You have developed a whole set of skills throughout your life.

To be clear, a skill is defined as:

Skill (noun): The ability to do something well; expertise.

There are different levels of skill that a person can have.

Generally speaking, they fit into four levels of skill:

  1. Beginner.
  2. Amateur.
  3. Advanced.
  4. Master.

Before I talk about women, I’ll talk about one of the skills that you have mastered in life.

No doubt you’ve mastered the skill of understanding and speaking the language of English, otherwise you wouldn’t know what I’m talking about right now.

The skill that you have to understand and be able to speak English is a very complex skill, but it’s not something that you were born with.

It’s something that you had to learn and develop over time.

So, if you think about the example of a boy being born, he’s born, he doesn’t how to speak the language, he develops a skill of being able to use the words and understand the words and understand how it all pieces together, and then he gets good at it.

Then later in he is able to speak the language, and use it, and understand it without even having to think about it. It just comes naturally and easily to him.

The boy is started out as a beginner, he was a bit of an amateur early on, then he had an advanced understanding of how to speak and listen to the language of English, and then he masters it and he can just speak it.

Like yourself now, you can understand what I’m talking about.

The same applies to women in terms of the skills that are required for a man to be successful with women.

For example: His ability to walk over and talk to women, and start a conversation, keep the conversation going, keep it interesting, connect with the woman and then move things forward. His ability to attract women when he’s interacting with them.

His ability to be confident, his understanding of confidence and how to actually be confident (because if a man isn’t confident he is going to be turning women off, and he is probably not even going to approaching women in the first place. He’s going to be avoiding them because he doubts himself, he fears it, he feels anxious, he feels nervous).

Then there are the skills of relationships (i.e. being able, actually, keep a relationship together rather than having it fall apart).

There are whole bunch of skills that are involved in being successful with women, and it’s a complex area of skills, but with the right training a guy can quickly master that area of his life.

It’s not something like learning a language where it takes a long time.

A guy can go from being a bit of a beginner with women, an amateur, up to the advanced level very quickly, and then if he puts some work in he can reach the mastery level of success with women.

Improving your skills with women

So how can you actually tell whether a guy has a beginner level of skill with women, versus a guy who is a master (i.e. he’s mastered his area of his life and is completely there under control)?

An analogy to use, before I go into details of what beginners experience and what guys who have an advanced level experience with women etc., I’ll give you the analogy of sport.

With the sports of tennis, basketball, and soccer or football.

Generally speaking, if a beginner looks at someone playing tennis, it looks fairly easy.

You just hit the ball back and forth, it seems pretty easy, but if the beginner tries to do and he’s never played tennis before, he misses the shot. He can’t run over to the other side of the court in time to hit the shot back, and he’s being beaten by a person who’s got a higher level of skill than him.

The same with basketball; it looks easy, just running around a court and then throwing a ball in a hoop.

That seems pretty easy, but when playing against people who have skill, the beginner realizes, “Right, actually I don’t even have this skill, I need to learn it, I need to develop it.”

Same with football, just running around a field kicking a ball, it all seems very easy, but when the beginner actually tries to play the game with people who know what they’re doing, he realizes that he needs to develop the skill.

Yet, when it comes to women, most guys don’t realize that if they’re not getting the results that they want with women, they need to develop these skills.

For most guys they think, “Okay look, I’ve tried to talk to women before, I’ve been rejected, I get nervous around women, I run out of things to say, I just can’t get women interested in me, women mustn’t like me because I’m not good-looking enough. You know, that’s what it is.”

He doesn’t realize that he can actually develop his conversation skills, and be able to connect with women.

He doesn’t realize that he can improve his confidence, and that will improve his results with women. He doesn’t know it that there are many different ways that he can attract women when he interacts with them.

So he just thinks, “Oh, I’m stuffed when it comes to women,” but when it comes to sports, or something else in life, if he doesn’t have the skill, he’ll say, “Okay well, I need to develop that skill,” But with women, “No, no, no, you can’t improve your skills with women. I’m stuffed, I’m doomed for life.”

So that right there is a huge opportunity for you, because most guys don’t even think that it’s possible to improve their skills with women and get better results.

Most guys are going through life thinking that, “Oh well, women don’t like me, I can’t do anything about it,” but a very small percentage of guys have realized, “Okay, you can actually improve your skills with women. You can actually get to the point where you can make women feel attracted to you when you interact with them You can have your choice with women, you can be the sort of guy who has many women interested in him at once, and it’s actually very easy once you have the skill.”

Just like playing tennis is very easy once you have the skill, or speaking the language of English is easy once you have the skill.

What Can Be Improved About Your Skills With Women?

Improving your skills with women

So, what can be improved about your skills so that you don’t get rejected by women, you don’t get dumped, you don’t get divorced, you don’t get cheated on by a woman?

What can be improved so you have your choice with women, so when you interact with women they feel attracted to you, they want to be with you, they enjoy talking with you? What can be improved?

What I’m going to talk about, five different areas of skill that guys need to improve to get better results with women.

I’m going to talk about what a beginner experience is, what a guy who has an amateur level of skills experiences with women, a guy who has an advanced level skill, and a guy whose has mastered this area of his life.

Okay, let’s have a look at the first one; approaching women.

  • Beginner: Fears being rejected and rarely approaches women he likes.
  • Amateur: Fears being rejected and rarely approaches women he likes, but can sometimes work up the courage to approach.
  • Advanced: Can confidently approach women most the time, but sometimes feels anxious and nervous and falls back into his old ways of thinking.
  • Master: Can confidently approach women anytime he wants. He never feels nervous or anxious, no matter what the situation is or how beautiful the woman is. He approaches at will without any fear and with full confidence in himself and his abilities.

The next area of skill, conversation.

  • Beginner: Doesn’t know what to say to start conversations, keep them going and keep them interesting.
  • Amateur: He is okay at conversation, but often runs out of things to say and then loses his opportunity with some of the women he meets.
  • Advanced: Can easily start conversations, keep them going, and keep them interesting. Women enjoy talking to him.
  • Master: Can easily start conversations keep them going, and keep them interesting. Women really enjoy talking to him.

The next area of skill, confidence.

  • Beginner: Lacks confidence around women that he finds attractive.
  • Amateur: Has developed a new level of confidence that allows him to attract more women, but still seems to get nervous and doubt himself around very attractive women.
  • Advanced: Is confident around most women even very attractive women, but isn’t able to maintain his confidence when interacting with women that he feels is out of his league.
  • Master: He is always confident no matter how challenging or beautiful a woman is. He always feels completely confident, calm, and in control. Women sense his deep confidence and it turns them on like nothing else can.

The next area of skill, escalation to dates, kissing, and sex.

  • Beginner: Can sometimes get lucky but his attempts to escalate to a phone number, kiss, or sex are rejected by most of the women he tries it on.
  • Amateur: Can get phone numbers, kiss women, and even escalate to sex at times, but the more attractive women still remain out of his reach.
  • Advanced: Can get phone numbers, kiss women, and escalate to sex with most of the women he meets. At times he will hook up with women who were previously out of his league, but his results are still not 100% consistent.
  • Master: Can get phone numbers, kiss women and escalate to sex very easily. Women really want to give him their phone number. They really want to kiss him, and they really want to have sex with him on either the first night they meet him, or on the first date. He sometimes gets women asking for his phone number, kissing him first, and even suggesting having sex that night or on the first date.

The last area of the skill that I’m going to talk about here is relationships.

  • Beginner: After the initial lust has faded away in the relationship, he usually becomes insecure, needy, or ruins his girlfriend’s respect and attraction for him. At that point, the relationship starts to fall apart.
  • Amateur: Is fairly good at maintaining the attraction, respect, and love in a relationship, but has some insecurities that cause problems and make the woman lose interest.
  • Advanced: Is very skilled at maintaining the attraction, respect and love in a relationship, but still has some areas for improvement.
  • Master: Knows how to guide the woman into deeper feelings of respect, attraction, and love for him. When this happens the woman doesn’t want or need any other man because she feels emotionally fulfilled in the relationship.

I Wasn’t Always a Master

Before I discovered what I teach here at the modern man, I didn’t even know that it was possible to improve your skills with women.

I was one of the guys that thought, “Okay, women don’t like me because I’m not good looking enough and that’s just it. You’re stuffed Dan…you can’t do anything about.”

I thought, “Okay, maybe I’ve got to buy better clothes, I’ve got to wear nicer clothes and look as good as I can, and then women are going to like me,” but, when I bought expensive clothes I still didn’t get better results with women.

Nothing fixed the fact that I wasn’t confident around women, nothing fixed the fact that I didn’t have the skill of being able to talk to women that I found attractive and make them like me.

I could talk to women that I didn’t find attractive, but the attractive women that I interacted with didn’t seem to like me. They didn’t seem to enjoy talking to me and I didn’t get anywhere and I felt nervous around them.

I just didn’t know that improving certain areas of skill would get you better results with women, but when I did discover that and I began to create new techniques to talk to women, and be confident around women and to attract women, that’s when things really started to change for me.

I started out at a beginner level, and I had to pick women up sometimes things, but eventually I got to the point where I was being an amateur, then I got to an advanced level of skill, and then I mastered this area of my life.

That’s where I have been for many years since.

I’ve been at the level of skill where I don’t have to think about this area of my life anymore because it’s under control. I don’t have to try to attract women because women just feel attracted to me naturally.

In the past, when I was at the beginner level of skill with women, I had to use a lot of flirting and humor to get women to feel enough attraction for me to want to have sex with me, but I eventually got to the point where I could actually stand there and look at a woman in a certain way and respond to what she’s saying in a certain way, and have a certain vibe about me that made her feel turned on.

To a beginner, seeing that happen in real life doesn’t seem to make any sense.

I’m standing there talking to a woman and I’m just being normal and to a beginner, it looks like I’m not doing anything really special at all, so he will be thinking, “Why are these women liking him?”

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I can show you these photos of me now, out with these women having a great time. I’m kissing women within one to two minutes of meeting them, sometimes 10 minutes.

I’m able to take women home for sex,  but why are women so interested in me?

What is going on there, because it seems like I’m just being so normal and natural, and not really doing anything special?

What’s going on is that I am able to actively make women feel attracted by displaying certain personality traits, behaviors and inner qualities that women find attractive (e.g. confidence, charisma, charm, etc).

Yet, from the outside, a beginner will be confused if he looks at me interacting with women. It will look like I’m just being normal, so he will feel confused and think, “Hmm…maybe she thinks he’s good looking” or “Maybe he’s rich” and then write it off as that.

The same thing applies with sport.

Imagine an elite sportsman who has a very high level of skill playing football.

He’s just running around the football field kicking the ball around, but he’s doing subtle things that make him more elite than the average player. He’s aware of particular techniques and he’s honed his skills to the point where he’s mastered that particular area of skill.

The same thing applies to women, except that it’s a lot easier and quicker to develop your skills with women.

What took me years to work out, a guy can now come to my website and learn in a matter of hours.

So, if he’s starting at a beginning level or an amateur level of skill, he learns the techniques and learns the insights and he understands what has taken me so long to work out. He understands that within hours, then he starts using it, and he starts using it and he is at an advanced level of skill with women, not a master level of skill.

To get to the master level of skill, he’s to put in the effort to really hone those skills, and get used to using the techniques and getting the results, building up his confidence and then he gets the point where he’s mastered of his life, and he doesn’t have to think about anymore.

What I found interesting being at the mastery level of success with women for so long, is that most guys are just not at that level at all.

Most guys are going through their life thinking, “Okay, I can’t even improve my success with women, I’ve just got to get a better shirt, I’ve got to buy a more expensive car, I’ve got to get a better job and then hopefully, women are going to like me.”

They don’t even know about that it is EASY to attract women by displaying personality traits, behaviors and inner qualities that women are naturally attracted to (e.g. confidence, charisma, charm, masculine vibe, humor).

When you get to the master level of skill with women, you suddenly realize that it’s just you and a small percentage of other guys that are at that level.

Guys look at you interact with women, and it just doesn’t make any sense. They think, “Why do women like him so much? Like, what is going on there? It doesn’t make any sense at all,” but to you, it makes total sense very simple.

It’s very simple and easy and natural, just like you can understand what am talking about now, and you can speak the language of English, which is a very complex skill for a human to master, but it’s so easy once you get it, once you understand it.

Examples of Learning Other Skills

So, I want to give you a couple more examples now of developing a complex skill, so you can understand this very clearly.

The examples I’ll give are learning how to play the guitar, and learning how to create a software program using computer programming.

From the outside, playing guitar looks pretty easy. A guy could look at another guy playing guitar and it seems pretty easy.

All you’ve got to do is hold the guitar, strum away, and then you’re making beautiful music, right?

Well no, that’s not how it works if you’ve ever picked up the guitar for the first time.

You pick up the guitar and it’s like, “Oh right…okay, so where do I hold my fingers…oh man, this is difficult.” You’re making all sorts of weird sounds, and you don’t know how to do it.

Yet, what does a guy do then at that point?

He realizes, “Okay, I don’t have the skill of playing the guitar. I got to develop this skill.” If he develops the skill, then he can play music and it’s very easy and natural to him, but before it was very awkward and he couldn’t do it.

The next example is with computer programming to create a piece of software.

Software can look very simple and easy from the outside, but what’s going on behind the software are a whole bunch of complicated instructions that bring the software to life.

A beginner might look at a piece of a software that looks nice and clean, simple and easy and think, “I can do that,” but then the beginner tries to write code and he realizes, “Okay, there is a whole bunch of stuff that I need to learn here, there is a complex skill that I need to develop.”

Then if he develops a skill, he gets to the point where he can write code and make programs, and he can become a master of code and create all sorts of amazing programs that do all sorts of amazing things.

So, just like a guy can develop the complex skills required to play music or write the code of a software program, or drive a car in order to learn all the different things that he needs to do for that and it seems really awkward at the start, but then he has that complex skill and he can drive the car.

The same applies to women.

A guy at the beginner level will often feel like, “It’s very complex…it’s very difficult…it’s too awkward. I can’t do it, I’ve tried to talk to women before but they don’t show any interest. I run out of things to say. I get nervous I just can’t do it. Women don’t don’t seem to be interested in me,” not knowing that he can actually develop the skill of being confident around women.

Not knowing that he can develop his conversation skills in a way that is turning women on, rather than turning them off.

A lot of guys who are at the beginner level talk to women in a way that turns them off and they don’t even know it.

A guy at the amateur level talks to women is okay with it, but he runs out of things to say. He doesn’t really know how to keep a conversation going and keep it interesting.

Whereas a guy at an advanced level of skill, he can talk to pretty much every woman and he gets along well, he can pick women up, it’s very easy for him, but women that are out of his league, he’s still just can’t do it.

He gets nervous, he doubts himself and the women sense that and it turns them off.

Whereas the guy who has mastered the art of conversation, he is confident all the time, he knows how to make women feel attracted to him.

Improving your skills with women

It is natural and easy for him, just like for you, it’s natural and easy to speak English and listen to me speak English, to drive a car, to play a guitar, to write computer programming, or whatever special skill you have in life.

Throughout your life, you’ve no doubt developed a lot of different complex skills.

Just like you’ve developed those skills, you can also develop the skill of being able to attract women and build on a woman’s respect, attraction and love when in a relationship.

What Level of Skill Are You at Today?

Do you know what level of skill that you’re at at the moment with women?

If you’re at a level of skill that you are not happy with and you would like to get better results with women, are you actually interested in learning how to improve your skill level with women?

Are you interested in learning my techniques, my insights and understandings that I’ve developed over so many years, and just learning that in a matter of hours so you can get up to an advanced level of skill, or if you are already at an advanced level of skill, you can just step up to the mastery level of skill?

Are you interested in stepping up and into real success with women that will last for the rest of your life?

You can quickly get to that point, so you are no longer the guy that feels nervous when he wants to approach a woman, doesn’t know what to say, gets ignored when talking to a group of cool people, or gets chosen last or second or third when it comes to women.

You can be the guy who is confident and is able to approach women at will. When you reach a higher level of skill and understanding, you simply don’t feel any fear related to approaching and talking to women.

You’ve got total confidence in yourself and your abilities. You see a woman that you find attractive, you walk over and talk to her and you are not worried because you know what to say.

You know how to make her feel attracted to you.

That’s not even a maybe or an if.

You know how to do it.

You’ve got the complex skill.

It’s very simple for you, it’s very natural.

Other guys look at what you’re doing, they are like, “What’s going on there, why did she like him?” and some guys will think, “Oh, it must be his shirt, he must be wearing good clothes, or she must like the way he looks” or something like that.

They just don’t get it, it just doesn’t make any sense why a girl would like that guy, because he doesn’t know the sorts of things that you know.

When it comes to escalating and kissing, sex and dates all that stuff just happens naturally and easily.

You even get women trying to kiss you first, trying to suggest having sex on the first night, asking if they can catch up with you and see you and things like that.

When it comes to relationships, you are able to deepen the love, respect, and attraction that a woman feels for you, rather than it fading away, and that means that she doesn’t want to leave you.

So, do you want to have that sort of skill with women?

Do you want to have that sort of power with women?

If you’re willing to spend a short amount of hours to learn the things that that have taken me years to work out and to perfect and master, then you are going to be able to step up to the advanced, to mastery level of skill with women.

You will quickly get to the point where you don’t have to worry about this stuff anymore.

The area of women and dating relationships is under control for you.

Then you can just relax and enjoy life and focus on other areas of your life, rather than always stressing out about, “How I am going to get a girl? How I am going to keep a girl? How I am going to be confident if I go over and talk to that girl?”

None of that stuff worries you anymore because got it under control.

The Four Levels of Skill With Women

Skill level: Beginner

Beginner

  • Approaching: Fears being rejected and rarely approaches women he likes.
  • Conversation: Doesn’t know what to say to start conversations, keep them going and keep them interesting.
  • Confidence: Lacks confidence around women he finds attractive.
  • Escalation to dates, kissing and sex: Can sometimes “get lucky,” but his attempts to escalate to a phone number, kiss or sex are rejected by most of the women he tries it on.
  • Relationship: After the initial lust has faded away, he usually becomes insecure, needy or ruins his girlfriend’s respect and attraction for him. At that point, the relationship starts to fall apart.
Skill level: Amateur

Amateur

  • Approaching: Fears being rejected and rarely approaches women he likes, but can sometimes work up the courage to approach.
  • Conversation: Is okay at conversation, but often runs out of things to say and then loses his opportunity with some of the women he meets.
  • Confidence: Has developed a new level of confidence that allows him to attract more women, but still tends to get nervous and doubt himself around very attractive women.
  • Escalation to dates, kissing and sex: Can get phone numbers, kiss women that meets and even escalate to sex at times, but the more attractive women still remain out of his reach.
  • Relationship: Is fairly good at maintaining the attraction, respect and love in a relationship, but has some insecurities that cause problems and make the woman lose interest.
Skill level: Advanced

Advanced

  • Approaching: Can confidently approach and pick up most women he meets, but sometimes feels anxious and nervous and falls back into his old ways of thinking.
  • Conversation: Can easily start conversations, keep them going and keep them interesting. Women enjoy talking with him.
  • Confidence: Is confident around most women, even very attractive women, but isn’t able to maintain his confidence when interacting with a woman that he feels is “out of his league.”
  • Escalation to dates, kissing and sex: Can get phone numbers, kiss women and escalate to sex with most of the women he meets. At times, he will hook up with women who were previously out of his league, but his results are still not 100% consistent.
  • Relationship: Is very skilled at maintaining the attraction, respect and love in a relationship, but still has some areas for improvement.

Skill level: Master

Master

  • Approaching: Can confidently approach and pick up most women that he meets. He never feels anxious or nervous no matter what the situation is or how beautiful the woman is. He approaches at will without any fear and with full confidence in himself and his abilities.
  • Conversation: Can easily start conversations, keep them going and keep them interesting. He effortlessly makes women experience intense feelings of lust, attraction, love and respect while talking to him. Women try to keep the conversation going with him because they don’t want to miss out on an opportunity to be with him.
  • Confidence: Is always confident no matter how challenging or beautiful a woman is. He always feels completely confident, calm and in control. Women sense his deep confidence and it turns them on like nothing else can.
  • Escalation to dates, kissing and sex: Can get phone numbers, kiss women and escalate to sex very easily. Women really want to give him their phone number, really want to kiss him and they really want to have sex with him on either the first night they meet him or on the first date. He sometimes gets women asking for his phone number, kissing him first and even suggesting having sex on the first night or first date.
  • Relationship: Knows how to guide the woman into deeper feelings of respect, attraction and love for him. When this happens, the woman doesn’t want or need any other men because she feels emotionally fulfilled in the relationship.

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