and I owe a huge thanks to you and your Flow book. I also kissed another girl at a party and have two other girls interested. I'm on fire!" Frankie


"I was skeptical before getting started because there is a lot of crap online that promises to help guys out with chicks, but I am glad I did because I now have a pretty girlfriend to call my own. Dan's products are simply awesome - I recommend that you try it for yourself and see." Gio


"I've had sex with 4 women in the last 2 months. Your techniques are gold and have worked every time I've used them. I'll be getting more of your programs soon to boost my game further." Jason

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I finished reading "The Flow" 2 days after I had purchased it. On the third day, I went out into the town to put what I learned in action. It works so well! I talked to two girls, and they both wanted me! What I attempted was wayyy out of my comfort zone, and not what I usually would do, but I put that passed me and just gave it a go. Worked like a charm. The first girl I talked to was definitely interested, so much so that I felt taking her home was absolutely possible, but after talking for a little I decided i didn't want her. YES, I chose. Then moved onto the next girl, who was also much more beautiful. Put the techniques I read about in the book to use, and now she is my girlfriend. It was literally so easy after you know the right things to do. Before this book I would have NEVER talked to her. Before this book I wouldn't have even tried because I mean seriously, she seemed way out of my league. Buy this book. It is absolutely worth it.


"I wasted years trying to get the answers for free online until I finally decided to bite the bullet and pay to learn from the experts. I got your Dating Power program and have been having endless sex with women I’ve been meeting in at uni, at bars and through friends. I would have paid DOUBLE if I knew that it was going to be this good. 5 stars from me!" Josh


"My ex girlfriend loves me more than ever now that she can relax into her feminine mode. Even though I don’t want an exclusive relationship anymore, she still wants to date and have sex with me and hopes that I will change my mind. Your ex back system is priceless and has given me an insight into women that was missing in my life until now." Cameron


"Initially I was a little put off by your prices, but I decided to give it a go anyway since you guys offered a guarantee. To say that I am happy with my purchase is an understatement. I turned my female friend of 3 years into my girlfriend with a simple conversation and a couple of your attraction techniques. Amazing!" Richard


"Best pick up advice online. TMM are the real deal. Got several women on the go now." Andy